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How To Get Everything You Want In 3 Simple Steps!

We all try to make it so complicated — how to be happy, how to find peace, how to get what we want. The real answer is that it’s simple — it’s not easy, but it is very simple.
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Today I’m going to tell you how to get everything you want! Wow! Can you believe it?
I’m sure you’re thinking, Debra, why haven’t you told us this sooner?
Well the truth is, I have, but today I’m just saying it flat out.
The way to get everything you want is to:

  1. Get happy
  2. Stay happy

And in order to get happy and stay happy…

  1. Don’t think about what you don’t want and don’t talk about what you don’t want

Ok that’s it. You’re welcome. Class over.
No, I’m kidding, but it really is that simple and I’m going to give you proof of that in just a second.
In 2016 I wrote a book that became an International #1 Best Seller, called The Journey To Happy. I’m going to be talking to you in a number of videos about the ideas and processes that I talk about in my book.
So let’s back up. I’ve told you that the way to get everything you want is to:  

  1. Get happy
  2. Stay happy

And in order to get happy and stay happy…

  1. Don’t think about what you don’t want and don’t talk about what you don’t want

Now let me talk about what I’m basing this on. One of the truths that Einstein discovered (and that Quantum Physics continues to prove) is that everything is energy. Even my desk, which feels so stable and strong, is – at its core – just a bunch of particles racing around.
If everything is energy, (and now we know it is) that means that everything is much more elastic, much more malleable, and much more possible to change than we think it is.
Through the years, quantum physics has proven, that we are energy, and they’ve proven that putting our attention on something in any way changes it.
So, if everything is energy and if putting our attention on something in any way changes it, that means we are all creating our reality in every moment.
What we focus on expands.
We get more of whatever it is that we think about and talk about.
That is great news! If you are creating your reality, that means that you can change the parts that you don’t like – the parts that aren’t making you happy.
If you are willing to take responsibility for creating your reality, then you can take responsibility for creating it the way you want it.
The final piece has to do with energy and vibration. Think of it this way. The things that you want – happiness, peace, joy, great relationships – all reside in the higher vibrational energies. Joy, peace and happiness are all much higher vibrations than depression, fear and blame. When you are a vibrational match to what you want, it comes to you. That’s what many people refer to as the Law of Attraction.
So the way to get everything you want, is to get in the higher vibrations and stay there, and allow it all to come to you. In other words:

  1. Get happy
  2. Stay happy

And in order to get happy and stay happy…

  1. Don’t think about what you don’t want and don’t talk about what you don’t want

The fastest way to get happy and stay happy is to stop focusing on what you don’t want and start focusing on what you do want. Remember, what we focus on expands. This is simple, but it’s not easy. Stop talking about things you don’t like. As they say, change your story, change your life. Stay focused on what you want and let the magic happen, because when it starts happening it feels like magic.
When I came to Sedona for the first time in 1999, my life was not the way I wanted it to be; every part was messed up. I hated my work as a divorce attorney, I was in an unhappy marriage, I was 40 pounds overweight, and I was $50,000 in debt.
All I could think about was the mess I was in. I kept thinking about it obsessively all the time and it just kept getting worse and worse, and I kept getting more and more unhappy. I came to Sedona for what I thought was going to be 3 days of just being quiet, but instead, I did one session with a practitioner here, Ranjita, who is still one of our most wonderful practitioners.
In that session, my high self appeared to me and told me I had to leave my law practice or I was going to die. I got the message and went home, and after 2 weeks of trying to figure out how I was possibly going to leave my law practice when I was $50,000 in debt, there was a day where I just gave up. I was meditating and praying, and I just felt all the worry and concern just lift off me. I remember saying, “ok God, I’m going to do this. I don’t know how I’m going to do this, but I’m going to do it, and I need some help.”
Within about 8 hours, a former client called asking me some questions and at the end of the call told me he had just bought a new business refinancing mortgages. I asked him if he thought he could get my mortgage payment reduced. He took my address and called me back in 10 minutes and said “I can get your mortgage payment cut in half and I can get you $50,000 in cash.” Now, I had never told him I was $50,000 in debt. He certainly didn’t know about my going into that high vibrational state where I just released the worry and concern. But suddenly, within a few hours, the worry and concern that had haunted me for 5 years was gone.
The trick is getting there and staying there. And over the course of these videos, I’ll be talking about lots of different ways to do that, but the key is all in these three simple steps:

  1. Get happy
  2. Stay happy

And in order to get happy and stay happy…

  1. Don’t think about what you don’t want and don’t talk about what you don’t want

We see this all the time with our retreats here in Sedona. Just a few months ago we had someone come to us who was just very dissatisfied with her life. She had a pretty good job, but there were things she didn’t like about it, there were things she didn’t like about her husband, her kids were grown and gone, and she just felt all this dissatisfaction.
We uncovered that from her childhood, she had some worthiness issues, meaning she felt like she wasn’t worthy to be happy. We cleared out those blocks and once those were cleared, the most amazing thing happened. When she did her Breath journey session, she got it that she was focusing on the negative and not at all on the positive. With her practitioner guiding her, she did a complete turn around.
She went home and started focusing on what she liked about her life, her job, her husband, her kids, and everything else in her life, and she discovered how truly blessed she was. She stopped talking about what she didn’t like and just kept talking about the things she liked, and it changed everything around. She wrote me a few weeks ago and said, “It’s the most incredible thing. Nothing on the outside has changed, but suddenly I love my life, every single part of it.”
That’s what can happen when you make the decision to get happy and stay happy.
I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please like, share the video and subscribe to our channel.
If you need help with getting happy and staying happy then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats.
If you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.
You can have the life or relationship you want. I know it.

How To Stop Feeling Stuck

One of the worst feelings in the world is feeling like you’re stuck — especially if you’re feeling that way about more than one area of your life. And have you noticed how it seems to happen like that? We don’t get stuck in just one place – once it happens, it seems to affect almost everything.
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Sometimes in life, things just seem to get stuck.
Money
Relationships
Health
Career
Business
And we normally find that when one area is stuck, there are other areas that are stuck or dragging slowly too – have you noticed that?
If this is something you’ve been feeling, here are some possible reasons why…
So many people feel just dragged down from life, the day to day of just getting through can sometimes just be overwhelming.
You’re not living your life purpose and maybe you don’t know what it is – maybe you’re telling yourself you can’t have the life you want.
Are any of these true for you?
You see, when we look a little deeper, we uncover what’s really going on and then when you go deeper still, you see the compound affects showing up in many areas of your life.
When I came to Sedona for the first time in 1999, I felt completely stuck.

  • I had just started my 20th year as a divorce attorney and I absolutely hated it
  • I was in an unhappy marriage
  • I was $50,000 in debt because of some poor business decisions that had been made
  • I weighed 40 or 50 more pounds than I weigh now

I felt completely stuck in every part of my life. I came to Sedona for 3 days and  it completely changed my life… and 3 years later, I started Sedona Soul Adventures.
So what can YOU do right now to begin to stop feeling stuck?

  1. Take some kind of action anything, moving your body, anything.
  2. Get an idea of what you want. Follow your excitement. Look at and choose one thing that you could do, starting today.
  3. Read some inspirational books and biographies of people who have inspired you.

These are great places to start and as you work through these, you’ll begin to uncover other ways to help you find your way and get out of being stuck.
If you got value from this video, please like, share the video and subscribe to our channel.
If you want a more direct path to knowing and getting what you want – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and request your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats.
Or, if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you, call us at (929) 204-5988.
You can have the life or the relationship you want – I know it.

How To Create Peace In Your Life

In this week’s video, I’m talking about “How To Create Peace In Your Life.” It’s so interesting to me, that whenever we ask people to tell us what they want, “Peace” is almost always at the top of the list (or at least in the top 3).
It’s what we’re all craving and it sometimes can seem like it’s impossible to find, but watch this and I think you’ll get some great ideas (if I do say so myself!).

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How To Overcome A Lack of Self Love

In today’s video, I’m talking with you about “How To Overcome A Lack of Self Love.” It’s so interesting to me, for almost all of the (almost) 9,000 people who have come to us over the years, lack of self love is at the root of almost everyone’s problems.
One of my favorite parts of this video is the quote from the Buddha:
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe, deserve your love and affection.”
If you don’t totally believe that, please watch the video.
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One of the biggest challenges that so many people who come to us face, is lack of self-love. And I have to say it’s a challenge that I’ve really had to work with in my own life. It’s just so pervasive.
If this is something you’ve been feeling, here are some possible reasons why and how it shows up…
For most of us, something happened in our childhood. Someone we cared about, usually a parent, says something that we take on — you’re stupid, there’s something wrong with you, you’ll never amount to anything.
You maybe have a Faulty core belief – deep inside, you believe you’re not okay, or that you’re not good enough, that usually leads to Negative self talk – when something happens do you find yourself saying things “I’m so stupid,” or “what’s wrong with me?”
Are any of these true for you?
You see, when we look a little deeper, we uncover what’s really going on and then when you go deeper still, you see the compound affects showing up in many areas of your life.
If you think there’s something wrong with you, if you think you’re not good enough, or if you think you’re not enough, then it’s going to affect all the areas of your life, what I call the Fab Four:

  1. Relationships
  2. Work
  3. Money
  4. Health

What are the ways you can see how this problem is affecting these areas of your life?

  • Relationships – If you think you’re not enough, you’re going to attract relationships where people don’t really love you or take care of your needs.
  • Work – If you think you’re not enough, you’re never going to be able to truly succeed.
  • Money – It’s hard, probably impossible, to bring in a lot of abundance if you think you’re not enough.
  • Health – And what I find is that people who think they’re not enough, typically don’t take very good care of themselves, and it seems to be at the root of many health issues.

If you don’t love yourself, that’s going to sabotage every area of your life.
We had a woman here a few months ago who had been placed for adoption when she was born – her mother was a drug user and she was taken away at birth. She had this very deep sense of, “what’s wrong with me that even my own mother didn’t want me?” And of course that wasn’t true, her mother knew she couldn’t care for her properly. But then she was adopted by two parents who were constantly upset with her that she wasn’t doing well enough in school, they criticized her constantly, all she ever heard was that she wasn’t good enough. She got married very young to get out of the house, married a man who mistreated her (because if you don’t love yourself, you can’t bring in someone who’s truly going to love you) and got divorced at a young age when the abuse got too bad. By the time she came to us, all the areas of her life were messed up — she was in another bad relationship, she hated her work, she hated her body.
So what can YOU do to begin to start loving yourself just a little bit?
Take yourself off the hook – look around, are you really that much worse than anyone else?
Stop comparing yourself to everyone else, that’s a recipe for disaster.
Start noticing your self talk and the way you talk to yourself. Think about it. You probably speak more kindly to your dog or your cat than you do to yourself.
As the Buddha said, “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe, deserve your love and affection.”
Are you going to argue with Buddha?
These are great places to start, and as you work through these, you’ll begin to uncover other ways to help you find your way and overcome the lack of self-love.
If you got value from this video, please like, share the video and subscribe to our channel.
If you want a more direct path to truly loving yourself – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and request your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats.
Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (929) 204-5988.
You can have the life or the relationship you want – I know it.

How to Know What You Want

I hope you like the new format for my weekly newsletter. I’ve done some videos in the past and I’ve had lots of people ask me to do more, so we’ve made the decision to have all of our newsletters be videos from now on (with other news and Sacred Travel included). So every week I’m going to post a new video that I hope will be helpful, hopeful, informational, and inspirational.
This week’s video is, “How To Know What You Want”. It seems very basic, but in all my work with people, I’ve found that so many don’t actually know what they really want. This is so important, because until you know what you want, you can’t go after it.
I hope you enjoy it and I hope you enjoy our new format – I’d love to hear your feedback.

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