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Want to Live Longer? This Will Surprise You

Are you tired of being told how you have to eat nothing but kale and constantly exercise like an Olympian in order to live longer?

Watch my video to find out what’s The Most Important Thing You Can Do for living longer — the best part is, it’s fun and it’s based on scientific studies!

Being optimistic, being happy and staying positive can be really difficult if you’re actually feeling upset, anxious and unhappy. If you need to turn that around, please call us. We will clear the blocks and gunk that are creating the problems (they’re probably different than you think!), and move you back into connection and back into the happiness and peace that are your birthright.

Call us now – Your life depends on it!

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Today I’m going to ask you some stupid questions:

Would you like to…  

  • Live longer?
  • Be happier as you’re living longer?
  • Be more concerned about being happy than about maintaining a perfect weight or exercising all the time?

I’m assuming that for most of you out there, the answers to those questions is a resounding “yes.” If it is, you might want to listen to this…


One of the things I’ve really gotten into in the last few years is studying Brain Chemistry. I’ve read lots and lots of books and articles on it, especially about how our “Reality” can be shifted and changed. What I love is that they’re written by scientists and doctors, and their conclusions are about as metaphysical as you can get.

What scientists are proving now is that people with a positive attitude live longer.

  • A study at Yale University study followed 660 people for up to 23 years that were aged 50 and older. The ones who had a more positive outlook about getting older lived 7 years longer than those who had a negative outlook about it. Here’s my favorite part: the Positive Attitude had a greater impact than Cholesterol levels, Weight, smoking, blood pressure or exercise. All the things that everyone tells us to be worried about. People need to be more worried about not being so worried.
  • A Mayo Clinic study followed 800 people for more than 30 years and found that people with a positive attitude (they termed them Optimists) lived longer than pessimists, and in another Mayo Clinic study at about the same time (following 447 people for over 30 years), the optimists felt happier, calmer and more peaceful most of the time. And they experienced less pain and felt more energetic.
  • A Duke University study of 866 heart patients found that the people who experienced more positive emotions lived on average 11 years longer than those who habitually experienced more negative emotions.
  • A study at Johns Hopkins study concluded that a positive attitude offers the best protection against heart disease, especially for people whose family history includes heart attacks or strokes. Their conclusion was that a positive attitude made a bigger difference than diet and exercise! 

It’s all about your attitude. Are you generally happy or unhappy? Optimistic or pessimistic? Do you complain…a lot? Do you get frustrated…a lot? Do you get angry often?

Or do you feel kind of ornery a lot of the time? (I love that word – my mother used to use that word all the time.)

Are you experiencing Joy and Happiness in your life?

Isn’t it wild that scientists and doctors are now proving that being happy and positive has a bigger impact on living longer and living a more healthy life than diet, exercise and keeping your cholesterol down?

I’m not saying don’t be mindful about what you eat and I’m not saying don’t exercise. What I’m saying is, you’ve got to find a way to go from unhappy to happy, from pessimistic to optimistic. Your life depends on it!

So how do you go from unhappy to happy? From generally pessimistic to generally optimistic?

What changed everything for me in my life was coming to Sedona for the first time. Many of you know my story: when I first came here, 20 years ago, I was in a really bad place in my life — hated my work, 40 pounds overweight, $50,000 in debt. 

I definitely wasn’t living my best life and my general outlook was very pessimistic. That all started to turn around after I came here for the first time and three years later, I started Sedona Soul Adventures.

You can turn your life around and enjoy a happier, more wonderful and longer life. Watch my other videos that talk about simple things you can do to get happier.  

Read my book…that will talk to you about getting happy in all the areas of your life and gives you nine different processes that you can use to shift things around.

Even better, think about coming out to Sedona to do a retreat, either a personal retreat or a Couples retreat.  

We custom design all our retreats for each individual or couple. We spend time talking to you before you come, really getting to the root causes of what’s keeping you from your joy. 

Your retreat will be one-on-one private sessions (not in groups) with some of the most incredible and experienced practitioners here in Sedona (we have over 50!). Your retreat will clear out the gunk and blocks that are holding you in disconnection and then we’ll bring you back into connection on all levels — physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

When you’re living your life in connection, you automatically come from a place of happiness and optimism. And as the scientists are now proving, that can lead to a longer and happier life.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

And If you want an even more direct path to having the relationship of your dreams, click here to get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

How to Feel Full (without calories)

Happy Easter! The day of resurrection, renewal and rebirth.

Today I want to talk to you about how to feel full – and I’m not talking about after your large Easter dinner (although if you did have a large Easter dinner, I hope it was yummy).

For me, this all started when I was so unhappy and I used to constantly say to myself, “If I died tomorrow, I’d be really pissed off.”

Listen to how that all changed around for me.

I’m talking about peace, happiness, serenity and that full and completely satisfied feeling that is possible when you’re living your life in connection.

Watch the video:

If you’re not feeling completely happy, full, content and satisfied in your life or your relationship, please give us a call. It’s all about moving out the energetic blocks and gunk, and moving you back into connection on all the levels — physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

When you’re living your life in connection, everything falls into place — you know your life purpose and you start living it, your relationships (with yourself and everyone else) support and nurture you, and everything seems to flow. If you want some of that, give us a call:

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Today I want to talk to you about Feeling Full.

Twenty years ago I was a very unhappy and dissatisfied person. I was a divorce attorney in Omaha, Nebraska and I was 40 pounds overweight. I had 2 prevailing thoughts: I hated my work and I hated my body. I felt stuck. I was 47 years old. My mother had become ill with cancer at the age of 47 and eventually died at the age of 51. My mother had also been unhappy and dissatisfied, and she felt stuck. She finally came un-stuck by leaving the planet.  

I remember thinking all the time, “If I died tomorrow, I would be really pissed off.” I remember thinking that if died tomorrow, I would have never experienced a true feeling of happiness or joy, full, deep satisfaction.

It was also interesting how that showed up with my body. Because I was constantly dieting, I felt hungry all the time. But even when I would eat, I would most often eat way past the point of feeling full. I don’t think I had experienced the feeling of feeling full or completely satisfied. At least, not enough to really know what it felt like.

And then it all changed. I came to Sedona for the first time in 1999, had a life-changing experience, left my law practice and started coming out to Sedona to do my own personal healing work. I did that for 3 years. About 2 years into that, I had the most incredible experience of sitting in my kitchen in Omaha, looking at the huge trees swaying in the wind, and this intense feeling came over me and I suddenly had the thought, “If I died tomorrow, it would be okay.”

Through all the healing work that I had done, I had suddenly and without any warning, come into a place of deep contentment. There wasn’t anything that had happened — I hadn’t seen God, I hadn’t just won the lottery and I had no idea what I was going to be doing with my life or my work, nothing at all had happened. This feeling of peace and serenity just sort of took over me.  

A few weeks ago, I had another one of those moments. I was on a plane and I suddenly had a crazy thought about the plane crashing. And I was suddenly overcome with this rush of joy and love, and this thought, “You know, it wouldn’t be my first choice, I love my life so much, but I wouldn’t be pissed off like I would have been 20 years ago. I’m so happy, I’m so full, that if I went tomorrow it would be okay.” I was so overwhelmed by it, that I started crying these tears of joy, and then my husband got concerned because he thought something was wrong. But it wasn’t wrong, it was beautiful.

The same thing happened with my body. After so many years of crazy dieting, manic exercising, buying exercise equipment and pills, working with trainers, etc., etc., etc., I had an experience that came out of the blue where I suddenly started loving my body. This had come as the result of doing lots of work and sessions, but when it came, it came very suddenly and without warning. I was shown that my body was perfect exactly the way it was. That I could be happy without being thin. This sense of joy, peace and serenity just overwhelmed me and I stopped all the crazy dieting and exercise. I just stopped.

And then here’s the kicker. The minute I did that, with no effort, the weight just started melting off, without diet or exercise. I lost 40 pounds… it just melted away. I’ve maintained that weight loss and my latest medical checkup was the best it’s ever been.

When I eat now, I instantly know when I’m full. I’m full and complete, and I just stop eating. Sometimes the plate has been licked clean and sometimes there’s still food left. I don’t over-eat something just because it tastes good, I eat to that delicious point where I feel full, complete and satisfied.

Similarly, when I stopped pushing against my law practice and healed those unhealed parts of myself, all of these incredible and amazing circumstances came together and I started Sedona Soul Adventures, which has become the most satisfying, fulfilling and delicious experience of my life.

It is so incredibly amazing what happens when we finally allow this feeling of fullness, of deep satisfaction, to finally come into our lives. Because it’s a choice. The Universe is sending us everything and we are either allowing it in or not. Before, I wasn’t allowing in these feelings of being full. I thought I had to be thin to be happy. I thought I had to have the perfect job show up before I could be fulfilled.

When I stopped railing against everything and took responsibility for my own healing, everything fell into place. Everything came into joy.  

My prayer for you is that you could experience that kind of joy in your life. And you can. It’s just gunk and blocks that are holding you back, and we can find those, eliminate them and bring you back into connection with that highest part of yourself.

When you come back into connection, you experience that sense of fullness, deep satisfaction and serenity, that we’re all craving… and that we can all have.

We had a woman here a while back and she came to us saying she felt completely shut down and she had no energy, no zest for life. She had been to a bunch of medical doctors and they couldn’t find anything wrong with her.

In her very first session, her practitioner discovered that her root chakra was completely shut down, with no energy at all. The practitioner gently asked her if she had ever had any thoughts about not wanting to live and she burst into tears saying she did have those thoughts sometimes, she said she would never do anything about it because she would never leave her young children, but that she often thought, “What’s the use? What’s the point?”  

Then her practitioner discovered that her heart chakra was completely shut down. No wonder she didn’t have any energy. She had no energy from her basic life force and wasn’t feeling love or receiving love. No life force and no love – we aren’t meant to go through life that way!

Her practitioner had to spend some extra time clearing through the gunk that was there – she said it felt like sludge –  and had to do with past life times and things with her parents… but it all got cleared so that by the end of the session, all of her chakras were wide open and moving.  

In her breath journey the next day, she told me she saw all this white light coming in through all of her chakras and she felt herself completely filled with what she called, “the light of God.” She said it was the most extraordinary experience of her life.

She called me a few weeks later to tell me that since she’d been home, she had so much energy that she was running rings around everyone!

Her husband has decided to come out for a retreat. When he called he said, “I’ll what she’s having,” just like in the movie “When Harry Met Sally.”

We get that a lot when people go home… their friends and loved ones see the changes and want the same thing.

My prayer for you is that you can experience this same sense of fullness and contentment. It’s waiting for you.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

And If you want an even more direct path to having the relationship of your dreams, click here to get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it!

Triggered by Money Issues? Watch this!

Lots and lots of people that I come into contact with – be they rich or poor – have issues with money. It’s seems to be a trigger for so many people. 

When I finally learned how to Flip the Switch around money, everything changed. Watch my video and listen to my story about the day that $50,000 fell out of the sky.
Most people don’t understand that like everything else, money is all about energy. If you’re blocked in your life in any way, you’re more than likely blocked around money as well. If you’d like to get unblocked, give us a call — we can help.
Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Money is a huge issue for almost everyone and this is really another area where you can have the most dramatic and almost unbelievable impact on your life, if you can start to figure out how to flip the switch.
If you haven’t watched my other videos, when I’m talking about flipping the switch, what I mean is getting yourself into the space where you feel good, feel happy and what you want comes easily to you. Let’s recap what I talk about in my book:
One of the truths that Einstein discovered (and that Quantum Physics continues to prove) is that Everything is Energy. Even this desk, which feels so stable and strong, is – at its core – just a bunch of particles racing around.
If everything is energy, (and now we know it is) that means that everything is much more elastic, much more malleable, and much more possible to change than we think it is.
Putting our attention on something, in any way, changes it.  
Through the years, quantum physics has proven, that we are energy.
So, if everything is energy and if putting our attention on something in any way changes it, that means we are all creating our reality in every moment.
What we focus on expands.  
We get more of whatever it is that we think about and talk about.
That is great news! If you are creating your reality, that means that you can change the parts that you don’t like – the parts that aren’t making you happy.
The final piece has to do with energy and vibration. Think of it this way:
The things that you want – happiness, peace, joy, great relationships, money – all reside in the Higher vibrational energies. Joy, peace and happiness are all much higher vibrations than depression, fear and blame. When you are a vibrational match to what you want, it comes to you. That’s what many people refer to as Law of Attraction.
So the way to get everything you want is to get in the higher vibrations, stay there, and allow it all to come to you.  
In other words…

The question is how do you get happy and stay happy?
The simple answer is: Don’t think about what you don’t want and don’t talk about what you don’t want.  
I’ve talked a lot about this in my other videos and now I’m going to talk to you about it with regard to MONEY.
When I was afraid about money, it could never come to me… or if it came, something else came along after to take it away.
It’s simple physics – you have to be in the same high vibration as the money. If you’re fearful, frustrated and upset about it, it literally cannot come to you.
Which makes it pretty difficult, right, because when you’re in debt or your money situation isn’t the way you want it to be, if you’re like I was, you’re thinking about it all the time… obsessing about it all the time… worrying about it all the time…
Which makes it impossible for it to come to you. It sometimes feels really unfair, like some big set up by the Universe, out to get you. I actually felt that way sometimes.
But the Universe is not out to get you. The Universe wants you to go with the flow.
When you can do that, magical things happen.
Let me tell you the story of what happened to me… the day that $50,000 dropped out of the sky…
When I first came to Sedona over 20 years ago, my entire life was a mess. I had just started my 20th year of law practice and I hated it, I was in an unhappy marriage, I weighed 40 pounds more than I do now, and I was $50,000 in debt due to some very bad business decisions.  
I worried constantly about money. It was always on my mind. I would wake up in the morning and start worrying about it and I would go to bed worried about it. By this time I had owed this $50,000 for over 5 years and no matter what I did, I couldn’t get it to go away. I would take on more cases, I was working 60-70 hours a week and I was constantly worried.
Do you see how the money couldn’t come to me because I was constantly fearful and frustrated and upset?
During those five years, I spent a lot of time praying and meditating, saying, “God, I’m so unhappy! Please tell me what to do!” Almost every time I did that I would hear a voice say, “You need to leave your law practice.” I would immediately respond, “I can’t do that! I’ve got a mortgage and two car payments! I’m the sole supporter, and I’m $50,000 in debt! I CAN’T leave my law practice!”  
So the last thing in the world I should have been spending money on at this point in my life was a spiritual retreat. But I put it on my credit card and I came to Sedona.
I came to Sedona and did one session with Ranjita – and many of you who have done a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat know how amazing she is – and in that session, my higher self appeared to me and told me I had to leave my law practice or I was going to die.
Well this time I heard the message. I went home and after two weeks of trying to figure out how I was possibly going to leave my law practice when I was $50,000 in debt, there was a day where something just happened. I was meditating and praying, and I just felt all the worry and concern just lift off me. I remember saying, “Ok God, I’m going to do this. I don’t know how I’m going to do this, but I’m going to do it, and I need some help.”
Within about 8 hours, a former client called to ask me some questions and at the end of the call, told me he had just bought a new business refinancing mortgages. I asked him if he thought he could get my mortgage payment reduced. He took my address and called me back in 10 minutes and said, “I can get your mortgage payment cut in half and I can get you $50,000 in cash.” Now I had never told him I was $50,000 in debt. He certainly didn’t know about my going into that high vibrational state where I just released the worry and concern. But suddenly, within a few hours, the worry and concern that had haunted me for 5 years was gone.
And ever since then, whenever I feel worried about money, I just stop.
Because I know these principles:
Whatever I’m afraid of, is coming faster.
Whatever I’m excited about, is coming faster.
If I’m afraid of not having enough money, I do everything I can to take myself out of that feeling, because I KNOW my fear is keeping the money away. In my other videos, I’ve given you lots of things you can do to bring yourself out of those energies, such as Tapping, Deep Breathing, Change Your Story, Change Your Life…
I never talk to people about not having enough money, I only talk about abundance.
The trick is getting there and staying there. But the key is in these three simple steps:  

  1. Get happy
  2. Stay happy

And in order to get happy and stay happy:

  1. Don’t think about what you don’t want and don’t talk about what you don’t want  

It all comes down to stop worrying about money.
Again, I know that’s much easier said than done, because I was someone who worried about it for years and years, but I’ll tell you, when you can stop worrying and instead, start getting excited about what’s on the way, money will start to flow to you.
So do this:
When you start to worry – Stop. And instead, think about how great it will be to have your money woes behind you, think about how fantastic it will feel to have your credit cards all paid, visualize your bank statement having a balance that is really large.
Feel the feeling of what it feels like to have money in savings. Feel what it feels like to have all that worry off your shoulders. Start appreciating what you have now and really feel that.
This is so deceptively simple.
It’s simple, I know it’s not easy because I’ve been there through those sleepless nights, but I will tell you, when you Flip the Switch – and you can tell when that’s happening – miracles can actually happen.
I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

And If you want an even more direct path to having the relationship of your dreams, click here to get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.
Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.
You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

How will you score on the Relationship Checklist prepared by a Divorce Attorney?

Those of you who have been with me for a number of years know that I was a divorce attorney for over 20 years in Omaha, Nebraska. And now for the past 17 years, I’ve been doing work with couples helping them stay together. Funny, isn’t it?

Based on my over 37 years of working with couples, I’ve put together a Relationship Checklist for you. These are what I see as the most insidious things that cause the biggest problems (and issues that lead to problems) in a relationship. Some of them might not be the usual things that you think of…

Take a look at yourself, and at yourself within your relationship, as you go through the checklist.

Even if you don’t like all your answers to the Checklist, don’t despair, there is hope!

We see it all the time. Come to Sedona and do a Couples Retreat. One of our Angel Guides will speak with each of you separately, really getting at what’s going on, what the issues  are and what both of you want. Then they’ll put together the perfect retreat that’s right for the two of you. Because each retreat is completely custom designed and because the sessions are all completely private (not in groups), you’ll get exactly what you need. It will bring you back into the love and connection you’re craving.

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Many of you know that I was a divorce attorney for 20 years in Omaha, Nebraska. Then I came to Sedona in 1999, closed my law practice 6 months later and started Sedona Soul Adventures in 2002. Since then, our Couples Retreats have saved so many marriages (and spiced up so many more!). Isn’t it funny how that instant karma has worked out? I spent 20 years divorcing people, now I’ve spent 17 years helping them stay together!  

After so many years of working with couples who were either divorcing, on the verge of divorce, or just trying to be more connected (and everything in between), I’ve seen the same things over and over again, and they aren’t necessarily the things that books and magazines talk about.  

So I’ve put together a Relationship Checklist for you. These are what I see as the most insidious things that cause the biggest problems (and issues that lead to problems) in a relationship. Some of them might not be the usual things that you think of. Take a look at yourself, and at yourself within your relationship, as you go through the checklist…

Do you respect each other?  

Do you respect your partner and does he or she respect you? There’s a big difference between feeling a crazy kind of love for someone and deeply respecting them. I’ve seen so many couples who have a passionate love for each other, but when it comes right down to it, they don’t respect each other. Do you respect your partner? Do you feel respected by your partner? If you don’t, the relationship is on its way to being over.  

If you have a healthy respect for each other, you give each other the benefit of the doubt even when things get tough. You’re quicker to forgive those little transgressions, knowing that you basically hold your partner in high esteem.  

Do you like each other?  

This may seem almost the same as respect, but it isn’t. You can like someone and not respect them because you don’t think they’re a good person. You can also respect someone because they hold high values, but you don’t like them.  

Do you actually like your partner? Do you think they’re a good person? Do you enjoy hanging out with them?

Last year I spoke with a man who told me he was completely, totally surprised when his wife told him she wanted a divorce, he couldn’t believe it. Later, I found out they weren’t going on vacations together for the last 5 years of the marriage because it was too unpleasant. If you can’t even go on vacation together and have a good time, something is wrong!

If you don’t like your partner, you’ve got a problem. If the thought of being with them when you’re 80 years old makes you wince, that’s telling you something is not right.  

If you genuinely like your partner and like spending time with them, you have a much greater chance that you are going to make it through the long haul and through difficult times, and spend the rest of your lives together.  

Do you fight fair?  

The way that you disagree with each other says so much about your relationship. Some psychologists believe they can predict the success or failure of a relationship simply by watching a couple have an argument about something.  

When you disagree, do you stick to the subject you are disagreeing about, or do you bring up stuff that has nothing to do with what you’re arguing about? Do you find yourself using phrases like “you always do this…” or “you never do this”? Fighting about something other than the current issue is not fighting fair and leads to huge build up of resentment. Resentment is poison to a relationship.  

You can disagree and have an argument, and still come from the basic love that you have for each other. Being respectful while you disagree, really listening and trying to understand the other person’s perspective, while sticking to the subject at hand can actually bring you closer together as a couple.

Can you really talk to each other?  

Does your partner “get” you? Can you talk to them about pretty much anything and have it be okay? Do they know all the little weirdnesses about you and love you all the same? Or do you hide things from them? Do you tell them how you truly feel?

I spoke with a man a year ago who told me his 30 year marriage had come down to “I go along to get along.” He wanted to do a Couples Retreat, but his wife didn’t want to. I spoke with him again a few weeks ago and things are worse (things like this never get better unless they are dealt with).

When your partner feels like they have to hide how they’re feeling and can’t be honest with you, they start to shut down emotionally. That’s when the love starts to stop.  

When you know you are safe with your partner, that they will love you no matter what, love continues to grow and thrive.  

Are financial issues a problem?  

Financial issues show up in a number of ways — from there not being enough money, to one person being a spender and one person being a saver, to disagreements about how money should be spent. In this modern age, we also see a lot of situations where there is an imbalance, especially when the woman makes more than the man.  

Money issues are a hot button for many people, and usually have a deep connection back to childhood. Money issues bring up all the different things we’ve already talked about — not communicating, not fighting fair, not liking the other person because they’re a miser (or a spendthrift), not respecting the other person because they’re not responsible with money, etc., etc. Money is usually just the tip of the iceberg of deeper problems below the surface.  

When money isn’t an issue in your marriage, you’re free to bring in all kinds of abundance in your lives… not just financially, but emotionally and spiritually as well. It indicates that everything is flowing as it should be.  

Do you have each other’s back?  

I attended a couples workshop in Sedona almost 20 years ago and during a very emotional part of the workshop, one of the men said to his wife, “I’ve got your back.” Later, we broke up into our male and female groups and as we women gathered, a number of us remarked at how much that had touched us. About half of us said (through tears) that we had never felt that way in our relationship.  

It can be a tough world out there and knowing that there’s at least one person who has your back is an incredible and amazing gift. And I will tell you after all these years of working with couples, it’s something that I don’t see very often. There isn’t that deep level of trust, of knowing that your partner will be there for you no matter what.  

This trust, this knowing, seems to me to be the Secret Sauce of healthy relationships — really knowing that your partner will be with you through thick and thin. For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death does you part. It’s like a rare, exotic flower that must be cultivated and cared for.  

And it’s funny, because the woman who did the Couples workshop 20 years ago, my dear friend Ranjita, is also a minister, and she and my dear friend Yana officiated at our wedding a little over a year ago. Unbeknownst to us, she added a portion to our ceremony where she literally had us stand back to back and pledge that we have each other’s backs. It was very sweet and very powerful.

My prayer for you is that all of your answers to the above questions were the “right” answers. That you have fabulous communication, you can be completely honest with each other, and there are no hidden agendas or resentments.

If that’s NOT the case, I would urge you to do something about it – and do it now. My experience is that these things only get worse over time. Once the milk starts to curdle, there’s no turning back. It just smells worse and worse until you finally have to throw it out. And throwing it out is such a painful thing to do, when it’s your relationship that’s being thrown out.  

We had a couple here awhile ago and he told me at the end of their Couples Retreat, that he thought it was hopeless and that he had already planned on filing for divorce when they returned home from Sedona. He had even hired the attorney, because he thought there was no way the marriage could be fixed.

At the beginning of the retreat, he was telling all of us that all of the problems were with his wife and he wanted us to “fix her.” Even though we discussed with him 4 separate times before they got here that it’s usually not about one person, it’s usually about both people, he kept telling us, “No, just wait until you get us together, it’s all her.”

After we did some clearing sessions with both of them separately, he suddenly burst into tears in his private session and said “Oh my God, it’s all me! I’m the one judging her and and wanting her to be someone else, even though I actually love her. It’s just like my mother used to do to me, I’m disapproving and judgmental.”  

They came back into a love for each other that they hadn’t felt for years and they even did a re-commitment ceremony out in the beautiful Red Rocks of Sedona.

The marriage was completely resurrected and they came back 6 months later to spice it up even more. When you’ve got the love, the trust and the spice, you’ve got it all!  

And even if all your answers feel like the “wrong” answers, they’re actually not! This is not saying that your relationship is over. This is valuable information that is showing you where you need to put your attention. You just need to do it while you can still salvage the relationship, that’s the key.

There is hope! We see it all the time. Come to Sedona and do a Couples Retreat. One of our Angel Guides will speak with each of you separately, really getting at what’s going on, what are the issues and what do both of you want? Then they’ll put together the perfect retreat that’s right for the two of you. Because each retreat is completely customized and because the sessions are all completely private (not in groups), you’ll get exactly what you need. It will bring you back into the Love and Connection you’re craving.

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And If you want an even more direct path to having the relationship of your dreams, click here to get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

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