Are You Focusing on the Right Thing?
In my last video, I spoke with you about the idea that the first 90 minutes of your day are the most important. Studies have shown that’s when you are most productive, you have the most focus, and you have the highest level of energy and the highest level of will power.
Today I want to talk to you about what to do in the first 90 minutes of your Work. And the point of all of this is about FOCUS.
Watch my video to get some really surprising information about how important focus is. And if you have trouble staying focused, you’ll really want to watch this:
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Carol (a therapist) came to us and says, “After my Soul Adventure, I have remained centered, focused, loving, open and giving with a clarity that I never had before. My husband said he sees a ‘new woman.’”
“After my Soul Adventure, I returned home feeling truly renewed. Though ‘life’ continues to twirl with a vengeance around me, I have remained centered, focused, loving, open and giving with a clarity that I never had before. My husband said he sees a ‘new woman.’ I clearly have ‘new tools’ for both my therapy practice and my life. My wish is that both my husband and I will return and experience Soul Adventures together. Until then…”
~ Carol H.
I spoke with you in my last video about the idea that the first 90 minutes of your day are the most important. Studies have shown that’s when you are most productive, you have the most focus, and you have the highest level of energy and the highest level of will power. And I spoke with you about things you can be doing in those first 90 minutes to set the tone for the rest of the day, which is really about setting the tone for the rest of your life.
If you want to set the tone, here are the suggestions I gave you in the last video:
- HeartMath Heart Coherence Technique (if you don’t know what that is, Google it; its effects are sort of astounding)
- Write in Your Journal
- Do a Gratitude Journal
- Read Inspirational Books
- Plan Your Day
- Drink Water (with lemon)
Today I want to talk to you about what to do in the first 90 minutes of your Work.
Depending on the kind of work you do, you may not have total flexibility with this, but if you do, this can be magical.
The point of all of this, is FOCUS.
Most thought leaders these days are in agreement that FOCUS is the most important thing we need in our lives – that it’s even more important than intelligence and creativity
Did you really rear that?
Yes. Most people agree and studies have shown that focus can be even more important than intelligence and creativity.
When we’re unfocused, we’re scattered, we’re adrift and the worst part is, we feel like we are never accomplishing anything. It’s a terrible feeling.
So let me ask you – What do you do with the first 90 minutes of your work day?
Hopefully you’ve started the first 90 minutes of the day with meditation, gratitude and exercise, but what do you do next?
Do you have a process for keeping yourself focused?
Are you prone to distraction throughout the day?
- Check your email, texts and other social media constantly? (Do you have special dings for notifications? — That will definitely make you distracted).
- Do you spend a lot of time on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram?
- Do you spend a lot of time on YouTube watching videos of cute kittens and puppies?
Don’t get me wrong, videos of cute kittens and puppies and laughing babies make me happy. And I’m not perfect in this area — it’s so easy for me to get distracted. All of a sudden I’ll get a notification of something on Facebook. I’ll go to check that and then on the sidebar I’ll see that some celebrity has done something outrageous and then I’ll give myself a guilty pleasure and click on that… and then on the sidebar there’s some YouTube video that sounds especially interesting and uplifting, so I’ll click on that, until I finally Stop!
And this is the big reason why you have to stop this:
Studies have shown that it takes 21 minutes(!) to really get back into what you were doing. So think about it, if you let yourself get distracted 6 times during the day, that’s over 2 hours that it takes to really get you back into what you were doing.
I’m not saying don’t go on Facebook anymore, but honestly, does it really help you that much? And I’m not saying don’t go on YouTube — there are lots and lots of inspiring videos on YouTube. What I am saying is that living your life with FOCUS will make you feel better. It will make every area of your life feel better.
And then you might want to look a little deeper, such as asking yourself why are you so easily distracted? Why do you have feelings that you should always be accomplishing more and more? Why do you have feelings that no matter what you do, it’s never enough?
A few months ago, we had someone here for a retreat who came to us because she felt like her life was out of control. Sarah said her brain felt scattered, she couldn’t accomplish anything at work because she was constantly distracted, she felt somewhat anxious all the time, and she had trouble sleeping because her mind was always racing and it was making her miserable.
Every area of her life was suffering, from her work to her finances to her relationships. Because that’s what happens — when we have problems that are affecting us deeply, they end up affecting every area of our lives.
She kept telling us, “If I could just get more done, then I would feel better, and I wouldn’t feel so out of control.” In talking with her, we found out that she grew up in a household where she never felt like she was good enough. No matter what she did, it wasn’t enough.
Her father had left her mother very unexpectedly when she was five and in one of her sessions, we discovered that her little five-year-old self was still blaming herself for her father leaving (even though the real reason had been infidelity and emotional abuse, but when we’re five years old, we don’t understand things rationally and we tell ourselves things like, “If only I would have done this,” or “If only I would have done that, maybe daddy would have stayed.”).
Her father leaving had created this huge empty hole in her heart and soul — she was always waiting for the other shoe to drop, she was always waiting for something to go wrong. And when we hold ourselves in the energy that things are going to go wrong, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and then things always go wrong!
We did some sessions that cleared up this huge empty hole. In her breath work, she had a direct experience of the Divine Mother and felt the first real love she had ever felt in her life. She felt her angels around her and knew she wasn’t alone. She came back into connection on all levels (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual) and realized she didn’t have anything to be afraid of. And even better, she didn’t have anything she had to prove.
In her final integration, she decided she wanted to do the following, which are, by the way, the two things I want to suggest you do:
- Start each day with meditation.
- Spend the first 90 minutes of the work day doing the top two things that if you do them, it will make you feel like you had really accomplished something for that day.
So let me expand on that a little bit:
We talked in the last video about doing the first 90 minutes of your day:
- HeartMath Heart Coherence Technique
- Write in Your Journal
- Do a Gratitude Journal
- Read Inspirational Books
- Plan Your Day
- Drink Water (with lemon)
So you know what those are.
On really staying focused, I’m going to invite you to do two things:
- Always have the top two things that you know are the most important things that you have to do next on the top of your To Do list
- Spend the first 90 minutes of your work day doing those first two things (not email or texting)
On having your top two things, make a To Do list, listing out absolutely everything you know you have to do. You might want to list work things and personal things separately, but list everything on the list and as soon as you think of another one, put that on your Master list. Studies have shown that listing everything out saves you energy from trying to remember things.
When you complete your top two things, determine what your next top two things are, and keep that rotating. Sometimes something might come up during the day to become your number one thing that you have to do, but you always know that you are working on your top two things.
At the end of the day, determine top two for the next day. So you always know what the next most important thing is that you need to be doing and you always finish the day feeling like you accomplished something.
This is why I’m such a proponent of getting up early. When I get up early, I have control over my first two things that I want to get done and I can usually have them finished before phone calls and emails start interrupting me.
And here’s one final idea for maintaining focus:
Only read and answer email twice each day.
Once in the morning, and once in the afternoon. You can train people who work with you to let them know, “I only answer my email once in the morning and once in the late afternoon.” If your job doesn’t allow you to do this, then only answer it once each hour. Anything to cut down on the distractions.
Remember, it takes 21 minutes to get yourself fully back into your work after a distraction, do anything you can to stop those breaks. If your boss tells you to do email more often, tell them about the 21 minute rule.
So what happened for Sarah, the woman I told you about who felt so out of control?
I spoke with her again two months after her retreat and she couldn’t quite believe how much things had changed in such a short period of time. All of the transformations of filling up that hole inside had stuck with her. She was meditating every single morning and she was doing her top two things at the beginning of her work day. She told me, “I feel whole for the first time in my life.”
She’s doing exactly what I’ve been talking about in these two videos: She’s beginning of her day with things that make her feel really good and she’s focusing to accomplish the most important things.
But even more important – she was able to come back into connection and stay there.
So let me ask you:
Do you feel unfocused?
Do you feel scattered?
Does your mind race while you lie in bed trying to get to sleep?
Do you feel anxious?
Do you constantly feel like you should be doing more and more?
What I’ve found in these 17 years of working with people here, is that these feelings are usually on top of something deeper. When we find those, clear them and come back into connection, everything changes.
Let us help you with that. Let us clear out the gunk so that you feel more connected and focused. Connect with us and we’ll custom design a retreat that’s perfect for you.
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