The best gift – loving you!

December 24th, 2013 in Blog

One of the best gifts you can give yourself – this Christmas, on your birthday, or any and every day of the year – is to embrace who you are. Accept who you are. Love who you are. And teach your children to do the same.

How do you finish this: I am _____?

They are two very powerful words, for what you put after them shapes your reality.

Do you constantly shame and blame yourself? Live a lie in hopes of impressing others? Worry if people like you? Do you suffer from a tendency to people please or second-guess yourself or feel used, unappreciated or like you give more in relationships than you get?

Most people want to be liked. It’s natural to want the approval of others, whether it’s your parent, your partner or your boss. But too often, people go to extremes to gain acceptance from others. This deep-rooted need for external validation may stem from a tumultuous childhood, a series of failed relationships, or a general sense of inadequacy over your appearance, weight or financial state.

Maybe a parent abandoned you, or you grew up in a critical environment, where there was a lot of chaos, conflict and yelling. Many people carry old wounds, hurts, and feelings of unworthiness from early childhood throughout their life. It’s very well likely you may have repeated the dynamic in a romantic relationship, attracting a verbally and mentally abusive partner or otherwise unavailable. You may be afraid people will leave if you go against their wishes or stand your ground. You may look for approval from people who have none to give because they don’t know how, or they hate themselves and want others to feel the same.

To live happily, to live in harmony, and to tap into your true essence, you need to release your extreme need for approval from others. These unmet needs and scars from your past give others control over your present and can prevent you from acting in your own best interest. They can keep you trapped in a cycle of looking for love in all the wrong places.

It may sound counterintuitive, but people respect your boundaries when you do. And you can give yourself all the love and approval you need. If you don’t know how, Sedona Soul Adventures can custom design a retreat that will uncover where you are stuck and release self-defeating beliefs. Call now toll free 877-204-3664 or Click here and your Angel Guide will call you today!

Each day is a new opportunity for growth and renewal. Live the life you want to live, and quit comparing it to others. Be your own best friend. Stop the madness of putting yourself down, and start affirming your awesomeness. As you increase your self-acceptance, you attract more happiness and radiate healthy self-esteem.

Hold yourself in high regard. Look in the mirror and smile. The person looking back at you is the only approval you need.

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