Are you settling? In your life, in your relationship, your money situation? You name it, settling is not the way we’re supposed to be living our lives!
One of my friends sent me this very funny video that’s from Saturday Night Live. It hits a little close to home for me, also, because before I met my husband last year, the thought entered my mind that maybe I needed to settle. I had decided I wanted to have a relationship in my life, I wasn’t necessarily thinking about marriage, but I knew I wanted to have someone to share my life with.
The problem was that I wasn’t finding anyone. No one was showing up. I would get contacted on Match.com, but the few dates I went on were hugely disappointing. Sedona is a very small town and the male/female ratio is said to be 4 to 1 (!), plus I just wasn’t meeting anyone who even came close to what I wanted. In a moment of despair, I thought “maybe I’m just going to be alone for the rest of my life, or maybe I just need to settle for less.”
And then I stopped. “Wait a minute! What the heck? I’m the person that writes and talks all the time about creating the life you want! I founded Sedona Soul Adventures! The title of my book is “The Journey To Happy – How Understanding The Concept Of Nothing Is Wrong Can Transform Your Life”! Nothing is wrong here, I’m just not allowing this to happen. I’m constantly telling people to not settle and here I am thinking about settling!” That I would even entertain that thought for 5 minutes astounds me now, as I look back on it.
So I did what I tell everyone else to do — I did some Sedona Soul Adventuring. I took my own advice. I did a “Core Belief Transformation” session and discovered there were some beliefs still running around in there about “not good enough” and “maybe I’m too old” and “maybe I can’t have a loving relationship”. In the session those negative beliefs were replaced with empowering beliefs — “I’m more than good enough” and “I deserve love”. Isn’t it amazing how these limiting beliefs can hold us back, even when we think there aren’t any in there?
I did a “Radiant Heart Healing” session and discovered that there was still some pain around my divorce, even though it was seven years ago! Those old hurts can stay and fester, if we don’t do something about them.
I did a breath journey and that really brought me into the higher love vibrations. I felt this huge surge of energy of totally loving myself, which of course is the most important thing when we’re trying to bring in someone to love us.
I made a list of everything I wanted in my new relationship and I didn’t hold back. The list was jam-packed with 22 incredible, wonderful things of exactly what I wanted.
I set the intention that I wanted someone to come into my life right after my book came out, because I was so busy with the book, I wouldn’t have time to have anyone in my life. My book came out last October 16 (2016) and hit Amazon #1 International Best Seller in 5 countries. One month later, I was in Los Angeles filming an appearance on the Radical Dating reality TV show and helping people in this reality show to clear blocks that were holding them back in finding the relationship of their dreams. I was using one of the same processes that Rick used with me in the “Core Belief Transformation” session. During the filming, the two people that I worked with had huge breakthroughs, which included a lot of crying and emotional release. As I worked with them, I felt a cracking open in my own heart. The entire experience was really beautiful.
Three hours later I was sitting at the beautiful Hotel Casa Del Mar in Santa Monica with my sister watching the sunset. I received a message from Match.com, my first communication from Richard.
Amazingly, about the time that my book came out, Richard was doing a Vision Quest at Mt. Shasta and he connected with the spirit of his mother, who passed away many years ago. She told him she was sending him someone. And now, one year later, we’re married.
Even more amazingly, he has 21 of the 22 items on the Wish List. The only one he doesn’t have is “Has a Grandbaby”. His son, Mark, is 22 so hopefully down the road this Wish will be taken care of too!
I’m so glad I didn’t settle. I’m so glad I got all the things on my list (even though at the time I was concerned that it was too much!). I listened to the advice that I give everyone else and kept on doing the work to clear out the blocks from bringing in the relationship of my dreams.
I know with every fiber of my being that we can all have the life we want. It’s simply a matter of moving and releasing the old energy that isn’t serving us and bringing in the energy of connection and staying in that energy. It’s simple, it’s not necessarily easy, but when it’s done right, it works! That’s the sweet, holy truth.
Where are the areas in your life where you’re settling?
Your money situation?
Are you living your life purpose?
Do you know what your life purpose is?
I believe there’s nothing worse than living an unfulfilled life. Please don’t do that to yourself.
If there’s any part of your life where you’re setting, please contact us. We’ll figure out what needs to be moved and released and we’ll bring you into the energy of connection and satisfaction – it’s what we do. Click here to get started:
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And I almost forgot, watch this hilarious sketch from Saturday Night Live on “Settling” – and then don’t settle!
Wishing you a week filled with not settling,
Debra Stangl / Founder
Sedona Soul Adventures – Transforming Lives One Soul At A Time
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“Two words come to mind when I describe my experience: LIFE CHANGING. I left home and arrived in Sedona half a person, I came home complete, content, whole and Full of love. I “found” myself amidst the beauty of a place I now consider “home”. I look at life in a whole new light and enjoy each and every day. Thank you to all the wonderful people at Sedona Soul Adventures that helped to open me up to a whole new world of possibilities.”
– Julia R., Stoney Creek, Ontario
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