You only have to do this stuff 51% of the time
This has been a tough week. The shootings in Orlando have cast a long shadow.
One of my coaching clients was really affected by this and she’s also been very bothered lately by the presidential election – the tone and the general negativity.
She said “I’m feeling like the country is going to hell in a hand basket and I don’t want to feel that way. I know that feeling negatively isn’t going to bring me what I want” and what she wants in her life is happiness and purpose and abundance.
I reminded her we can’t all feel fabulous and wonderful and positive all the time. We’d be more like robots if we even tried to do that.
And then I reminded her again about the 51% rule.
Did you know that you just have to get to feeling good 51% of the time to make your life change completely? I’ve been teaching that and coaching that for over 12 years now and it’s one of my favorite concepts.
We all know (or at least I hope you know) that we are all creating our reality in every moment. What we think about, we get more of. What we are excited about, is on its way to us. What we’re worried about or afraid of is on its way to us. Maintaining the high vibration of excited expectation brings us into alignment with the higher vibrations of the things we all want – peace, happiness, love, abundance.
The more that we can maintain a positive attitude, the higher the vibration we’re in.
When we stay in the lower, slower vibrations of fear, worry, upset, frustration, we’re not in alignment with the higher vibrations of what we want and we can’t bring them to us. In fact, it keeps them away!
So the bottom line is – staying happy and positive and in the higher vibrations is going to bring you the peace, happiness, love and abundance that you want.
The problem is, in this day and age that’s hard to do.
Stuff is always happening. Not only big stuff like the shootings in Orlando, but just day to day life can be frustrating and difficult. And then if you have a situation that’s causing you stress (you hate your work, problems in your relationship, health issues, etc.) it’s almost impossible.
I talk about this a lot in my book that’s coming out in a few months, The Journey to Happy, so it’s been on my mind.
And for so long, I was assuming that I had to somehow stay feeling great, joyful, etc. 100% of the time in order to have the things I wanted. Knowing that I was never going to be able to do that just added to my frustration and hopelessness.
And then I figured it out. You just have to maintain at least 51% of feeling good to have your life transform. It’s the tipping point. If you can hold yourself in the place of feeling good at least 51% of the time, your life will start to transform dramatically. And the best part is, the percentages even out — meaning that there will be times you will be feeling at 65%, sometimes even at 85%, so even if you mainly stay in the 51-55%, you will start maintaining that vibration of wonderful, juicy, delicious joy!
Wow, what a weight was lifted from my shoulders!
The trick is to not dip back into the 49% very often. So have an arsenal of things ready to do when you start to feel yourself go into that dip. Things that kind of automatically make you feel good, or at least a little better. That’s all it takes, just feeling a little better. Don’t expect (or demand) that you must go into total bliss and joy, just do something, ANYTHING to make yourself feel a little better.
Here are some things that work for me:
– Writing down a list of things I’m grateful for and thinking about each thing.
– Petting my dog and feeling a huge surge of love for her.
– Listening to certain songs that just always make me feel better. The old Johnny Nash song, “I Can See Clearly Now” does it for me every time.
– If I’m at home, there are certain movies that just crack me up and I’ll put them on and fast forward to the scenes that make me laugh out loud.
– There are some videos on YouTube (usually involving cats or dogs doing something funny) that make me laugh.
– Sometimes meditating (particularly a guided meditation) can make me feel better, but if I find my mind going a mile a minute, I stop the meditation and move onto something else (like music). If it’s not making you feel a little better right away, try something else. That’s why I recommend having an arsenal of different tactics.
– Going outside in the sun and appreciating the beauty of the sun (or the stars) and how incredible and big life is, will sometimes move me to tears.
– Dancing and really moving (I recommend being alone for this!). What does the bumper sticker say? Dance as if no one is watching. That really moves the energy!
Sometimes we need some help to get us out of the space of not feeling good. It’s so amazing what a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat can do. Click Here and let us custom design a retreat that will get you to your 51% and give you the tools to keep you there!
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Wishing you a week filled with high percentages of happy,
Debra Stangl / Founder
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