Would you like to have a love relationship in your life? Do you sometimes feel frustrated that it’s not happening? Do you tell yourself things like, “All the good ones are taken”?
If so, you need to watch my video.
Many of you know, I got married almost two years ago — let me tell you the story of how I brought in the love of my life.
And next week, I’m going to tell you about how to turn the one you’re with into the love of your life.
As I talk about in my book, it’s all about energy. How do you shift out of the energy of disappointment and fear and back into the energy of Excited Expectation? It’s simple, but it’s not necessarily easy.
Let us help. If there’s something in your life that’s eluding you – like a loving relationship (or satisfying work, or prosperity and abundance), come to Sedona to do a retreat. We’ll identify what’s blocking the energy, move out the blocks and bring you back into connection on all the levels – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. When you’re operating in connection, everything flows to you with grace and ease.
Anne says her Soul Adventure has brought in more “loving relationships”
Today I’m going to talk to you about “How to bring in the love of your life.”
Many of you who get my newsletters and have been following me for a while know that I got married last year. And no one was more surprised than I was, especially when I look back on what happened. Now that I look back, I’m seeing that this was another example of how flipping the switch and knowing that nothing is wrong can bring you your deepest wishes, dreams and desires.
In my other videos, I’ve told you stories of other times in my life where this happened so dramatically. I’ve told you how when I went into this space a number of years ago, that I suddenly released 40 pounds in 5 weeks without dieting or exercising.
I’ve told you about the miracle of when I first came to Sedona over 20 years ago, how every part of my life was such a mess, including that I was $50,000 in debt. After coming to Sedona, I went into a space of surrender and when I flipped that switch, suddenly $50,000 dropped out of the sky. You can find these videos on our YouTube channel.
So today I want to talk about how to bring in the love of your life and in my next video, I’m going to talk about how to turn the person you’re with into the love of your life.
So here’s the secret: it all goes back to learning how to flip the switch.
Let me tell you what I know to be true after 20 years as a divorce attorney and 17 years of doing couples work with Sedona Soul Adventures:
I’ve spoken about the science of all this in my other videos, including the teachings of other Quantum Physics teachers, like Albert Einstein.
If you are wanting to bring a loving relationship into your life, take a look at what you focus on, what do you talk about and think about.
If you are like most people that I come across, my guess is that you say things to yourself like:
“Where is he?”
“Why isn’t she showing up?”
“The good ones are all gone.”
“I’m too old to find someone.”
“I’m too fat to find someone.”
“Men are jerks.”
“Women are mean.”
“I’ll never find a spiritual person.”
“I’m afraid I’m never going to find anyone.”
I certainly understand where all those thoughts come from. I have been married and divorced, I’ve been hurt, I’ve gone out with a lot of frogs and I’ve had negative thoughts come into my head from time to time. I was on Match.com for 8 years after my divorce and I never met one person that I went out with more than once. I don’t even know why I stayed on for so long, except now that I look back, I see why.
It all comes down to this:
Whatever you want to bring into your life (a husband, a wife, a partner, money, healthy body, great job) you have to be a vibrational match for.
Negative emotions, such as fear, anger or frustration keep it away. Excited expectation brings it faster.
So how does this work?
1. You have to get okay with you.
Do you love yourself? I mean really love yourself? Do you think you’re pretty much okay?
If you don’t love you, how can anyone else love you?
2. You need to do whatever it takes to keep you out of fear, anger and frustration, and keep you in the higher vibrational emotions of excited expectation, hope and love.
In my book and in my other videos, I’ve given you lots and lots of processes that will help you with both of these:
Change Your Story, Change Your Life
Anything you can do that will help you flip that switch out of fear and frustration, and back into excited expectation.
Here’s what happened to me…
After my divorce, I realized that I still had deep places of not completely loving myself. The divorce had triggered those insecurities and all kinds of fears around Is there something wrong with me? and Am I loveable?
I was actually kind of stunned that I was still having those kinds of thoughts after all the work I’ve done over the years, but I’ll tell you, it really is about peeling the onion… we keep discovering where these things are.
After I moved through that and did a little bit of dating, I made the decision that I love my life, I love my work, I love my house, I love my friends, why mess any of that up? And the minute I went into that release, out of the blue I met someone who really opened my heart. That relationship didn’t work out, but it did make me realize that I wanted someone in my life again. So I did what I tell everyone else to do:
I made a list of exactly what I wanted – and it included 22 very specific items.
I would meditate and think about how I would feel when I connected with him. I kept myself in a state of Excited Expectation.
I was very strict about the process I call, Change Your Story, Change Your Life, which is one of the processes in my book. I didn’t talk about (or think about) how there’s no one around, or it’s so hard to meet someone or any negative chatter about men (and ladies, when we’re alone, you know how often that happens).
And then in the second half of 2016, I finished my book and it was published. I spent six months of just constant work on the book, so I wasn’t much thinking about anything else. The book came out in October that year and I remember on the day it hit #1, I thought to myself, “Okay, now I’ve got time to meet a guy.”
And literally four weeks later, he found me. On Match. All those years of staying on Match finally paid off. He sent me a sweet message and then I was bummed to find out he lived in California. I had an iron clad rule that I had developed over the past few years that if someone was further away than Phoenix, I wouldn’t even respond because it would always develop into this back and forth that I didn’t want to get into. So even though it felt kind of rude, I just wouldn’t even respond.
But when I got Richard’s first message, I was sitting in LA watching the sunset with my sister, drinking a glass of champagne. I saw his picture and read his profile, where he talked about his work and his spirituality, and showed it to my sister who said, “He’s cute!” I thought to myself, “I’m not going to be rude to this guy.”
So I wrote him back and said, “You look great, but you’re in San Jose.” He immediately wrote back and said, “I know, I saw the seemingly insurmountable distance, but I just wanted to let you know that there’s someone out here who sees who you are and admires what you’re doing in the world.” Because Richard is a total Silicon Valley computer guy and he had very easily figured out who I was – and he had even watched some of my videos – I showed his message to my sister and she said, “Good answer!” The rest is history.
As I look back on this now, I see that I did what I talk about in my book. I figured out what I wanted, but I didn’t drive myself crazy obsessing about it. I kept myself in Excited Expectation, knowing and trusting that what I wanted was on its way.
There’s an old teaching that says, “Whatever you want, wants you.”
You’re having these desires because there’s someone out there who’s desiring you. If you can come into that energy and stay in that energy, everything you want is on its way.
We had a woman come here for a Soul Adventure a number of years ago and she came because she said, “I want to find a husband, it’s time. I want children, I’m running out of time, I’m over 30, I want it and I want it now!”
We all spent a whole bunch of time with her, trying to get her to see this from an energetic standpoint, that the frustration and demands were negative energy that was keeping what she wanted from her. She is an accountant, so she’s very smart and very much in her head, so at first, this didn’t make sense to her and she was really resisting. Even worse, she had a lot of “I’m not okay” issues from her childhood, so we were also trying to help her with that and she was having trouble seeing how that was related.
I was starting to be a little concerned that we weren’t going to be able to help her and then suddenly, in one of her final sessions, she was doing a meditation out on the land and her Higher Self suddenly came in in such a way that she felt totally healed. She was filled with love for herself and everyone else.
She told me later that she literally felt the frustration and her demands that this happen now, just melt away. She said it was so funny that she came here wanting to figure out how to make a man come into her life and she was leaving with that obsession just released.
So of course you know what happened next. On the plane home, she met the most interesting, attractive man who was totally interested in the amazing spiritual adventure she had just had. They lived in two different cities and had a long distance relationship for a while, married the next year and now they have two children! When we release the obsession and just stay in the higher energies of excited expectation, that’s where the magic happens.
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You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.