3 Reasons you shouldn’t make New Year’s Resolutions
Before moving to Sedona 18 years ago, I lived in Omaha, Nebraska and one of my friends there owned a fast food restaurant that was part of a small regional chain. They had fabulous burgers, wonderful fries, heavenly onion rings and a fantastic salad bar. It was close to Mutual of Omaha, so they got a huge lunch crowd.
The first year he had the franchise, my friend was told by corporate to stock up the salad bar to double proportions for January 2, but to go back down to regular portions again on January 3. He was told the reason and didn’t quite believe it — people go with their New Year’s Resolution of “losing 10 pounds” or “eating healthy” for exactly one day. They’ll be back to the burgers and fries by January 3.
He did what he was told and corporate was exactly right. They sold double salad bar on January 2 and by January 3 it was back to business as usual. By the time he told me this, he had owned the restaurant for 10 years and it had been true every single year.
All this week I’ve been deluged with emails about “How To Have Your Best Year Ever!” and the messages are full of making “resolutions that will last”. The problem is, as you and I know, human beings just don’t stick to resolutions. For the vast majority of people, the longest they last is to the end of January, according to all the articles. Based on the salads vs. cheeseburgers scenario, I don’t think it’s even that long.
The one article that I read that was really illuminating on the subject came from “Psychology Today”, entitled “Why People Can’t Keep Their New Year’s Resolutions”, by Ray Williams. In it, he says:
“Habitual behavior is created by thinking patterns that create neural pathways and memories, which become the default basis for your behavior when you’re faced with a choice or decision. Trying to change that default thinking by “not trying to do it,” in effect just strengthens it. Change requires creating new neural pathways from new thinking.”
And the problem is, creating this new type of thinking is very difficult to do, especially when you are living your life, doing all your old behaviors and surrounded by all of your usual stimuli that you are reacting to (your spouse, your work, your children, your boss, your in-laws, etc.). That’s why most people are back to the burgers in a very short time.
So don’t make a bunch of New Year’s resolutions this year and here are the 3 reasons why:
1. The chances are you won’t stick to it.
2. It can make matters worse. Some studies show that people who resolve to lose weight actually gain weight during January. I believe this is true because “what you focus on expands” – literally!
3. The worst part is, as soon as you break the resolution you’ll feel bad about yourself, you’ll start being hard on yourself and that’s the last thing you need to begin the New Year. You need to feel good about yourself, not the opposite.
So my suggestion is to not make the standard New Year’s Resolution. Instead, do something that works, that has a high level of success and that can change around your thinking — make the decision to come to Sedona and do a Soul Adventures retreat. That can actually change your life or your relationship around.
Every week we have people come here who go from unhappy to happy, from disconnected to connected, to feeling lost to finding their soul purpose and living it. We have couples come to us who are on the verge of divorce, things are turned around and they are happier and juicier than they’ve ever been and committed to their future. We’ve even had people lose weight! Have you seen the YouTube video of our client who lost 17 pounds of what she called “protection weight” in the month after she went home? Wow – 2 resolutions in one! – Get Happy and Lose Weight!
There actually is a way to “Make 2018 The Best Year Ever!” – come here and we’ll show you. Connect with us and we’ll create a retreat that’s custom designed for exactly what you need to bring you into the life or the relationship of your dreams. Click below to set up a time to connect with one of our Retreat Guides:
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Wishing you a fabulous 2018 filled with adventure and transformation,
Debra Stangl / Founder
Sedona Soul Adventures – Transforming Lives One Soul At A Time
8 months later, Federico says his Soul Adventure was “life changing, transformational” and “the best thing I have ever done for myself in MY LIFE”
“Wow!!!! I’m in complete bliss and stillness…so fresh and renewed…I can’t thank you enough Sedona Soul Adventures…8 months later and I’m still feeling such powerful and incredible shifts…your work is truly beyond amazing and intuitive…Thank You!!!
My retreat was the best thing I have ever done for myself in MY LIFE and I wish the whole world would do this for themselves….it would make the world a much better place!!!
My retreat ROCKED!!! Hands down – life changing, transformational, powerful, cleansing, shifts, synchronicity, alignment, consciousness, awareness, love, peace, joy, happiness, freedom, ABUNDANCE…..you name it….it did it for me!!!
Most of all, it taught me how to integrate these teachings into my daily life and that I can keep myself in alignment in LIFE, no matter the level of stress in the high-paced world of finance and intensity of New York, or regardless of what life throws at me and the “external” circumstances…personal, relationships, or professional….it taught me that I HAVE IT ALL…ALL INSIDE ME….and that is the most POWERFUL thing and highest vibration in the Universe – tapping into your HEART AND SOUL!!!! Thank You Sedona Soul Adventures – All of YOU, THANK YOU!!!”
– Federico T., Brooklyn, New York
Where would you like to go this year? Egypt or Machu Picchu?
There is one decision you can make this year that will have an incredible impact — where would you like to go? Egypt or Machu Picchu?
The Egypt trip is so incredible. We go to all the must see places – the Great Pyramid, the Sphinx, Abu Simbel – plus we also go to places the average tourist doesn’t see – the Isis Temple at Philae, the Hathor temple at Dendara. Plus, we do ceremonies in the temples and tombs, including 2 hours of private time just for our group inside the Great Pyramid. The trip is February 11-25, 2018 – Click here for all the information including pricing:
Or is Machu Picchu the one on your bucket list? What an amazing trip. It’s April 14-27, 2018. Machu Picchu, Lake Titicaca, Cuzco, Sacsayhuaman, Ollantaytambo. Plus, being with our guide and shaman, Jorge Luis Delgado, is life changing. Click here for all the information:
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Or call me at (877) 204-3664 – I love talking about Egypt and Peru!