You won’t hear the dreaded words “now we’re breaking into small groups”

May 29th, 2016 in Blog

I had the biggest chuckle the other day. When I can, I try to go into the office and greet clients at the beginning of their Soul Adventure (I don’t work at the office, I work out of my home which is about 10 minutes from the office). I love connecting with everyone, especially because many of them are feeling this wonderful combination of being excited and nervous (which means the energy is already starting to move).

I went in to greet 2 people who were here last week for a Couples Retreat and as we talked, the husband said, “I’m feeling really good about this because I know I’m not going to hear those dreaded words, ‘now we’re going to break into small groups'”.

We were laughing about it (because it was a funny way to say it), but we kept on talking very seriously about how true it was. He told me he’d gone to workshops and other things to try to please his wife and try to work on their problems, but the whole thing of being forced to open up and talk about his deepest feelings in front of a bunch of strangers just didn’t work for him.

They had serious communication problems (as so many couples do) and the communication just got more difficult in front of a bunch of people. It didn’t help, it hurt.

There is also a strange dynamic that can sometimes happen in group settings where the group seems to “take the side” of one person, identifying one as the “good guy” and the other as the “bad guy”, and the other person can feel ganged up on. That doesn’t help the healing!

So instead of doing another group retreat, they came to Sedona and did a private retreat that had been custom designed for them.

Rather than going to a group retreat where it’s designed to (hopefully) handle all the problems that all the participants have, they did a retreat with sessions designed for exactly what they needed. Because let’s face it, it’s simply not possible for a group retreat to handle every single issue that every single participant has. They probably don’t even know what problems any of the participants have, because they haven’t talked to them to find out what their problems are. That’s not how group retreats work — They’re designed around the problems they’re assuming the couples have.

Instead, they each spent time talking to their Angel Guide. They each spoke with her separately so she could really understand the perspective they each had on their problems. She dug deep to really get at their needs and desires. The good news was, they weren’t at a crisis like many of our couples are — they weren’t dealing with infidelity or one person saying “I don’t want to be married anymore”. But they were dealing with something that can sometimes be worse — feeling disconnected and no longer in harmony with each other. That can almost be even more insidious as people drift apart from each other.

Their Angel Guide designed a wonderful retreat for them, which included individual sessions and sessions as a couple. One of the things we find is that each person has their own issues that they are bringing to the relationship and when we can deal with those first, we’re then bringing two healed people back together. Some people have anger issues, some people have co-dependency issues. Many people have worthiness issues that go back to things that happened in their childhood. It’s different for everyone, that’s why a one-size-fits-all retreat just doesn’t work.

They did sessions separately and they did sessions together, either one-on-one or two-on-one with different practitioners, but always there were no more than 3 people in the room. The sessions were designed and executed for exactly what they needed, as individuals and as a couple. The privacy and direct focus made them feel safe and they both really opened up.

In their individual sessions, he realized how he was making communication really difficult. He also learned some valuable tools (including tapping) to release his anxiety and to reprogram negative thoughts. She learned Ho’oponopono, an ancient forgiveness technique, which she will continue to use. Can you imagine what happens and how wonderful it is when two people come back together having released anxiety and going totally into forgiveness?

I’m happy to say that their Soul Adventure was (in their words) “fantastic”. He said he “loved every session” and the best part is they both learned some valuable lessons and skills about communicating with each other. They left feeling a harmony they haven’t felt with each other for a long time and knowing how to keep it going.

I was a divorce attorney in Omaha, Nebraska for over 20 years. I love it that for the past 14 years, I’ve been involved in helping couples stay together. It’s a much more satisfying situation!

If you’re longing to have the relationship of your dreams, call us and speak to one of our Angel Guides. They’ll connect with both of you and really get at the heart of things. Then they’ll design a retreat that’s perfect to bring you back into the love that brought you together in the first place.

As I always says, “If you know what could happen, you’d be calling right now!”

Click here and one of our Angel Guides will call you. Or if you’d prefer, call us toll free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Angel Guides will call you. And remember, we work on Sundays!

If you knew what could happen, you’d be calling us right now.

Wishing you a week filled with love and connection,

Debra

Debra Stangl / Founder

Sedona Soul Adventures – Transforming Lives One Soul At A Time
(877) 204-3664
http://SedonaSoulAdventures.com

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