“Worrying is using your imagination to create something you don’t want” – Abraham-Hicks
This past week-end I went to see the new Tom Hanks-Steven Spielberg movie “Bridge of Spies” (it’s great). The movie takes place during the Cold War and Tom Hanks plays an attorney who is asked to represent a Russian spy. If found guilty, the spy is facing the death penalty. The Russian spy is one cool customer — throughout the movie, he is completely calm, unruffled and dignified. As he remains so cool and collected (in spite of the potentially dire circumstances), Tom Hanks asks him [tiny spoiler alert] “Aren’t you worried?” And he replies, “Would it help?”
My friend and I laughed heartily at this response, but we also talked about it later. We both know the answer is, not only does it not help to worry, it can be harmful. We both believe (and I hope you do too) that
• We are all creating our reality in every moment
• Everything is all about energy
• What we put out, we get back
• What we think about, we get more of
• What we think about gets bigger
So if all that is true, that’s why I love that Abraham quote and that’s why I know that worrying doesn’t help!
Think about it. When we let ourselves start worrying about something, pretty soon our minds are off to the races. We’re suddenly thinking about all these crazy things. Thinking about all these things that are probably never going to happen. But what’s worse, if you think about it from the Abraham perspective, your worrying is energizing and making bigger exactly what you don’t want to have happen! You’re using your imagination to create something you don’t want!
Watching the movie and watching Tom Hanks with his client reminded me of what used to happen during the 20 years that I was a divorce attorney. My clients were always worried and understandably so. They were going through one of the most difficult situations a person can go through. The outcome of their divorce would be affecting them for the rest of their lives and they were justifiably concerned. In the last 10 years of my practice, I had started to really embrace all these concepts, so I knew that worrying about the case not only would not help, it was actually counter-productive for my clients and would only get them what they did not want.
Knowing that my clients couldn’t help but worry, I made a deal with them. I told them that if they needed to worry, they should do this little trick. Schedule 10 minutes each day to worry about their case. If they found themselves constantly thinking about it and worrying about it throughout the day, they should tell themselves, “I’m going to worry about that in the 10 minutes I have set aside, I won’t worry about it now”. Then when they did the 10 minutes, invariably, they would find they could only keep the worrying up for 2-3 minutes!
After they had done the scheduled worrying, I had them think about what they did want. I told them to take a few more minutes to visualize the judge announcing the verdict and awarding them what they wanted (custody of the kids, keeping the house, or whatever it was that was important to them) and how much better they would feel when that happened. Virtually all of my clients who did this faithfully reported that they felt much calmer and much more peaceful even in the midst of the stress of the divorce. And I’m happy to say that the vast majority of them got exactly what they wanted (but also let’s remember they had an excellent attorney – ha ha).
I’m not saying that you won’t every worry again. You will – it’s human nature. Do I ever worry? Yes, my mind goes there automatically sometimes, especially about things that are important to me. And it’s also interesting to me when I materialize something that I’ve worried about. What a terrible way to prove what I teach — when I get something I don’t want because I’ve worried about it! Physician, heal thyself!
But when I find my mind going there, I always try to make myself stop and remind myself that I’m energizing what I do not want. That usually stops my mind in its tracks. I then ask myself what I want in this situation and I start thinking about that instead. It’s not that I don’t ever worry, it’s just that (most of the time) I can stop it and start flowing my thoughts and energy toward what I do want.
It’s simple but not easy. It’s a simple process, but not always easy to do consistently. But when you know that worry is actually increasing your chances for getting what you do no want, this process gets easier and easier to do.
Sometimes we find ourselves at a point in our lives when we are overwhelmed with our worry and we can’t seem to make it stop. Most worries are coming from fears and those fears can come from a number of sources, some of which are conscious and some of which might be from our unconscious. If you find yourself overwhelmed with worry about something in your life or your relationship, you need to think seriously about doing something about it. Once we get on that merry go round it’s hard to get off, it’s hard to stop obsessing.
Think about coming to Sedona and doing a Soul Adventure. Can you imagine being in a situation where the worry starts to melt away and it’s replaced by a deep trust and knowing that all is well? Can you imagine what it would feel like to know (on a deep level) that all is well? That’s what happens to people here all the time. They come here stressed out, burned out, worried and anxious about things in their life or things in their relationship. They leave happy, connected and at peace. It’s still amazing to me after all these years and the thousands of people who have done this.
If you’re looking for peace, call us toll free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada) or Click here to contact us. For our friends outside the US and Canada call 01 928-204-5988. Speak to an Angel Guide, tell them what’s going on with you and they’ll custom design the perfect retreat to take you from where you are to where you want to be.
Wishing you a week of no worries,
Debra Stangl / Founder
Sedona Soul Adventures – Transforming Lives One Soul At A Time
Harry says his Soul Adventure “changed everything”, living his life without fear, worry or angst
“I came to Sedona wrought with fear, anxiety, and grief. Within the first three sessions, I was well on the road to a spiritual Re-Awakening that would change everything. After my five days of Soul Adventuring I returned to Seattle with a new outlook on life and ready to walk my Great Path without fear, worry or angst. Thank you all for Reminding me of how important my existence in this world is, and most of all for Reminding me of all the love that is here supporting all of us. I LOVE ME!”
Harry C., Seattle, Washington
Is fear keeping you from the Egypt trip?
II find that people typically say 2 things to me about the Egypt trip (and they’ve been saying both things since I started going there in 1983): 1) “I’ve always wanted to go to Egypt and 2) “Aren’t you afraid to go to Egypt?” And my answer has always been the same – No. This next trip will be my 15th time going to Egypt and I’ve been taking groups each year since 2004. The Egyptian people are some of the warmest, friendliest people I’ve ever met and I’ve always felt safe there. The US State Department issues Travel Advisories for countries they do not feel are safe for Americans to travel to and there are no Travel Advisories for Egypt.
But don’t take my word for it, here’s what 2 people said who went on the trip this February (2015):
“This trip was one of the most wonderful experiences of my life, especially because I felt very safe during the entire experience.” – Ginger Wishik, MD
“The Egypt trip was life changing. I personally felt very safe in Egypt.” – Shelly Pitts (that’s Shelly in the picture above on the right – I don’t believe she could look anymore relaxed than she does!)
Or as one of the people from last year’s trip (2014) said:
“Please don’t let fear keep you from one of the most exciting adventures in your life. You will never regret your trip to Egypt.” – Joyce Eleanor
Our Return to Egypt tour is February 14-28, 2016. It’s an amazing journey – we see the Pyramids (and have 2 hours of private time just for our group inside the Great Pyramid for ceremony), the Sphinx, Abu Simbel, Karnak, Luxor, the Isis Temple at Philae and much more. We stay at 5 star hotels and do a 5 day cruise down the Nile on a 5 star ship. Everything is taken care of for you and traveling with like-minded soul adventurers is so wonderful. The cost is virtually all inclusive.
Click here to download our beautiful brochure which has all the information on pricing and our fabulous Itinerary.
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I’d love to have you join me. If you’ve always wanted to go to Egypt, now is the time to go! Send me an email if you have any questions:
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