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How to Have a Kick-Ass New Year!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Please take just 7 minutes to watch my video, because if you follow these simple steps, you truly will have a Kick-Ass New Year!

And that’s my prayer for you — that you have a happy, exciting, fulfilling New Year with everything coming to you that you want. If that doesn’t quite seem possible to you right now, then you need to do something about that. Because if you don’t believe you can have everything you want, then you can’t — it’s as simple as that!
And if you don’t know what you want — same thing. If you don’t know what you want, you can’t get it.

    Okay, I know that we all say this each and every year, but really, I just can’t believe that 2018 is over and I really can’t believe how quickly it all went. With everything that has happened this year, it just feels like everything is speeding up to a level that we almost can’t even fathom. And the reason it feels like that is because that’s exactly what’s happening.
    Everything is speeding up.
    But here’s the thing – most people seem to talk about that as if it’s a bad thing. I want to talk to you today about how not only is that not a bad thing, it’s a good thing and here are some ways that you can take advantage of everything speeding up.
    There are all kinds of scientific explanations of things that are going on right now, including an increase in the Earth’s frequency, called the Schuman Resonance. I’m not going to go into all the scientific stuff, I just want to talk about that feeling that most of us have, that everything is speeding up and going faster, is true. We experience it all the time with our technology, but we also just experience it in our lives, most notably with how quickly time seems to be passing.
    I want to encourage you to use this energy for yourself for this New Year, to harness it and utilize it. Instead of resisting it, use it. Befriend it.  
    So, how can you do that? The first way is to get clear on what you want.
    I’m not talking about regular New Year’s Resolutions, which are usually too unspecific, too grandiose and not realistic. 
    I’m talking about Realistic Attainable Measurable Goals. Start by going through all of the important areas of your life:

    1. Body
    2. Work
    3. Relationships
    4. Money

    Get laser-focused on what you want this year. Work on all of these if you’d like, or maybe just take one or two to work on – that increases the likelihood of success. Really focus – that’s what will make all the difference.
    After you have gotten laser-focused on exactly what you want to accomplish, then write this down somewhere where you will see it every day, so you can keep feeding it into your subconscious. Studies have shown that just by writing it down, you increase the likelihood of it happening by 50%… 50% just by writing it down!
    Next, develop your game plan. What do you need to do on a monthly, weekly and daily basis to make this happen?
    Some goals lend themselves better than others to this. But for example, if you want to write a book by the end of the year, you’re going to need to write X number of chapters each month to make that happen.
    So, develop your game plan and then break it down into monthly, weekly and daily chunks.
    Finally, and here is my favorite part – the part that I think is the most important one and the one that I know will give you the most bang for your buck: Spend three minutes each day Meditating about these things, Fantasizing about these things and Feeling and Knowing that they are happening.
    Here’s the best way to do this:
    Set the timer on your smartphone for 3 minutes. Doing it for only 3 minutes will help insure you do this every day. And setting it on your timer will stop you from thinking about how much time is left.
    Close your eyes and put your hand over your heart with the intention of bringing in Heart Coherence. It’s not necessary for you to completely understand what that means and I’ll be talking about it in a later video, so for now, just set that intention.  
    Start breathing deeply into your heart. Think of something or feel something that makes you feel good.
    Feel gratitude. Feel love for someone. Think about your dog or your cat – that always works for me.
    Just do something briefly that is going to bring you into a peaceful, easy feeling.
    Now start thinking about the things you want to have happen and start fantasizing about these things, and feeling and knowing that they are in the process of happening. See the energy, this faster, higher vibration energy that is speeding up everything on the planet right now, and see it feeding these goals and desires. See it amp them up as they come to you faster.
    Next, see yourself as if these things have already happened. What do you look like? How do you talk? How does your body move? Feel the excitement that you’ll feel as they start to come true. Feel the gratitude that you’ll feel as they start to come true.

    Ask yourself the question “What do I need to know right now?” Breathe and listen to the answers.  
    Just as the timer goes off, take a final deep breath and feel the knowing, the absolute knowing that this is happening. Open your eyes and write down any answers, thoughts or ideas that came to you.  
    Consistency is the Key. If you do this consistently, and I mean every day, I think you will be amazed at what will happen.
    Because you are being focused and you’re energizing your goals and desires with this speeded up energy that is on the planet right now. And even better, you’re utilizing that energy to bring your goals and desires to you even more quickly.
    So that’s my New Year gift for you. I hope you’ll do it and I’d love to hear your success stories as they happen.

    I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.
    And if you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.
    Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.
    You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

    Why You Should Watch “It’s A Wonderful Life” this Christmas

    Merry Christmas! Wow! Here it is again!
    Watching the movie “It’s A Wonderful Life” is one of my holiday traditions. Watch my  5-minute video to find out why… and why I firmly believe you should watch it too.
    It’s all about second chances.
      It’s Christmas and one of the Christmas traditions that I’ve had for many years is to watch the movie “It’s a Wonderful Life” each year. If you don’t do that, or especially if you’ve never seen the movie, you have to see it and I hope you’ll watch it again. There are 2 reasons why I want you to watch it or watch it again… 
      Because it will make you feel good. It will fill you with Christmas cheer. It will make you laugh and it will make you cry, but mainly it will just make you feel good and that’s what all of this is all about. 
       
      But here’s the other reason why I want you to watch it – it’s because of the backstory and of what happened with the movie and why it’s such a wonderful story about second chances. 
       
      The movie came out in 1946, the year after the end of the second World War. It stars Jimmy Stewart, a very famous Hollywood actor and he was just back from serving as a pilot in the war. It was directed by Frank Capra, a very famous Hollywood director who also served in World War II. 
       
      It’s the story of George Bailey, a small town boy who has dreams of traveling the world, but when his father dies unexpectedly, he has to take over the family business, a savings and loan company that makes home loans for people who don’t have a lot of money. 
      He falls in love, gets married and has children, but he always feels he never really got to live the life he wanted. Then his uncle loses some of the savings and loan money, and George is faced with ruin.
      It’s so seriously awful that he’s thinking about suicide, he’s about to jump off a bridge, when an angel is sent down from heaven to help him. The angel jumps in first and George saves him, and then the angel shows George how life in their small town would have been without him.
      George sees the incredible impact he’s had on the lives of so many people and he truly appreciates all the love he has in his life. His life is saved but even more than that, it’s completely renewed. He has a second chance at his life. 
       
      The movie came out and it was a flop. It got mixed reviews and very little box office time. It went into that place of the forgotten movie. And then a weird thing happened – the copyright lapsed and the movie went into the public domain. That meant television stations could show it, at no cost. Suddenly this once-forgotten movie started to be shown every year at Christmas and for many people, myself included, it’s a Christmas tradition each and every year. 
       
      Both Jimmy Steward and Frank Capra always said it was their favorite film they had ever made. 
       
      So just like George Bailey in the story, the movie got its own second chance and is now a beloved classic. 
       
      Isn’t that amazing? Isn’t it a wonderful Christmas story to know that even if we’re in the pit of despair like George was, we can have a second chance?
      All it takes it to look around and appreciate what we have, to recognize the love that we have in our lives. 
       
      So please, watch the movie, feel the love and I hope you have a very merry and joy-filled Christmas. 

      I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.
      And if you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.
      Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.
      You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

      How Deep Breathing Can Make You Happier

      You’re going to be amazed at the incredible benefits that can happen for you, simply by doing 5 minutes of deep breathing every day. Watch my 7 minute video.
      Especially at this busy time of year, taking some deep breaths can help enormously!
        In these series of videos I’m talking about concepts from my book “The Journey to Happy — How Embracing the Concept that Nothing is wrong can transform your life.”
        I hope you’ve been following along with these videos about the concept of Nothing is Wrong, because that will make all this make a lot more sense.
        I’m talking to you here about a Radical way to start living your life. A way that can make you happier than you ever felt possible.
        It’s the concept of living your life from the knowing and understanding that Nothing Is Wrong.
        To recap…
        It’s not what’s happening to us that is causing most of the problems in our lives, it’s our reactions and responses to what’s happening.
        How you’re thinking about it.
        How you’re talking about it.
        How you’re feeling about it.

        What  I’ve found is that the more I drop my resistance, the more I am able to go with the flow, the happier I am and the more things have happened that are almost miraculous.
        It’s a shift out of the energy of Everything is Wrong and into the energy of Nothing is Wrong that changed everything in my life.
        The question is, how can you do that? How can you flip that switch?
        In these videos I’ve been giving you lots of processes about how to flip that switch and today I’m giving you another one — Deep Breathing.
        If you try this, I think you’re going to be shocked at what it can do for you.
        I’m going to be talking to you about 2 ways of doing this:
        The first is to start each day with 5 minutes of deep breathing.
        Studies have shown so many benefits for breathing deeply, including reducing anxiety and stress.
        If you are one of those people who feels worried or anxious, or you get angry easily, doing deep breathing can really help.
        When we take short, shallow breaths, we’re triggering the fight or flight mechanism that’s wired in our brains, and our body thinks there is danger near. But when we are taking slow, deep breaths that signals the body that you are in relaxation mode, what some people call the Relaxation Response. This puts you at ease and reduces the anxiety that you feel.
        And then the long exhalation connects with your nervous system and tells it to calm down.
        At the same time, deep breathing slows your heart rate. When you do the deep breathing, you pump more oxygen into your cells. This lowers your heart rate and blood pressure, and improves circulation.
        The ultimate result is more energy to complete the tasks you are doing, while simultaneously lowering your heart rate and helping you to calm down.
        And again, at the same time, deep breathing improves your energy level. As I said, when you do the deep breathing, you pump more oxygen into your cells. With more oxygen you have more energy.
        Our modern world is really hard on our body, especially our lungs. Air pollution, smoking, all kinds of things can lead to lung problems. With the deep breathing, it forces oxygen into the deepest parts of your lungs and breaks up particles and residue that may be there… cleansing the lungs and possibly preventing you from getting sick as often as you normally might.
        Deep breathing can also help improve lung capacity and performance.
        What I recommend is spending 5 minutes each day doing Deep Breathing.
        Just sit quietly, relax, and set the timer on your smartphone for 5 minutes, so that you won’t be thinking “is the 5 minutes up yet?” Just breathe deeply for 5 minutes. It might help to really visualize your lungs filling up with air and being cleansed.
        Feel the relaxation that happens almost automatically. I hesitate to call this a meditation because so many people react to that word, but if you do this consistently, you will go into a meditative state, meaning a state where you feel happy, relaxed and alert. Isn’t that great?  
        If you start to actually go into an altered state, meaning you feel really light headed and you feel like your consciousness is changing, stop breathing so deeply – we’re going to talk about that next time, because that’s a whole other area of breath that is incredible.
        Do 5 minutes of Deep Breathing every day and you will start to see incredible changes in your life.
        In addition to doing 5 minutes each day…
        The second part is to do deep breathing when you start to feel stressed, angry, anxious or low energy.
        All of the things we talked about will be helped immensely if, during the day, you do a little bit of deep breathing. I know for me, it helps me so much when I start to get upset, to just stop and take a deep breath.
        If you watched the video on the Enneagram, you know I’m an 8, the Aggressor, so I’m wired to get angry. And I mean, sometimes I can just go from 0 to 60 in a snap! And if I say something or decide something when I’m angry and upset, that just doesn’t help anybody.
        When I get triggered, and you can feel it, can’t you, that feeling that’s somewhere in you, you can feel it and if you start noticing it just a little, and take just a nano-second to STOP, take a deep breath – and maybe another one – and sometimes I’ll invite the other person to take a deep breath with me… then I can slow down, calm down and not say or do something that I’m going to regret.
        Try it and let me know how you do.

        I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.
        And if you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.
        Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.
        You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

        Stop! Don't Have That Affair!

        If you’ve been with me for a while, you know that I was a divorce attorney for over 20 years in Omaha, Nebraska. Now, and for the past 16 years, I’ve been working with couples to help them stay together and have fantastic relationships.
        In all these years of working with couples, I can tell you that the most destructive (but easiest to avoid) problem is cheating. It can ruin everything and it can be almost impossible to come back from.
        Watch my 6 minute video – it might change your life and save your relationship.

        If this issue has been haunting you, I first want to say that I’m so sorry. I’m so sorry for your pain, hurt and anguish. But I also want to tell you that there’s hope. I know it. I’ve seen it. I’ve seen the healing take place and people come out the other end.
        We’re all human. We all make mistakes, and sometimes the mistakes are more vicious and horrendous than we think we can bear, but you can bear it. You can make it through it.
        If your partner has cheated, you’re at a crossroads. You need to decide what you are going to do. I urge you to get help with this. This is one of the most critical times in your life, and the decisions that you make now will be affecting you (and your family) for the rest of your life.
        What do you truly want? What do you need? Now is the time to really be looking for your own healing as well as the healing of the relationship.
        Certainly, a retreat (where you immerse yourself in your healing) is the best choice. What makes our retreats so unique and special is that they are customized for each couple and the sessions are all private, not in groups.
        We spend a lot of time talking to each of you separately before you come to Sedona to uncover all of the issues that need to be healed. We then custom design the retreat for exactly what the two of you need.
        During your retreat, you’ll work in private one-on-one (or two-on-one) sessions. We have over 40 practitioners, many of whom have over 20 years of experience working with couples.
        The privacy of the sessions is so key. Many people don’t feel comfortable in a group setting and they don’t want to talk about their most private issues in front of a bunch of strangers.
        There is also a strange dynamic that can sometimes happen in group settings where the group seems to “take the side” of one person, identifying one as the “good guy” and the other as the “bad guy,” and the other person can feel ganged up on. That doesn’t help the healing!
        The privacy of the one-on-one sessions and the skills of our practitioners truly create a space where both parties feel safe.
        We have helped hundreds and hundreds of people come through this difficult time and come out the other side. Give us a call, we can help. Or click below to speak with one of our Retreat Guides:
          If you’ve been with me for a while, then you know that I was a divorce attorney for 20 years in Omaha, Nebraska.  
          And since 2002, I’ve had Sedona Soul Adventures where we work with individuals and couples, and many of the couples we work with are on the verge of divorce.
          So I’ve been working with couples since 1979 and I can tell you that one of the most destructive things that can happen to a relationship is infidelity. I’m sure that sounds pretty obvious, but I think in our world today, I don’t hear very many people saying what I’m going to say to you today, which is: Stop! Don’t have that affair.
          When I was a divorce attorney that was an all too common theme, and now with Sedona Soul Adventures, it’s something that we see over and over again, and if this is something that is happening in your life, I want to ask you to stop and really think about what you’re doing.
          You really need to know that once an affair happens, nothing will ever be the same again. Are you willing to risk your entire life for this, because that’s what happens. You’re risking Your marriage. Your children. Your peace of mind.
          You’re even risking your Financial well-being because divorce and its aftermath are very expensive.
          But the biggest thing you’re risking is the trust that you have with your partner. And once that trust is broken, it’s really difficult to put it back together.
          We had a couple here a few weeks ago who were here as a result of the wife having had an affair 10 years ago. 10 years ago! They had done a lot of therapy, but they just could never get past this. She hadn’t been unfaithful again for 10 years, but that wasn’t enough. Once that trust is broken, it’s just so difficult.
          When they came to us, we were their last ditch attempt at saving their marriage. In fact, he had already moved out and filed divorce papers. What we discovered really surprised us and them. We figured out that the problem here was about control. I’ll call them Linda and Mike, but that’s not their real names. Linda grew up in a family where her father was in the military, so he was very rigid and controlling. She was looking for a way to get out from under all that control, found Mike when they were both 19, she got pregnant and they both felt they had to get married.
          Not surprisingly, it turned out that Mike was even more controlling than her father. And Mike admitted that not only was he controlling, but he was also very critical of her. Ten years into the marriage, after all the controlling and criticism, she had an affair. They could both see that this wasn’t the result of her not loving Mike, it had to do with her trying to finally break free from all the control and all the criticism she had had her entire life. When Mike got that, it just shifted everything. He was able to finally forgive her and even more importantly, she was finally able to forgive herself.  
          After their final session, they decided they wanted to do a recommitment ceremony. We did that with them on Oak Creek, it was so beautiful and we all talked about how incredible it was that just the week before Mike had filed for divorce.
          Their marriage was saved but look at all the years of pain and suffering they both endured. Don’t do that. Don’t do it to your family. Don’t do it to yourself.

          I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.
          And if you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.
          Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.
          You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

          Stop! Don't Have That Affair!

          If you’ve been with me for a while, you know that I was a divorce attorney for over 20 years in Omaha, Nebraska. Now, and for the past 16 years, I’ve been working with couples to help them stay together and have fantastic relationships.
          In all these years of working with couples, I can tell you that the most destructive (but easiest to avoid) problem is cheating. It can ruin everything and it can be almost impossible to come back from.
          Watch my 6 minute video – it might change your life and save your relationship.

          If this issue has been haunting you, I first want to say that I’m so sorry. I’m so sorry for your pain, hurt and anguish. But I also want to tell you that there’s hope. I know it. I’ve seen it. I’ve seen the healing take place and people come out the other end.
          We’re all human. We all make mistakes, and sometimes the mistakes are more vicious and horrendous than we think we can bear, but you can bear it. You can make it through it.
          If your partner has cheated, you’re at a crossroads. You need to decide what you are going to do. I urge you to get help with this. This is one of the most critical times in your life, and the decisions that you make now will be affecting you (and your family) for the rest of your life.
          What do you truly want? What do you need? Now is the time to really be looking for your own healing as well as the healing of the relationship.
          Certainly, a retreat (where you immerse yourself in your healing) is the best choice. What makes our retreats so unique and special is that they are customized for each couple and the sessions are all private, not in groups.
          We spend a lot of time talking to each of you separately before you come to Sedona to uncover all of the issues that need to be healed. We then custom design the retreat for exactly what the two of you need.
          During your retreat, you’ll work in private one-on-one (or two-on-one) sessions. We have over 40 practitioners, many of whom have over 20 years of experience working with couples.
          The privacy of the sessions is so key. Many people don’t feel comfortable in a group setting and they don’t want to talk about their most private issues in front of a bunch of strangers.
          There is also a strange dynamic that can sometimes happen in group settings where the group seems to “take the side” of one person, identifying one as the “good guy” and the other as the “bad guy,” and the other person can feel ganged up on. That doesn’t help the healing!
          The privacy of the one-on-one sessions and the skills of our practitioners truly create a space where both parties feel safe.
          We have helped hundreds and hundreds of people come through this difficult time and come out the other side. Give us a call, we can help. Or click below to speak with one of our Retreat Guides:
            If you’ve been with me for a while, then you know that I was a divorce attorney for 20 years in Omaha, Nebraska.  
            And since 2002, I’ve had Sedona Soul Adventures where we work with individuals and couples, and many of the couples we work with are on the verge of divorce.
            So I’ve been working with couples since 1979 and I can tell you that one of the most destructive things that can happen to a relationship is infidelity. I’m sure that sounds pretty obvious, but I think in our world today, I don’t hear very many people saying what I’m going to say to you today, which is: Stop! Don’t have that affair.
            When I was a divorce attorney that was an all too common theme, and now with Sedona Soul Adventures, it’s something that we see over and over again, and if this is something that is happening in your life, I want to ask you to stop and really think about what you’re doing.
            You really need to know that once an affair happens, nothing will ever be the same again. Are you willing to risk your entire life for this, because that’s what happens. You’re risking Your marriage. Your children. Your peace of mind.
            You’re even risking your Financial well-being because divorce and its aftermath are very expensive.
            But the biggest thing you’re risking is the trust that you have with your partner. And once that trust is broken, it’s really difficult to put it back together.
            We had a couple here a few weeks ago who were here as a result of the wife having had an affair 10 years ago. 10 years ago! They had done a lot of therapy, but they just could never get past this. She hadn’t been unfaithful again for 10 years, but that wasn’t enough. Once that trust is broken, it’s just so difficult.
            When they came to us, we were their last ditch attempt at saving their marriage. In fact, he had already moved out and filed divorce papers. What we discovered really surprised us and them. We figured out that the problem here was about control. I’ll call them Linda and Mike, but that’s not their real names. Linda grew up in a family where her father was in the military, so he was very rigid and controlling. She was looking for a way to get out from under all that control, found Mike when they were both 19, she got pregnant and they both felt they had to get married.
            Not surprisingly, it turned out that Mike was even more controlling than her father. And Mike admitted that not only was he controlling, but he was also very critical of her. Ten years into the marriage, after all the controlling and criticism, she had an affair. They could both see that this wasn’t the result of her not loving Mike, it had to do with her trying to finally break free from all the control and all the criticism she had had her entire life. When Mike got that, it just shifted everything. He was able to finally forgive her and even more importantly, she was finally able to forgive herself.  
            After their final session, they decided they wanted to do a recommitment ceremony. We did that with them on Oak Creek, it was so beautiful and we all talked about how incredible it was that just the week before Mike had filed for divorce.
            Their marriage was saved but look at all the years of pain and suffering they both endured. Don’t do that. Don’t do it to your family. Don’t do it to yourself.

            I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.
            And if you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.
            Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.
            You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.
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