Top 5 Deathbed Regrets and How to Not Let Those Happen to You
I think one of the most terrible things in life is regret. And regret at the end of one’s life is even more sad and deep. The book “The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying” was written by a palliative care nurse, Bronnie Ware, who worked for many years with people in the last one to three months of their lives.
This past year has had so much focus on death. I’m hoping we can utilize these thoughts to figure out how we really want to live. Here’s what she said:
Top 5 Regrets of the Dying
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
“This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.”
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard
“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings
“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
“Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved.”
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier
“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to themselves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”
Gosh, don’t reading these just break your heart?
Why do we tell ourselves we can’t have the life we want? Why do we tell ourselves we have to work so hard? Why can’t we let ourselves be truly happy?
I think we all have emotional blocks, trauma and limiting beliefs that are holding us back from living our best life. The key is to find them, do something about them and start living a life with no regret. The great news is, that’s possible. It’s so interesting to me how all of these issues are exactly the things we work with in our retreats each and every day.
One of the gifts that I’ve seen from this past year is that more and more people have woken up. What people are saying to me is, “I’ve finally realized life is too short to not live the life I truly want to live.” And we have so many couples who are feeling the same way – they want to have the relationship of their dreams and they’re not willing to wait for that to somehow magically appear. They know they need to do something about it.
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