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How To Create Peace In Your Life

The holiday season is supposed to be the Season of Peace, but really?? And from what most people say to me, “peace” is something they crave, but have a lot of difficulty finding.

So here’s an early Christmas present — the gift of Peace. Some really practical ways to bring more peace into your life right now — just in time for the holidays.

Sometimes meditating and slowing down aren’t enough to really bring you into the Peace you’re craving. Sometimes there’s lots more going on that just needs to be cleared once and for all to bring you back into the connection that fosters that Peace. If that’s the case, think about giving yourself the perfect Christmas gift — the gift of taking care of yourself with a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. Call us and speak with one of our Retreat Guides. They’ll dig deep to see where the blocks are in your life or your relationship, and custom design a retreat that will take you into the Peace you’re craving.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Would you like to speak to someone today? We’re even open on Sundays, because we’re here for you.

Diane says after her Soul Adventure: “I never imagined I would be feeling so much peace and joy and love”

“I still cannot really describe into words the experience I had, not only with Sedona Soul Adventures, but also with Sedona itself. All I can say is that I never imagined that after such a process, I would be feeling so much lighter… clearer… and overflowing with so much peace… joy… love and light! What an amazing experience, to say the least. I wish to extend to everyone at SSA and all the Practitioners who were all absolutely awesome that I worked with my deep love and warm-hearted gratitude!”
~ Diane S.

Over the years, one of the biggest challenges I’ve seen in the people who come to us is the lack of peace. In fact, when we ask people what they want, it’s usually one of the top things they are saying they don’t have, that they want.

If this is something you’ve been feeling here are some possible reasons why…

We hear it all the time, but only because it’s true. Stress kills, but it also creates this lack of peace that can make your life almost unbearable.

everything perfect

Do you believe that everything has to be perfect (or everything has to be a certain way) in order for you to be happy?  

That’s a big one. Can you see what a set-up that is for creating stress and a lack of peace? 

Do you believe that everything happens for a reason?

If you don’t, that can create a lot of problems in your life.

What’s driving you? Is something driving you? Are you driving yourself irrationally? Are you constantly pushing yourself to do more and more and more? The question is: What’s underneath that?

Are any of these true for you?

You see, when we look a little deeper, we uncover what’s really going on and then when you go deeper still, you see the compounding affects showing up in many areas of your life.

So how is a lack of peace affecting other areas of your life?

stress

When we’re stressed out all the time, it affects everything.

We had a woman come here to do a retreat last year and she was really at the end of her rope. She had a very demanding job, her marriage was having some problems, she has two kids —  a teenager and a 7-year-old, her elderly parents were requiring more help, she was overweight, she was a soccer mom, she was active in her church, and she was completely frazzled. She was driving herself crazy and she was driving everyone around her crazy. 

She kept putting off doing the retreat for over 6 months because she kept saying, “I can’t find 4 days where I can come.” Finally, her husband said to her, “I love you, but you have to do something about this. You’re killing yourself and you’re killing our family.” 

She came to Sedona and during her retreat, we uncovered that she was driving herself so hard because she was raised in a family where her parents were always demanding that she do more and more. She was made to feel like she wasn’t enough, she always had to keep proving over and over that she deserved to be loved. 

We did sessions with her that moved those old blocks and patterns out and she came into his huge realization of knowing and really believing that she deserves to be loved just because of who she is, not because of what she does. We gave her tools to deal with the stress, plus an action plan of simple but powerful ways to maintain everything she received here. 

She went home feeling so much lighter and happier. That was last year. I just heard from her a few weeks ago and she said the changes are absolutely incredible. 

She gets up 15 minutes before everyone else does and meditates. That keeps her centered for the day. When she goes to bed at night, the last thing she does is to say a prayer of gratitude. She spends one hour every other week doing the Breath Journey she learned here and she told me, “Debra, you can’t imagine the impact that’s had on my life.” She said even when she’s had things happen, it moves things out…no matter what’s happened, it brings her back into a peaceful state. 

change yourself and everything changes

She came home so happy and peaceful, and stayed that way, that her husband and people at work all said, “What happened to you?” Her husband came out for a retreat and two of her friends have also come for retreats. She changed herself and it changed everything in her life.

So what can YOU do to begin to start feeling peace in your life?

Meditate – 15 minutes a day changed everything for Leanne, it can do the same for you.

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Breathe – Just taking a few deep breaths when you’re in a stressful situation can help, especially if you do it before you say something you’ll be sorry for later.

Slow down – It’s amazing what can happen when you just slow down. I recommend this to my coaching clients all the time. Stop rushing around everywhere. All that rushing maybe only saves you a few seconds and it’s taking away your peace of mind.

stop comparing yourself

Stop comparing yourself to other people – This is always a losing game.

Try to figure out what’s underneath all this – Do you have an idea of what’s driving you? Is some of this coming from feeling that you are not enough or that you constantly have to prove something? Knowing what’s underneath this can start the healing process. 

self care

Start doing some kind of self care – Take hot baths, get a massage regularly, schedule a regular night out with your friends, schedule a date night. Taking care of yourself has huge benefits.

I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.

And if you want a more direct path to creating peace in your life- then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928-204-5988.

You can have the life or the relationship you want – I know it.

Your Photo Here?

When people finish their Soul Adventures retreat, they feel so fantastic. A little while ago, I got the idea to start putting their photos and Before and After Statements (with their permission, of course) on our Wall of Success. The Wall is now getting overloaded with all the photos and everyone talking about how their life and relationship is changed after their Soul Adventure. Watch my sweet video:

How about you? Would you like to be the next one on our Wall of Success? We’d love for you to have a transformation in every area of your life.

Call us and let us help.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Federico says his “life changing, transformational” Soul Adventure “taught me that I can keep myself in alignment in LIFE regardless of what life throws at me and the ‘external’ circumstances.”

“My retreat ROCKED!!! Hands down – life changing, transformational, powerful, cleansing, shifts, synchronicity, alignment, consciousness, awareness, love, peace, joy, happiness, freedom, ABUNDANCE…you name it…it did it for me!!!” Most of all, it taught me how to integrate these teachings into my daily life and that I can keep myself in alignment in LIFE, no matter the level of stress in the high-paced world of finance, or regardless of what life throws at me and the ‘external’ circumstances…personal, relationships, or professional…it taught me that I HAVE IT ALL…ALL INSIDE ME…and that is the most POWERFUL thing and highest vibration in the Universe – tapping into your HEART AND SOUL!!!! Thank You Sedona Soul Adventures – All of YOU, THANK YOU!!!”
~ Federico T.

I’m coming to you from our beautiful offices in Sedona. I love our office so much because we have beautiful views of Cathedral Rock and Thunder Mountain, and the energy here is so wonderful.

And I’m here because I want to show you what we call our Wall of Success. I love looking at our Wall of Success because I see it the minute I walk in the door and it just is always reminding me why we do what we do at Sedona Soul Adventures. 

We started this a few years ago because we had people sending us beautiful pictures of themselves in the red rocks, sending us messages of how their lives and relationships had been so completely transformed by doing a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. And one day, someone in the office said, “You know, we really ought to do something with these, they’re so beautiful, they’re so wonderful,” so we started putting them up. Now people see them when they start their Soul Adventure and pretty much everyone sends them to us…we are even having a hard time getting them all up, which is so great.

I love reading these and remembering these people, and it’s funny, because I always try to come into the office and meet everyone at the beginning of their retreat. And sometimes when I do, I can see that they are so shut down or their problems are so huge that I have a feeling of, “oh no, maybe it’s not going to happen for them,”  and then every single time, it does – they have this amazing, incredible transformation or their marriage is saved and it’s just so fantastic.

Sometimes people come back for another Soul Adventure and it’s also fun for them to see themselves on the wall.

I also love the incredible diversity that we have here. It’s really amazing. Male, female, all the different colors, gay, straight, people from very different backgrounds as far as their their age, professions, income, nationalities, mothers, daughters, fathers, sons, husbands, wives… Isn’t that cool? 

But the absolute best part is reading what people have said. 

This is one of my favorite parts of the day, coming into the office and seeing this Wall, seeing all these people whose lives and relationships have been transformed by what all of us here at Sedona Soul Adventures do. 

So if you’d like to be our next success, we’d love that for you.

Go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Fast, Easy Way to Meditate (plus a special deal!)

If you’ve been receiving my emails for a while, you know that I’m a big proponent of meditation (kind of a “nag,” some might say! :))

Listen to my video where I talk about the incredible benefits of meditation and give you the opportunity to get all of The Sedona Meditations for only $19.99.

  • Releasing Stress
  • Releasing Fear and Worry
  • What is My Soul’s Purpose?
  • Sedona Chakra Meditation
  • Moving Into a Higher, Faster Vibration
  • Change Your Story, Change Your Life
  • Connecting to the Highest Part of Yourself
  • Connect with Your Angels and Guides
  • Befriending Your Body (Eliminate Pain)
  • Loving Your Body (Release Weight)

The Sedona Meditations are guided meditations and they are each only 9 minutes, so you can definitely fit them into your busy life. They use music and breath, and they are incredibly powerful.

And here’s the best part:

The Sedona Meditations are usually $9.99 each. But I’m making a special offer for you — you can get them ALL for just $19.99! But this offer is available for One week only! So click the button below to get the whole set (which you can download and save to any device).

As powerful as I know meditation is, sometimes it’s not enough to really move you through the blocks and gunk that are holding you back from your best life. If that’s happening, call us about doing a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. Connect with one of our Retreat Guides now.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Karen says her Soul Adventure was “Inconceivably Amazing!” and “life changing”

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A lot of you who have been following me for awhile know that one of the biggest things I talk about is Meditation.

Somebody said to me a few weeks ago that I’m actually kind of a nag about it, and if it feels that way, I’m sorry, but it’s only because I know how wonderful it is for you and what a difference it can make in your life. 

Studies have proven that Meditation can help you with:

emotional benefits of meditation
  • Stress 
  • Anxiety 
  • Worry 
  • Depression 
  • Addiction 
  • Overcoming self-limiting beliefs, habits, fears, & phobias 
  • Feeling more happy, confident, inspired, and motivated 

These are just some of  the Emotional Benefits of Meditation.

physical benefits of meditation

Then there are all the Physical Benefits of Meditation…

  • Strengthen immune system 
  • Better Sleep 
  • Increased longevity 
  • Boost vitality 
  • Feel more energized and rejuvenated 

And then there are all the Psychological Benefits of Meditation: 

psychological benefits of meditation
  • Boost learning ability, memory, & concentration 
  • Enhance your intuition, creativity, and ability to succeed 
  • Access the subconscious 
  • Move brainwave patterns into most advanced states 
  • Achieve the mindset to attract and manifest the life you want 

So the bottom line is that if you want to be happier, healthier, have more abundance, possibly live longer, be more intelligent, run faster, jump higher — I mean really, meditation is the thing that does it all. 

more benefits of meditation

I have so many people who say to me, “Debra, I’ve tried meditating and it just doesn’t work for me. My mind is going a mile a minute, I can’t make it stop.” 

Well the thing is, if that’s what’s been happening for you, then that’s EXACTLY why you should be meditating. 

And what I’ve done to make it easier for you, is that I’ve created The Sedona Meditations

the sedona meditations

The Sedona Meditations are guided meditations, so they really help tame your monkey mind, because you’re just following along with the meditation. Also, each one is only 9 minutes. Everyone – even you – has 9 minutes they can use each day and even though they’re only 9 minutes, they’re really Powerful. 

They are designed to help you manifest the amazing life you dream of – and fully deserve. A life where you’re living your soul’s purpose and experiencing joy, peace, love and wellbeing in all aspects of your life. By bringing in Sedona’s unique energy,The Sedona Meditations allow you to accelerate and amplify your transformation – any time you choose, no matter where in the world you are. In the meditations we use music, guided imagery and breath, and each of the 9-minute Sedona Meditations offers a unique benefit. 

manifest dream life

So let me tell you briefly about each of the meditations…

Releasing Stress
Stress is the #1 killer in our modern society; The Releasing Stress meditation de-stresses the physical and emotional bodies, giving you an overall feeling of relaxation and peace – in just 9 minutes.  

Releasing Fear and Worry
The energy of fear and worry is exactly the negative energy that is preventing you from living your best life. But trying to avoid fear or push it down doesn’t work. TheReleasing Fear and Worry meditation dismantles fears and worries in a unique way. You’ll complete the meditation feeling lighter – and more empowered. 

What is My Soul’s Purpose?
Discovering and living that purpose is essential to true fulfillment. you’ll discover and anchor in your Soul Purpose and Life Mission … so that you can start living them right now. 

Chakra Meditation 
When your chakras are open and flowing, all areas of your life are functioning in perfect harmony. The Chakra Meditation removes blocks and brings the color and energy of each chakra into every area of  your life.  

Moving Into a Higher, Faster Vibration  
When we operate in the higher, faster vibrations, all aspects of our life — physical, mental, emotional and spiritual – work in harmony. In this meditation you’ll release blocks that are holding you back and experience an expanded version of yourself. 

Change Your Story, Change Your Life 
Thoughts are things, and we’re creating our present and future realities in every moment by the stories we tell ourselves today. By shifting your thoughts and changing your stories, you can shift and change any part of the present that is not completely satisfying.  

Connecting to the Highest Part of Yourself 
When you live in connection with your Higher Self, all things are possible. Life becomes easy, peaceful and joyful. This meditation takes you into a state of being where you connect with your Higher Self – and to the Universal energy of All That Is. Use this meditation to bring a sense of joy and peace to your life – and to receive the inner guidance to manifest your dreams. 

Connect with Your Angels and Guides  
You are surrounded by beings of light who want to be with you and help you. This  meditation calls in your angels, guides and the ascended masters where you can ask for and receive information about your life, as well as messages and gifts from your Angels and Guides. 

And then there are two meditations specifically for your body: 

Befriending Your Body (Eliminate Pain)  
Studies have shown that meditation can control and even eliminate much pain and discomfort. In this meditation, you’ll connect in gratitude with all the different parts of your body – and release pain and discomfort wherever it occurs. 

Loving Your Body (Release Weight)  
The secret key to weight loss is loving your body (I know from personal experience because I lost 40 pounds and went from a size 14 to a size 6 utilizing this energy!)  

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These are wonderful meditations and people have had some astounding results with them. The best part is, they’re short, only 9 minutes, but they’re very powerful, they’ll fit in with your busy lifestyle, and give you the results you want. 

meditation sale

And here’s the best part –  

The Sedona Meditations are usually $9.99 each. But I’m making a special offer for you — you can get them all for just $19.99! But this offer is available for One week only!  So click the button to get the whole set. 

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

To get more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Some surprising ideas on How to Survive the Holidays

Thanksgiving is Thursday – Brace Yourself!
 
I love Thanksgiving and Christmas, but let’s face it — too often, being around our families triggers old wounds and old resentments. And sometimes we’re left feeling hollow and empty, realizing that we can’t even get along at the holidays. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
 
Watch my 8-minute video and let me know if it helps.
 
 
I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please like, share the video and subscribe to our channel.
 
Let’s face it, surviving the holidays can be a daunting task. 
 
Thanksgiving is this week and then we’ll have Christmas, but what I’m talking about really is true for any kind of holiday or family gathering. It all comes down to:
 
How do you want to feel?
 
That’s a really important question because most people don’t ask themselves that question ever, about anything, but it’s the one thing you should be asking yourself all the time.
 
We all want it to be like this. We want to have a happy, harmonious, beautiful loving time with our families, and it’s okay to want that, but how often does that really happen? Regrettably, not very often. 
 
Too often, being around our families triggers old wounds and old resentments, and we’re left feeling hollow and empty realizing that we can’t even get along at the holidays. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
 
The biggest problem with this image is that it’s a set up for an idealized version of life that for most people, just doesn’t exist. So understand that and take this very important piece of advice:
Take you and your family off the hook. Lower your expectations. Stop telling yourself that “this is how it should be.” Stop “Shoulding” all over yourself. Whenever you start using words like “this is how it should be,” that’s when you’re going to have trouble. Lower your expectations and don’t demand that your family has to act in a particular way.
 
So included in this are things like
 
Don’t talk about politics. Let’s face it, that’s just a recipe for disaster. 
 
Limit your alcohol intake. Do what you can to limit your Drunk Uncle’s imbibing. Things can go off the rails pretty quickly when people have had too much holiday cheer.
 
What if you simply didn’t go? This is a somewhat radical idea– what if you made the decision to simply not partake at all in the holiday celebration, to simply not go, not participate. Would it maybe be better to not subject your children to your Drunk Uncle and his cutting remarks? Would it be healthier for you to not subject yourself to your mother’s constant criticism? 
 
Before you automatically say no to this, let’s just think about it for a while. If you already know what you’re walking into, why decide to do that? Well, it might start a family fight and you don’t want that to happen, but are there some ways around that? Could you take your mother out for a Christmas lunch instead? Or do some other kind of outing with your kids? 
 
It’s your life. It’s your mental health and peace. There is no law that says you have to spend your precious holiday time with people who are going to be difficult to be around. I’m not saying we should stop all family gatherings, what I am saying is that we don’t have to do them the same old way.
 
And that starts by you deciding, as I said before: How do I want to feel?
I’m assuming you want to feel happy and connected. So let’s talk about some ways that can happen if you decide that you do want to be with your family.
 
As I said before, Lower your expectations. Decide that your goal is to simply feel okay about everything.
 
Decide to love your family just the way they are. That’s what you want also, right? You want your family to love you just the way you are, right? So start by loving them just the way they are.
 
Spend some time to think about each person you’re going to be seeing. On the ones you actually like and love, spend a few minutes thinking about what you like and love about them.
 
And now here’s where it gets interesting. Then spend some time thinking about the ones who you know are going to drive you crazy. Think about what it is that drives you crazy about them, what are the things they’re going to do that you just know are going to trigger you?
 
Then spend some time doing a quiet meditation about this. See yourself in the situation and see the person doing what it is that they do that bugs you. And then visualize yourself not getting upset, just sort of stepping back, or rising above it as you chuckle to yourself, “yep, they did it again.” But see yourself just not getting all worked up over it.
 
And then let’s go deeper still. Think about them and try to get some idea about why they act this way. If they’re a pompous know-it-all, they probably are actually very insecure underneath all that. See and try to feel yourself sending them love and some compassion. See yourself again, interacting with them and sending them love while you’re talking to them. And then see what happens when you actually get together with them.
 
If this is someone who has done something in the past to hurt you, find my video on Ho’oponopono to understand this process. Suffice it to say, this is an ancient technique from the Hawaiian kahunas, that is incredibly simple, but very powerful. Just think of this person and the situation a bunch of times before the holiday get together and say to yourself over and over:
 
I’m sorry
Please forgive me
I love you 
Thank you
 
This process is incredible and it might just bring you some amazing results. If it does, please let me know.
 
These things I’ve talked about can actually move the energy completely around in your family situation.
  • Lower your expectations
  • Decide to love your family just the way they are  
  • Visualize a happy outcome
  • Ho’oponopono

And these of course, are the best solutions. Changing the way you think and feel about getting together with your family can change how your family get togethers feel. 
And maybe it could actually look and feel like this after all. Wouldn’t that be amazing?

I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.

And If you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.

You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Do you feel like you never get enough done? Here’s the ultimate cure

Do you always feel like you don’t get enough done? Are you continually telling yourself, “If I could just get more done…” or my personal favorite, “If there were just more hours in the day…”

Do you ever lie awake at night thinking about all the stuff you have to do? 

Watch my video where I give you the ultimate cure. The REAL reason underneath what’s making you feel this way and a very tangible thing you can do everyday that will really help.

How did you answer the questions? If you said yes, to even one or two, I hope you’ll connect with us to explore whether or not a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat would help you. Let us custom design a retreat that will clear out the gunk so you feel more connected and focused. It’s such a liberating feeling!

Call us and connect with one of our Retreat Guides. They’ll connect with you, digging deep and figuring out what gunk needs to be moved out. Then they’ll put together a retreat that’s custom designed for exactly what you need to bring you back into connection and focus.

i want my transformation

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Julia says her Soul Adventure was “life changing” and left her feeling  “complete, content, whole and Full of love”

“Two words come to mind when I describe my experience: LIFE CHANGING. I left home and arrived in Sedona half a person, I came home complete, content, whole and Full of love. I look at life in a whole new light and enjoy each and every day. Thank you to all the wonderful people at Sedona Soul Adventures that helped to open me up to a whole new world of possibilities.”  
~ Julia Roden

In my previous video, I narrowed in on focus. There’s another piece that you might want to look at…you might want to look a little deeper, such as asking yourself why are you so easily distracted? Why do you have feelings that you should always be accomplishing more and more? Why do you have feelings that no matter what you do, it’s never enough?  

A few months ago, we had someone here for a retreat who came to us because she felt like her life was out of control. Sarah said her brain felt scattered, she couldn’t accomplish anything at work because she was constantly distracted, she felt somewhat anxious all the time, and she had trouble sleeping because her mind was always racing and it was making her miserable.

sleepy

Every area of her life was suffering, from her work to her finances to her relationships. Because that’s what happens — when we have problems that are affecting us deeply, they end up affecting every area of our lives. 

She kept telling us, “If I could just get more done, then I would feel better, and I wouldn’t feel so out of control.” In talking with her, we found out that she grew up in a household where she never felt like she was good enough. No matter what she did, it wasn’t enough.

Her father had left her mother very unexpectedly when she was five and in one of her sessions, we discovered that her little five-year-old self was still blaming herself for her father leaving (even though the real reason had been infidelity and emotional abuse, but when we’re five years old, we don’t understand things rationally and we tell ourselves things like, “If only I would have done this,” or “If only I would have done that, maybe daddy would have stayed.”).   

Her father leaving had created this huge empty hole in her heart and soul — she was always waiting for the other shoe to drop, she was always waiting for something to go wrong. And when we hold ourselves in the energy that things are going to go wrong, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and then things always go wrong! 

We did some sessions that cleared up this huge empty hole. In her breath work, she had a direct experience of the Divine Mother and felt the first real love she had ever felt in her life. She felt her angels around her and knew she wasn’t alone. She came back into connection on all levels (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual) and realized she didn’t have anything to be afraid of. And even better, she didn’t have anything she had to prove. 

process

In her final integration, she decided she wanted to do the following, which are, by the way, the two things I want to suggest you do: 

  1. Start each day with meditation. 
  2. Spend the first 90 minutes of the work day doing the top two things that if you do them, it will make you feel like you had really accomplished something for that day. 

So let me expand on that a little bit: 

We talked in the last video about doing the first 90 minutes of your day: 

  • HeartMath Heart Coherence Technique  
  • Meditation 
  • Exercise 
  • Write in Your Journal 
  • Do a Gratitude Journal 
  • Read Inspirational Books 
  • Plan Your Day 
  • Drink Water (with lemon) 

So you know what those are. 

focus

On really staying focused, I’m going to invite you to do two things: 

  1. Always have the top two things that you know are the most important things that you have to do next on the top of your To Do list 
  2. Spend the first 90 minutes of your work day doing those first two things (not email or texting) 

On having your top two things, make a To Do list, listing out absolutely everything you know you have to do. You might want to list work things and personal things separately, but list everything on the list and as soon as you think of another one, put that on your Master list. Studies have shown that listing everything out saves you energy from trying to remember things. 

When you complete your top two things, determine what your next top two things are, and keep that rotating. Sometimes something might come up during the day to become your number one thing that you have to do, but you always know that you are working on your top two things. 

At the end of the day, determine top two for the next day. So you always know what the next most important thing is that you need to be doing and you always finish the day feeling like you accomplished something. 

This is why I’m such a proponent of getting up early. When I get up early, I have control over my first two things that I want to get done and I can usually have them finished before phone calls and emails start interrupting me. 

And here’s one final idea for maintaining focus:

Only read and answer email twice each day.

Once in the morning, and once in the afternoon. You can train people who work with you to let them know, “I only answer my email once in the morning and once in the late afternoon.” If your job doesn’t allow you to do this, then only answer it once each hour. Anything to cut down on the distractions.

Remember, it takes 21 minutes to get yourself fully back into your work after a distraction, do anything you can to stop those breaks. If your boss tells you to do email more often, tell them about the 21 minute rule. 

So what happened for Sarah, the woman I told you about who felt so out of control?

I spoke with her again two months after her retreat and she couldn’t quite believe how much things had changed in such a short period of time. All of the transformations of filling up that hole inside had stuck with her. She was meditating every single morning and she was doing her top two things at the beginning of her work day. She told me, “I feel whole for the first time in my life.”  

She’s doing exactly what I’ve been talking about in these two videos: She’s beginning of her day with things that make her feel really good and she’s focusing to accomplish the most important things. 

But even more important – she was able to come back into connection and stay there.  

So let me ask you: 

Do you feel unfocused?  
Do you feel scattered?
Does your mind race while you lie in bed trying to get to sleep? 
Do you feel anxious? 
Do you constantly feel like you should be doing more and more? 

What I’ve found in these 17 years of working with people here, is that these feelings are usually on top of something deeper. When we find those, clear them and come back into connection, everything changes. 

Let us help you with that. Let us clear out the gunk so that you feel more connected and focused. Connect with us and we’ll custom design a retreat that’s perfect for you.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

To get more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Your self-critic is killing you! Here’s how to shut them up

How big a part of your life is your inner critic? Do you ever say things to yourself like, “You’re so stupid” or “What’s wrong with you?” or “Why did you do that?!” If so, you’ve simply got to STOP! Because you’re killing yourself!

Watch my video where I talk about a scientific study that proves that your inner critic is killing you and hear about things you can do right now to get that inner critic off your back and out of your head.

If you’d like to finally get that inner critic to shut up once and for all, please contact us and speak with one of our Retreat Guides. They’ll connect with you on a deep level, getting to the root of the problem. Then they’ll custom design a retreat that is specifically designed to root out the blocks and gunk that are feeding that inner critic, bringing you back into peace and the experience of being your best self.

i want my transformation

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Lauren says after her Soul Adventure, “I understand who I am and I love me!”

“I was in a very dark place and my heart knew I needed healing and clarity. My soul adventure provided a safe place to journey through my pain and grief, gave me the tools to continue the healing process, and helped me become balanced and whole. I am no longer hardened by the world – I am soft and gushy! I no longer react in anger or frustration; I can breathe life and peace inside when confronted with difficult situations. I understand who I am and I love me! Thank you Sedona Soul Adventures!”
~ Lauren S., Dallas, TX

I love when I read studies that are verifying the work that we do here at Sedona Soul Adventures. It used to be that all of this stuff we talk about was considered New Age gobbledygook, but now studies by medical doctors and scientists are verifying what we’ve been saying all along. Which is:

Self criticism is killing you.

stop being hard on yourself

This particular study was published in the Journal of Psychotherapy Integration and reported in the New York Times with the title, “Why You Should Stop Being So Hard On Yourself.”

Here’s all the things they discovered: 

  • Self-criticism can take a toll on your mind and body 
  • Self-criticism can impact your body by stimulating inflammatory mechanisms that lead to chronic illness and accelerate aging 
  • Self-criticism can have measurably destructive effects, including symptoms of depression, anxiety, substance abuse, negative self-image and decreased motivation and productivity (When they say measurable they mean empirical studies have proven this)
  • Self-criticism can interfere with your productivity
  • Self-criticism leads people to becoming preoccupied with failure 
brains wired

The article then goes on to talk about why we humans do this and the answer is, (in their words): “Blame evolution” 

Which means that our brains are wired to notice our mistakes and for most of us, we then go on to tell ourselves that what we’re doing is either Good or Bad. That’s great, because if we do something that needs to be corrected, then we can go ahead and correct it. The problem is that for a lot of us, we then go on and rather than just learning from the mistake, we allow it to take us into a shame spiral…

correct what needs to be corrected

Chronic illness 
Accelerates aging 
Interferes with your productivity 
Depression 
Anxiety 
Substance Abuse 
Feelings of Failure 

And when you do that long enough and often enough, it leads to all the bad stuff they were talking about earlier:

self criticism effects

Is that serious enough for you to get you stop? 

Do you say things to yourself like:

“You’re so stupid” 

“You’re an idiot” 

“I Hate You” 

“What’s Wrong with you?”

Or do you lie awake at night endlessly replaying a negative situation over and over again in your head, telling yourself you should have said this, or you should have done that?

In the article, the next thing they ask is, “What should I do?” And their one word answer is: Self-Compassion

Self-Compassion is the practice of being kind and understanding to ourselves when confronted with a personal flaw or failure.  

self-compassion

And they offer three steps to help with Self-Compassion:

  1. Meditation  
  2. Meet your criticism with kindness (change your self talk from “you’re a loser” to “everybody makes mistakes”)
  3. Start noticing how you feel better when you are more compassionate with yourself, and then keep doing it over and over again 

When they’re discussing the three steps in this article, they wrote: “This is, of course, easier said than done.” And that’s the whole problem, isn’t it? 

I’m sorry, but you and I both know that simply telling someone to stop calling themselves a loser and telling them to start meditating is not going to stop a lifetime of self-loathing and self-criticism. I had years of therapy and it didn’t stop it, because it didn’t get to the root of what was causing it. 

You see, so much of the pain and self-loathing comes from so many deep places and they affect us on all levels — physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. When we have issues of not loving ourselves completely and unconditionally (and I have to say every single person I’ve ever met has that to one degree or another), it shows up on all those levels. 

On the Physical level, we feel insecure about our bodies (haven’t you noticed how even people who are “beautiful” think they aren’t perfect?). 

On the Emotional level, we deeply feel the self-criticism and it goes to our core. 

On the Mental level, we’re thinking things like “I’m a loser,” “I’m so stupid,” etc. 

On the Spiritual level, we actually believe that there’s something wrong with us. 

Unless we’re dealing with this on all four levels, it just stays there, stuck and not moving. 

We had a man come to us last year who, on the outside, seemed to have it all. He was very successful in his work, he had what seemed to be a great marriage, he was in good health, and his kids were doing well. His wife contacted us because all of a sudden he was feeling really unhappy and withdrawn – not really depressed, he just wasn’t happy and he had no idea why. We told her that we couldn’t set up the retreat for him unless we spoke with him directly and made sure he actually wanted to come (that’s the only way this will work).  

When we connected with him, he was saying all this self-deprecating stuff about himself, which he told us he did because he didn’t want other people to think he had a big ego. But as we delved deeper, we really got to it. 

did you feel

We discovered that he had been given up for adoption at birth and he was never able to find any kind of information about either of his parents. Even though he had been adopted by a very loving family who took great care of him, we discovered that he had a very deep seated belief that “there must be something wrong with me,” for his own mother to have given him up.  

He had never told anyone, not even his wife, that he felt this way. He hid the fact that he was adopted, he was ashamed of it, and he felt that in some way, he was a phony. That if people “really knew” him, really knew the truth about him, they wouldn’t like him. In his emotional clearing session all of this finally came spilling out, all these years of holding all this in, this self-loathing that literally had been eating away at him like a cancer. 

And then he did a Radiant Heart Healing and the hole that was left from all the self-loathing was suddenly filled with all this love that he was feeling for himself…he said it was just gushing and gushing. 

But the most amazing thing was in his Breath Journey. He was already feeling great, and feeling all this self love when suddenly he had a vision of a woman who he just knew was his mother, even though he had no idea of what she actually looked like.

I told him later that I thought this was the Divine Mother, the mother of us all coming to him and he stopped me and said, “Debra, no I know it was my mother, the spirit of my mother.” Now you have to understand this is a very successful, very straight business man who started out being very skeptical about all of this stuff, saying all this to me and of course, I just loved it and was so happy for him that he was feeling all this healing love.  

He went back home and his wife told me later that he is totally a changed man. She then told me she had been afraid he actually had cancer because he seemed to her to be withering away, even though he had been tested and there was no indication of that. I told her that self-loathing can be a type of cancer – it eats away at us and now these studies are showing all the negative effects it can have on us. 

If this is an issue that you’re struggling with, please reach out and let us help. We’re masters at getting to the root of what’s causing the self-loathing, clearing it out and moving you back into connection on all levels – physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it and subscribe to our channel

And If you want an even more direct path to really loving yourself completely, – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com  and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today. 

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that will turn your life around, call us at 928/204-5988. 

You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it!

Are you giving (and receiving) what you need in your relationship?

If you have any issues going on in your relationship (and let’s face it, most of us do) I REALLY want you to watch this video. After being a divorce attorney for 20 years and working with couples here at Sedona Soul Adventures for over 17 years, I know that the #1 problem that most couples have is not communication – it’s the lack of nurturing each other…of getting what you need and giving what the other one needs. Watch this and you’ll see what I’m talking about.

Let us help you get back into the Nurturing Zone. Come to Sedona and do a Couples Retreat. Can you imagine how good it would feel to come back into the love and connection that brought you together in the first place?

couples retreat

Call us and connect with one of our Retreat Guides. They’ll connect with both of you separately and really dig deep to discover what’s keeping you out of the Nurturing Zone.

Then they’ll put together a retreat that’s custom designed for exactly what you need and want, and to bring you back into the love, connection and sizzle that you crave.

i want my transformation

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

You might also like to download your free copy of our “Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats.” That will give you a real idea of what we do and how it works. But please — for the sake of your relationship, do something to get yourself back into the Nurturing Zone.

Sherri completes her 4th Retreat (!) her 2nd Couples Retreat, and says, “Every experience has been unique and special, and worth every penny!!!”

sedona soul adventure retreat testimonial

Today I’m going to talk to you about How to get what you want in your relationship. If you’ve been following me for a while, you probably already know that I was a divorce attorney in Omaha, Nebraska for over 20 years. And then in 2002, I started Sedona Soul Adventures, where we do retreats for individuals and couples. So I spent 20 years divorcing people, and now I’ve spent almost 20 years helping people stay together. 

Our record for helping people with their relationships is absolutely stunning and it’s because we’re able to dig deep to get at the root of the problem, and sometimes the problem is not what either person thinks it is. A big piece of this is finding out what each of you need in your relationship and deciding if you are willing to give it to the other person?  

We had a couple here last year and it was stunning. The husband had an affair and on the surface it looked like just one of the usual situations that sadly we see a lot of. They had grown apart and the husband, I’ll call him Mike, had an affair. Even though he said he loved his wife, I’ll call her Linda, and he adored their two children, the affair had happened and it had gone on longer than Mike had originally told Linda. Linda, of course, was devastated and really, really angry and felt like she could never trust him again. And of course, those reactions are completely natural.  

Mike’s father was a womanizer and his mother left his father when he was very young. He and his mother went to live with relatives in a household that was basically full of men-hating women. Mike grew up hearing about how terrible men are, how you can’t trust them and they’re all womanizers, and he grew up afraid that he would be like that too. But he wasn’t, he’d been married for 20 years, had never had the urge to have an affair and was even saying to us over and over again, “I can’t believe I did that, I can’t believe I jeopardized my whole life” like that. 

Linda grew up in a family where her mother constantly criticized her father and so Linda thought that’s how you communicate with a husband. You get him to do what you want by criticizing him.  

We discovered through our process that the needs that Mike has are Words of Praise and Gifts.

At this point, this might sound to some of you like the Love Languages work that is out there, which I like, but what we do is very different and very specific for each person. 

We discovered through our process that the needs that Linda has are Listening, Conversation and Protection.

Which also made sense because Linda’s mother also criticized Linda and her father would never stand up for her with her mother, so Linda grew up believing, “I have no one to protect me.” 

So Linda needs a man who will talk to her and protect her. And we quickly discovered that Mike just simply wasn’t talking to her and really hadn’t been throughout their marriage and she was, quite understandably, upset about it. And of course, the affair was the ultimate betrayal, how could anyone feel protected by someone who had betrayed them?

Mike didn’t want to have a lot of conversations with Linda because she was constantly criticizing him. She thought she was “helping him” by telling him what to do and how to do it, but it all just felt like criticism to him and Linda got it, how it would feel like that to him. 

So here we have a man whose most basic relationship need is Words of Praise and all he’s getting is Criticism. We have a woman whose most basic relationship need is Conversation and we have a man who won’t talk to her.

But then here’s the kicker:

When we discovered that Mike’s other need was Gifts, we asked him about that. He started tearing up as he told us that he never got gifts when he was growing up, not even for his birthday.  

And guess who gives him gifts? The woman that he had an affair with. And guess what else she gave him? Words of Praise. His other deepest need. It wasn’t about sex, it was about him feeling valued. 

When Mike and Linda realized they were living in this crazy, vicious cycle of he needs Words of Praise and she’s criticizing him, and she needs Conversation and he doesn’t want to talk to her because he doesn’t want to get criticized…and how this had much more to do with their childhoods than with what is going on now…and it’s just this crazy thing that keeps on happening and keeps on going back and forth until someone finally says, “STOP! Wait a minute. He needs Words of Praise and Gifts, are you willing to give that to him?”

And we say to him, “She needs conversation and protection, are you willing to give that to her?” It was harder for him to say yes, because they had 20 years of not really talking to each other. But when she saw him tear up over the gifts thing, her heart just melted. When he got that she was just doing what her mother had taught her to do, he got it. They both got it — that you have to give the other one what they need, not what you think they need, but what they need and want, you have to nurture them in what they need. 

If you’re not willing to do that, you don’t have a relationship. And you certainly don’t have a relationship that’s going to last for very much longer. 

Now understand, I’m not saying that what Mike did was okay, far from it. Having an affair is simply not okay, but when Linda understood all this, she really got it, her heart opened and she was able to forgive him and love him again. 

So How about you?  

Do you know what you want in a relationship? I’ve been surprised to discover that most people don’t. 

Do you know (really) what your partner wants? 

Do you care? That’s actually the most important one, because if you aren’t willing to give your partner what they want, things aren’t going to work. 

Have you spent any time thinking about how your parents were with each other because that can be really telling.

Were they happy?
Were they loving with each other?  
Did they talk?  
Did they fight?  
What did they teach you? (Even though they probably didn’t think they were teaching you.) 

But even more deeply, how was your childhood? 

Did you feel loved?
Did you feel valued?
Were you criticized?
Did you grow up believing there’s something wrong with you?  

Sadly, for many of us, things happen to make us believe that we’re not enough, that we don’t deserve love and then we bring all that into our relationships and it comes out in all kinds of crazy ways, like having affairs and mistreating the person we’re supposed to love. 

What do you really want? 

What do you crave? 

What do you need? 

Come to Sedona and we’ll help you discover that and help move out the blocks that are keeping you from the loving relationship you desire. That’s what we do all day, every day with our custom-designed retreats. 

What you need is probably different than what your partner needs. The blocks that have happened for you are the result of different things that caused the blocks for your partner. We’ll dig all that out and bring you into the love that’s waiting for you. 

Go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today. 

Or even better, if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for exactly what the two of you need,  call us at 928/204-5988. 

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it and subscribe to our channel

You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it!

The “Fun” (Almost Magical) Way to Get Out of Debt

Last week I talked with you about what your debt says about you and gave you very important (but unfun) ways to get out of debt. It’s very good and we got a huge response from it (if you didn’t see it, click here). 

Today I want to talk to you about the “fun” (almost magical) way to get out of debt and I’ll tell you the story of the day that $50,000 dropped out of the sky (it’s almost unbelievable, but it’s true).

Being in debt is so awful – it just crushes you, it feels like this giant weight that is constantly there and you think and worry and fret about it all the time. At least that’s what I did.

Find out how I turned that around and how you can too!

As I said last week, I want to be very careful about what I say to you about doing a Soul Adventure if you’re in debt. I don’t want to encourage you to be irresponsible, but as I talk about in this video, I was $50,000 in debt the first time I came to Sedona and it changed everything around for me. 

Let’s explore this together:

i want my transformation

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

fun ways to get out of debt

In my last video, I spoke with you about being in debt. And I spoke with you about what that reflects in your life and what I called the Unfun ways of coming out of debt – important things that you can start doing that will start to help you right now:  

  • Spending less 
  • Paying off debt 
  • Saving more 

Important, but sort of boring and not fun. But today I want to talk to you about Really Fun ways to get out of debt and change things around for your money situation.  

control how you think about money

Here’s where this gets very interesting and exciting. Because no matter what you’re telling yourself right now, you can control how you think and feel about money 

And you can turn the energy around. 

The Journey to Happy Book by Debra Stabgl

I spend a lot of time talking about this in my book, The Journey to Happy, and I want to encourage you to spend 99 cents to buy the Kindle version of my book – yes, now I’m talking to you about spending money, because it’s the best 99 cents you’ll ever spend, because it will help you understand these ideas more deeply.  

einstein

What I talk about in my book is that one of the truths that Einstein discovered (and that Quantum Physics continues to prove) is that Everything is Energy. Even this desk, which feels so stable and strong, is – at its core – just a bunch of particles racing around. 

Money is energy. Most people don’t believe that and don’t understand it, and that’s why they have so much trouble. 

money is energy

If everything is energy (and now we know it is), that means that everything is much more elastic, much more malleable, and much more possible to change than we think it is.  

Quantum physics has also proven that.

Putting our attention on something in any way changes it.  

So, if everything is energy and if putting our attention on something in any way changes it, that means we are all creating our reality in every moment

what we focus on expands

What we focus on expands.  

We get more of whatever it is that we think about and talk about.  

If you’re in debt, you are probably like I was when I was deep in debt: Thinking about it all the time, worrying about it all the time. 

credit card debt

Because I was thinking about it all the time and worrying about it all the time and talking about it all the time, I was getting more and more of it, no matter what I did. 

everything is energy

But here’s the good news – because everything is energy and because putting our attention on something in any way changes it…

You are creating your reality in every moment. 

That means: You can change the parts that you don’t like. 

That is really great news! If you are creating your reality, that means that you can change the parts that you don’t like – the parts that aren’t making you happy

The trick is, you need to learn how to flip the switch. 

The easiest way to do that is to Stop THINKING about what you don’t want and Stop TALKING about what you don’t want.

When I was afraid about money, it could never come to me or if it came, something else came along after to take it away. It’s simple physics – you have to be in the same high Vibration as the money. If you’re fearful, frustrated and upset about money, it literally cannot come to you. 

Which makes it pretty difficult, right, because when you’re in debt or your money situation isn’t the way you want it to be, if you’re like I was, you’re thinking about it all the time…obsessing about it all the time…worrying about it all the time. Which makes it impossible for it to come to you.  

But if you can learn to go with the flow, magical things happen. 

Let me tell you the story of what happened to me and the day that $50,000 dropped out of the sky…

When I first came to Sedona over 20 years ago, my entire life was a mess. I had just started my 20th year of law practice and I hated it, I was in an unhappy marriage, I weighed 40 pounds more than I do now, and I was $50,000 in debt due to some very bad business decisions.  

I worried constantly about money. It was always on my mind. I would wake up in the morning and start worrying about it and I would go to bed worried about it. I was always fearful, frustrated and upset, so of course money couldn’t come to me. 

During those five years, I spent a lot of time praying and meditating, saying, “God, I’m so unhappy! Please tell me what to do!” Almost every time I did that, I would hear a voice say, “You need to leave your law practice.” I would immediately respond, “I can’t do that! I’ve got a mortgage and two car payments! I’m the sole supporter and I’m $50,000 in debt! I CAN’T leave my law practice!”  

So the last thing in the world I should have been spending money on at this point in my life was a spiritual retreat. But I put it on my credit card and I came. 

I came to Sedona and did one session – and in that session my Higher self appeared to me and told me I had to leave my law practice or I was going to die. Well, this time I heard the message. 

I went home and after two weeks of trying to figure out how I was possibly going to leave my law practice when I was $50,000 in debt, there was a day where something just happened. I was meditating and praying, and I just felt all the worry and concern just lift off me. I just felt it. I remember saying, “Ok God, I’m going to do this. I don’t know how I’m going to do this, but I’m going to do it, but I need some help.” 

Within about 8 hours, a former client called to ask me some questions and at the end of the call told me he had just bought a new business refinancing mortgages. I asked him if he thought he could get my mortgage payment reduced. He took my address and called me back in 10 minutes and said, “I can get your mortgage payment cut in half and I can get you $50,000 in cash.” 

Now I had never told him I was $50,000 in debt. He certainly didn’t know about my going into that high vibrational state where I just released the worry and concern. But suddenly, within a few hours, the worry and concern that had haunted me for five years was gone.  

And ever since then, whenever I feel worried about money, I just stop. 

Because I know these principles: 

Whatever I’m afraid of, is coming faster. 

Whatever I’m excited about, is coming faster. 

If I’m afraid of not having enough money, I do everything I can to take myself out of that feeling, because I KNOW my fear is keeping the money away. In my other videos, I’ve given you lots of things you can do to bring yourself out of those energies, such as:    

  • Tapping  
  • Deep Breathing
  • Change Your Story, Change Your Life

I never talk to people about not having enough money, I only talk about abundance. 

You can use other little tricks like…  

Listening to Music 
Petting your pet 
Going outside in the sunshine 
Writing in your Gratitude Journal 

The trick is getting there and staying there. But the key is all in these three simple steps:  

1. Get happy  
2. Stay happy 

And in order to get happy and stay happy: 

3. Don’t think about what you don’t want and don’t talk about what you don’t want  

It all comes down to stop worrying about money.

Again, I know that’s much easier said than done, because I was someone who worried about it for years and years, but I’ll tell you, when you can stop worrying and instead start getting excited about what’s on the way, money will start to flow to you. 

visualization

So do this: When you start to worry – stop and instead, think about how great it will be to have your money woes behind you, think about how fantastic it will feel to have your credit cards all paid, visualize your bank statement having a balance that is really large. Feel the feeling of what it feels like to have money in savings. Feel what it feels like to have all that worry off your shoulders. Start appreciating what you have and really feel that. 

This is so deceptively simple. It’s simple, I know it’s not easy, because I’ve been there through those sleepless nights, but I will tell you, when you flip the switch — and you can tell when that’s happening — miracles can actually happen. 

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it and subscribe to our channel

And If you want an even more direct path to dealing you’re your money issues, I’m going to say to you – think about doing a Soul Adventure. Money blocks for most people are huge and go way back and run deep. I don’t want you to be irresponsible, but look at what happened to me – I came here and $50,000 dropped out of the sky three weeks later.

I can’t tell you the number of people who have come here and gone home, and gotten the job of their dreams and had their entire life change around. You need to listen to your own guidance, but you may want to just start exploring the possibilities. Excited expectation is the key to all of this. Go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that can turn your life around call us at (928) 204-5988.  

You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it!

What Your Debt Says About You

Twenty years ago, like many other Americans, I was drowning in debt. And it was really crazy because I was an attorney making a good income, but I didn’t know what was REALLY causing the problem.

In this video and the next, I’m talking to you about what money problems mean and what you can start to do to turn that around. So if you don’t have all the abundance you’re looking for in your life, you may want to take a listen. 

This week I talk about what I call the “Unfun” ways to start getting out of debt and next week I’ll be talking about the “Fun” (even magical!) ways that turned everything around for me. Stay tuned!

I want to be very careful about what I say to you about doing a Soul Adventure if you’re in debt. I don’t want to encourage you to be irresponsible, but as I talk about in the video, I was $50,000 in debt the first time I came to Sedona and look what happened! Sometimes you just have to hit the restart button.

Let’s explore this together:

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Today I’m talking to you about What Your Debt Says About You

Let me ask you first off, does even that title make you flinch? If so, you’ve got a problem and you need to look at it. 

So let me tell you some things that I have found in my own life and with working with people for over 40 years. 

When we’re talking about money or debt or Abundance or however you want to frame it, here are my thoughts: 

Money is a reflection of other things going on in your life. 
Money problems reflect other problems 
If you’re embarrassed to talk about money, then there’s usually a problem. 

Are you a saver? 
Are you a spender? 
Both of those reflect two sides of the same coin. 

So now I’m going to say the thing that will have you either continuing to listen or to pop off to something else, but before you pop off, this might be really important. 

If you have debt that is beyond just your mortgage and your car, you are living your life unconsciously and you need to do something about it. 

Now before you react, please understand, this is coming from someone who used to be in deep debt. I used to rob Peter to pay Paul, I was continually opening new credit card accounts and transferring balances at 0 percent interest and then moving it to another credit card a few months later. I’ve been here, I know what it feels like to wake up in the morning and to immediately start worrying about money – it’s one of the most horrible things in the world.

Also, please understand that I get how our modern society is completely set up for you to be in debt. Credit card companies are preying on kids who aren’t even working, the messages that you get all the time are, “Buy now, pay later,” that’s how our modern society has set you up. 

So if you are someone who does not have debt beyond your mortgage or car, I want to really congratulate you. This means you are living your life consciously in this area of your life. 

This is very interesting and something you should look at. If you find that you have other areas of your life that aren’t working as well, you might want to take a moment to get conscious about what you’re doing around money that’s working, and then extend that to this other area that’s not working so well. 

For example, if your money situation is good, but you’re severely overweight, you may want to look at that. With money, you have self control, you are able to put off instant gratification. Are you able to do that with food? You may want to look at why it’s working for you in one area but not in another. What could you do to bring empowerment into that area? How can you make it work for you?

Let’s go back to what’s happening if you find yourself in debt, especially if you find yourself in a lot of debt. 

Here’s The Good News: This is something that you have control over. This is not like something that you find out about that you have no control over, this is something that you can control. It might not feel like that right now, in fact it probably doesn’t feel like that right now, because when you’re drowning it feels horrible. But when I say you have control, I’m actually talking about two things…

And I’m going to talk about the “Unfun one” first and the really “Fun one” second, so stick with me. 

Here’s the Unfun one: 

You have control over the basic parts of this – how much you spend, how much you save and what you do with your money. 

And don’t tell me, “Debra, I don’t have any control over how much I spend. I don’t have any extra money.” I’d be willing to bet that if I actually sat down with you and went over everything that you spend money on, that if you allowed me to be ruthless with your life, which is what I would be, I’d be able to find hundreds of dollars that you’re spending each month that you don’t absolutely need to spend

How do I know that? Because I’ve done it lots and lots of times in working with people. I have been absolutely amazed and flabbergasted to talk to people and find out that they are tens of thousands of dollars in credit card debt and then I can see, even without asking, that they…

  • Have a very expensive mobile phone
  • Wear acrylic nails (which is expensive to maintain)
  • And very often, they are holding a Starbucks cup of frappuccino or mochaccino that they drink twice a day 

And as we start talking, I find out that they: 

  • Have a large cable bill and watch a lot of TV
  • Are going out for a very large percentage of their meals

Why are they doing all these things? 

Because our culture is telling us that you have to have a smart phone – no you don’t, you just need a phone where you can call and text people if you have an emergency and those phones and those plans are very inexpensive. 

Our culture has somehow convinced that it’s normal to pay $5 for a cup of coffee. 

There was a very wonderful commercial on TV a few years ago where 4 or 5 people, who are obviously living in the 1970s, are sitting around drinking coffee and they say, “Wow this coffee tastes so good. You know, we could open a special coffee shop and make our special coffee and charge people $5 a cup.” And then suddenly, everyone laughs and says, “That would never work, no one is ever going to pay $5 for a cup of coffee!” 

Well, fast forward to today and guess what? 

Now I’m not saying don’t go to Starbucks or other coffee shops. I’m saying don’t spend $5 on a cappuccino every day if you’re $50,000 in debt. You can make coffee at home for a few cents.  

So let me ask you a few more un-fun questions: 

How much are you spending on Cable?  
How much are you spending on your phone? 
Ladies, how much are you spending on your nails or hair? 

How much are you spending on dining out?  
This is probably the biggest one that you can look at, change and control. When I was growing up, and I don’t want to completely sound like an old person here, but I can literally remember all the times my family went out for dinner. It was that rare. And part of it was that we had six kids and we were all very rambunctious as my mother used to say, but my parents wouldn’t even consider taking us all out for dinner as a regular thing. We never even went to McDonald’s. And I mean never, not once. The few times we did go out, it was such an incredible treat, we even dressed up.

Now, many Americans report they go out for dinner 2-3 times per week. It’s gotten crazy from a money standpoint, but it’s also gotten crazy from a health standpoint, because it’s also contributing to the overweight and diabetes crisis that is happening in our country. 

So Step 1: If you are in debt, look ruthlessly at your life and lower these amounts that you’re spending on your phone, your cable, dining out, and other unnecessary expenses, and start taking that money to start paying off your bills.  

That’s the Unfun way to get out of debt – it’s important, it’s the stuff you need to do, but watch for my next video where I’m talking to you about the Fun Way to Get Out of Debt

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

And I still want to talk to you about doing a Soul Adventure retreat, because that can really change everything around for you. Of course, I don’t want you to be irresponsible, but the first time I came to Sedona I was $50,000 in debt and three weeks after I left Sedona $50,000 virtually dropped out of the sky and into my lap – I’ll tell you about that in my next video. 

To get more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.


My Favorite Spiritual Movies – “Groundhog Day”

Have you ever seen the movie “Groundhog Day” with Bill Murray? It’s one of my favorite spiritual movies of all time. It has such incredible messages – watch my video:

Do you ever feel like Phil (the Bill Murray character) feels? Feeling stuck in your life and there’s nothing you can do about it?

There is something you can do about it.

Call us, let us help.

It’s all about moving out the gunk and the blocks that are holding you in disconnection and then moving you back into connection on all the levels – physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. The specific ways are different for each person. That’s why our custom-designed retreats are so powerful and effective.

Would you like to speak to an Angel Guide today? Or later this week? Call us – connect with one of our Angel Guides and let them design a retreat that can bring you back into Heaven on Earth.

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

And remember, we even work on Sunday, we’re here for you.

If you knew what could happen you’d be contacting us right now.

Kelly says her Soul Adventure “surpassed all my expectations” and
was “worth every penny.”

“Sedona Soul Adventures surpassed all my expectations. The practitioners are deeply committed, knowledgeable, and caring. I felt like l had the best possible experts all working together to help me find and focus on my ‘true’ self. I have a tool box that I can use when faced with challenges and am better able to recognize triggers and instead of reacting, I’m able to reconnect with my inner voice and follow a path that is informed by love, instead of ego or fear. Worth every penny, and I plan to go back again for a refresher and/or to continue my development.”
~ Kelly R., Chicago, Illinois

In these series of videos I’m talking about concepts from my book, The Journey to Happy– How Embracing the Concept that Nothing is wrong can transform your life…with processes that can help you feel a lot happier right away. 

And most of the time when I’m doing these videos, I’m talking to you about very heavy issues – and today I want to do something a little bit different. 

I have a list of what I call, “My Favorite Spiritual Movies” and I’m going to be talking to you about them today and into the future for two reasons: 

  1. They have messages that are really amazing, wonderful and helpful.    
  2. Watching a movie can very often immediately make you feel better. 

One of the things that I talk about a lot in my book is that when you start to feel yourself beginning to slip and just starting to not feel great, do something – anything – to start making yourself feel better… like listening to music, petting your dog or your cat, or watching a movie that makes you laugh or simply feel good. 

So here’s one of these movies for me: “Groundhog Day” with Bill Murray. Have you seen this movie? Your first reaction might be, “This is a spiritual movie?” Because it is very, very funny, very irreverent; it’s Bill Murray at his best. But yes, I want to assure you it’s definitely at the top of my list of the top 10 spiritual movies of all time.  

And you may not know the backstory of this – that it was written and directed by Harold Ramis, a Buddhist (he passed a few years ago), and this movie is all about consciousness. It’s all about how we perceive things and how everything can shift in an instant.

So if you’ve never seen it, watch it. And if you’ve never watched it from this perspective, definitely watch it again and you’ll see what I mean. 

In the movie, Phil, played by Bill Murray, is reliving the same day (Groundhog Day) over and over again. He plays a weatherman who is covering whether or not the groundhog sees his shadow. He is stuck in his own personal hell with himself – he’s selfish, egotistical, shallow and doesn’t care about anyone other than himself. 

Worse, he can’t get out of it and he can’t get away from himself. He even tells us that he hates himself. 

He’s completely stuck.  

And when he figures out what’s happening, that he’s reliving the same day over and over again, he goes through anger, frustration, manipulation, depression and even suicide (which doesn’t work) until something changes. He falls in love and begins to live his life from a completely different perspective; in that instant, his life changes.  

It’s such an incredible parable: 

When we start allowing what is, our life transforms. 

When we love with no expectation or demands, we get exactly what we want. 

We can transform from living in hell, to living in Heaven on Earth. It’s our choice and it just takes an instant. 

Do you sometimes feel like you’re living in a kind of hell? 

Do you feel like there’s nothing you can do about  it? 

Well, I’m here to tell you there is something you can do about it. Your life can be transformed if you’re willing to take responsibility for your life and your creations. The way you perceive the world and the way you move in the world can be changed in an instant. I see it all the time and it is truly miraculous. 

It’s all about moving out the gunk and the blocks that are holding you in disconnection and then moving you back into connection on all the levels:

  • Physical
  • Mental
  • Mmotional
  • Spiritual. 

The specific ways are different for each person. That’s why our custom-designed retreats are so powerful and effective. 

So call us – connect with one of our Angel Guides and let them design a retreat that can bring you back into Heaven on Earth.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

To get more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

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