How to Bring in The Love of Your Life
Would you like to have a love relationship in your life? Do you sometimes feel frustrated that it’s not happening? Do you tell yourself things like, “All the good ones are taken”?
If so, you need to watch my video.
Many of you know, I got married almost two years ago — let me tell you the story of how I brought in the love of my life.
And next week, I’m going to tell you about how to turn the one you’re with into the love of your life.
As I talk about in my book, it’s all about energy. How do you shift out of the energy of disappointment and fear and back into the energy of Excited Expectation? It’s simple, but it’s not necessarily easy.
Let us help. If there’s something in your life that’s eluding you – like a loving relationship (or satisfying work, or prosperity and abundance), come to Sedona to do a retreat. We’ll identify what’s blocking the energy, move out the blocks and bring you back into connection on all the levels – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. When you’re operating in connection, everything flows to you with grace and ease.
Anne says her Soul Adventure has brought in more “loving relationships”
Today I’m going to talk to you about “How to bring in the love of your life.”
Many of you who get my newsletters and have been following me for a while know that I got married last year. And no one was more surprised than I was, especially when I look back on what happened. Now that I look back, I’m seeing that this was another example of how flipping the switch and knowing that nothing is wrong can bring you your deepest wishes, dreams and desires.
In my other videos, I’ve told you stories of other times in my life where this happened so dramatically. I’ve told you how when I went into this space a number of years ago, that I suddenly released 40 pounds in 5 weeks without dieting or exercising.
I’ve told you about the miracle of when I first came to Sedona over 20 years ago, how every part of my life was such a mess, including that I was $50,000 in debt. After coming to Sedona, I went into a space of surrender and when I flipped that switch, suddenly $50,000 dropped out of the sky. You can find these videos on our YouTube channel.
So today I want to talk about how to bring in the love of your life and in my next video, I’m going to talk about how to turn the person you’re with into the love of your life.
So here’s the secret: it all goes back to learning how to flip the switch.
Let me tell you what I know to be true after 20 years as a divorce attorney and 17 years of doing couples work with Sedona Soul Adventures:
- Everything is energy.
- What we focus on, we get more of.
- We are all creating our reality in every moment.
- What we think about and talk about expands.
I’ve spoken about the science of all this in my other videos, including the teachings of other Quantum Physics teachers, like Albert Einstein.
If you are wanting to bring a loving relationship into your life, take a look at what you focus on, what do you talk about and think about.
If you are like most people that I come across, my guess is that you say things to yourself like:
“Where is he?”
“Why isn’t she showing up?”
“The good ones are all gone.”
“I’m too old to find someone.”
“I’m too fat to find someone.”
“Men are jerks.”
“Women are mean.”
“I’ll never find a spiritual person.”
“I’m afraid I’m never going to find anyone.”
I certainly understand where all those thoughts come from. I have been married and divorced, I’ve been hurt, I’ve gone out with a lot of frogs and I’ve had negative thoughts come into my head from time to time. I was on Match.com for 8 years after my divorce and I never met one person that I went out with more than once. I don’t even know why I stayed on for so long, except now that I look back, I see why.
It all comes down to this:
Whatever you want to bring into your life (a husband, a wife, a partner, money, healthy body, great job) you have to be a vibrational match for.
Negative emotions, such as fear, anger or frustration keep it away. Excited expectation brings it faster.
So how does this work?
1. You have to get okay with you.
Do you love yourself? I mean really love yourself? Do you think you’re pretty much okay?
If you don’t love you, how can anyone else love you?
2. You need to do whatever it takes to keep you out of fear, anger and frustration, and keep you in the higher vibrational emotions of excited expectation, hope and love.
In my book and in my other videos, I’ve given you lots and lots of processes that will help you with both of these:
Change Your Story, Change Your Life
Anything you can do that will help you flip that switch out of fear and frustration, and back into excited expectation.
Here’s what happened to me…
After my divorce, I realized that I still had deep places of not completely loving myself. The divorce had triggered those insecurities and all kinds of fears around Is there something wrong with me? and Am I loveable?
I was actually kind of stunned that I was still having those kinds of thoughts after all the work I’ve done over the years, but I’ll tell you, it really is about peeling the onion… we keep discovering where these things are.
After I moved through that and did a little bit of dating, I made the decision that I love my life, I love my work, I love my house, I love my friends, why mess any of that up? And the minute I went into that release, out of the blue I met someone who really opened my heart. That relationship didn’t work out, but it did make me realize that I wanted someone in my life again. So I did what I tell everyone else to do:
I made a list of exactly what I wanted – and it included 22 very specific items.
I would meditate and think about how I would feel when I connected with him. I kept myself in a state of Excited Expectation.
I was very strict about the process I call, Change Your Story, Change Your Life, which is one of the processes in my book. I didn’t talk about (or think about) how there’s no one around, or it’s so hard to meet someone or any negative chatter about men (and ladies, when we’re alone, you know how often that happens).
And then in the second half of 2016, I finished my book and it was published. I spent six months of just constant work on the book, so I wasn’t much thinking about anything else. The book came out in October that year and I remember on the day it hit #1, I thought to myself, “Okay, now I’ve got time to meet a guy.”
And literally four weeks later, he found me. On Match. All those years of staying on Match finally paid off. He sent me a sweet message and then I was bummed to find out he lived in California. I had an iron clad rule that I had developed over the past few years that if someone was further away than Phoenix, I wouldn’t even respond because it would always develop into this back and forth that I didn’t want to get into. So even though it felt kind of rude, I just wouldn’t even respond.
But when I got Richard’s first message, I was sitting in LA watching the sunset with my sister, drinking a glass of champagne. I saw his picture and read his profile, where he talked about his work and his spirituality, and showed it to my sister who said, “He’s cute!” I thought to myself, “I’m not going to be rude to this guy.”
So I wrote him back and said, “You look great, but you’re in San Jose.” He immediately wrote back and said, “I know, I saw the seemingly insurmountable distance, but I just wanted to let you know that there’s someone out here who sees who you are and admires what you’re doing in the world.” Because Richard is a total Silicon Valley computer guy and he had very easily figured out who I was – and he had even watched some of my videos – I showed his message to my sister and she said, “Good answer!” The rest is history.
As I look back on this now, I see that I did what I talk about in my book. I figured out what I wanted, but I didn’t drive myself crazy obsessing about it. I kept myself in Excited Expectation, knowing and trusting that what I wanted was on its way.
There’s an old teaching that says, “Whatever you want, wants you.”
You’re having these desires because there’s someone out there who’s desiring you. If you can come into that energy and stay in that energy, everything you want is on its way.
We had a woman come here for a Soul Adventure a number of years ago and she came because she said, “I want to find a husband, it’s time. I want children, I’m running out of time, I’m over 30, I want it and I want it now!”
We all spent a whole bunch of time with her, trying to get her to see this from an energetic standpoint, that the frustration and demands were negative energy that was keeping what she wanted from her. She is an accountant, so she’s very smart and very much in her head, so at first, this didn’t make sense to her and she was really resisting. Even worse, she had a lot of “I’m not okay” issues from her childhood, so we were also trying to help her with that and she was having trouble seeing how that was related.
I was starting to be a little concerned that we weren’t going to be able to help her and then suddenly, in one of her final sessions, she was doing a meditation out on the land and her Higher Self suddenly came in in such a way that she felt totally healed. She was filled with love for herself and everyone else.
She told me later that she literally felt the frustration and her demands that this happen now, just melt away. She said it was so funny that she came here wanting to figure out how to make a man come into her life and she was leaving with that obsession just released.
So of course you know what happened next. On the plane home, she met the most interesting, attractive man who was totally interested in the amazing spiritual adventure she had just had. They lived in two different cities and had a long distance relationship for a while, married the next year and now they have two children! When we release the obsession and just stay in the higher energies of excited expectation, that’s where the magic happens.
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You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.
I was lucky enough back then to connect with Jorge Luis Delgado, our shaman and guide. Jorge is a master and as everyone in all my groups always say, they can’t imagine doing Peru without Jorge, that it quite simply wouldn’t be the same. That’s a photo of my fabulous 2008 group.
On my first trip in 2008, I met his wife and son, who at the time was 14, a gangly teenager, and he spoke great English. He and I started talking and sat next to each other on our bus ride from Lake Titicaca to Juliaca.
We started talking about American politics, as the 2008 election was in full swing, and Barack Obama and Hilary Clinton were slugging it out in the primaries. He asked me if I thought it was possible that Obama might be nominated and possibly win, and we had a very spirited and enjoyable conversation.
Jorge told me later, “It’s so strange, I’m not sure how this happened, he’s so interested in American politics and all kinds of things from other countries.”
Over the years, I’ve always asked Jorge how his son was doing and the news just kept getting more and more interesting. He did very well in school, went to University, then ended up living and working in Japan, spent some time in China, and learned to speak Japanese and Chinese fluently. Now this year, he decided to return to Peru and he’s working with Jorge!
He was working with a Chinese group and he came to the airport in Cusco when we were about to depart for Lake Titicaca, and we got to spend some time talking. What a joy to see and feel what an incredible young man he has become.
I asked him why he had returned to Peru and he told me, “I want to really learn all the spiritual teachings.” Isn’t that fantastic? This gangly little kid I met 11 years ago, has become a worldly, accomplished man interested in all aspects of the world, including spirituality. He said he plans to stay here for about two years and then he’ll be off to some other place in the world.
It’s reminiscent of my godson, Anthony, who I also got to see on this trip and what a joy that was. Back in 2008 when we went to Amantani for the first time (a very rustic, beautiful island in Lake Titicaca where at the time they had no electricity and no running water), we did a very special ceremony and we spent the night in the home of his family.
Anthony was 6 months old at the time, a tiny, adorable baby.
I spent a large amount of that evening holding him and at times I was crying gently and processing. His parents, Juana and Joaquin, don’t speak English, but in some way we really connected.
It turns out that two days later they were doing a ceremony with Anthony that is somewhat similar to what we know as baptism.
They asked Jorge to ask me if I would like to be a godmother for Anthony because they felt I had such a strong connection to him. They said they didn’t want any obligation from me, just the spiritual connection. I was honored and the ceremony was very beautiful.
After that, I would see Anthony every year and I’ve also happily contributed to the family and Anthony’s education. This photo is from 2014, when I brought him some blowing bubbles. At that time, Anthony was six and he told me he wanted to become a doctor. He also said he was learning traditional Peruvian dance and he enjoyed that very much.
Starting in 2015, Anthony started going to boarding school on the mainland so that he could receive a really good education, so he was never at home when we would spend the night at Juana and Joaquin’s home on Amantani. But this year, what a surprise. They brought him, along with his sister, to Chiquito where we had a reunion.
He showed me his school Certificate of Excellence and his parents told me what a good student he is. One of the members of our group interpreted (thank you, Rhonda!), and he told me again that he wants to be a doctor and how much he still enjoys dancing. But now he also really enjoys football (soccer).
To think that this boy from a small island, where they have almost no electricity or running water and when you take a walk you continually run into people who are herding sheep and donkeys, is going to become a doctor…this reminded me of Jorge’s son. Anthony’s energy is so sweet and pure, yet he is also a determined little boy and I can’t wait to see how this unfolds.
Another really fun thing we do every year is to go to Seminario Ceramics in Ollantaytambo. Pablo Seminario is one of the premier ceramic artists in the world, his works are displayed in various museums around the world, including the Field Museum in Chicago.
When I brought my first group in 2008, when we were returning from Machu Picchu by train after a very long day, Jorge asked me, “Would you like to go to the ceramics place?” Not having any idea of what an incredible place this was, I said no because everyone was tired.
One of the members of the group, Jennifer Watt, overheard us and said, “What are we talking about?” and I said, “That we’re not going to the ceramics place.” She said to me in her usual very direct way, “Who made that decision?” and I responded that I did. I then said if she wanted to go, we’d go and I am so glad I did. His work is so incredible and over the years, I’ve brought many of his pieces to my home and each year he speaks to our group and we have a wonderful interaction with him and his wife Marilu.
After that trip, Jen and I became great friends and in 2010, I asked her to lead my Peru trip two years in a row (I had Egypt in March, Peru in April and Bali in June, and it was becoming too much to handle), she loved Peru and she had experience leading groups. She did a fantastic job and from that, got a job leading trips to Peru, especially for high school and college students and teachers.
She has now been to Peru 54 times! And one of the things she has incorporated into the tours is an intensive piece of learning about traditional ceramics through Seminario! She, Pablo and Marilu have become great friends.
So when we were there last week, we took a photo of all of us to text to Jen saying, “Wish you were here.” Jen had just been in Sedona the week before visiting us at our home and we showed Pablo this photo of Jen and our friend Ranjita (who had been on the Peru trip with me in 2008 and again last year).
I told Pablo this is the view from our home, and he and Marilu should come and visit us in Sedona. He said, “If Jen will bring me, I will come to Sedona!”
So it’s so incredible to me, all these connections that started with this first trip and have woven their way through my life, and all these other lives, through the years. Not to mention the other close friends I have made through these trips, people who came on the trips, people I love who are a huge part of my life.
Because at the end of the day, all of this is not so much about the sites (although they are absolutely incredible), it’s about the amazing people we share them with and keep connecting with.
This year again, our group has bonded in such a beautiful, special way. One of the women said to me yesterday, “I can’t believe how I love everyone in this group and feel so close to them. Doing this with other like-minded people has just been so wonderful.