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How to Have a Personal Breakthrough Just by Breathing

I discovered Breath Journeys in 1991. It is one of the most powerful processes I have ever done and I continue to use it to this day. It is a huge part of the retreats that we do here at Sedona Soul Adventures because people have such huge awakenings when they do it.

But did you know that a psychiatrist in the United States was part of developing the connected breathing process because he was trying to replicate the incredible, spiritual experiences his patients had with LSD before it became illegal? Watch my video, I think you’ll find it fascinating.

    In these series of videos, I’m talking about concepts from my book

    “The Journey to Happy– How Embracing the Concept that Nothing is wrong can transform your life”…

    Processes that can help you feel a lot happier right away and help you to flip the switch into a better feeling state.

    In the last video, I spoke about how doing 5 minutes of deep breathing every day, and doing deep breathing throughout the day, can really make a difference in your life.

    Today, I want to tell you about a very special kind of breath that has literally changed my life and changed the lives of thousands of people.

    It’s a form of breath that I call Inner Journey Breath. You might find similar methods that are called Rebirthing, Connected Breath or Holotropic Breathwork, all of these are somewhat similar.

    It’s a process where you do connected breathing, meaning there is no stopping between the inhale and exhale and what happens when you do this is you do not hyperventilate. Instead, if the process is done correctly, you can literally go into an altered state of consciousness. 

    I first found this in 1989, but the process that I first found was called Rebirthing. These processes were pioneered and developed by Leonard Orr and Sondra Ray for Rebirthing and Stanislav Grof, who is a psychiatrist. Grof had used LSD with his clients when it was still legal and his clients had incredible, transformation experiences going into these altered states.

    One of the people who used LSD in this way was Cary Grant, of all people, and he talks about how life changing it was for him. After LSD was outlawed, Grof believed there had to be a way to replicate the experience and he started studying the Vedas and other texts, and learned about the yogis in India who were able to do such incredible things with their breath. When he did this with his patients, they had absolutely remarkable experiences.

    So… What happens? It’s different for everyone.

    In over 25 years that I’ve been doing breathwork, I’ve experienced:

    • Seeing visions
    • Release of emotional pain
    • Release of energetic blocks
    • Release of birth trauma
    • Release of physical pain
    • Connection with my High Self
    • Connection with my Angels & Guides
    • Connection with souls who have crossed over
    • Receive information on problems and situations
    • Sense of peace
    • Enormous gratitude
    • Deep knowing that All is Well and Nothing Is Wrong

    Over the past 16 years, we have developed a process here at Sedona Soul Adventures that we call Inner Journey with Breath. It’s a very important process that we do with almost everyone who comes here to do a Soul Adventure because it’s so incredibly powerful.

    We have had so many people over the years who have had such incredible experiences because for many of them, it is the first time in their lives that they have truly experienced the Divine – feeling like God is truly with them and part of them, and truly experienced their own Divine nature.

    We had a medical doctor here a number of years ago and her breath journey was just out of this world! She saw visions, she actually communicated with her mother who had crossed over, and then she saw and felt and truly experienced the perfection that was her. She went home and told her other doctor friends about what had happened and they all said, “They must have given you a drug, did you drink anything during the session?” And she said yes, she drank water and they said, “Yes! They must have slipped LSD into your water.” Which, of course, we did not do.

    Another woman got finished with her breath journey and at the end as she was talking about her experience, she said “I felt like I levitated.” Her practitioner teased her a little and said, “Yes, you were about 3 ft off the ground,” and she said, “I knew it!” She really felt that she had levitated.

    Another person when she got done, lifted up the mat she was lying on and said where is the electrical cord that made the mat vibrate so much. She was vibrating so much that she was sure that there must have been electricity making it happen.

    But for me, the most wonderful occurrences are those when people really experience that highest part of themselves, and when they really experience the Divine on all levels – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

    Have you ever had an experience like that? There really aren’t words to describe it.

    I first discovered this back in 1989 at a really low time in my life. I had recently gotten divorced, I had jumped immediately into another relationship that was disastrous, I was working way too hard… but the biggest thing I suddenly discovered was my Co-dependency. One of my good friends actually staged an intervention and I entered a 12-step Co-dependency treatment program. It was an outpatient program that was supposed to go for 4 weeks, but at the end of 4 weeks they decided I needed to do at least 6.

    It helped me a lot ,but at the end of the 6 weeks I just felt terrible. They kept telling us “you will always be like this” and that was just really depressing. I decided to treat myself to a massage with a new therapist I had heard about. I went for the massage and told her what had been going on with me and it turned out she was actually a Rebirthing practitioner. I did one session with her…I went into the altered state, I experienced the Divine and my own perfection, and I can hardly describe the Joy and Love that was just suddenly gushing through me.

    Back then, it was felt that you needed to do the process once per week for 10 weeks with a certified practitioner – and I did that with her. Every week my joy and happiness was just increasing exponentially.

    One of the after care things I was doing from my Co-dependency treatment was to go to meetings each week of Adult Children of Alcoholics. Every week we would each go around the circle talking about how we were doing and everyone every week had the same old stories, the same struggles and the same difficulties.

    After the very first breathwork, I described my experience and then the next week I talked about it again. After the third week of gushing about all the love, joy and happiness I was feeling, the person next to me said, “Well, I’m not feeling as good as DEBRA is,” and after the next week, I realized I just couldn’t go back there again. Everyone else was still stuck; none of them were interested in even trying the breathwork, they were just interested in staying stuck. Which was fine, it’s a free country, everybody gets to be just as miserable as they want.

    But I had found what seemed to me to be the path to everything I was looking for and that was over 25 years ago. I still do breathwork regularly, in fact I just did it again a few weeks ago. It’s amazing to me how different it is every single time.

    But the best part is that this has become a cornerstone of the work that we do here at Sedona Soul Adventures. People have such incredible experiences and then we teach them how to continue to do it at home. I love it so much when someone emails me and tells me about an amazing experience they’ve had.

    Don’t start doing this on your own. A breath journey is not something that you should do on your own. It’s not like the yogic breath or the breath of fire that many people are familiar with in yoga. It’s a connected breath and one that is designed to take you into an altered state, so doing it alone when you do it for the first time, is never recommended. In fact, Dr. Grof believes no one should ever do it alone because so many people have abandonment issues that come up, that when they come out of the altered state and they’re alone, that can be traumatic.

    The most important is to do the process with someone who is specially trained in doing this process. If you want to find someone in your area, try searching “Breathwork practitioner” on Google and hopefully you can find someone.

    Or even better, come to Sedona and experience the Breath Journey as part of your Soul Adventures. We have so many fantastic breathwork practitioners, they will lead you on an incredible journey.

    I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.

    And if you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

    Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.

    You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

    You Don’t Have to be “Perfect” All the Time – Here’s What to do Instead…

    How are your New Year’s resolutions going? If you’re like 82% of Americans, you’ve already broken them, but no worries!

    Watch my new video on “How to Use the 51% Rule,” because it’s all about how you don’t have to be “perfect” all the time to have a fabulous, amazing, rewarding life. Isn’t that a relief?

    And I think you’ll love the simple things you can do to “stay in the 51%.” Have a listen.

      Today I want to talk to you about the 51% Rule.

      When I first started on my spiritual path, one of the things that I was lucky enough to figure out was what I call, the 51% Rule. Simply stated, the 51% Rule acknowledges that, with all this stuff you’re trying to do and this energy you’re trying to move, if you just stay on the path of your Journey to Happy at least 51% of the time, you’re going to have an amazing, incredible life.

      You don’t have to be perfect. Sometimes you’ll be at 60%, other times at 20% – because you’re human. But, as you learn to stay in the energy of Excited Expectation a majority of the time, you’ll hit the tipping point and be over the edge.

      And when that happens, you’ll have momentum on your side.

      For many people, when they first start out on their spiritual path, sometimes they think, “Oh, this is going to take forever, and I’ll never be able to do all this all the time.”

      And that’s right. You won’t be able to do all this all the time.

      But here’s the good news. So much of all this is about taking yourself off the hook. You don’t have to be perfect all the time.

      And remember, Nothing is Wrong if you aren’t perfect all the time.

      If you can hold yourself in the place of feeling good at least 51% of the time, your life will start to transform dramatically. And the best part is, the percentages even out — meaning that there will be times you will be feeling at 65%, sometimes even at 85%, so even if you mainly stay in the 51-55%, you will start maintaining that vibration of wonderful, juicy, delicious joy!

      The trick is to not dip back into the 49% very often. So have an arsenal of things ready to do when you start to feel yourself go into that dip. Things that kind of automatically make you feel good, or at least a little better. Things that can flip the switch into a better feeling state. That’s all it takes, just feeling a little better. Don’t expect (or demand) that you must go into total bliss and joy, just do something, ANYTHING to make yourself feel a little better.

      Here are some things that work for me:

      • What are you grateful for? Writing down a list of things I’m grateful for and thinking about each thing. This is actually one of the Stepping Stones I talk about my the book, keeping a Gratitude Journal.
      • Pet your dog or cat. Petting my dog and feeling a huge surge of love for her always makes me feel great.
      • Listen to music. Listening to certain songs that just always make me feel better. The old Johnny Nash song, “I Can See Clearly Now” does it for me every time
      • Watch movies (or something else guaranteed to make you laugh). If I’m at home, there are certain movies that just crack me up and I’ll put them on and fast forward to the scenes that make me laugh out loud.
      • Watch YouTube Videos. There are some videos on YouTube (usually involving babies, cats, or dogs doing something funny) that make me laugh and start to feel better.
      • Meditate. Sometimes meditating (particularly a guided meditation) can make me feel great, but if I find my mind going a mile-a-minute, I stop the meditation and move onto something else (like music). If it’s not making you feel a little better right away, try something else. That’s why I recommend having an arsenal of different tactics.
      • Go outside. Going outside in the sunshine and appreciating the beauty of the sun (or the stars) and how incredible and big life is, always helps me.
      • Get moving. Dancing and really moving (I recommend being alone for this!). What does the bumper sticker say? Dance as if no one is watching. That really moves the energy!

      What are things that work for you? Have an arsenal of things that you can use to keep you in the feel good energy most of the time.

      And remember, take yourself off the hook. You don’t have to be perfect 100% of the time, you just have to get to 51% and stay there most of the time. That’s the Journey to Happy.

      I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.

      And if you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

      Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.

      You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

      How to Have a Kick-Ass New Year!

      HAPPY NEW YEAR!

      Please take just 7 minutes to watch my video, because if you follow these simple steps, you truly will have a Kick-Ass New Year!

      And that’s my prayer for you — that you have a happy, exciting, fulfilling New Year with everything coming to you that you want. If that doesn’t quite seem possible to you right now, then you need to do something about that. Because if you don’t believe you can have everything you want, then you can’t — it’s as simple as that!

      And if you don’t know what you want — same thing. If you don’t know what you want, you can’t get it.

        Okay, I know that we all say this each and every year, but really, I just can’t believe that 2018 is over and I really can’t believe how quickly it all went. With everything that has happened this year, it just feels like everything is speeding up to a level that we almost can’t even fathom. And the reason it feels like that is because that’s exactly what’s happening.

        Everything is speeding up.

        But here’s the thing – most people seem to talk about that as if it’s a bad thing. I want to talk to you today about how not only is that not a bad thing, it’s a good thing and here are some ways that you can take advantage of everything speeding up.

        There are all kinds of scientific explanations of things that are going on right now, including an increase in the Earth’s frequency, called the Schuman Resonance. I’m not going to go into all the scientific stuff, I just want to talk about that feeling that most of us have, that everything is speeding up and going faster, is true. We experience it all the time with our technology, but we also just experience it in our lives, most notably with how quickly time seems to be passing.

        I want to encourage you to use this energy for yourself for this New Year, to harness it and utilize it. Instead of resisting it, use it. Befriend it.  

        So, how can you do that? The first way is to get clear on what you want.

        I’m not talking about regular New Year’s Resolutions, which are usually too unspecific, too grandiose and not realistic. 

        I’m talking about Realistic Attainable Measurable Goals. Start by going through all of the important areas of your life:

        1. Body
        2. Work
        3. Relationships
        4. Money

        Get laser-focused on what you want this year. Work on all of these if you’d like, or maybe just take one or two to work on – that increases the likelihood of success. Really focus – that’s what will make all the difference.

        After you have gotten laser-focused on exactly what you want to accomplish, then write this down somewhere where you will see it every day, so you can keep feeding it into your subconscious. Studies have shown that just by writing it down, you increase the likelihood of it happening by 50%… 50% just by writing it down!

        Next, develop your game plan. What do you need to do on a monthly, weekly and daily basis to make this happen?

        Some goals lend themselves better than others to this. But for example, if you want to write a book by the end of the year, you’re going to need to write X number of chapters each month to make that happen.

        So, develop your game plan and then break it down into monthly, weekly and daily chunks.

        Finally, and here is my favorite part – the part that I think is the most important one and the one that I know will give you the most bang for your buck: Spend three minutes each day Meditating about these things, Fantasizing about these things and Feeling and Knowing that they are happening.

        Here’s the best way to do this:

        Set the timer on your smartphone for 3 minutes. Doing it for only 3 minutes will help insure you do this every day. And setting it on your timer will stop you from thinking about how much time is left.

        Close your eyes and put your hand over your heart with the intention of bringing in Heart Coherence. It’s not necessary for you to completely understand what that means and I’ll be talking about it in a later video, so for now, just set that intention.  

        Start breathing deeply into your heart. Think of something or feel something that makes you feel good.

        Feel gratitude. Feel love for someone. Think about your dog or your cat – that always works for me.

        Just do something briefly that is going to bring you into a peaceful, easy feeling.

        Now start thinking about the things you want to have happen and start fantasizing about these things, and feeling and knowing that they are in the process of happening. See the energy, this faster, higher vibration energy that is speeding up everything on the planet right now, and see it feeding these goals and desires. See it amp them up as they come to you faster.

        Next, see yourself as if these things have already happened. What do you look like? How do you talk? How does your body move? Feel the excitement that you’ll feel as they start to come true. Feel the gratitude that you’ll feel as they start to come true.

        Ask yourself the question “What do I need to know right now?” Breathe and listen to the answers.  

        Just as the timer goes off, take a final deep breath and feel the knowing, the absolute knowing that this is happening. Open your eyes and write down any answers, thoughts or ideas that came to you.  

        Consistency is the Key. If you do this consistently, and I mean every day, I think you will be amazed at what will happen.

        Because you are being focused and you’re energizing your goals and desires with this speeded up energy that is on the planet right now. And even better, you’re utilizing that energy to bring your goals and desires to you even more quickly.

        So that’s my New Year gift for you. I hope you’ll do it and I’d love to hear your success stories as they happen.

        I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.

        And if you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

        Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.

        You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

        Why You Should Watch “It’s A Wonderful Life” this Christmas

        Merry Christmas! Wow! Here it is again!

        Watching the movie “It’s A Wonderful Life” is one of my holiday traditions. Watch my  5-minute video to find out why… and why I firmly believe you should watch it too.

        It’s all about second chances.

          It’s Christmas and one of the Christmas traditions that I’ve had for many years is to watch the movie “It’s a Wonderful Life” each year. If you don’t do that, or especially if you’ve never seen the movie, you have to see it and I hope you’ll watch it again. There are 2 reasons why I want you to watch it or watch it again… 

          Because it will make you feel good. It will fill you with Christmas cheer. It will make you laugh and it will make you cry, but mainly it will just make you feel good and that’s what all of this is all about. 
           
          But here’s the other reason why I want you to watch it – it’s because of the backstory and of what happened with the movie and why it’s such a wonderful story about second chances. 
           
          The movie came out in 1946, the year after the end of the second World War. It stars Jimmy Stewart, a very famous Hollywood actor and he was just back from serving as a pilot in the war. It was directed by Frank Capra, a very famous Hollywood director who also served in World War II. 
           
          It’s the story of George Bailey, a small town boy who has dreams of traveling the world, but when his father dies unexpectedly, he has to take over the family business, a savings and loan company that makes home loans for people who don’t have a lot of money. 

          He falls in love, gets married and has children, but he always feels he never really got to live the life he wanted. Then his uncle loses some of the savings and loan money, and George is faced with ruin.

          It’s so seriously awful that he’s thinking about suicide, he’s about to jump off a bridge, when an angel is sent down from heaven to help him. The angel jumps in first and George saves him, and then the angel shows George how life in their small town would have been without him.

          George sees the incredible impact he’s had on the lives of so many people and he truly appreciates all the love he has in his life. His life is saved but even more than that, it’s completely renewed. He has a second chance at his life. 
           
          The movie came out and it was a flop. It got mixed reviews and very little box office time. It went into that place of the forgotten movie. And then a weird thing happened – the copyright lapsed and the movie went into the public domain. That meant television stations could show it, at no cost. Suddenly this once-forgotten movie started to be shown every year at Christmas and for many people, myself included, it’s a Christmas tradition each and every year. 
           
          Both Jimmy Steward and Frank Capra always said it was their favorite film they had ever made. 
           
          So just like George Bailey in the story, the movie got its own second chance and is now a beloved classic. 
           
          Isn’t that amazing? Isn’t it a wonderful Christmas story to know that even if we’re in the pit of despair like George was, we can have a second chance?

          All it takes it to look around and appreciate what we have, to recognize the love that we have in our lives. 
           
          So please, watch the movie, feel the love and I hope you have a very merry and joy-filled Christmas. 

          I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.

          And if you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

          Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.

          You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

          How Deep Breathing Can Make You Happier

          You’re going to be amazed at the incredible benefits that can happen for you, simply by doing 5 minutes of deep breathing every day. Watch my 7 minute video.

          Especially at this busy time of year, taking some deep breaths can help enormously!

            In these series of videos I’m talking about concepts from my book “The Journey to Happy — How Embracing the Concept that Nothing is wrong can transform your life.”

            I hope you’ve been following along with these videos about the concept of Nothing is Wrong, because that will make all this make a lot more sense.

            I’m talking to you here about a Radical way to start living your life. A way that can make you happier than you ever felt possible.

            It’s the concept of living your life from the knowing and understanding that Nothing Is Wrong.

            To recap…

            It’s not what’s happening to us that is causing most of the problems in our lives, it’s our reactions and responses to what’s happening.

            How you’re thinking about it.
            How you’re talking about it.
            How you’re feeling about it.

            What  I’ve found is that the more I drop my resistance, the more I am able to go with the flow, the happier I am and the more things have happened that are almost miraculous.

            It’s a shift out of the energy of Everything is Wrong and into the energy of Nothing is Wrong that changed everything in my life.

            The question is, how can you do that? How can you flip that switch?

            In these videos I’ve been giving you lots of processes about how to flip that switch and today I’m giving you another one — Deep Breathing.

            If you try this, I think you’re going to be shocked at what it can do for you.

            I’m going to be talking to you about 2 ways of doing this:

            The first is to start each day with 5 minutes of deep breathing.

            Studies have shown so many benefits for breathing deeply, including reducing anxiety and stress.

            If you are one of those people who feels worried or anxious, or you get angry easily, doing deep breathing can really help.

            When we take short, shallow breaths, we’re triggering the fight or flight mechanism that’s wired in our brains, and our body thinks there is danger near. But when we are taking slow, deep breaths that signals the body that you are in relaxation mode, what some people call the Relaxation Response. This puts you at ease and reduces the anxiety that you feel.

            And then the long exhalation connects with your nervous system and tells it to calm down.

            At the same time, deep breathing slows your heart rate. When you do the deep breathing, you pump more oxygen into your cells. This lowers your heart rate and blood pressure, and improves circulation.

            The ultimate result is more energy to complete the tasks you are doing, while simultaneously lowering your heart rate and helping you to calm down.

            And again, at the same time, deep breathing improves your energy level. As I said, when you do the deep breathing, you pump more oxygen into your cells. With more oxygen you have more energy.

            Our modern world is really hard on our body, especially our lungs. Air pollution, smoking, all kinds of things can lead to lung problems. With the deep breathing, it forces oxygen into the deepest parts of your lungs and breaks up particles and residue that may be there… cleansing the lungs and possibly preventing you from getting sick as often as you normally might.

            Deep breathing can also help improve lung capacity and performance.

            What I recommend is spending 5 minutes each day doing Deep Breathing.

            Just sit quietly, relax, and set the timer on your smartphone for 5 minutes, so that you won’t be thinking “is the 5 minutes up yet?” Just breathe deeply for 5 minutes. It might help to really visualize your lungs filling up with air and being cleansed.

            Feel the relaxation that happens almost automatically. I hesitate to call this a meditation because so many people react to that word, but if you do this consistently, you will go into a meditative state, meaning a state where you feel happy, relaxed and alert. Isn’t that great?  

            If you start to actually go into an altered state, meaning you feel really light headed and you feel like your consciousness is changing, stop breathing so deeply – we’re going to talk about that next time, because that’s a whole other area of breath that is incredible.

            Do 5 minutes of Deep Breathing every day and you will start to see incredible changes in your life.

            In addition to doing 5 minutes each day…

            The second part is to do deep breathing when you start to feel stressed, angry, anxious or low energy.

            All of the things we talked about will be helped immensely if, during the day, you do a little bit of deep breathing. I know for me, it helps me so much when I start to get upset, to just stop and take a deep breath.

            If you watched the video on the Enneagram, you know I’m an 8, the Aggressor, so I’m wired to get angry. And I mean, sometimes I can just go from 0 to 60 in a snap! And if I say something or decide something when I’m angry and upset, that just doesn’t help anybody.

            When I get triggered, and you can feel it, can’t you, that feeling that’s somewhere in you, you can feel it and if you start noticing it just a little, and take just a nano-second to STOP, take a deep breath – and maybe another one – and sometimes I’ll invite the other person to take a deep breath with me… then I can slow down, calm down and not say or do something that I’m going to regret.

            Try it and let me know how you do.

            I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.

            And if you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

            Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.

            You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

            Stop! Don’t Have That Affair!

            If you’ve been with me for a while, you know that I was a divorce attorney for over 20 years in Omaha, Nebraska. Now, and for the past 16 years, I’ve been working with couples to help them stay together and have fantastic relationships.

            In all these years of working with couples, I can tell you that the most destructive (but easiest to avoid) problem is cheating. It can ruin everything and it can be almost impossible to come back from.

            Watch my 6 minute video – it might change your life and save your relationship.

            If this issue has been haunting you, I first want to say that I’m so sorry. I’m so sorry for your pain, hurt and anguish. But I also want to tell you that there’s hope. I know it. I’ve seen it. I’ve seen the healing take place and people come out the other end.

            We’re all human. We all make mistakes, and sometimes the mistakes are more vicious and horrendous than we think we can bear, but you can bear it. You can make it through it.

            If your partner has cheated, you’re at a crossroads. You need to decide what you are going to do. I urge you to get help with this. This is one of the most critical times in your life, and the decisions that you make now will be affecting you (and your family) for the rest of your life.

            What do you truly want? What do you need? Now is the time to really be looking for your own healing as well as the healing of the relationship.

            Certainly, a retreat (where you immerse yourself in your healing) is the best choice. What makes our retreats so unique and special is that they are customized for each couple and the sessions are all private, not in groups.

            We spend a lot of time talking to each of you separately before you come to Sedona to uncover all of the issues that need to be healed. We then custom design the retreat for exactly what the two of you need.

            During your retreat, you’ll work in private one-on-one (or two-on-one) sessions. We have over 40 practitioners, many of whom have over 20 years of experience working with couples.

            The privacy of the sessions is so key. Many people don’t feel comfortable in a group setting and they don’t want to talk about their most private issues in front of a bunch of strangers.

            There is also a strange dynamic that can sometimes happen in group settings where the group seems to “take the side” of one person, identifying one as the “good guy” and the other as the “bad guy,” and the other person can feel ganged up on. That doesn’t help the healing!

            The privacy of the one-on-one sessions and the skills of our practitioners truly create a space where both parties feel safe.

            We have helped hundreds and hundreds of people come through this difficult time and come out the other side. Give us a call, we can help. Or click below to speak with one of our Retreat Guides:

              If you’ve been with me for a while, then you know that I was a divorce attorney for 20 years in Omaha, Nebraska.  

              And since 2002, I’ve had Sedona Soul Adventures where we work with individuals and couples, and many of the couples we work with are on the verge of divorce.

              So I’ve been working with couples since 1979 and I can tell you that one of the most destructive things that can happen to a relationship is infidelity. I’m sure that sounds pretty obvious, but I think in our world today, I don’t hear very many people saying what I’m going to say to you today, which is: Stop! Don’t have that affair.

              When I was a divorce attorney that was an all too common theme, and now with Sedona Soul Adventures, it’s something that we see over and over again, and if this is something that is happening in your life, I want to ask you to stop and really think about what you’re doing.

              You really need to know that once an affair happens, nothing will ever be the same again. Are you willing to risk your entire life for this, because that’s what happens. You’re risking Your marriage. Your children. Your peace of mind.

              You’re even risking your Financial well-being because divorce and its aftermath are very expensive.

              But the biggest thing you’re risking is the trust that you have with your partner. And once that trust is broken, it’s really difficult to put it back together.

              We had a couple here a few weeks ago who were here as a result of the wife having had an affair 10 years ago. 10 years ago! They had done a lot of therapy, but they just could never get past this. She hadn’t been unfaithful again for 10 years, but that wasn’t enough. Once that trust is broken, it’s just so difficult.

              When they came to us, we were their last ditch attempt at saving their marriage. In fact, he had already moved out and filed divorce papers. What we discovered really surprised us and them. We figured out that the problem here was about control. I’ll call them Linda and Mike, but that’s not their real names. Linda grew up in a family where her father was in the military, so he was very rigid and controlling. She was looking for a way to get out from under all that control, found Mike when they were both 19, she got pregnant and they both felt they had to get married.

              Not surprisingly, it turned out that Mike was even more controlling than her father. And Mike admitted that not only was he controlling, but he was also very critical of her. Ten years into the marriage, after all the controlling and criticism, she had an affair. They could both see that this wasn’t the result of her not loving Mike, it had to do with her trying to finally break free from all the control and all the criticism she had had her entire life. When Mike got that, it just shifted everything. He was able to finally forgive her and even more importantly, she was finally able to forgive herself.  

              After their final session, they decided they wanted to do a recommitment ceremony. We did that with them on Oak Creek, it was so beautiful and we all talked about how incredible it was that just the week before Mike had filed for divorce.

              Their marriage was saved but look at all the years of pain and suffering they both endured. Don’t do that. Don’t do it to your family. Don’t do it to yourself.

              I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.

              And if you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

              Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.

              You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

              Is your body hurting?

              One of the hardest things to do in life is to deal with physical pain. But there are things you can do that can make a huge difference, in conjunction with what you are doing already. Listen to my 10 minute video:

              In this video, I talk about Louise Hay and Norman Cousins, who prescribe using forgiveness, love, and laughter (and both lived 30-40 years after their initial fatal diagnoses).

              If you think that might be the right prescription for you, come to Sedona to do a retreat. We’ll speak with you, digging deep. Then we’ll custom design a retreat to bring you into the vibration where healing can take place.

              During your retreat, you’ll work one-on-one with the Master Practitioners of Sedona (we have over 50!), who will take you from where you are to where you want to be.

              We’re not a medical facility, but we are great at dealing with the emotional and spiritual underpinnings that I believe are involved in much pain and illness. Call us today at (928) 204-5988 or click below and we’ll call you:

                In the last video I spoke with you about how when I finally “got it,” that there was nothing wrong with my body, I dropped 40 pounds in less than 5 weeks without diet or exercise – and that was over 10 years ago. If you didn’t see that video, go look for it, because that is so completely powerful and I want you to have it.

                Today I want to talk to you about using these same principles for your body if you have pain or illness, because these principles have worked for so many people. Because when you can figure out how to flip that switch, the results can be almost unbelievable.

                Please understand that I’m NOT saying don’t go to the doctor and stay home and just try to feel good. What I am talking about here is you doing whatever is necessary to start shifting how you’re feeling about it, how you’re talking about it, and how you’re thinking about it.

                Let’s talk again about why these principles work.

                Everything is energy. Quantum Physics has proven that everything is energy.

                You are creating your reality in every moment (whether you believe it or not).

                You are sending out energy and vibrations in every moment.

                Thoughts are things. Quantum Physics is proving that even focusing your attention on something changes it.

                When we think about something, we get more of it.
                If we’re worried about something, we bring it faster.
                If we’re excited about something, we bring it faster.

                What we fight gets bigger and bigger because we are pouring more and more energy into whatever it is that we are fighting.

                What we resist persists.

                So I’m talking to you here about how to start doing things to drop your resistance.

                There are many people who have had significant decreases in their symptoms by utilizing these principles. Norman Cousins, who wrote the book “Anatomy of an Illness,” was diagnosed with serious heart disease and a rare form of arthritis that was incredibly painful. He was told by his doctors that he realistically had only one year to live. As he documents in his book (which was also made into a movie starring Ed Asner), he went on a regimen of massive doses of Vitamin C and what he called a “Prescription of positive attitude, love, faith, hope, and laughter” by watching Marx Brothers movies. 

                In his book he said, “I made the joyous discovery that ten minutes of genuine belly laughter had an anesthetic effect and would give me at least two hours of pain-free sleep.”

                He lived to be 75 years old­­ – 36 years beyond his first deadly diagnosis!

                Louise Hay, who wrote “You Can Heal Your Life” and “Heal Your Body,” was diagnosed in 1978 with cervical cancer, which she was told was incurable and terminal. She believed her cancer was the result of the anger and resentment she was holding from being physically abused by her stepfather and raped when she was only 15. She became pregnant from the rape and was forced to give up her baby daughter at age 16.

                She went on a regimen of forgiveness and she lived another 40 years after being told her cancer was terminal. She passed away last year at the age of 90. She believed from her own experience that “All disease comes from a state of unforgiveness.”

                In “Heal Your Body” she says, “I find that when we really love and accept and approve of ourselves exactly as we are, then everything in life works.”

                This is exactly what I’m talking about. I believe that when we hate what’s going on with our bodies, we just add to the energy of what we hate and as Quantum Physics has shown us, it gets bigger and bigger. I know it’s true for weight, where we literally get bigger and bigger… that’s exactly what happened for me, when I hated my body, it just got bigger and bigger. When I started really loving my body, that’s when everything shifted for me. 

                I had a woman who went on the Egypt trip with me many years ago. I didn’t realize it at the time, she didn’t tell me about it, but she had been diagnosed with a very aggressive form of breast cancer and she was scheduled to have surgery right after we got back from the trip. While we were on the trip, we were talking about these principles, but again, she didn’t tell me what was going on with her.

                When our group had our special private time in the Great Pyramid, in the Queen’s Chamber, we did a special ceremony of releasing. She told me later that she just released everything up to God. She stopped asking to be cured, she released her fear, she released the anger and judgment that had consumed her. She said she felt this peace just settle over her and she also felt a tingling in her breast.

                When we got back she went to the doctor for her pre-op exam and they couldn’t find the lump. They did an x-ray, and this mass that had been the size of a golf ball was gone. She told the doctor what had happened in the Great Pyramid and of course, he said that couldn’t possibly be what had happened and he said her previous x-rays must have been incorrect. But she had had 3 sets of x-rays, she and the doctor and nurses had all felt the lump. He didn’t want to believe it, but she certainly knew what had happened. The best part was, she was 82 years old when all this happened and she lived another 10 years.

                Louise Hay also said, “Every thought we think is creating our future.”

                If that’s true, and I believe it is, then what thoughts are you thinking?

                Use some of the other processes that I’ve given you in these videos, like “Change Your Story, Change Your Life.”

                Stop talking about this pain or illness that you hate, and start loving your body.

                Watch the video on Affirmations again. Louise Hay was a huge believer in affirmations, in fact, her books contain specific affirmations for specific illnesses.

                She was also a big believer in Meditation.

                Again, I’m not saying to only do affirmations and meditation and hope that this New Age stuff will work. Do everything: go to your doctor, take your medications, eat right, do everything you possibly can to feel better, that’s what it’s all about.

                Louise Hay also said, “Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.”

                Are you ready for a miracle? If you’re ready for one, that’s the energy that can allow it to come in.

                I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.

                And if you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

                Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.

                You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

                The Easiest (and Only Way) to Lose Weight

                Well, it’s the Sunday after Thanksgiving, have you come out of your carb coma yet? Before I unlocked the secrets I talk about in this video, I hated holidays because it was so terrible for my yo-yo dieting.

                I would diet and lose weight before the holidays and then during the holidays I would let myself eat and drink, and I would always gain it all back… and more. Sound familiar?

                I sometimes still can’t believe I looked like this when I first started coming to Sedona.

                Watch this video to hear about how I dropped 40 pounds in 5 weeks without diet or exercise. Learning how to love your body and dropping the resistance is truly the only diet that works!

                I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please like, share the video and subscribe to our channel.

                  Lately, I’ve been talking to you in my videos about a way of living your life, a way of being that can transform every area of your life, the concept of approaching everything from the knowing and the energy that Nothing is Wrong. And there’s almost no place where you can have more dramatic shifts with this than with your body, especially with weight. This area of my life was the one that took me so long to figure out and I spent so much time, energy, money, and heartache over hating my body – not so much hating it, as wanting it to be different.

                  I struggled with my weight my entire life. This is how I looked in 1999 when I first started coming to Sedona. But when I finally really got this – when I got it that nothing is wrong with my body, when I figured out how to flip that switch — I released over 40 pounds in less than 5 weeks without diet or exercise, and that was almost 10 years ago. 

                  My struggles with weight started very young. I was a dancer starting from the age of 3. I never had a dancer’s body, I was never tall and thin, and I have a very vivid memory of my body being criticized when I was 8 years old. I was put on my first diet when I was 12, even though when I look at pictures of myself back then, I wasn’t fat. In high school, my hormones started really kicking in, my father’s alcoholism really started kicking in, and I can see now that I was doing a lot of emotional eating. I gained 10 pounds in high school and I was on that yo-yo constantly after that.

                  I have done everything – I’ve done every diet out there, I’ve gone vegan, I’ve gone raw, I’ve done Weight Watchers, NutriSystem, the Stillman Diet, the Dolly Parton Diet, the grape diet, I’ve bought every piece of exercise equipment, sold it and bought more. I’ve had personal trainers, I’ve had times in my life where I worked out every single day. I always would lose weight as long as I was starving myself and exercising like a maniac, but then the minute I would even think about eating “regular” food again, I would gain it all back and more. Does that sound familiar?

                  Everything changed about 10 years ago. I was in the process of trying to really incorporate all these ideas that I’m talking to you about. I believed them in my head, but that wasn’t really enough. And then something happened, that really changed my life. I got into an argument with my then husband, I went home, started crying, got into bed, my body started vibrating to the point where I could not move… and as I laid there, I suddenly heard this voice in my head saying over and over again “there’s nothing wrong with you, there’s nothing wrong with you, there’s nothing wrong with you,” and then it was showing me how in every area of my life, that Nothing is Wrong and the first thing that I was being shown is that there is Nothing Wrong with my body, which at that point was pretty hard to swallow (pardon the pun), because I was 40 pounds overweight. I looked like that picture I showed you.

                  I was suddenly just filled with this knowing that there was nothing wrong with my body and that the problem was my resistance to everything. I got out of bed and I made the decision, “I’m done.” “I’m just going to stop.” I was on a diet at the time and I just made the decision “I’m done.” This has to stop. The obsession had to stop. I threw up my hands. I gave in. I surrendered. I decided to stop all dieting, stop thinking about food all of the time, and stop the obsessive exercising.

                  And I started eating what I wanted. I would check in with my body, and I would eat whatever I felt like eating. Sometimes that would be something that other people would define as “healthy,” like a green smoothie. Sometimes it would be an In ‘n Out cheeseburger and, of course, fries and a chocolate shake! I started to find that it seemed like I was fuller faster. I ate until I wasn’t hungry and very often left food on my plate because I was satisfied.

                  I stopped the crazy exercising. I did still go on hikes with my dog, but that was because I just loved being out in nature in Sedona, and I loved hiking with my dog.

                  Suddenly, 5 weeks later I went shopping for jeans and went for a size 14 — and they were way too big. At first I thought it was the brand. To my utter amazement, I was a size 6!

                  I went home and weighed myself and saw that I had dropped 40 pounds.

                  The key is Loving Your Body.

                  Not wanting so desperately for your body to be different.

                  It’s such a paradox. The minute I stopped going crazy about everything is when everything shifted.

                  So let’s recap what we know so far from the other videos

                  Everything is energy.

                  You are creating your reality in every moment (whether you believe it or not).

                  You are sending out energy and vibrations in every moment.

                  Thoughts are things. Quantum Physics is proving that even focusing attention on something changes it.

                  When we think about something, we get more of it.

                  If we’re worried about something, we bring it faster.

                  If we’re excited about something, we bring it faster.

                  What we resist persists.

                  What we fight gets bigger and bigger because we are pouring more and more energy into whatever it is that we are fighting.

                  Our physical bodies are the most perfect and precise examples of this energy in action.

                  So let’s talk about what you can start doing right now to move into this shift, to flip that switch.

                  1. Stop telling yourself that something is wrong with your body. Stop talking about it, stop talking about how fattening food is, and stop discussing it with your friends and everyone else. My God, do you realize how much we talk about how much we hate our bodies and talk about food, and how fattening everything is, and how this is not healthy, and that’s not healthy, and no matter what I do, I can’t lose weight? Stop talking about it! You’re simply reinforcing it and making it more and more difficult. Instead, talk about the things that you like or appreciate about your body.
                  2. Start checking in with your body to discover what it really wants to eat and examine your thoughts about what you are about to eat. If you think that something is going to make you gain weight, then it will. So don’t eat it. If you want to lose weight, then eat something that you think will make you lose weight. You will start to see shifts happen as you do this. It’s quite remarkable, and it starts to become fun to play with it.

                  Start putting yourself in the mindset of feeling good about your body. Stop telling yourself that you hate your body or that you need to lose weight or that you want it to be different. Start actively and consciously loving your body.

                  I hope I’m conveying the power of what can happen when you start loving your body. When I hated my body, I could go on every diet in the world and lose weight, but because I always thought and felt of myself as fat, the weight always came back. When I finally shifted that, everything changed. It can for you too.

                  I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.

                  And If you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

                  Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.

                  You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

                  Some surprising ideas on How to Survive the Holidays

                  Thanksgiving is Thursday – Brace Yourself!

                  I love Thanksgiving and Christmas, but let’s face it — too often, being around our families triggers old wounds and old resentments. And sometimes we’re left feeling hollow and empty, realizing that we can’t even get along at the holidays. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

                  Watch my 8-minute video and let me know if it helps.

                  I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please like, share the video and subscribe to our channel.

                    Let’s face it, surviving the holidays can be a daunting task. 

                    Thanksgiving is this week and then we’ll have Christmas, but what I’m talking about really is true for any kind of holiday or family gathering. It all comes down to:

                    How do you want to feel? 

                    That’s a really important question because most people don’t ask themselves that question ever, about anything, but it’s the one thing you should be asking yourself all the time. 

                    We all want it to be like this. We want to have a happy, harmonious, beautiful loving time with our families, and it’s okay to want that, but how often does that really happen? Regrettably, not very often. 

                    Too often, being around our families triggers old wounds and old resentments, and we’re left feeling hollow and empty realizing that we can’t even get along at the holidays. But it doesn’t have to be that way.  

                    The biggest problem with this image is that it’s a set up for an idealized version of life that for most people, just doesn’t exist. So understand that and take this very important piece of advice:

                    Take you and your family off the hook. Lower your expectations. Stop telling yourself that “this is how it should be.” Stop “Shoulding” all over yourself. Whenever you start using words like “this is how it should be,” that’s when you’re going to have trouble. Lower your expectations and don’t demand that your family has to act in a particular way. 

                    So included in this are things like

                    Don’t talk about politics. Let’s face it, that’s just a recipe for disaster. 

                    Limit your alcohol intake. Do what you can to limit your Drunk Uncle’s imbibing. Things can go off the rails pretty quickly when people have had too much holiday cheer. 

                    What if you simply didn’t go? This is a somewhat radical idea– what if you made the decision to simply not partake at all in the holiday celebration, to simply not go, not participate. Would it maybe be better to not subject your children to your Drunk Uncle and his cutting remarks? Would it be healthier for you to not subject yourself to your mother’s constant criticism?  

                    Before you automatically say no to this, let’s just think about it for a while. If you already know what you’re walking into, why decide to do that? Well, it might start a family fight and you don’t want that to happen, but are there some ways around that? Could you take your mother out for a Christmas lunch instead? Or do some other kind of outing with your kids?  

                    It’s your life. It’s your mental health and peace. There is no law that says you have to spend your precious holiday time with people who are going to be difficult to be around. I’m not saying we should stop all family gatherings, what I am saying is that we don’t have to do them the same old way. 

                    And that starts by you deciding, as I said before: How do I want to feel?  

                    I’m assuming you want to feel happy and connected. So let’s talk about some ways that can happen if you decide that you do want to be with your family. 

                    As I said before, Lower your expectations. Decide that your goal is to simply feel okay about everything. 

                    Decide to love your family just the way they are. That’s what you want also, right? You want your family to love you just the way you are, right? So start by loving them just the way they are. 

                    Spend some time to think about each person you’re going to be seeing. On the ones you actually like and love, spend a few minutes thinking about what you like and love about them. 

                    And now here’s where it gets interesting. Then spend some time thinking about the ones who you know are going to drive you crazy. Think about what it is that drives you crazy about them, what are the things they’re going to do that you just know are going to trigger you? 

                    Then spend some time doing a quiet meditation about this. See yourself in the situation and see the person doing what it is that they do that bugs you. And then visualize yourself not getting upset, just sort of stepping back, or rising above it as you chuckle to yourself, “yep, they did it again.” But see yourself just not getting all worked up over it. 

                    And then let’s go deeper still. Think about them and try to get some idea about why they act this way. If they’re a pompous know-it-all, they probably are actually very insecure underneath all that. See and try to feel yourself sending them love and some compassion. See yourself again, interacting with them and sending them love while you’re talking to them. And then see what happens when you actually get together with them. 

                    If this is someone who has done something in the past to hurt you, find my video on Ho’oponopono to understand this process. Suffice it to say, this is an ancient technique from the Hawaiian kahunas, that is incredibly simple, but very powerful. Just think of this person and the situation a bunch of times before the holiday get together and say to yourself over and over: 

                    I’m sorry 
                    Please forgive me 
                    I love you  
                    Thank you 

                    This process is incredible and it might just bring you some amazing results. If it does, please let me know. 

                    These things I’ve talked about can actually move the energy completely around in your family situation. 

                    • Lower your expectations
                    • Decide to love your family just the way they are  
                    • Visualize a happy outcome
                    • Ho’oponopono

                    And these of course, are the best solutions. Changing the way you think and feel about getting together with your family can change how your family get togethers feel.  

                    And maybe it could actually look and feel like this after all. Wouldn’t that be amazing? 

                    I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.

                    And If you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

                    Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.

                    You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

                    How to use The Gateway of Gratitude to change your life

                    Thanksgiving is just a few weeks away and it’s such an important time, because it (hopefully) has everyone focused on giving thanks, i.e., on being grateful for what we have.

                    Find out how you can utilize the Gateway of Gratitude to bring in everything that you want in your life.

                    I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please like, share the video and subscribe to our channel.

                    Why is Gratitude so powerful?

                    Gratitude brings us into a higher energetic vibration.

                    When we are feeling negative emotions – anger, frustration, jealousy – we are vibrating at a much lower frequency and worse, we are attracting to ourselves exactly what we don’t want and bringing in more and more of it. Experiencing true gratitude is one of the easiest and fastest ways to bring yourself back into a higher and faster energetic vibration that will then attract everything you DO want into your life. This is what I call the Gateway of Gratitude — the process of utilizing Gratitude as a doorway or portal to bring yourself into alignment with what you want:

                    • Love
                    • Abundance
                    • Vibrant Health
                    • Spiritual Connection

                    What do you want? Do you want your relationship to be more loving, more expansive, more fulfilling? Do you have a situation with a friend, a co-worker or a mate that is causing you to stay in disconnection? Are you having a health challenge?

                    Use the Gateway of Gratitude to change it around and to bring in exactly what you want. More love, more abundance, a healthy body. This simple process can literally work miracles in your life!

                    Here’s the process:

                    For the next 30 days, take 3 minutes (that’s all!) each morning and write 5 things that you are truly grateful for about the person or the situation. For example, if you are having difficulties in your relationship, write 5 things you truly appreciate about the other person. It must be things that are true for you. So, if it’s something about your mate it could be:

                    1. I love his/her beautiful blue eyes.
                    2. I love that he/she likes dogs.
                    3. I love that he/she is good at his job.
                    4. I love that he has things that he enjoys, like baseball.
                    5. I love that he/she loves our children.

                    You can also write about things in your life that you are grateful for. The easiest way into the Gateway of Gratitude is to be thankful for what you already have, for what is. And there are many, many things in your life to be grateful for: the sun is shining, the earth is spinning on its axis, you are alive, you are breathing.

                    After you have written down your 5 things, take just a moment to close your eyes, take a deep breath and truly FEEL the gratitude for this person or situation. The more you can infuse emotion into the process, the faster you will move into the Gateway of Gratitude. If you find you can’t muster the feeling, it’s okay, just breathe and let it go. As you move more and more into the process, it will start to come. Don’t force it.

                    You can repeat things you have written again, especially towards the end of the 30 days. Just make sure you are writing things you truly believe.

                    Don’t tell the other person (or anyone else for that matter) that you are doing this. The magic lies in what you will start to see happening in just a short time — as little as 3 days!

                    To begin, get yourself a little spiral notebook, a new one that you can pick up for 50¢ at Walgreens. Of course, you can get a fancy journal, but all you need is a new book for this new life you are creating. I prefer a small spiral notebook because you can easily carry it around with you and write down more “Attitudes of Gratitude” as you think of them during the day. It’s also wonderful throughout the process to go back and read what you have written in the prior days and to watch how your Gratitude and appreciation continue to deepen.

                    There also seems to be something more powerful about actually writing the “High 5” in your own handwriting, rather than typing it on a computer. You are infusing your own self, your own energy into the process.

                    The key is consistency. Go into the Gateway of Gratitude every single day for 30 days with no interruption. Taking only 3 minutes is a good way to get yourself to do it every day, so that you are not spending a lot of time.

                    When you have another issue that comes up, start another 30 day process. Or better still, use the process consistently each day to bring yourself into connection.

                    I have used this process in my own life and with my coaching clients for years. My favorite results (and the most typical) are when my client will say something like, “It’s so amazing. My husband has suddenly become so much more loving. Nothing has changed, except that I’ve been doing this process.”

                    I had a coaching client a few years ago who contacted me because she knew I had Sedona Soul Adventures and she knew I had been a divorce attorney for 20 years, and she wanted me to coach her through her divorce. We started the coaching with me asking her why she wanted a divorce. Everything she was telling me seemed rather minor, certainly not enough to break up a family over. I started talking to her about the things she actually like about her husband. I had her start a Gratitude Journal that day.

                    What had started out as a 2 year divorce coaching process (because that’s how long her lawyer told her it was going to take) ended in 60 days. She started the Gratitude journal about her husband and everything switched around – her husband became more loving, more attentive, more caring, they started having great sex again…everything switched around and that was over 5 years ago.

                    We use this with people in our retreats here in Sedona and I have seen people change relationships, heal their bodies, create more abundance, create better relationships with their children – every area of your life can be transformed using this simple, but powerful process.

                      I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.

                      And If you want a more direct path to getting and staying happy – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

                      Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928/204-5988.

                      You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.

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                      When you contact us, your Angel Guide will spend time connecting with you (or both of you if it's a couple) in a heart-to-heart conversation. Your Angel Guide will explore where you're at, what's happening, what are the issues and what tools you need to start creating the life or relationship of your dreams.

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                      Sacred Travel

                      Sedona Soul Adventures has been at the forefront of the sacred travel movement. We’ve turned thousands of people on to the magic and power of Sedona. And now we’re taking spiritual travelers to other amazing power spots around the globe.

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