Wow! My husband, Richard, and I went to see the eclipse with two of my brothers. We flew to Tulsa, drove 2 hours to my brother’s home to spend the weekend, and then drove another 2 hours (almost into Arkansas) on Monday where we had 4 minutes of full totality. It was spectacular! It got really dark, the temperature dropped by about 10 degrees, the birds and crickets stopped making any noise at all and seeing the corona and the flash at the end was other-worldly. Richard took this photo (safely through his protective glasses on his iPhone).
I’ve been studying lots and lots about the eclipse. We even thought about not going at all because I’m a big believer in Vedic Astrology and they tell you don’t go outside! Stay indoors and pray, meditate and fast. But we wanted to go!
I started studying the effects of eclipses ever since we went to the one in 2017 (when we flew to Missouri) and I’ve seen the effects firsthand. This eclipse took place during a New Moon and also when Mercury is retrograde. Talk about a triple whammy! We will all be feeling the effects of this eclipse for up to 6 months!
First of all, eclipses are times of great upheaval. They turn everything upside down and inside out. They upset the natural order. There are so many incredible historical things that have happened at the time of eclipses, but for the average person (like you and me), they tend to cause upheaval in our lives and in our relationships — not only with partners, but with other important people in our lives and even with our relationship with ourselves.
This eclipse is all about reflection about what’s working and what’s not working in your life, especially in your relationships. This gets a double whammy from Mercury being retrograde, which is all about reflection.
So here are 3 ways you can make the Eclipse work for you (and your relationships), because it’s so important.
1. Your “gunk” is going to come up for healing (and you better do something about it) or it’s going to keep coming around and biting you in the butt!
So, first of all, what do I mean by “gunk”? Gunk is the conglomeration of Core Wounds, traumas, fears, toxic patterns, limiting beliefs, etc., that are holding you back or causing you problems. I believe (after working with people for over 40 years), that unless and until you find, release and heal that gunk, you can never have the life or relationship of your dreams, because the gunk keeps coming up over and over again for healing.
This eclipse is accelerating that process.
Have you ever heard that old adage that when the Universe is trying to get you to look at your stuff (and release it and heal it), they first whisper in your ear; if you don’t listen, then they tap you on the shoulder; if you don’t listen then, they finally hit you with a 2x4 to get your attention. Consider this a cosmic wake up call. The question is, are you going to listen.
Because if you don’t listen and if you don’t do something about it, it’s only going to get worse.
We have so many people who come to us for a Soul Adventure who have said, “I should have done this 5 years ago. I knew I had a problem then and I didn’t do anything about it – now it’s just gotten so much worse.”
2. Much of the “gunk” is so unconscious you might not even know what it is (so look at your patterns).
Some people know what their “gunk” is, but in my experience, the gunk is often such an unconscious part of us that we don’t even know what it is. We had a couple here a few months ago who had already filed for divorce. The wife felt the husband was so controlling and never showed affection to her in the way she wanted it. The husband felt like no matter what he did, it wasn’t enough. He didn’t feel like he was controlling and he was always trying to do things to make her feel loved and appreciated.
We discovered very quickly that this all went back to her childhood. Her father was very controlling, totally emotionally unavailable, never showed her any affection, never told her “I love you.” The real troubles in their marriage started around the time her father had died, 2 years previously. We discovered her Core Wound was “I’m not loveable.” When your own father doesn’t make you feel loved, that wound goes in deep and it stays there, unless and until it’s healed.
Once her father was gone, her soul knew on a deep level that she was never going to get that validation from her father and so suddenly the love and attention she had always been receiving from her husband wasn’t enough. She needed (and demanded) more and more and more in a fruitless effort to fill up that hole and heal that wound. We found the wound, released all that pain and healed it. She said to us, “Oh my gosh, I turned my husband into my father.” It saved their marriage.
If you aren’t sure what your gunk is or where it came from, look at the patterns in your life.
Do you get into the same kind of bad relationships over and over? I was a divorce attorney for over 20 years and during that time, I had a number of people I did 3 divorces for. And I discovered they were marrying the same person over and over again, just with a different name. They weren’t learning the lessons of the relationship, so their souls kept bringing up the same stuff over and over again so they would finally get the lessons. I would call going through 3 divorces a pretty big 2x4 from the Universe!
3. Analyze your relationships, figure out what needs to be healed and nurture the ones you want to keep.
This eclipse and the Mercury Retrograde is all about reflecting on your life and your relationships, and analyzing what’s working and what’s not working.
Underlying problems that already exist in your relationship (communication problems, mistrust, lack of connection, etc.) are brought up to be examined and healed. These problems will either be healed or they'll continue to get worse.
The next step is figuring out what you want. With the New Moon, you have big energy for new beginnings. So ask yourself:
- Is this relationship making me happy?
- If not, what would need to change?
- If so, how can I make it even better?
- How would I need to be different?
Here’s an important caveat: Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater.
Eclipses can cause a lot of upheaval and sometimes it’s just because we’re feeling “itchy.” You may even be thinking about throwing in the towel on your relationship. Remember that this eclipse is very emotion-driven. It is best to wait to make life-changing decisions until you’ve really had some time to sit and think and feel your way through it.
Here’s the good news — these energies will help you focus on all aspects of relationships (with a partner, other people close to you and yourself). You can see the intentions of others and discover imbalances which are causing disharmony. You can get more in touch with your own needs and make choices based on your highest and best interests.
So, while you may be feeling all kinds of upheaval, or feeling like you don’t know what to do, this is actually a very powerful time and you can utilize this energy to your advantage. This is a time when things can really be shaken up and changed. And definitely changed for the better, if you can use the energy to your highest good.
The most important thing is to do something. Problems that aren't addressed during this time won't go away, they will simply get worse. This is the Universe telling you it's time to take action and do something.
Come to Sedona and do a retreat and let us help you to navigate these important times. If you’re in a relationship that’s having some difficulties, don’t let the eclipse find you with the rug pulled out from under you. Or if you feel like you aren’t living up to your full potential, we can help you with that too. The great thing about our retreats is that they are custom designed for each person (or each couple) and the even greater thing is that they work!
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