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She Decided to Take Care of Herself and this is What Happened

A few weeks ago, we had an incredible person here to do a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. Aprille Franks is an amazing woman who was looking to heal and expand as a person. She’s a Master Business Coach who works with women looking to create their own raving communities and make a good living while doing it!

Aprille is passionate about empowering women through entrepreneurship – working with speakers, authors and other coaches looking to level up. But before she could go any further, she had some soul searching to do herself. She says every leader should take the time to explore who they really are, outside of their day to day.

And when Aprille decided she needed to do something to take care of herself, she came to us.

She came to Sedona to do a Soul Adventure and it was life-changing for her. And I was so surprised (and honored) when she did this Facebook Live, talking about how incredible, healing, enlightening and magical her retreat was. And I feel very blessed that she has agreed that I can share this with you.

It’s 34 minutes long, it’s raw and it is heart-felt.

Aprille told all of the people she works with, “you need to do a Soul Adventure.” How about you? 

  • Are you feeling stuck? 
  • Are you living your life purpose?
  • Do you want to find your life purpose?
  • How’s your relationship doing? 
  • Are you living your best life?

Give us a call and let us help. It’s what we do.

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Call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you. They’ll connect with you and custom design a retreat that’s perfect for exactly what you need and desire.

As I always say – you can have the life or relationship you want – I know it!

How to do a Negativity Detox

Did you know that scientific studies (including one at Yale) show that being positive is more important for living longer than:

  • Cholesterol levels
  • Weight 
  • Smoking
  • Blood pressure
  • Exercise

Watch my video and learn how to do a Negativity Detox.

I hope this helped, but I also know that sometimes we’re in such a negative spiral that we absolutely have to have some help. That was my situation when I came to Sedona 21 years ago – every part of my life was a mess. And thinking positive thoughts (which I was trying to do), just wasn’t cutting it; things were just continuing to get worse. I needed help and that’s why I came to Sedona all those years ago.

Maybe a trip to Sedona could help you. What a perfect way to really get this year going. Call us. We’re masters at getting to the root causes of what’s causing your negativity, moving it out and bringing you back into Connection, to live in Love and Joy and Harmony. And it just might help you live longer.

Call us right now (we’re even open on Sundays because we’re here for you). We’ll connect with you and then we’ll custom design a retreat that’s perfect for exactly what you need to start moving you back into positivity. Click below and we’ll call you.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Karen says her “magical and mystical” Soul Adventure “was definitely a 10” and gave her a “positive perspective”

“My experience with Sedona Soul Adventures was definitely a 10. My work with the different practitioners allowed me to achieve a positive perspective of my life, the challenges that I had faced in the past few years, and let go of the feeling of loss that I had been carrying. It was a very enlightening and comforting experience from start to finish. The whole interaction with Sedona Soul Adventures was great – from the description of what an individualized experience could be on the website, to the first phone interaction when I called. Everything was just what I had hoped for. I felt very nurtured and cared for. It was just as magical and mystical an experience as I had hoped to find in Sedona.” 
~ Karen H. 

Laura says, “My trip to Peru was a life-altering experience. My heart has expanded to new levels. I am so open and the feeling is other worldly.

“My trip to Peru was a life-altering experience thanks to the efforts of Debra, as well as an amazing group of sacred travelers. The universe is such a powerful place. I find it truly amazing how much coordination and dedication it takes to have so many pieces come together to create such a perfect moment in my life. I feel blessed to have been a part of that moment in time as it opened a whole new portal in my life. I cannot begin to express my gratitude. This is an excerpt of an email I sent to one of my best friends after the trip: I laughed. I cried. I was awed. I experienced new dimensions. I felt love and gave love. My gratitude is endless. I feel fortunate to have experienced the Andes Mountains and people. My heart has expanded to new levels. I am so open and the feeling is other worldly. I have made amazing friends. The group, the leaders and the guide were all amazing teachers. I cannot wait to share everything with you.
~ Laura McConnell

Today I want to challenge you to do a Negativity Detox. 

Everybody is always talking about doing a detox from sugar, a detox from carbs or a liver detox, and those are great if they make you feel better – but I’m talking about a detox that will not only make you feel better, but there are scientific studies that show it could help you live longer.

And that’s what a Negativity Detox does – taking 30 days to identify and eliminate all the negativity in your life. It can be a daunting but very exciting task, and I really want to invite you to give it a try. If you do it for 30 days, you could be on the road to a happier, healthier and longer life. 

And I’m saying that because there are so many studies out there on this, but one of my favorite ones is a study at Yale University. The study followed 660 people for up to 23 years that were aged 50 and older. The ones who had a more positive outlook about getting older lived 7 years longer than those who had a negative outlook about it. 

But here’s my favorite part: the Positive Attitude had a greater impact than… 

  • Cholesterol levels
  • Weight
  • Smoking
  • Blood pressure
  • Exercise

All the things that everyone tells us to be worried about. People need to be more worried about not being so worried and not being so negative all the time. 

So how do you go about doing this? 

First, you need to know about your thoughts. According to the National Science Foundation, an average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. Of those, 80% are negative and 95% are repetitive thoughts. So if you’re like most people, you’re thinking the same negative thoughts over and over again. 

That’s what’s causing all the problems and that’s where the Negativity Detox comes in. If you want to change it, you’ve got to do something about it – you need to do something to interrupt that pattern. 

So how do you do a Negativity Detox?

The idea is to eliminate as much negativity as you can from your life. And it starts with YOU. What type of person are you naturally? Are you a “the cup is half empty” or “the cup is half full” kind of person? 

If you’re a “the cup is half full” person, you’ve got a leg up. If you’re a “the cup is half empty” person, the key is turning that around, to flip the switch.

So, just for the next 30 days, decide to react positively no matter what the situation. It can help to decide on a phrase that you automatically tell yourself when something happens that you would normally react negatively to. Something like, “Wow, that’s interesting,” or if it’s something with a person, it could be something like, “Gosh, I wonder what’s going on with them?” Come up with a phrase that works for you that you can start using automatically. 

It’s about dropping the judgment and the automatic reaction. So if someone cuts in front of you in traffic, instead of getting all angry and flipping them off, you have your prepared statement, “Wow, that’s interesting, I wonder what’s going on with them?” Can you see how that would help if you did that every single time for the next 30 days?

If you’re having negative thoughts about yourself or your life, have another statement for that: If you find yourself thinking, “My life sucks,” immediately say or think to yourself your prepared statement, something like, “Wow, isn’t it interesting how these thoughts come in?” And then try to think about something that makes you feel better, like your dog or cat or grandbaby or a funny movie, ANYTHING that can bring you into thinking something more positive. 

How do you get out of bed in the morning? Do you lie there and think, “Oh my God, I can’t even drag myself out of bed,” or do you immediately start thinking about all the 10 million things you have to do today?  

How about coming up with a different way to start your day, just for the next 30 days? Would it help you to literally jump out of bed and say, “Wow, another great day!”? Would it help you to get up 15 minutes early and meditate, exercise or do something (anything) that would be guaranteed to make you feel good? Think of a way to change your pattern in the morning, get up differently, feel differently, do things differently, put your pants on with a different leg first… things that tell your brain you’re doing things differently. 

And then, are there people or situations that are just always negative for you? If so, can you simply avoid these people or places for the next 30 days? 

Of course there are some places you can’t avoid, like your workplace.  

How is the atmosphere there? If it’s really toxic, is it possible for you to speak with your co-workers or a supervisor and talk about ways that your workplace could be a happier place to be in?

If there are people or situations there that bug you, have your prepared statement, “Wow, that’s interesting” or “Gosh, I wonder what’s going on with them.” If you keep that up for even three days, I think you’ll be amazed at what happens when you don’t allow yourself to go into the automatic response you’re so used to. 

If you feel really industrious, I want to invite you to keep a journal about this. You might start each day bounding out of bed and decide to do a gratitude journal. Take three minutes to write down what you’re grateful for – you could even write down positive things about that coworker who bugs you, something like, “She is smart and knows what she’s doing.” And then at the end of the day, journal about how the day went. Give yourself permission to not be perfect; you’re already wired to think thousands of negative thoughts per day, you’re not going to stop them all at once, but just start noticing how you’re thinking more positively and feeling a little better. 

Do this for 30 days and see how you feel. See if you’re thinking and feeling differently about things. If so, keep on incorporating that into your life. 

And sometimes we find ourselves in a negative spiral that even positive thinking can’t help. For some people, it’s from trauma they’ve suffered in the past. For some people, they’ve grown up in an atmosphere where nothing they did was right, they were criticized constantly and it led to them feeling negatively about everything. Unless and until you clear this stuff out, it’s probably always going to be with you. That’s when you might want to think about doing a retreat with us. My life was in a downward, negative spiral until I came to Sedona and worked with the amazing practitioners who are here. We’re masters at getting to the root causes of what’s causing your negativity, moving it out and bringing you back into connection, to live in love and joy and harmony.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please like, share the video with someone you think might get something out of it and subscribe to our channel

And if you’d like more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

2020 – The Year of Clear Vision (What if Money Were No Object?…)

My last two videos have been all about the New Decade and the New Year, setting goals, making lists, etc., but today I want to take a little bit of a different tack and talk to you about daydreaming your way to everything you would like to bring into your life.

I also want you think about a big question:

If money were no object and there was no possibility of failure, what would you love to be or do or have in your life?

Give it a look.

Could this be the year that you actually get what you want? Wouldn’t it be incredible if something really big happened to make this the year your dreams start to come true?

It’s so amazing to me, this week marks 21 years that I first came to Sedona. Over two decades! Wow! I don’t recognize the person who came here 21 years ago. She was so unhappy.

I came to Sedona in January, 1999 and that trip marked the start of my dreams beginning to come true. Maybe that could happen for you too!

Call us right now (we’re even open on Sundays because we’re here for you). We’ll connect with you (or both of you (separately) for a Couples Retreat) and then we’ll custom design a retreat that’s perfect for exactly what you need to start making your dreams come true. Click below and we’ll call you.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

As I always say, if you knew what could happen, you’d be calling right now!

Lea says her Soul Adventure “healed the past,” gave her “clear vision” and the “tools to move forward,” and was “worth every penny”

“I was at a crossroads in my life and was searching for guidance as to my next step, although very aware of lingering past issues. Sedona Soul Adventures provided me with an opportunity to heal the past so my vision for my future is clear. It was the emotional “cleansing” that I needed and has given me the tools I need to move forward with clarity. Worth every penny.”
~ Lea K. 

2020 is here and I’m doing this series of videos to really help you to make this the most magical decade of your life. I hope you watched my two other videos about Not Dragging Your Old Stuff into the New Decade and also about How to have a Kick Ass New Year, because both of those are really great for that. 

perfect vision

But I also feel like there’s this huge piece for us to pay attention to this year. It’s the year 2020. The exact definition of perfect vision, of clear vision, and I think it’s a sign that we’re supposed to see that this is the year we’re supposed to get really clear on the vision for our lives. 

whats your vision

So what’s your vision for your life?  
What do you truly want?  
What excites you? 

In my other videos, I had you make a bunch of lists for different areas in your life and I think that’s really important, but today I want you to do something even more important. I want you to daydream. I want you to spend some quiet time thinking about your life and asking yourself this question: 

if money were no object

“If money were no object and there were no possibility of failure, what would I love to be or do or have in my life?” 

And while you’re doing that, I’m going to give you another piece of how-to advice that you might find a little shocking and that’s to…

Be Selfish.

what do i want

And I don’t mean selfish in the mean way or the way of the super ego. I mean, ask yourself, “What do I really want for myself before I take everyone else into account?”

Coming at this from the standpoint of “What do I really want?”, what would knock your socks off, what would make you dance with joy if it happened… just think of those kinds of things and then AFTER that, you can figure out how everyone else in your life fits into the picture. But first, Give Yourself Permission To Be Selfish Just This Once.

happy dance

With many people, I find that many of us, especially women, very often have a problem with this, because we’re so tied into taking care of everyone else first. But just for the purpose of this exercise, just this once, give yourself permission to think about yourself first. You’re just thinking about it, no one will ever know and your secret is safe with me that you actually spent a few minutes thinking just about yourself. 

So just take some time to think about the different areas of your life and ask yourself the question: 

if money were no object2

It might be something around your life purpose; it might be having a lot of money fall into your lap so that you could be free to live the kind of life you want to live.

raining money

And then be thinking about what is the kind of life you would love to live? 

Just daydream, let yourself go into that fun space where you’re kind of in between a meditation and being fully awake; let yourself get a little trancey, take some deep breaths and try to see yourself in the mist.  

You might see one or two things, you might see a whole bunch of things. 

You might have something already on your mind that you’ve been thinking about, so give yourself some time to dream about what that might look like, or how that might feel. You might want to think about the different areas of your life: 

live the live you want

Body 
Work  
Relationships 
Money 
Peace and Happiness 

When you ask yourself the question – “If money were no object and there were no possibility of failure, what would I love to be or do or have in my life?” – with regard to my work, wouldn’t that be delicious to give yourself free reign to just daydream about all the possibilities? 

And that’s what you’re going for here. A very important word: 

Delicious 

What would make you feel delicious? Or what would be delicious? 

As thoughts and ideas and images come in, jot them down. You don’t need to make a full blown list for now, you can do that later, just write down enough so that you’ll remember it later – or record it on your phone. 

When you come to the end of your daydream, start thinking about some ways to make these dreams more practical. Start thinking about which is the one that makes you feel most excited? 

And start putting some focus on that. Ask yourself:

What is one thing I could do right now to start making this happen? 

You might be surprised that even though your dream seems far away out there, just doing one thing can make it seem much more real.  

And then take another step.

And then another.

This is how our dreams become our reality. 

But it starts with your Clear Vision.

Give yourself the delicious time, because it really is delicious to do this – to daydream about what you want. Let it start with a dream and then bring it into your reality by… 

Imagining it 
Declaring it 
Defining it 

Dream it, say what it is, and then start defining it by exactly what you want. Define it to the point where you know exactly what it is and where you see it when you close your eyes.  

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please like, share the video with someone you think might get something out of it and subscribe to our channel

And if you want a more direct path to knowing and getting what you want – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

How to Have a Kick-Ass New Year!

I’m so excited for this New Year and New Decade! Watch my video to get some very practical ways to really make this the most amazing year ever! Take advantage of this New Year energy and put it behind your intentions and see what happens.

If you’re looking for clarity about what you want or how to go about getting what you want, please start the New Year right! Call us right now (we’re even open on Sundays because we care about you). We’ll connect with you (or both of you (separately) if it’s a Couples Retreat) in deep conversation, really getting under what’s blocking you, what’s holding you back, or what’s causing the problem. And then we’ll custom design a retreat that’s perfect for exactly what you need to bring you into the joy, love and excitement that life is supposed to be about. Click below and we’ll call you.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you. 

As I always say – you can have the life or relationship you want – I know it!

“I went into my week-long retreat with very high expectations – and these expectations were exceeded beyond my wildest dreams. I particularly appreciated the flow and rhythm of my individual sessions, which magically built on each other throughout the week and were facilitated by some of the most gifted and skillful healers I have worked with. I highly recommend Sedona Soul Adventures for those who are looking to do an intensive spiritual dive and discovery. What I learned about myself and the world in one short week was priceless and has permanently shifted my worldview for the better! Thank you Debra and all of the team that supported, guided and facilitated healing for me.”
~ Kelley M.

Okay, I know that we all say this each and every year, but really, I just can’t believe that 2018 is over and I really can’t believe how quickly it all went. With everything that has happened this year, it just feels like everything is speeding up to a level that we almost can’t even fathom. And the reason it feels like that is because that’s exactly what’s happening.
 
Everything is speeding up.
 
But here’s the thing – most people seem to talk about that as if it’s a bad thing. I want to talk to you today about how not only is that not a bad thing, it’s a good thing and here are some ways that you can take advantage of everything speeding up.
There are all kinds of scientific explanations of things that are going on right now, including an increase in the Earth’s frequency, called the Schuman Resonance. I’m not going to go into all the scientific stuff, I just want to talk about that feeling that most of us have, that everything is speeding up and going faster, is true. We experience it all the time with our technology, but we also just experience it in our lives, most notably with how quickly time seems to be passing.
 
I want to encourage you to use this energy for yourself for this New Year, to harness it and utilize it. Instead of resisting it, use it. Befriend it.  
 
So, how can you do that? The first way is to get clear on what you want.
I’m not talking about regular New Year’s Resolutions, which are usually too unspecific, too grandiose and not realistic. 
I’m talking about Realistic Attainable Measurable Goals. Start by going through all of the important areas of your life:

 

 

  1. Body
  2. Work
  3. Relationships
  4. Money

Get laser-focused on what you want this year. Work on all of these if you’d like, or maybe just take one or two to work on – that increases the likelihood of success. Really focus – that’s what will make all the difference.

After you have gotten laser-focused on exactly what you want to accomplish, then write this down somewhere where you will see it every day, so you can keep feeding it into your subconscious. Studies have shown that just by writing it down, you increase the likelihood of it happening by 50%… 50% just by writing it down!

Next, develop your game plan. What do you need to do on a monthly, weekly and daily basis to make this happen?

Some goals lend themselves better than others to this. But for example, if you want to write a book by the end of the year, you’re going to need to write X number of chapters each month to make that happen.

So, develop your game plan and then break it down into monthly, weekly and daily chunks.

Finally, and here is my favorite part – the part that I think is the most important one and the one that I know will give you the most bang for your buck: Spend three minutes each day Meditating about these things, Fantasizing about these things and Feeling and Knowing that they are happening.

Here’s the best way to do this:

Set the timer on your smartphone for 3 minutes. Doing it for only 3 minutes will help insure you do this every day. And setting it on your timer will stop you from thinking about how much time is left.

Close your eyes and put your hand over your heart with the intention of bringing in Heart Coherence. It’s not necessary for you to completely understand what that means and I’ll be talking about it in a later video, so for now, just set that intention.  

Start breathing deeply into your heart. Think of something or feel something that makes you feel good.

Feel gratitude. Feel love for someone. Think about your dog or your cat – that always works for me.

Just do something briefly that is going to bring you into a peaceful, easy feeling.

Now start thinking about the things you want to have happen and start fantasizing about these things, and feeling and knowing that they are in the process of happening. See the energy, this faster, higher vibration energy that is speeding up everything on the planet right now, and see it feeding these goals and desires. See it amp them up as they come to you faster.

Next, see yourself as if these things have already happened. What do you look like? How do you talk? How does your body move? Feel the excitement that you’ll feel as they start to come true. Feel the gratitude that you’ll feel as they start to come true.

Ask yourself the question “What do I need to know right now?” Breathe and listen to the answers.  

Just as the timer goes off, take a final deep breath and feel the knowing, the absolute knowing that this is happening. Open your eyes and write down any answers, thoughts or ideas that came to you.  

Consistency is the Key. If you do this consistently, and I mean every day, I think you will be amazed at what will happen.

Because you are being focused and you’re energizing your goals and desires with this speeded up energy that is on the planet right now. And even better, you’re utilizing that energy to bring your goals and desires to you even more quickly.
So that’s my New Year gift for you. I hope you’ll do it and I’d love to hear your success stories as they happen.

I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.
 
And if you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.
 
Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.
 
You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Alert! Don’t Pull The Last Decade into this one!

Wow! 2020! Not only is it a New Year, it’s an entire New Decade!

Watch my video which is all about, what have you been dragging around for the last 10 years, that you certainly DON’T want to drag into this new decade? It gives you some really concrete ways that will help you do just that.

If you have some big stuff you’re still dragging around from the last 10 years, maybe you’re going to need to do more than what I’m suggesting in the video to deal with it. Because it’s so big and deep, it’s been with you for ten years.

This is what we’re Masters at – digging deep to find the root causes, moving that energy up and out, and moving you back into connection. When you’re operating in connection on all the levels – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual – you’re going to have a happy, joyous life and a fabulous New Decade. Call us.

Decide to become a new person for the new decade. We’re here and together, we can do it.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Julia says her Soul Adventure was “life changing” and left her feeling  “complete, content, whole and Full of love”

“Two words come to mind when I describe my experience: LIFE CHANGING. I left home and arrived in Sedona half a person, I came home complete, content, whole and Full of love. I look at life in a whole new light and enjoy each and every day. Thank you to all the wonderful people at Sedona Soul Adventures that helped to open me up to a whole new world of possibilities.”  
~ Julia Roden

Wow, it’s 2020! I know we all usually focus on New Year’s resolutions, but I want to invite you to take a larger look this year…

It’s a new decade! It’s 2020! I want you to take a long, hard look at the last 10 years and I want to ask you a big question: 

what are you dragging

What are you dragging around from 10 years ago? 

If you make New Year’s Resolutions, are you making the same ones every year? 

I want to lost 10 pounds.

I want to get a new job.

I want my relationship to be better.

I want...

I want to be happier.

Here’s what I want you to do. I want you to take 5 minutes to make a list of where you were 10 years ago and where you are now. What was happening in these major areas of your life? 

Body
Work
Relationships
Money
Peace and Happiness

  • How much did you weigh 10 years ago? Has that changed? Are you more active now or less active?
  • What’s going on with your work? Do you love your work? Are you living your life purpose? Are you living your dreams?
  • What’s happening in your relationships? First with your intimate relationship, is that better or worse? How about with your family and your friends?
  • How is your money situation? Do you have more money now? In 2010 people were still very much feeling the effects of the financial crisis that started at the end of 2008, have things changed a bunch for you on that score?
  • And most importantly, how about your peace and happiness? How were you feeling about things 10 years ago? Did you feel hopeful and optimistic? How’s your hope and optimism now?
peace and hapiness

So I want you to spend 5 minutes doing this. Stop reading and set your timer for 5 minutes. You will get so much benefit out of doing this and don’t tell me, “Debra, I don’t have time.” 

Sweetie, this is exactly why your life isn’t 10 times better than it was 10 years ago and it should be. You deserve to have it be that way. So stop reading and take 5 minutes to do this, and I think you’re going to find that there are some places where you have really made some advances and for that I salute you… I’m so happy for you, but I’ll bet that you’re also going to find that there are a bunch of things that you’ve still been dragging around for the past 10 years and I want you to really look at those. 

Ok, so now that you’ve done that…

debra stangl before after

Which ones are they? Let’s face it: for many of us, our bodies… but I’m happy to say that 2010 was the year my body went from this to that. How about you – what’s happened with your body over the last 10 years? 

What are you dragging around from your work? Do you feel like you’re living your life purpose, are you living your dream? So many people tell me they’re not. This is such a huge part of your life – are you going to take another 10 years to really start living this part of your life? 

How about your relationship? How were things 10 years ago? How are things now? Are you still fighting about the same stuff? Really? After 10 years? Well, I was a divorce attorney for 20 years, so I know that’s exactly what happens: people keep fighting about the same stuff or are unhappy about the same stuff and then they’re hoping that somehow, magically, it will change without them doing anything about it. 

How about your money situation? As I said before, in 2010 we were still in the fallout of the 2008 crisis. Are things better for you now? Even though you might technically be making more money now, do you feel like you actually HAVE more money? Because it’s that feeling of abundance that makes all the difference. 

feeling of abundance

But most important, how are your levels of peace and happiness? 

Are you happier now than you were 10 years ago? Do you feel more at Peace? And if not, are the things that are disturbing you NOW some of the same things that were disturbing you or causing problems for you 10 years ago?

I have to say that when I did my list, and yes, I did my list, that I realized that I’m still dragging some frustration around with me. I’m much better than I was 10 years ago, but you know what, I’m not going to drag that into this new decade. I’m going to do everything I can to move that out. 

Life is just too short for us to be doing anything other than being happy, joyful and connected.

So now that you’ve identified what you’ve been dragging around, let’s look at something more positive…

What would you like to have happen in this next decade? 

Go back to your list and think about what would you like to have happen over the next 10 years? Dream big, the sky’s the limit, if you believe it can be. 

What do you want your money situation to be like in 10 years and what’s it going to take to accomplish that? Do you want to be fully living your life purpose over the next 10 years? What’s it going to take to make that happen? What are some steps you can start taking right now to make that happen?   

You can live a life of joy, connection and happiness. I know that’s possible, I’ve seen it in my own life and I especially see in the lives of people who come to us for a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. When we stop dragging around the old stuff, the old gunk that’s been part of us for so long, miraculous things start to happen. 

So I want to invite you – no I want to beg you – to start doing what it takes, start doing something to bring in the life and relationship of your dreams.  

And I want to invite you to think about doing a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. If you have things that you’ve been dragging around for 10 years, then you need to do something really big to blast that out. 

It’s so interesting to me, I came to Sedona for the first time in 1999, right at the end of that decade. Every single part of my life was a mess and when I look back now, to see the changes over those two decades, it’s just stunning. And it all started with one trip to Sedona. 

Maybe it could all start for you with one trip to Sedona. Call us, we’ll connect with you in deep conversation, we’ll dig through this stuff you’ve been dragging around for so long and we’ll custom design a retreat that will literally root all that out. That’s what happens. We’ll bring you back into connection on all the levels: Physical, Mental, Emotional, Spiritual. And when you’re living in connection, every part of your life is incredible. 

Don’t wait another 10 years, don’t wait another minute. Give us a call. 

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

If you’d like more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or even better, call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Get uplifted, watch “It’s A Wonderful Life”

Merry Christmas! Almost! Wow, it’s here again! 

I’m wishing you a wonderful, fabulous happy Christmas and I want to tell you again (I say this to everyone every year), please, please, please watch “It’s A Wonderful Life,” the movie with Jimmy Stewart during this holiday season. 

It is such an incredible parable of how we can go from hating our lives to total gratitude and love in an instant.

We all know that real happiness comes from living a life that matters — that includes love, connection and service. And for so much of it, all we have to do is shift our thinking around. Just like Jimmy Stewart does in the movie.

 
 
 
How about you? Are you looking for a Christmas miracle? Does your life seem small and insignificant? Are you ready to make the change so that you’re living the life you want? I first came to Sedona when I was in the depths of despair and it changed everything.

Connect with one of our Angel Guides — they’ll tune into you and get to the heart of what’s holding you back in your life or your relationship. Then they’ll custom design a retreat to take you from where you are to where you want to be.
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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Angel Guides will call you. Remember, we’re even open on Sundays, because we’re here for you.

Wishing you the most amazing Christmas ever, where you understand the deep significance of who you are.

Many blessings,
Debra

It’s Christmas and one of the Christmas traditions that I’ve had for many years is to watch the movie “It’s a Wonderful Life” each year. If you don’t do that, or especially if you’ve never seen the movie, you have to see it and I hope you’ll watch it again. There are 2 reasons why I want you to watch it or watch it again… 
Because it will make you feel good. It will fill you with Christmas cheer. It will make you laugh and it will make you cry, but mainly it will just make you feel good and that’s what all of this is all about. 
 
But here’s the other reason why I want you to watch it – it’s because of the backstory and of what happened with the movie and why it’s such a wonderful story about second chances. 
 
The movie came out in 1946, the year after the end of the second World War. It stars Jimmy Stewart, a very famous Hollywood actor and he was just back from serving as a pilot in the war. It was directed by Frank Capra, a very famous Hollywood director who also served in World War II. 
 
It’s the story of George Bailey, a small town boy who has dreams of traveling the world, but when his father dies unexpectedly, he has to take over the family business, a savings and loan company that makes home loans for people who don’t have a lot of money. 
He falls in love, gets married and has children, but he always feels he never really got to live the life he wanted. Then his uncle loses some of the savings and loan money, and George is faced with ruin.
It’s so seriously awful that he’s thinking about suicide, he’s about to jump off a bridge, when an angel is sent down from heaven to help him. The angel jumps in first and George saves him, and then the angel shows George how life in their small town would have been without him.
George sees the incredible impact he’s had on the lives of so many people and he truly appreciates all the love he has in his life. His life is saved but even more than that, it’s completely renewed. He has a second chance at his life. 
 
The movie came out and it was a flop. It got mixed reviews and very little box office time. It went into that place of the forgotten movie. And then a weird thing happened – the copyright lapsed and the movie went into the public domain. That meant television stations could show it, at no cost. Suddenly this once-forgotten movie started to be shown every year at Christmas and for many people, myself included, it’s a Christmas tradition each and every year. 
 
Both Jimmy Steward and Frank Capra always said it was their favorite film they had ever made. 
 
So just like George Bailey in the story, the movie got its own second chance and is now a beloved classic. 
 
Isn’t that amazing? Isn’t it a wonderful Christmas story to know that even if we’re in the pit of despair like George was, we can have a second chance?
All it takes it to look around and appreciate what we have, to recognize the love that we have in our lives. 
 
So please, watch the movie, feel the love and I hope you have a very merry and joy-filled Christmas.   

I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.
And if you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.
Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.
You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

How To Create Peace In Your Life

The holiday season is supposed to be the Season of Peace, but really?? And from what most people say to me, “peace” is something they crave, but have a lot of difficulty finding.

So here’s an early Christmas present — the gift of Peace. Some really practical ways to bring more peace into your life right now — just in time for the holidays.

Sometimes meditating and slowing down aren’t enough to really bring you into the Peace you’re craving. Sometimes there’s lots more going on that just needs to be cleared once and for all to bring you back into the connection that fosters that Peace. If that’s the case, think about giving yourself the perfect Christmas gift — the gift of taking care of yourself with a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. Call us and speak with one of our Retreat Guides. They’ll dig deep to see where the blocks are in your life or your relationship, and custom design a retreat that will take you into the Peace you’re craving.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Would you like to speak to someone today? We’re even open on Sundays, because we’re here for you.

Diane says after her Soul Adventure: “I never imagined I would be feeling so much peace and joy and love”

“I still cannot really describe into words the experience I had, not only with Sedona Soul Adventures, but also with Sedona itself. All I can say is that I never imagined that after such a process, I would be feeling so much lighter… clearer… and overflowing with so much peace… joy… love and light! What an amazing experience, to say the least. I wish to extend to everyone at SSA and all the Practitioners who were all absolutely awesome that I worked with my deep love and warm-hearted gratitude!”
~ Diane S.

Over the years, one of the biggest challenges I’ve seen in the people who come to us is the lack of peace. In fact, when we ask people what they want, it’s usually one of the top things they are saying they don’t have, that they want.

If this is something you’ve been feeling here are some possible reasons why…

We hear it all the time, but only because it’s true. Stress kills, but it also creates this lack of peace that can make your life almost unbearable.

everything perfect

Do you believe that everything has to be perfect (or everything has to be a certain way) in order for you to be happy?  

That’s a big one. Can you see what a set-up that is for creating stress and a lack of peace? 

Do you believe that everything happens for a reason?

If you don’t, that can create a lot of problems in your life.

What’s driving you? Is something driving you? Are you driving yourself irrationally? Are you constantly pushing yourself to do more and more and more? The question is: What’s underneath that?

Are any of these true for you?

You see, when we look a little deeper, we uncover what’s really going on and then when you go deeper still, you see the compounding affects showing up in many areas of your life.

So how is a lack of peace affecting other areas of your life?

stress

When we’re stressed out all the time, it affects everything.

We had a woman come here to do a retreat last year and she was really at the end of her rope. She had a very demanding job, her marriage was having some problems, she has two kids —  a teenager and a 7-year-old, her elderly parents were requiring more help, she was overweight, she was a soccer mom, she was active in her church, and she was completely frazzled. She was driving herself crazy and she was driving everyone around her crazy. 

She kept putting off doing the retreat for over 6 months because she kept saying, “I can’t find 4 days where I can come.” Finally, her husband said to her, “I love you, but you have to do something about this. You’re killing yourself and you’re killing our family.” 

She came to Sedona and during her retreat, we uncovered that she was driving herself so hard because she was raised in a family where her parents were always demanding that she do more and more. She was made to feel like she wasn’t enough, she always had to keep proving over and over that she deserved to be loved. 

We did sessions with her that moved those old blocks and patterns out and she came into his huge realization of knowing and really believing that she deserves to be loved just because of who she is, not because of what she does. We gave her tools to deal with the stress, plus an action plan of simple but powerful ways to maintain everything she received here. 

She went home feeling so much lighter and happier. That was last year. I just heard from her a few weeks ago and she said the changes are absolutely incredible. 

She gets up 15 minutes before everyone else does and meditates. That keeps her centered for the day. When she goes to bed at night, the last thing she does is to say a prayer of gratitude. She spends one hour every other week doing the Breath Journey she learned here and she told me, “Debra, you can’t imagine the impact that’s had on my life.” She said even when she’s had things happen, it moves things out…no matter what’s happened, it brings her back into a peaceful state. 

change yourself and everything changes

She came home so happy and peaceful, and stayed that way, that her husband and people at work all said, “What happened to you?” Her husband came out for a retreat and two of her friends have also come for retreats. She changed herself and it changed everything in her life.

So what can YOU do to begin to start feeling peace in your life?

Meditate – 15 minutes a day changed everything for Leanne, it can do the same for you.

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Breathe – Just taking a few deep breaths when you’re in a stressful situation can help, especially if you do it before you say something you’ll be sorry for later.

Slow down – It’s amazing what can happen when you just slow down. I recommend this to my coaching clients all the time. Stop rushing around everywhere. All that rushing maybe only saves you a few seconds and it’s taking away your peace of mind.

stop comparing yourself

Stop comparing yourself to other people – This is always a losing game.

Try to figure out what’s underneath all this – Do you have an idea of what’s driving you? Is some of this coming from feeling that you are not enough or that you constantly have to prove something? Knowing what’s underneath this can start the healing process. 

self care

Start doing some kind of self care – Take hot baths, get a massage regularly, schedule a regular night out with your friends, schedule a date night. Taking care of yourself has huge benefits.

I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.

And if you want a more direct path to creating peace in your life- then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928-204-5988.

You can have the life or the relationship you want – I know it.

Your Photo Here?

When people finish their Soul Adventures retreat, they feel so fantastic. A little while ago, I got the idea to start putting their photos and Before and After Statements (with their permission, of course) on our Wall of Success. The Wall is now getting overloaded with all the photos and everyone talking about how their life and relationship is changed after their Soul Adventure. Watch my sweet video:

How about you? Would you like to be the next one on our Wall of Success? We’d love for you to have a transformation in every area of your life.

Call us and let us help.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Federico says his “life changing, transformational” Soul Adventure “taught me that I can keep myself in alignment in LIFE regardless of what life throws at me and the ‘external’ circumstances.”

“My retreat ROCKED!!! Hands down – life changing, transformational, powerful, cleansing, shifts, synchronicity, alignment, consciousness, awareness, love, peace, joy, happiness, freedom, ABUNDANCE…you name it…it did it for me!!!” Most of all, it taught me how to integrate these teachings into my daily life and that I can keep myself in alignment in LIFE, no matter the level of stress in the high-paced world of finance, or regardless of what life throws at me and the ‘external’ circumstances…personal, relationships, or professional…it taught me that I HAVE IT ALL…ALL INSIDE ME…and that is the most POWERFUL thing and highest vibration in the Universe – tapping into your HEART AND SOUL!!!! Thank You Sedona Soul Adventures – All of YOU, THANK YOU!!!”
~ Federico T.

I’m coming to you from our beautiful offices in Sedona. I love our office so much because we have beautiful views of Cathedral Rock and Thunder Mountain, and the energy here is so wonderful.

And I’m here because I want to show you what we call our Wall of Success. I love looking at our Wall of Success because I see it the minute I walk in the door and it just is always reminding me why we do what we do at Sedona Soul Adventures. 

We started this a few years ago because we had people sending us beautiful pictures of themselves in the red rocks, sending us messages of how their lives and relationships had been so completely transformed by doing a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. And one day, someone in the office said, “You know, we really ought to do something with these, they’re so beautiful, they’re so wonderful,” so we started putting them up. Now people see them when they start their Soul Adventure and pretty much everyone sends them to us…we are even having a hard time getting them all up, which is so great.

I love reading these and remembering these people, and it’s funny, because I always try to come into the office and meet everyone at the beginning of their retreat. And sometimes when I do, I can see that they are so shut down or their problems are so huge that I have a feeling of, “oh no, maybe it’s not going to happen for them,”  and then every single time, it does – they have this amazing, incredible transformation or their marriage is saved and it’s just so fantastic.

Sometimes people come back for another Soul Adventure and it’s also fun for them to see themselves on the wall.

I also love the incredible diversity that we have here. It’s really amazing. Male, female, all the different colors, gay, straight, people from very different backgrounds as far as their their age, professions, income, nationalities, mothers, daughters, fathers, sons, husbands, wives… Isn’t that cool? 

But the absolute best part is reading what people have said. 

This is one of my favorite parts of the day, coming into the office and seeing this Wall, seeing all these people whose lives and relationships have been transformed by what all of us here at Sedona Soul Adventures do. 

So if you’d like to be our next success, we’d love that for you.

Go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Fast, Easy Way to Meditate (plus a special deal!)

If you’ve been receiving my emails for a while, you know that I’m a big proponent of meditation (kind of a “nag,” some might say! :))

Listen to my video where I talk about the incredible benefits of meditation and give you the opportunity to get all of The Sedona Meditations for only $19.99.

  • Releasing Stress
  • Releasing Fear and Worry
  • What is My Soul’s Purpose?
  • Sedona Chakra Meditation
  • Moving Into a Higher, Faster Vibration
  • Change Your Story, Change Your Life
  • Connecting to the Highest Part of Yourself
  • Connect with Your Angels and Guides
  • Befriending Your Body (Eliminate Pain)
  • Loving Your Body (Release Weight)

The Sedona Meditations are guided meditations and they are each only 9 minutes, so you can definitely fit them into your busy life. They use music and breath, and they are incredibly powerful.

And here’s the best part:

The Sedona Meditations are usually $9.99 each. But I’m making a special offer for you — you can get them ALL for just $19.99! But this offer is available for One week only! So click the button below to get the whole set (which you can download and save to any device).

As powerful as I know meditation is, sometimes it’s not enough to really move you through the blocks and gunk that are holding you back from your best life. If that’s happening, call us about doing a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. Connect with one of our Retreat Guides now.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Karen says her Soul Adventure was “Inconceivably Amazing!” and “life changing”

meditation blog

A lot of you who have been following me for awhile know that one of the biggest things I talk about is Meditation.

Somebody said to me a few weeks ago that I’m actually kind of a nag about it, and if it feels that way, I’m sorry, but it’s only because I know how wonderful it is for you and what a difference it can make in your life. 

Studies have proven that Meditation can help you with:

emotional benefits of meditation
  • Stress 
  • Anxiety 
  • Worry 
  • Depression 
  • Addiction 
  • Overcoming self-limiting beliefs, habits, fears, & phobias 
  • Feeling more happy, confident, inspired, and motivated 

These are just some of  the Emotional Benefits of Meditation.

physical benefits of meditation

Then there are all the Physical Benefits of Meditation…

  • Strengthen immune system 
  • Better Sleep 
  • Increased longevity 
  • Boost vitality 
  • Feel more energized and rejuvenated 

And then there are all the Psychological Benefits of Meditation: 

psychological benefits of meditation
  • Boost learning ability, memory, & concentration 
  • Enhance your intuition, creativity, and ability to succeed 
  • Access the subconscious 
  • Move brainwave patterns into most advanced states 
  • Achieve the mindset to attract and manifest the life you want 

So the bottom line is that if you want to be happier, healthier, have more abundance, possibly live longer, be more intelligent, run faster, jump higher — I mean really, meditation is the thing that does it all. 

more benefits of meditation

I have so many people who say to me, “Debra, I’ve tried meditating and it just doesn’t work for me. My mind is going a mile a minute, I can’t make it stop.” 

Well the thing is, if that’s what’s been happening for you, then that’s EXACTLY why you should be meditating. 

And what I’ve done to make it easier for you, is that I’ve created The Sedona Meditations

the sedona meditations

The Sedona Meditations are guided meditations, so they really help tame your monkey mind, because you’re just following along with the meditation. Also, each one is only 9 minutes. Everyone – even you – has 9 minutes they can use each day and even though they’re only 9 minutes, they’re really Powerful. 

They are designed to help you manifest the amazing life you dream of – and fully deserve. A life where you’re living your soul’s purpose and experiencing joy, peace, love and wellbeing in all aspects of your life. By bringing in Sedona’s unique energy,The Sedona Meditations allow you to accelerate and amplify your transformation – any time you choose, no matter where in the world you are. In the meditations we use music, guided imagery and breath, and each of the 9-minute Sedona Meditations offers a unique benefit. 

manifest dream life

So let me tell you briefly about each of the meditations…

Releasing Stress
Stress is the #1 killer in our modern society; The Releasing Stress meditation de-stresses the physical and emotional bodies, giving you an overall feeling of relaxation and peace – in just 9 minutes.  

Releasing Fear and Worry
The energy of fear and worry is exactly the negative energy that is preventing you from living your best life. But trying to avoid fear or push it down doesn’t work. TheReleasing Fear and Worry meditation dismantles fears and worries in a unique way. You’ll complete the meditation feeling lighter – and more empowered. 

What is My Soul’s Purpose?
Discovering and living that purpose is essential to true fulfillment. you’ll discover and anchor in your Soul Purpose and Life Mission … so that you can start living them right now. 

Chakra Meditation 
When your chakras are open and flowing, all areas of your life are functioning in perfect harmony. The Chakra Meditation removes blocks and brings the color and energy of each chakra into every area of  your life.  

Moving Into a Higher, Faster Vibration  
When we operate in the higher, faster vibrations, all aspects of our life — physical, mental, emotional and spiritual – work in harmony. In this meditation you’ll release blocks that are holding you back and experience an expanded version of yourself. 

Change Your Story, Change Your Life 
Thoughts are things, and we’re creating our present and future realities in every moment by the stories we tell ourselves today. By shifting your thoughts and changing your stories, you can shift and change any part of the present that is not completely satisfying.  

Connecting to the Highest Part of Yourself 
When you live in connection with your Higher Self, all things are possible. Life becomes easy, peaceful and joyful. This meditation takes you into a state of being where you connect with your Higher Self – and to the Universal energy of All That Is. Use this meditation to bring a sense of joy and peace to your life – and to receive the inner guidance to manifest your dreams. 

Connect with Your Angels and Guides  
You are surrounded by beings of light who want to be with you and help you. This  meditation calls in your angels, guides and the ascended masters where you can ask for and receive information about your life, as well as messages and gifts from your Angels and Guides. 

And then there are two meditations specifically for your body: 

Befriending Your Body (Eliminate Pain)  
Studies have shown that meditation can control and even eliminate much pain and discomfort. In this meditation, you’ll connect in gratitude with all the different parts of your body – and release pain and discomfort wherever it occurs. 

Loving Your Body (Release Weight)  
The secret key to weight loss is loving your body (I know from personal experience because I lost 40 pounds and went from a size 14 to a size 6 utilizing this energy!)  

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These are wonderful meditations and people have had some astounding results with them. The best part is, they’re short, only 9 minutes, but they’re very powerful, they’ll fit in with your busy lifestyle, and give you the results you want. 

meditation sale

And here’s the best part –  

The Sedona Meditations are usually $9.99 each. But I’m making a special offer for you — you can get them all for just $19.99! But this offer is available for One week only!  So click the button to get the whole set. 

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

To get more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Some surprising ideas on How to Survive the Holidays

Thanksgiving is Thursday – Brace Yourself!
 
I love Thanksgiving and Christmas, but let’s face it — too often, being around our families triggers old wounds and old resentments. And sometimes we’re left feeling hollow and empty, realizing that we can’t even get along at the holidays. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
 
Watch my 8-minute video and let me know if it helps.
 
 
I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please like, share the video and subscribe to our channel.
 
Let’s face it, surviving the holidays can be a daunting task. 
 
Thanksgiving is this week and then we’ll have Christmas, but what I’m talking about really is true for any kind of holiday or family gathering. It all comes down to:
 
How do you want to feel?
 
That’s a really important question because most people don’t ask themselves that question ever, about anything, but it’s the one thing you should be asking yourself all the time.
 
We all want it to be like this. We want to have a happy, harmonious, beautiful loving time with our families, and it’s okay to want that, but how often does that really happen? Regrettably, not very often. 
 
Too often, being around our families triggers old wounds and old resentments, and we’re left feeling hollow and empty realizing that we can’t even get along at the holidays. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
 
The biggest problem with this image is that it’s a set up for an idealized version of life that for most people, just doesn’t exist. So understand that and take this very important piece of advice:
Take you and your family off the hook. Lower your expectations. Stop telling yourself that “this is how it should be.” Stop “Shoulding” all over yourself. Whenever you start using words like “this is how it should be,” that’s when you’re going to have trouble. Lower your expectations and don’t demand that your family has to act in a particular way.
 
So included in this are things like
 
Don’t talk about politics. Let’s face it, that’s just a recipe for disaster. 
 
Limit your alcohol intake. Do what you can to limit your Drunk Uncle’s imbibing. Things can go off the rails pretty quickly when people have had too much holiday cheer.
 
What if you simply didn’t go? This is a somewhat radical idea– what if you made the decision to simply not partake at all in the holiday celebration, to simply not go, not participate. Would it maybe be better to not subject your children to your Drunk Uncle and his cutting remarks? Would it be healthier for you to not subject yourself to your mother’s constant criticism? 
 
Before you automatically say no to this, let’s just think about it for a while. If you already know what you’re walking into, why decide to do that? Well, it might start a family fight and you don’t want that to happen, but are there some ways around that? Could you take your mother out for a Christmas lunch instead? Or do some other kind of outing with your kids? 
 
It’s your life. It’s your mental health and peace. There is no law that says you have to spend your precious holiday time with people who are going to be difficult to be around. I’m not saying we should stop all family gatherings, what I am saying is that we don’t have to do them the same old way.
 
And that starts by you deciding, as I said before: How do I want to feel?
I’m assuming you want to feel happy and connected. So let’s talk about some ways that can happen if you decide that you do want to be with your family.
 
As I said before, Lower your expectations. Decide that your goal is to simply feel okay about everything.
 
Decide to love your family just the way they are. That’s what you want also, right? You want your family to love you just the way you are, right? So start by loving them just the way they are.
 
Spend some time to think about each person you’re going to be seeing. On the ones you actually like and love, spend a few minutes thinking about what you like and love about them.
 
And now here’s where it gets interesting. Then spend some time thinking about the ones who you know are going to drive you crazy. Think about what it is that drives you crazy about them, what are the things they’re going to do that you just know are going to trigger you?
 
Then spend some time doing a quiet meditation about this. See yourself in the situation and see the person doing what it is that they do that bugs you. And then visualize yourself not getting upset, just sort of stepping back, or rising above it as you chuckle to yourself, “yep, they did it again.” But see yourself just not getting all worked up over it.
 
And then let’s go deeper still. Think about them and try to get some idea about why they act this way. If they’re a pompous know-it-all, they probably are actually very insecure underneath all that. See and try to feel yourself sending them love and some compassion. See yourself again, interacting with them and sending them love while you’re talking to them. And then see what happens when you actually get together with them.
 
If this is someone who has done something in the past to hurt you, find my video on Ho’oponopono to understand this process. Suffice it to say, this is an ancient technique from the Hawaiian kahunas, that is incredibly simple, but very powerful. Just think of this person and the situation a bunch of times before the holiday get together and say to yourself over and over:
 
I’m sorry
Please forgive me
I love you 
Thank you
 
This process is incredible and it might just bring you some amazing results. If it does, please let me know.
 
These things I’ve talked about can actually move the energy completely around in your family situation.
  • Lower your expectations
  • Decide to love your family just the way they are  
  • Visualize a happy outcome
  • Ho’oponopono

And these of course, are the best solutions. Changing the way you think and feel about getting together with your family can change how your family get togethers feel. 
And maybe it could actually look and feel like this after all. Wouldn’t that be amazing?

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