The danger of putting off your life
One of our clients who came for a Soul Adventure last week told me she had been wanting to come for over 8 years. She said she kept putting it off, telling herself she couldn’t afford it, what if it didn’t work, she shouldn’t spend the time, etc., etc. But she said she just kept coming back to it, because there was a part of her that knew she was supposed to do this.
She finally came and had a completely transformational experience. At the end of her retreat, she called me and she was in tears saying “I wish I had done this 8 years ago when I first found you. I could have eliminated 8 more years of unhappiness”.
I told her what I know is true, which is that everyone comes when they’re supposed to, but it also made me remember how I was guilty of putting off my own happiness for so long. This has been on my mind a lot lately, as I’m finishing my book that’s coming out in a few months – The Journey to Happy.
I spent over half of my life telling myself things like:
– As soon as I lose 10 pounds, then I’ll be happy (then it became 20, then 30, etc.)
– As soon as I graduate from college, then I’ll be happy
– As soon as I graduate from law school, then I’ll be happy
– As soon as I get good at practicing law, then I’ll be happy
– As soon as I figure out how to get out of my law practice, then I’ll be happy
– When I get married, then I’ll be happy
– When I get rid of this guy, then I’ll be happy
– As soon as I’m making more money, then I’ll be happy
– As soon as I’m out of debt, then I’ll be happy
– When I figure out what my soul purpose is, then I’ll be happy
Do you get the drift? No matter what, I wasn’t happy.
I was always expecting my outside circumstances to somehow “make” me happy.
It went on and on and on like that and I’m embarrassed to admit it went on like that until I was in my late forties. I look back now, and even though I know in my head that it all happened the way it was supposed to, etc., etc., there is a part of me that looks at those years and feels a lot of sadness.
It did all work out. I finally got so unhappy that I did something about it. I came to Sedona and did a retreat.
I “got it”, that it wasn’t about outside circumstances, it was about
– how I was thinking about it
– how I was talking about it, and
– how I was feeling about it
It took me a long time but what makes me really sad is knowing there are so many people out there who keep on putting off their lives because they think there isn’t anything they can do about it.
Is that true for you? Do you keep telling yourself that “once______happens (fill in the blank), then I’ll be happy”? If you’re telling yourself that about anything in your life, please STOP! I can tell you from many years of experience, that isn’t how it works.
I love what my teacher Abraham says about this:
“Your life is right now! It’s not later! It’s not in that time of retirement. It’s not when the lover gets here. It’s not when you’ve moved into the new house. It’s not when you get the better job. Your life is right now. It will always be right now. You might as well decide to start enjoying your life right now, because it’s not ever going to get better than right now — until it gets better right now!”
I was reading and listening to Abraham for many years before I figured out how to do that. I believed what they were teaching, but I couldn’t figure out how to do it in my day to day life. It finally happened when I first came to Sedona.
And Sedona Soul Adventures was founded (3 years later) on the knowing that we can make that happen for everyone.
I had to get really unhappy before I finally did something about it. I got happy and now I help others get happy. Isn’t that great? It makes me very happy!
So would you like to get happy right now? if so, call us, we’re here. Come to Sedona and do a retreat. It’s the fastest way I know of for you to make the big shifts to get happy.
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Wishing you a week filled with lots of happy,
Debra Stangl / Founder
Sedona Soul Adventures – Transforming Lives One Soul At A Time
Starr says after her “deeply healing” Soul Adventure, she has “a happier heart”
“Sedona Soul Adventures was a tailor made soul journey, with the intimacy of one-on-one sessions with diversified, grounded and present Holistic Practitioners who focused on what I truly needed in that moment. As a result of these sessions, I have found that my inner child feels resurrected and the hole in my heart healed. The journey continues, but now I have some tangible tools to go forward with. It was deeply healing on many levels, and I have gratitude and a happier heart for it”
Starr C., Billings, Montana
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