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Relationship problems? The real problem is probably not what you think it is

We see it all the time in our Couples Retreats — what the people are telling us is the problem is usually not what’s REALLY causing the problems. It’s almost always something much deeper.

If you have any issues going on in your relationship (and let’s face it, most of us do) I REALLY want you to watch this video. After being a divorce attorney for 20 years and working with couples here at Sedona Soul Adventures for almost 20 years, I know that the #1 problem that most couples have is not communication – it’s the lack of nurturing each other…of getting what you need and giving what the other one needs.

Watch this video I did 2 years ago and you’ll see what I’m talking about:

Let us help you get back into the Nurturing Zone. Do a Couples Retreat with us either here in Sedona or in the comfort of your own home. Can you imagine how good it would feel to come back into the love and connection that brought you together in the first place?

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Call us and connect with one of our Angel Guides. They’ll connect with both of you separately and really dig deep to discover what’s keeping you out of the Nurturing Zone.

Then they’ll put together a retreat that’s custom designed for exactly what you need and want, and to bring you back into the love, connection and sizzle that you crave.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us at (928) 204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Would you like to speak to someone today? We’re even open on Sundays, because we’re here for you. And remember, there’s no cost or obligation and you can do your retreat either in Sedona or At Home.

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You might also like to download your free copy of our “Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats.” That will give you a real idea of what we do and how it works. But please — for the sake of your relationship, do something to get yourself back into the Nurturing Zone.

Sherri completes her 4th Retreat (!) her 2nd Couples Retreat, and says, “Every experience has been unique and special, and worth every penny!!!”

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Wishing you a week filled with love and nurturing!

Today I’m going to talk to you about How to get what you want in your relationship. If you’ve been following me for a while, you probably already know that I was a divorce attorney in Omaha, Nebraska for over 20 years. And then in 2002, I started Sedona Soul Adventures, where we do retreats for individuals and couples. So I spent 20 years divorcing people, and now I’ve spent almost 20 years helping people stay together. 

Our record for helping people with their relationships is absolutely stunning and it’s because we’re able to dig deep to get at the root of the problem, and sometimes the problem is not what either person thinks it is. A big piece of this is finding out what each of you need in your relationship and deciding if you are willing to give it to the other person?  

We had a couple here last year and it was stunning. The husband had an affair and on the surface it looked like just one of the usual situations that sadly we see a lot of. They had grown apart and the husband, I’ll call him Mike, had an affair. Even though he said he loved his wife, I’ll call her Linda, and he adored their two children, the affair had happened and it had gone on longer than Mike had originally told Linda. Linda, of course, was devastated and really, really angry and felt like she could never trust him again. And of course, those reactions are completely natural.  

Mike’s father was a womanizer and his mother left his father when he was very young. He and his mother went to live with relatives in a household that was basically full of men-hating women. Mike grew up hearing about how terrible men are, how you can’t trust them and they’re all womanizers, and he grew up afraid that he would be like that too. But he wasn’t, he’d been married for 20 years, had never had the urge to have an affair and was even saying to us over and over again, “I can’t believe I did that, I can’t believe I jeopardized my whole life” like that. 

Linda grew up in a family where her mother constantly criticized her father and so Linda thought that’s how you communicate with a husband. You get him to do what you want by criticizing him.  

We discovered through our process that the needs that Mike has are Words of Praise and Gifts.

At this point, this might sound to some of you like the Love Languages work that is out there, which I like, but what we do is very different and very specific for each person. 

We discovered through our process that the needs that Linda has are Listening, Conversation and Protection.

Which also made sense because Linda’s mother also criticized Linda and her father would never stand up for her with her mother, so Linda grew up believing, “I have no one to protect me.” 

So Linda needs a man who will talk to her and protect her. And we quickly discovered that Mike just simply wasn’t talking to her and really hadn’t been throughout their marriage and she was, quite understandably, upset about it. And of course, the affair was the ultimate betrayal, how could anyone feel protected by someone who had betrayed them?

Mike didn’t want to have a lot of conversations with Linda because she was constantly criticizing him. She thought she was “helping him” by telling him what to do and how to do it, but it all just felt like criticism to him and Linda got it, how it would feel like that to him. 

So here we have a man whose most basic relationship need is Words of Praise and all he’s getting is Criticism. We have a woman whose most basic relationship need is Conversation and we have a man who won’t talk to her.

But then here’s the kicker:

When we discovered that Mike’s other need was Gifts, we asked him about that. He started tearing up as he told us that he never got gifts when he was growing up, not even for his birthday.  

And guess who gives him gifts? The woman that he had an affair with. And guess what else she gave him? Words of Praise. His other deepest need. It wasn’t about sex, it was about him feeling valued. 

When Mike and Linda realized they were living in this crazy, vicious cycle of he needs Words of Praise and she’s criticizing him, and she needs Conversation and he doesn’t want to talk to her because he doesn’t want to get criticized…and how this had much more to do with their childhoods than with what is going on now…and it’s just this crazy thing that keeps on happening and keeps on going back and forth until someone finally says, “STOP! Wait a minute. He needs Words of Praise and Gifts, are you willing to give that to him?”

And we say to him, “She needs conversation and protection, are you willing to give that to her?” It was harder for him to say yes, because they had 20 years of not really talking to each other. But when she saw him tear up over the gifts thing, her heart just melted. When he got that she was just doing what her mother had taught her to do, he got it. They both got it — that you have to give the other one what they need, not what you think they need, but what they need and want, you have to nurture them in what they need. 

If you’re not willing to do that, you don’t have a relationship. And you certainly don’t have a relationship that’s going to last for very much longer. 

Now understand, I’m not saying that what Mike did was okay, far from it. Having an affair is simply not okay, but when Linda understood all this, she really got it, her heart opened and she was able to forgive him and love him again. 

So How about you?  

Do you know what you want in a relationship? I’ve been surprised to discover that most people don’t. 

Do you know (really) what your partner wants? 

Do you care? That’s actually the most important one, because if you aren’t willing to give your partner what they want, things aren’t going to work. 

Have you spent any time thinking about how your parents were with each other because that can be really telling.

Were they happy?
Were they loving with each other?  
Did they talk?  
Did they fight?  
What did they teach you? (Even though they probably didn’t think they were teaching you.) 

But even more deeply, how was your childhood? 

Did you feel loved?
Did you feel valued?
Were you criticized?
Did you grow up believing there’s something wrong with you?  

Sadly, for many of us, things happen to make us believe that we’re not enough, that we don’t deserve love and then we bring all that into our relationships and it comes out in all kinds of crazy ways, like having affairs and mistreating the person we’re supposed to love. 

What do you really want? 

What do you crave? 

What do you need? 

Come to Sedona and we’ll help you discover that and help move out the blocks that are keeping you from the loving relationship you desire. That’s what we do all day, every day with our custom-designed retreats. 

What you need is probably different than what your partner needs. The blocks that have happened for you are the result of different things that caused the blocks for your partner. We’ll dig all that out and bring you into the love that’s waiting for you. 

Go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today. 

Or even better, if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for exactly what the two of you need,  call us at 928/204-5988. 

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it and subscribe to our channel

You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it!

Will you be getting this from your beloved on Valentine’s Day?

What do you think you’re getting from your beloved for Valentine’s Day? What are you giving your beloved?

Watch this to see what I think is the most important thing you can give them.

Josh and Jen say their Couples Retreat was “the most amazing experience we have had in our lives” and “We feel like we are on fire!”

“This was probably the most amazing experience we have had in our lives and definitely as a couple. We came out of the adventure much closer and with a renewed sense of direction. We feel like we are on fire! We are ready to go out into the world and live our lives with joy and purpose! We want to make the most of our human experience and use our close partnership to support each other’s life purposes. Our lives have changed forever because of our Soul Adventure and it was just the boost we needed to grow in marriage and in life. We have a whole new perspective on our lives and we can truly see the endless possibilities now. We both feel so blessed that we were able to experience this adventure together and we will most definitely return to discover even more about our true selves as we travel along this path. Thanks to everyone at Sedona Soul Adventures who made this experience possible. We wish for everyone to receive the love and joy that they have given us.”  
Josh & Jen B.

Would you like to come back into the love and connection that brought you together in the first place? Give us a call.

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If you’re not in a relationship now, maybe you need a retreat to call in your beloved? Or do deal with some other issue that you just can seem to handle. Call us today (928) 204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you. They’ll connect with you and custom design a retreat that’s perfect for exactly what you need and desire.

Remember there’s no cost or obligation to speak with one of our Angel Guides and you can do the retreat here in Sedona or At Home.

Would you like to speak to someone today about doing a Soul Adventure?
We’re even open on Sunday, because we’re here for you!
Remember, you can do it in-Sedona or At Home

As I always say – if you knew what could happen, you’d be calling us right now.

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The perfect Gift for your beloved (or, even better, for the two of you!) – Our Machu Picchu and Peru trip (June 17-30)
100% Refundable up to April 1

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What an incredible gift to give yourself or to give the two of you for Valentine’s Day – our fabulous Machu Picchu and Peru trip. It’s June 17-30 and it’s close to being full. It’s going to be spectacular.

What a perfect way for the two of you to connect – two blissful weeks in Peru, away from all the noise and hectic day to day life, seeing the incredible sites, meditating and doing ceremonies with our amazing shaman and guide, Jorge Luis Delgado, and connecting with other spiritual seekers. We’ll be in Machu Picchu on the Solstice – it doesn’t get much better than that!

That’s my beloved, my husband, Richard, and I at Machu Picchu on the Solstice two years ago. What a beautiful time that was.

And if you’re traveling alone, that’s no problem! Most of the people on trip are Singles, you’ll have life long friends within 48 hours… that’s what always happens on our trips.

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PRICING

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Remember the trip is 100% Refundable up to April 1.

If you’d like to see glowing testimonials from our past trips (“best trip I’ve ever been on,” “Jorge is so incredible,” “everything was perfect”), Click here.

If you have any questions about our fabulous journey, send me an email at Debra@SedonaSoulAdventures.com.

Or better yet, give me a call – I love talking about Peru! Call me toll-free at (877) 204-3664.

If you already know you want to go, Click here to make your Risk Free Deposit*.

Join us for our 10 week “Opening To Your Intuition” Seminar and Training starting March 6

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I am so excited about our newest offering “Opening To Your Intuition,” a 10-week personal and professional development training program created and taught by one of our fabulous Practitioners, Komala Rohde.

Komala is an internationally known teacher of intuitive work and meditation and we are so excited to offer this fantastic program to you.

Would you like to:

  • Learn how to reliably connect with your Intuition?
  • Receive the answers to questions through your Intuition?
  • Have tools to continue to deepen your connection with your Intuition on an ongoing basis?
  • Utilize your Intuition to enhance your personal and professional life?

The program includes extensive instruction, practical tools, mindfulness techniques, meditation practices and exercises that will enhance your understanding and application of Intuition in your personal life and professional expression.

You’ll walk away from the program with a solid understanding of what Intuition is. You will be in deeper connection with your own Intuition and you will have tools to continue to practice your intuitive skills.

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If you’ve always wanted to explore your intuitive abilities, this is the perfect opportunity!

Sign up now, space is limited. For more information, Click here.

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Wishing you a week filled with love on fire!

Happy Valentine’s Day! The day of love and lovers. 

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On this special day, I want to tell you about something I’ve come to believe, just in the past year, about relationships. It’s something that seems like I should have known this all along and when you hear it, you’re probably going to say something like, “Well, of course, Debra, everybody knows that.” 

But just stay with me for a moment because I think you might be surprised to find out that what I think the #1 thing that you either have or don’t have in your relationship, that either makes it or breaks it and that is…

Are you nurturing each other?
Does your beloved nurture you?
And are you nurturing your beloved? 

It seems like a simple question, but it’s not at all. Because it’s about a way of being. It’s a decision you’re making, in every moment.  

Do you truly want to nurture your beloved?  

Do you want to nurture them in the way they want to be nurtured? 

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Or are you constantly picking at them, criticizing them and thinking nasty thoughts about them?

As most of you know, I was a divorce attorney for over 20 years and now I’ve done couples work in Sedona for almost 20 years. It appears to me that relationships are either mainly in the “I love you” zone or the “You drive me crazy” zone. And it seems like once you’ve rounded the corner into the “you drive me crazy” zone, there’s not much going back unless you really do something about it.

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There are basic problems that seem to show up a lot when the nurturing factor isn’t there. And in my experience, there are things that seem unique to women and unique to men. This is also borne out in John Grey’s Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus series of books (so please don’t write me that I’m stereotyping — I’ve watched this for almost 40 years!). 

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If you’re a woman, do you: 

  • Complain a lot to your partner? 
  • Complain about your partner to other people?
  • Have you taken everything over because he won’t do the stuff you want him to do, in the way you want him to do it? 
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If you’re a man: 

  • Are you engaging emotionally with your partner? 
  • Are you able to just sit and listen to your partner or do you always give advice, even when it’s not asked for?
  • Are there times when you simply tune your partner out? 

These are all danger signs. Big signals telling you, “STOP! You’ve got to do something here.”

If you’re a woman, stop complaining and stop doing everything because he’s not doing it right.

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If you’re a man, start listening and start really engaging emotionally with her.  

The biggest thing, is that you both have to make this basic decision: “I love this person and I want to nurture them.”  

So many books and articles say that communication is the most important thing in a relationship and of course, communication is extremely important, but think about it…

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Deciding to truly nurture your partner is at another layer below communication and everything else. If you are in nurturing mode, your communication will always be wonderful, the way you treat them will always be wonderful, and you’ll be having the perfect amount of sex and time together, because it will be based on each of you nurturing the other. 

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If you’re finding that you’re out of the nurturing zone, you can recognize that and you can do something about it. You literally can shift everything around by making this simple decision:

I want to nurture this person and I’m going to figure out how to do that.

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It takes 

  • Willingness 
  • Dropping your resentments about what’s happened in the past 
  • Coming back into loving connection 

Now I know, doing these things is easier said than done. Letting go of past resentments is usually pretty difficult for both parties and that’s usually what’s holding one or both of you back from really getting into and staying in the nurturing zone.  

Or maybe you don’t have clarity about what you truly want. It’s hard to go out of your way to do something for the other person when you’re maybe not 100% sure that you want to be with them. 

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Let us help you get back into the nurturing zone. Come to Sedona and do a Couples Retreat. Give it to yourselves as a Valentine’s Day present. Wouldn’t that be the most amazing present you’ve ever had? Coming back into the love and connection that brought you together in the first place? 

Call us and connect with one of our Angel Guides. They’ll connect with both of you separately and really dig deep to discover what’s keeping you out of the nurturing zone. Then they’ll put together a retreat that’s custom designed for exactly what you need and want, to bring you back into the love and connection and sizzle that you crave, giving you tools to stay in the nurturing zone forever.   

If you’d like more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

Or even better, if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us today at (928) 204-5988.  

If you got value from this video, please like, share the video with someone you think might get something out of it and subscribe to our channel

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Join Debra’s Masterclass, “How To Have A Kick Ass New Year”

So wow. 2020. What can we say? What a year. To turn around what Dickens said, it feels like “it was the worst of times, it was the best of times.” So much death and illness and sadness and shutdowns and cancellations and lives put on hold.

But it’s also been so interesting to me that so many I speak with feel like this year has been so wonderful on so many levels, because it’s almost been like a re-set. The entire world had to take a big breath, go inside and discover what was there.

And now it’s time to say good-bye to 2020 and I feel we have an opportunity to make 2021 be absolutely incredible, or as I call it, a Kick Ass Year!

There are a number of things you can do to make that happen and that’s what I’m going to share with you in my Masterclass, “How To Have A Kick Ass New Year.”

Vision. We’ll start with a fabulous process to help you discover exactly what you want in all the key areas of your life.

What do I need to do? We’ll identify the gaps between where you are and where you want to be, and figure out ways to bridge that gap.

We’ll develop a game plan. I’ll give you a step by step process to chunk down your dreams and your goals to ensure they’ll happen.

Plus, I’ll be giving you ideas, tips and processes that will help you all throughout the year.

What a wonderful way to start 2021 with a bang!

I hope you’ll join me. To have as many people join as possible, the cost is only $20.21, isn’t that cute? Click here to register.

We’ll be live on Zoom and if you can’t be with us live, we’ll be sending out a recording so you can do the processes anytime you want.

And if you really want to start the New Year out right, my #1 suggestion is always to do a Sedona Soul Adventure. The biggest problem that I see that is going on with almost everyone I meet, is that they have gunk and blocks and core wounds and unconscious limiting beliefs that are holding them back. And the biggest problem is that they are unconscious – we don’t even know what they are and we certainly don’t know how to deal with them.

That’s what a Soul Adventure does – we uncover and discover and root out all this stuff that’s holding you back or causing the trouble, we move it and release it, and bring you back into connection on all the levels – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual. When you’re operating in connection, you’re able to live the life and relationship of your dreams.

Greysa came to us filled with grief, which many people are feeling about now. Grief from loss, grief over things that might have been, grief over how difficult this past year has been, grief over your life or relationship not giving you the joy or love you’re craving. After her Soul Adventure, she’s now filled with peace and love and certainty about the beautiful future that awaits her. Wouldn’t you love to feel that way going into the New Year?

Give us a call. Speak with one of our Angel Guides. They’ll start the process of bringing you from where you are to where you want to be. And remember, there’s no cost or obligation and you can do the retreat either here in-Sedona or At Home.

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Call us today at 928-204-5988 or Click here and we’ll call you.

Would you like to speak to someone today about doing a Soul Adventure?
We’re even open on Sunday, because we’re here for you!
And remember, there’s no cost or obligation.

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We have one more spot (male or female) left for our Egypt trip
February 13-26, 2021

I’m so happy and excited that our Egypt trip is happening! We have one more spot left, so if you’d like to go, you need to decide now to join us on this trip of a lifetime.

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Egypt has done an amazing job with handling the virus. I think one of the reasons may be that they require everyone coming to Egypt to have a negative COVID test 72 hours before entering the country. So they’ve been very strict about that, and it has really made a difference.

Can you believe this is going to be my 21st trip to Egypt?!? It’s just astounding, and I have to say I’m so incredibly excited about this next trip, it’s like it’s the first time all over again!

We go to all the must see places:

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  • The Great Pyramid (where we’ll have 2 hours of private time for ceremony just for our group)
  • The Sphinx
  • Karnak
  • Luxor
  • Abu Simbel
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But we’ll also be going to places the average tourist doesn’t always see:

  • Isis Temple at Philae
  • Temple of Abydos
  • Hathor Temple at Dendera
  • Horus Temple at Edfu
  • The Osirion
  • Temple of Kom Ombo

And Guardian Travel has made special arrangements for us to see:

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  • The Tomb of King Tut in the Valley of the Kings
  • The Tomb of Seti I in the Valley of the Kings
  • The Tomb of Queen Nefertari in the Valley of the Queens! (this photo)
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To see the actual tomb and the mummy of King Tutankamun is so amazing. We will also see the treasures of the tomb in the Egyptian Museum in Cairo. King Seti I’s tomb is absolutely spectacular and Queen Nefertari’s tomb (she was the favorite wife of Ramses II) has been called, “The Sistine Chapel of Egypt.” Very few people are allowed to see these tombs, so this is a very special part of our trip this year.

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Plus, one of the most important parts of this trip is doing ceremonies and meditations, and really connecting with the energy of this sacred place. Can you imagine having two hours of private time just for our group inside the Great Pyramid? This is on the last day of our trip and it’s always astonishing, and one of the major parts of this life-changing trip.

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We’ll also be discussing the alternative theories of ancient Egypt that our tours are famous for, including who built the Pyramids, who built the Sphinx (and when) and why are there carvings of a helicopter, a tank and a submarine in the walls of the Temple of Abydos? Can you see them in this photo?

And just the way we do everything!

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  • We stay in 5-star hotels; our hotel in Cairo is the fabulous Mena House, which is right next to the Pyramids.
  • For 5 days we cruise the Nile on our 5-star cruise ship.
  • The food is fantastic.
  • Everything is completely taken care of for you – each day is beautifully planned.

And we just have fun. Here’s a picture from our galabaya night on our cruise ship when we dress like an Egyptian (fun fact: these two wonderful people (Pete and Kirsty) met on the Egypt trip, married one year later and now have two children!). I just got their Christmas card in the mail today!

Amazing things happen on this trip!

The price is virtually all-inclusive. It includes:

  • Round trip air from JFK
  • 3 flights in Egypt
  • Breakfast, lunch and dinner each day
  • 5-star hotels
  • 5-day, 5-star Nile Cruise
  • All transportation
  • Admission to all sites
  • Our Egyptian guide (who reads hieroglyphics!)
  • Tips for hotel and wait staff

The only things that aren’t covered are your beverages and flight to New York and, of course, shopping.

And speaking of shopping, that will be even more incredible this year. Currently the conversion rate of the US dollar is incredible. The conversion rate is 15.1 to 1, meaning 15 Egyptian pounds per American dollar. This is a major difference from the past few years when the exchange rate was 3 to 1. This incredible rate is going to mean unbelievable shopping in Egypt this year. Egypt is well known for gold and silver jewelry, papyrus, alabaster, hand blown glass, perfumes and oils, and hand made rugs made of cotton, wool or silk. This is going to be even more spectacular this year.

And to go on a journey like this with like-minded travelers – it’s just the icing on the cake. Don’t be concerned if you don’t have a companion to travel with – our groups are typically in love with each other within 48 hours, making friends that last a lifetime. And if you want a roommate, we can probably arrange that for you.

If you want to look at all the details on the trip:

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And while you’re on our web page, watch my brief video on what makes the trip so special.

For information on the Day to Day Itinerary – Click Here

For all the information on Pricing – Click Here

If you already know you want to go, Click here to place your deposit.

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If you have any questions about our trip, send me an email at: Debra@SedonaSoulAdventures.com

Or feel free to give me a call. Here’s how:

  • Cell: 1-928-301-2896
  • Office toll-free: 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada)
  • Outside the US and Canada: 001 928-204-5988

Or Click here and I’ll call you – I love talking about Egypt!

I hope you’ll join me on this trip of a lifetime!

Wishing you a fabulous New Year filled with hope and joy!

My Conversation With Nealle Donald Walsch

This year (during the pandemic), I started doing my Meeting The Masters interview program, which has also been turned into a podcast, and I have enjoyed it so much.

I have met and interviewed so many incredible people, including Dr. John Gray (“Men Are From Mars/Woman Are From Venus”) John Assaraf (from “The Secret”), Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor (a brain scientist whose account of the spiritual experience she had while having a stroke was the first ever Ted Talk to go viral) and many others.

It has been so enlightening and so much fun connecting with these amazing people and bringing their stories to you.

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But I have to tell you, when I spoke with Nealle Donald Walsch last week, it was an absolutely incredible experience. He is the author of the “Conversations With God” book series. When that first book came out in 1995, it really changed my life. He’s written 37 books since then, impacting millions of people all over the planet.

In our interview, he talks about breaking his neck, being homeless, desperately trying to find work and how the first conversation with God happened. Then he starts discussing the wisdom of his new book, “The God Solution,” which just came out December 10th. His people sent me the manuscript so I could read it before our interview, and I loved it!

His premise is that studies show that over 85% of the world’s population say they believe in God or a Higher Power or Universal energy, or something along that line, and since so many of us have that in common, shouldn’t there be a way for us to find common ground and use that for solving the world’s problems?

As he says in the interview, this book is a compilation of all of his other 37 books combined. He explains exactly what the God Solution is and how all of us can tap into the power of pure love.

The book is so timely – it speaks about the pandemic, the racial injustice and economic crisis gripping the planet right now and the role of God in solving these problems. When I asked him how he got the book published so quickly, he talked about the “miracles” that made that happen, so that it could connect with as many people as possible, as quickly as possible. Watch the interview here:

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Please watch the interview, it is so full of wisdom, and I want to encourage you to read the book. Here’s the link to buy it on Amazon. And just to let you know, I’m not paid anything for recommending his book – I just think it’s fabulous and as many people as possible should read it as soon as possible.

Here’s to Pure Love!

In reading Nealle’s book, I was reminded again and again about how important it is for all of us to come back into love, to stay out of judgment and to really love ourselves. And it hurts me to know that there are so many people who aren’t able to do that. Not so much because they don’t want to, but because they don’t know how. So many of us are so stuck in our hurts and our wounds and our unhappiness, and it just looks like there’s no way out.

That’s how I felt when I came to Sedona for the first time (and oh my goodness, next month it will be 22 years ago!). I felt helpless and hopeless and stuck. I came here, spent three days with someone who is still one of our wonderful Practitioners, and my life was changed.

That can happen for you. Look what just happened for Stephanie last week:

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Before her Soul Adventure, Stephanie was:

  • A physical mess
  • An emotional mess
  • Her total being was in chaos

After her Soul Adventure:

  • All the garbage she came with is gone
  • She has peace
  • She is in gratitude
  • Her life was changed

And that’s what we do all day every day for the individuals who come to us.

And ironically, here’s a different Stephanie talking about what happened during their Couples Retreat last month:

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Look at what happened to them as a result of their Couples Retreat:

  • They healed
  • They became aware of their authentic selves
  • They gained insight into each other
  • They went into acceptance of each other
  • They got rid of blame
  • They brought in respect and love
  • They’re excited for their future
  • Their entire lives have been improved
  • THEIR MARRIAGE WAS SAVED

I can’t think of a better present that anyone could give themselves than the gift of peace and love, and that’s what happens with our Sedona Soul Adventures. If you’d like to give yourself that gift, please call us, we’d like to give that gift to you.

We’ll connect with you (or both of you for a Couples Retreat) and we’ll start the process of figuring out what’s holding you back or what’s causing the problems in your life or your relationship. Then we’ll custom design a retreat of private one-on-one or two-on-one (for Couples) sessions with the Master Practitioners of Sedona (we have over 50). Each session leads to the next and builds toward a crescendo of transformation. We’ve been doing this work for almost 20 years and it still amazes me what happens. As I always say, if you knew what could happen, you’d be calling right now.

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Remember, there’s no cost or obligation to speak with an Angel Guide and you can do your Soul Adventure in-Sedona or from the comfort of your own home.

Call us today at 928-204-5988 or Click here and we’ll call you.

Would you like to speak to someone today about doing a Soul Adventure?
We’re even open on Sunday, because we’re here for you!
And remember, there’s no cost or obligation.

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Join us for our Return To Egypt Tour
We Still Need A Female Roommate
February 13-26, 2021

It’s so funny, last week we put out the call for a female roommate and a wonderful woman called me and decided to go, and then it turns out one of her friends wants to go on the trip, so now we still need a roommate! We’d love to have you join us.

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As I told you last week, unlike here in the United States, the COVID numbers in Egypt are very low. Their tourist season is underway and in fact, one of my friends was just there with a group and had a fabulous time! Also, Egypt is requiring everyone to have a negative COVID test 72 hours before entering the country. That’s one of the ways they’re keeping it under control.

We have one of our people who would like a roommate (female). That will save you the $1200 cost of having your own room in the hotels and on the Nile Cruise. Could that be you?

Can you believe this is going to be my 21st trip to Egypt?!? It’s just astounding, and I have to say I’m so incredibly excited about this next trip, it’s like it’s the first time all over again!

We go to all the must see places:

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  • The Great Pyramid (where we’ll have 2 hours of private time for ceremony just for our group)
  • The Sphinx
  • Karnak
  • Luxor
  • Abu Simbel
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But we’ll also be going to places the average tourist doesn’t always see:

  • Isis Temple at Philae
  • Temple of Abydos
  • Hathor Temple at Dendera
  • Horus Temple at Edfu
  • The Osirion
  • Temple of Kom Ombo

And Guardian Travel has made special arrangements for us to see:

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  • The Tomb of King Tut in the Valley of the Kings
  • The Tomb of Seti I in the Valley of the Kings
  • The Tomb of Queen Nefertari in the Valley of the Queens! (this photo)
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To see the actual tomb and the mummy of King Tutankamun is so amazing. We will also see the treasures of the tomb in the Egyptian Museum in Cairo. King Seti I’s tomb is absolutely spectacular and Queen Nefertari’s tomb (she was the favorite wife of Ramses II) has been called, “The Sistine Chapel of Egypt.” Very few people are allowed to see these tombs, so this is a very special part of our trip this year.

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Plus, one of the most important parts of this trip is doing ceremonies and meditations, and really connecting with the energy of this sacred place. Can you imagine having two hours of private time just for our group inside the Great Pyramid? This is on the last day of our trip and it’s always astonishing, and one of the major parts of this life-changing trip.

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We’ll also be discussing the alternative theories of ancient Egypt that our tours are famous for, including who built the Pyramids, who built the Sphinx (and when) and why are there carvings of a helicopter, a tank and a submarine in the walls of the Temple of Abydos? Can you see them in this photo?

And just the way we do everything!

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  • We stay in 5-star hotels; our hotel in Cairo is the fabulous Mena House, which is right next to the Pyramids.
  • For 5 days we cruise the Nile on our 5-star cruise ship.
  • The food is fantastic.
  • Everything is completely taken care of for you – each day is beautifully planned.

And we just have fun. Here’s a picture from our galabaya night on our cruise ship when we dress like an Egyptian (fun fact: these two wonderful people (Pete and Kirsty) met on the Egypt trip, married one year later and now have two children!).

Amazing things happen on this trip!

The price is virtually all-inclusive. It includes:

  • Round trip air from JFK
  • 3 flights in Egypt
  • Breakfast, lunch and dinner each day
  • 5-star hotels
  • 5-day, 5-star Nile Cruise
  • All transportation
  • Admission to all sites
  • Our Egyptian guide (who reads hieroglyphics!)
  • Tips for hotel and wait staff

The only things that aren’t covered are your beverages and flight to New York and, of course, shopping.

And speaking of shopping, that will be even more incredible this year. Currently the conversion rate of the US dollar is incredible. The conversion rate is 15.1 to 1, meaning 15 Egyptian pounds per American dollar. This is a major difference from the past few years when the exchange rate was 3 to 1. This incredible rate is going to mean unbelievable shopping in Egypt this year. Egypt is well known for gold and silver jewelry, papyrus, alabaster, hand blown glass, perfumes and oils, and hand made rugs made of cotton, wool or silk. This is going to be even more spectacular this year.

And to go on a journey like this with like-minded travelers – it’s just the icing on the cake. Don’t be concerned if you don’t have a companion to travel with – our groups are typically in love with each other within 48 hours, making friends that last a lifetime. And if you want a roommate, we can probably arrange that for you.

If you want to look at all the details on the trip:

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And while you’re on our web page, watch my brief video on what makes the trip so special.

For information on the Day to Day Itinerary – Click Here

For all the information on Pricing – Click Here

If you already know you want to go, Click here to place your deposit.

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If you have any questions about our trip, send me an email at: Debra@SedonaSoulAdventures.com

Or feel free to give me a call. Here’s how:

  • Cell: 1-928-301-2896
  • Office toll-free: 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada)
  • Outside the US and Canada: 001 928-204-5988

Or Click here and I’ll call you – I love talking about Egypt!

I hope you’ll join me on this trip of a lifetime!

Finally, I hope you and yours have a fantastic holiday season. Sending you so much love from Sedona.

Wishing you a week filled with your favorite things!

Use Your Tax Refund on a Whole New Life or Relationship

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It’s that time of year again, and I hope you’re getting a nice big tax refund. It’s so great having that sudden jolt of available cash!

We have lots of people we’re working with right now who are waiting on their tax refund to use it for their Soul Adventure – isn’t that a great idea?

You worked hard all last year and here’s some extra money that is yours to keep and do with as you like. Wouldn’t it be perfect to spend that extra abundance on the one person who made it possible – YOU!?!

What a concept!

  • Taking care of yourself
  • Making yourself even better and happier this year
  • Indulging yourself by coming to the most beautiful place on earth 

We have so many people who come to us and say, “I’ve wanted to do this for so many years and now I’m finally doing it!”

Is this the year you give yourself the gift of a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat? We’ve just started our 18th year – isn’t that amazing? And even after all this time and all these thousands of people, I sometimes still can’t believe what happens for people when they come here.

Here’s one of our most recent reviews that Melanie posted on the third party review site, Trustpilot (third party means that Trustpilot verified she really is a client, she wrote the review and sent it to them, so you can be assured we aren’t just making this up!).

Now that just says it all!

If you could transform your life in three days, would that be worth spending your tax refund on it? If you could come back into connection with your beloved and have the relationship of your dreams after four days, would that be worth it to you? 

I know some of you are going to be thinking, “Yeah, right, my life will be transformed,” but it really is true. I know because I’ve witnessed it thousands of times. And don’t take my word for it, take Melanie’s and the hundreds of reviews we’ve received on Trustpilot in just the last few years (if you’d like to read the reviews, click below).

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Contact us and connect with one of our Retreat Guides. They’ll design the perfect retreat, here in the red rocks of mystical Sedona, to bring you into peace and harmony, and the life (or relationship) of your dreams.

Or, if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

As I always say – you can have the life or relationship you want – I know it!

More Sex, Fight Fair and Let Go of the Past

All this month, I’ve been sending you videos about how to have a fabulous New Year and New Decade. As part of that, I want to tell you three very specific things you can do right now for having your relationship be fantastic in 2020. And each of these things are backed up by scientific studies, which I love!

Give a listen – this could save your relationship! Or send it to someone (your partner, maybe?) who might benefit from it.

Relationships are hard. I know – I was a divorce attorney for 20 years, I’ve been doing couples work with Sedona Soul Adventures for almost 20 years and I’ve been married more than once. 

I’m happy to say I’m in a blissful marriage now, but one of the reasons it’s blissful is because I practice what I preach. I do the three specific tips I just gave you and when something is going on, my husband and I do sessions with our practitioners here, because they are the best of the best and sometimes you just need to hear something from a third person. 

We all need help, once in a while – even me!

Do you need help? Does your relationship need help? If your relationship is on the wrong path right now, you’ve got to do something to turn it in the right direction.

Give us a call and let us custom design the perfect retreat for the two of you.

I love this post from Rachel on Facebook:

Wouldn’t you love to have all that happen for you and your relationship?

  • To thrive more as a couple
  • To thrive more as an individual
  • To thrive more as a parent
  • To really show up for each other and in your lives
  • To have your relationship feel NEW

To have a whole new relationship, that’s what happens when people do a Couples Soul Adventure. Call us and let’s get one started for you.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

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Most of you who have been watching my videos over the years know that I was a divorce attorney for over 20 years in Omaha, Nebraska and then after that, I’ve spent almost 20 years working with couples through Sedona Soul Adventures – so I have almost 40 years experience of working with couples.

Today I want to give you 3 specific tips for making your relationship stronger.

What I love about these is that they are actually based on scientific studies. I love it when studies prove things that we intuitively already know. 

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The first one is one – and when you first hear it, you’re probably going to say something like, “Duh, Debra, everybody knows that” – but I want you to really listen to it. Here it is: 

If you want your relationship to thrive, you should be having sex often and regularly. 

And here’s why:

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Because studies have shown there is a direct correlation between how often you have sex and the positive feelings you have about your partner. The more frequently partners had sex, the more positive their implicit, or gut-level, positive feelings about the relationship were. This is according to a study in Psychological Science. 

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So let me explain exactly what this means. Your implicit feeling about your partner is your automatic response to them. Let’s say they walk in the door at the end of the day and you’re tired and know you have to make dinner. The study researchers reported,  “When you’re tired and don’t have the energy to think about how you feel about your partner, the implicit attitude you have toward them is the one that will come out and influence the way you treat them.” 

Of course we all know that, but here’s the kicker: in the study, the more people had sex, the more their implicit response – their automatic response to their partner – was positive. So by having more sex, you’re increasing the likelihood that your automatic response to your partner, the response you don’t even think about, will be positive. 

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And how do you want to feel about your partner? You want to automatically feel good about them. Ergo, have more sex. 

One of the things that’s been so heartbreaking for me, both when I was a divorce attorney and now after all these years of working with couples at Sedona Soul Adventures, is to find out the number of couples who have not had sex in a really, really long time. I mean 2 ½ years, 5 years, even 10 years. It’s such an indicator of what’s going on in the relationship. And sometimes there ARE things going on – anger, mistrust, upset with the other person – but if you allow those to linger, if you don’t take steps to fix them, that’s when you’re going to have long term trouble, the kind of trouble that leads to divorce and separation. 

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Which leads us to Tip No. 2:

Figure out how to fight fair.

Anger and Stonewalling don’t work, they lead to health problems and long term unhappiness.

Again, “duh,” but really listen to this because I love what this study found. They followed 156 couples over a 20 year period, observing the same couples every 5 years, and found that people who get really angry in arguing with their spouse have a greatly increased risk of heart disease. 

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The people who stonewall (meaning, “I don’t want to talk about his right now”) and so then they never really deal with their problems, were much more likely to develop musculoskeletal problems, meaning back pain. The other thing I loved about this study is that the researchers said in their report that a lot of the couples in this study had the same conflict year in and year out, and they usually discussed it in eerily similar terms. Dr. Robert Levenson of UC Berkeley said, “Sometimes we’d be listening in and wondering, ‘Is this the same conversation they had five years ago?’” 

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Anger doesn’t work. Stonewalling doesn’t work. It can give you heart disease and back pain, and lead to years of unhappiness. You’ve got to figure out a better way of communicating with each other than getting angry or giving the other person the silent treatment. 

And this leads directly to the 3rd tip:

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Leave the past In the past.

If you work through a hardship together and come to a positive resolution, move past it and use the experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Don’t keep throwing it in your partner’s face during arguments, don’t use it to guilt-trip your partner, and try not to assume that just because something happened once, it will happen again. What’s passed is past, and rehashing old ugliness will just poison future happiness. Let it go. 

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I know from my own personal experience and also from working with couples how hard this is. We had a couple here this year who two years ago, the man had an emotional relationship with someone at work. Nothing sexual ever happened and he stopped it when he realized where it was going and told his wife about it. She was understandably very upset, but even after two years of therapy, she simply could not let this go and she continually accused him of doing it again – although he never did – and she was jealous and angry and becoming really nasty with him all the time. 

They were on the verge of divorce when they came to us and we discovered that she had some core wounds from her childhood around not being worthy of love. That’s what was preventing her from letting this go. When she really got it that it was her own feelings of not being loveable, not his behavior that was really causing the problem, she was able to let it go and they were more in love than ever, saving their marriage, which I was especially happy for because they have two young children.  

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If your relationship and your family is important to you, you have to find a way to let go of the past and reclaim the love the two of you have. 

And of course, sometimes that’s a whole lot easier said than done. Sometimes we just can’t get beyond things that have happened, especially if they involve trust or betrayal. But the question is: Do you want to hold onto that or do you want to hold onto your marriage and your family? 

So here are the tips: 

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  1. Have more sex  
  2. Learn how to disagree without anger and stonewalling
  3. Let go of the past 

How are you doing with those? Is your relationship where you want it to be? Does it still Sizzle like it used to? Is your partner your best friend?

If not, I can tell you that you’re on a difficult road, a road that is probably going to lead you someplace you don’t want to go. So you have two choices:

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  1. Do something about it, or 
  2. Get more and more miserable

The second choice is what a lot of people do for a long period of time before they simply can’t stand it anymore and they split up. I don’t want that for you. I don’t want that for your family.

Our couples retreats are so powerful because they are custom designed for exactly what the two of you need.

First, we’ll talk to each of you separately before you even come to Sedona, really digging deep to get to the causes of the problems and what got you here. The problems that got you here in the first place are different for everybody and need to be treated in the specific ways that you need. 

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Then we’ll custom design your retreat and when you come to Sedona, you’ll be working one-on-one with the Master Practitioners here, some of whom have over 20 years of working with couples. Your sessions will be completely private. You won’t be in a group where you’ll have to air your dirty laundry in front of a lot of strangers. You’ll be working privately with people who are caring and compassionate, helping you to move through the blocks and gunk that have brought you here and bringing you back into connection. Connection with yourself, connection with your beloved and connection with that third thing which is your relationship. 

We’ve had so many people come to us on the verge of divorce, sometimes with the papers already signed, and we’ve turned things around and brought them back to the love that brought them together in the first place. And we’ve had so many people where the sizzle is gone and they want to take their relationship to the next level – really bringing in the love and connection that is so juicy and wonderful and satisfying.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please like, share the video with someone you think might get something out of it and subscribe to our channel

But if you’re ready to have the relationship of your dreams and move through the problems of the past, call us at (928) 204-5988 today to talk to us so that we can custom design the perfect retreat for your needs and desires. 

We all want to be loved in the way we want to be loved. Sometimes we need help finding that. If this is something you’re searching for, please call us – or if you’d like more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

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She Decided to Take Care of Herself and this is What Happened

A few weeks ago, we had an incredible person here to do a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. Aprille Franks is an amazing woman who was looking to heal and expand as a person. She’s a Master Business Coach who works with women looking to create their own raving communities and make a good living while doing it!

Aprille is passionate about empowering women through entrepreneurship – working with speakers, authors and other coaches looking to level up. But before she could go any further, she had some soul searching to do herself. She says every leader should take the time to explore who they really are, outside of their day to day.

And when Aprille decided she needed to do something to take care of herself, she came to us.

She came to Sedona to do a Soul Adventure and it was life-changing for her. And I was so surprised (and honored) when she did this Facebook Live, talking about how incredible, healing, enlightening and magical her retreat was. And I feel very blessed that she has agreed that I can share this with you.

It’s 34 minutes long, it’s raw and it is heart-felt.

Aprille told all of the people she works with, “you need to do a Soul Adventure.” How about you? 

  • Are you feeling stuck? 
  • Are you living your life purpose?
  • Do you want to find your life purpose?
  • How’s your relationship doing? 
  • Are you living your best life?

Give us a call and let us help. It’s what we do.

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Call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you. They’ll connect with you and custom design a retreat that’s perfect for exactly what you need and desire.

As I always say – you can have the life or relationship you want – I know it!

How to do a Negativity Detox

Did you know that scientific studies (including one at Yale) show that being positive is more important for living longer than:

  • Cholesterol levels
  • Weight 
  • Smoking
  • Blood pressure
  • Exercise

Watch my video and learn how to do a Negativity Detox.

I hope this helped, but I also know that sometimes we’re in such a negative spiral that we absolutely have to have some help. That was my situation when I came to Sedona 21 years ago – every part of my life was a mess. And thinking positive thoughts (which I was trying to do), just wasn’t cutting it; things were just continuing to get worse. I needed help and that’s why I came to Sedona all those years ago.

Maybe a trip to Sedona could help you. What a perfect way to really get this year going. Call us. We’re masters at getting to the root causes of what’s causing your negativity, moving it out and bringing you back into Connection, to live in Love and Joy and Harmony. And it just might help you live longer.

Call us right now (we’re even open on Sundays because we’re here for you). We’ll connect with you and then we’ll custom design a retreat that’s perfect for exactly what you need to start moving you back into positivity. Click below and we’ll call you.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Karen says her “magical and mystical” Soul Adventure “was definitely a 10” and gave her a “positive perspective”

“My experience with Sedona Soul Adventures was definitely a 10. My work with the different practitioners allowed me to achieve a positive perspective of my life, the challenges that I had faced in the past few years, and let go of the feeling of loss that I had been carrying. It was a very enlightening and comforting experience from start to finish. The whole interaction with Sedona Soul Adventures was great – from the description of what an individualized experience could be on the website, to the first phone interaction when I called. Everything was just what I had hoped for. I felt very nurtured and cared for. It was just as magical and mystical an experience as I had hoped to find in Sedona.” 
~ Karen H. 

Laura says, “My trip to Peru was a life-altering experience. My heart has expanded to new levels. I am so open and the feeling is other worldly.

“My trip to Peru was a life-altering experience thanks to the efforts of Debra, as well as an amazing group of sacred travelers. The universe is such a powerful place. I find it truly amazing how much coordination and dedication it takes to have so many pieces come together to create such a perfect moment in my life. I feel blessed to have been a part of that moment in time as it opened a whole new portal in my life. I cannot begin to express my gratitude. This is an excerpt of an email I sent to one of my best friends after the trip: I laughed. I cried. I was awed. I experienced new dimensions. I felt love and gave love. My gratitude is endless. I feel fortunate to have experienced the Andes Mountains and people. My heart has expanded to new levels. I am so open and the feeling is other worldly. I have made amazing friends. The group, the leaders and the guide were all amazing teachers. I cannot wait to share everything with you.
~ Laura McConnell

Today I want to challenge you to do a Negativity Detox. 

Everybody is always talking about doing a detox from sugar, a detox from carbs or a liver detox, and those are great if they make you feel better – but I’m talking about a detox that will not only make you feel better, but there are scientific studies that show it could help you live longer.

And that’s what a Negativity Detox does – taking 30 days to identify and eliminate all the negativity in your life. It can be a daunting but very exciting task, and I really want to invite you to give it a try. If you do it for 30 days, you could be on the road to a happier, healthier and longer life. 

And I’m saying that because there are so many studies out there on this, but one of my favorite ones is a study at Yale University. The study followed 660 people for up to 23 years that were aged 50 and older. The ones who had a more positive outlook about getting older lived 7 years longer than those who had a negative outlook about it. 

But here’s my favorite part: the Positive Attitude had a greater impact than… 

  • Cholesterol levels
  • Weight
  • Smoking
  • Blood pressure
  • Exercise

All the things that everyone tells us to be worried about. People need to be more worried about not being so worried and not being so negative all the time. 

So how do you go about doing this? 

First, you need to know about your thoughts. According to the National Science Foundation, an average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. Of those, 80% are negative and 95% are repetitive thoughts. So if you’re like most people, you’re thinking the same negative thoughts over and over again. 

That’s what’s causing all the problems and that’s where the Negativity Detox comes in. If you want to change it, you’ve got to do something about it – you need to do something to interrupt that pattern. 

So how do you do a Negativity Detox?

The idea is to eliminate as much negativity as you can from your life. And it starts with YOU. What type of person are you naturally? Are you a “the cup is half empty” or “the cup is half full” kind of person? 

If you’re a “the cup is half full” person, you’ve got a leg up. If you’re a “the cup is half empty” person, the key is turning that around, to flip the switch.

So, just for the next 30 days, decide to react positively no matter what the situation. It can help to decide on a phrase that you automatically tell yourself when something happens that you would normally react negatively to. Something like, “Wow, that’s interesting,” or if it’s something with a person, it could be something like, “Gosh, I wonder what’s going on with them?” Come up with a phrase that works for you that you can start using automatically. 

It’s about dropping the judgment and the automatic reaction. So if someone cuts in front of you in traffic, instead of getting all angry and flipping them off, you have your prepared statement, “Wow, that’s interesting, I wonder what’s going on with them?” Can you see how that would help if you did that every single time for the next 30 days?

If you’re having negative thoughts about yourself or your life, have another statement for that: If you find yourself thinking, “My life sucks,” immediately say or think to yourself your prepared statement, something like, “Wow, isn’t it interesting how these thoughts come in?” And then try to think about something that makes you feel better, like your dog or cat or grandbaby or a funny movie, ANYTHING that can bring you into thinking something more positive. 

How do you get out of bed in the morning? Do you lie there and think, “Oh my God, I can’t even drag myself out of bed,” or do you immediately start thinking about all the 10 million things you have to do today?  

How about coming up with a different way to start your day, just for the next 30 days? Would it help you to literally jump out of bed and say, “Wow, another great day!”? Would it help you to get up 15 minutes early and meditate, exercise or do something (anything) that would be guaranteed to make you feel good? Think of a way to change your pattern in the morning, get up differently, feel differently, do things differently, put your pants on with a different leg first… things that tell your brain you’re doing things differently. 

And then, are there people or situations that are just always negative for you? If so, can you simply avoid these people or places for the next 30 days? 

Of course there are some places you can’t avoid, like your workplace.  

How is the atmosphere there? If it’s really toxic, is it possible for you to speak with your co-workers or a supervisor and talk about ways that your workplace could be a happier place to be in?

If there are people or situations there that bug you, have your prepared statement, “Wow, that’s interesting” or “Gosh, I wonder what’s going on with them.” If you keep that up for even three days, I think you’ll be amazed at what happens when you don’t allow yourself to go into the automatic response you’re so used to. 

If you feel really industrious, I want to invite you to keep a journal about this. You might start each day bounding out of bed and decide to do a gratitude journal. Take three minutes to write down what you’re grateful for – you could even write down positive things about that coworker who bugs you, something like, “She is smart and knows what she’s doing.” And then at the end of the day, journal about how the day went. Give yourself permission to not be perfect; you’re already wired to think thousands of negative thoughts per day, you’re not going to stop them all at once, but just start noticing how you’re thinking more positively and feeling a little better. 

Do this for 30 days and see how you feel. See if you’re thinking and feeling differently about things. If so, keep on incorporating that into your life. 

And sometimes we find ourselves in a negative spiral that even positive thinking can’t help. For some people, it’s from trauma they’ve suffered in the past. For some people, they’ve grown up in an atmosphere where nothing they did was right, they were criticized constantly and it led to them feeling negatively about everything. Unless and until you clear this stuff out, it’s probably always going to be with you. That’s when you might want to think about doing a retreat with us. My life was in a downward, negative spiral until I came to Sedona and worked with the amazing practitioners who are here. We’re masters at getting to the root causes of what’s causing your negativity, moving it out and bringing you back into connection, to live in love and joy and harmony.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please like, share the video with someone you think might get something out of it and subscribe to our channel

And if you’d like more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

2020 – The Year of Clear Vision (What if Money Were No Object?…)

My last two videos have been all about the New Decade and the New Year, setting goals, making lists, etc., but today I want to take a little bit of a different tack and talk to you about daydreaming your way to everything you would like to bring into your life.

I also want you think about a big question:

If money were no object and there was no possibility of failure, what would you love to be or do or have in your life?

Give it a look.

Could this be the year that you actually get what you want? Wouldn’t it be incredible if something really big happened to make this the year your dreams start to come true?

It’s so amazing to me, this week marks 21 years that I first came to Sedona. Over two decades! Wow! I don’t recognize the person who came here 21 years ago. She was so unhappy.

I came to Sedona in January, 1999 and that trip marked the start of my dreams beginning to come true. Maybe that could happen for you too!

Call us right now (we’re even open on Sundays because we’re here for you). We’ll connect with you (or both of you (separately) for a Couples Retreat) and then we’ll custom design a retreat that’s perfect for exactly what you need to start making your dreams come true. Click below and we’ll call you.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

As I always say, if you knew what could happen, you’d be calling right now!

Lea says her Soul Adventure “healed the past,” gave her “clear vision” and the “tools to move forward,” and was “worth every penny”

“I was at a crossroads in my life and was searching for guidance as to my next step, although very aware of lingering past issues. Sedona Soul Adventures provided me with an opportunity to heal the past so my vision for my future is clear. It was the emotional “cleansing” that I needed and has given me the tools I need to move forward with clarity. Worth every penny.”
~ Lea K. 

2020 is here and I’m doing this series of videos to really help you to make this the most magical decade of your life. I hope you watched my two other videos about Not Dragging Your Old Stuff into the New Decade and also about How to have a Kick Ass New Year, because both of those are really great for that. 

perfect vision

But I also feel like there’s this huge piece for us to pay attention to this year. It’s the year 2020. The exact definition of perfect vision, of clear vision, and I think it’s a sign that we’re supposed to see that this is the year we’re supposed to get really clear on the vision for our lives. 

whats your vision

So what’s your vision for your life?  
What do you truly want?  
What excites you? 

In my other videos, I had you make a bunch of lists for different areas in your life and I think that’s really important, but today I want you to do something even more important. I want you to daydream. I want you to spend some quiet time thinking about your life and asking yourself this question: 

if money were no object

“If money were no object and there were no possibility of failure, what would I love to be or do or have in my life?” 

And while you’re doing that, I’m going to give you another piece of how-to advice that you might find a little shocking and that’s to…

Be Selfish.

what do i want

And I don’t mean selfish in the mean way or the way of the super ego. I mean, ask yourself, “What do I really want for myself before I take everyone else into account?”

Coming at this from the standpoint of “What do I really want?”, what would knock your socks off, what would make you dance with joy if it happened… just think of those kinds of things and then AFTER that, you can figure out how everyone else in your life fits into the picture. But first, Give Yourself Permission To Be Selfish Just This Once.

happy dance

With many people, I find that many of us, especially women, very often have a problem with this, because we’re so tied into taking care of everyone else first. But just for the purpose of this exercise, just this once, give yourself permission to think about yourself first. You’re just thinking about it, no one will ever know and your secret is safe with me that you actually spent a few minutes thinking just about yourself. 

So just take some time to think about the different areas of your life and ask yourself the question: 

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It might be something around your life purpose; it might be having a lot of money fall into your lap so that you could be free to live the kind of life you want to live.

raining money

And then be thinking about what is the kind of life you would love to live? 

Just daydream, let yourself go into that fun space where you’re kind of in between a meditation and being fully awake; let yourself get a little trancey, take some deep breaths and try to see yourself in the mist.  

You might see one or two things, you might see a whole bunch of things. 

You might have something already on your mind that you’ve been thinking about, so give yourself some time to dream about what that might look like, or how that might feel. You might want to think about the different areas of your life: 

live the live you want

Body 
Work  
Relationships 
Money 
Peace and Happiness 

When you ask yourself the question – “If money were no object and there were no possibility of failure, what would I love to be or do or have in my life?” – with regard to my work, wouldn’t that be delicious to give yourself free reign to just daydream about all the possibilities? 

And that’s what you’re going for here. A very important word: 

Delicious 

What would make you feel delicious? Or what would be delicious? 

As thoughts and ideas and images come in, jot them down. You don’t need to make a full blown list for now, you can do that later, just write down enough so that you’ll remember it later – or record it on your phone. 

When you come to the end of your daydream, start thinking about some ways to make these dreams more practical. Start thinking about which is the one that makes you feel most excited? 

And start putting some focus on that. Ask yourself:

What is one thing I could do right now to start making this happen? 

You might be surprised that even though your dream seems far away out there, just doing one thing can make it seem much more real.  

And then take another step.

And then another.

This is how our dreams become our reality. 

But it starts with your Clear Vision.

Give yourself the delicious time, because it really is delicious to do this – to daydream about what you want. Let it start with a dream and then bring it into your reality by… 

Imagining it 
Declaring it 
Defining it 

Dream it, say what it is, and then start defining it by exactly what you want. Define it to the point where you know exactly what it is and where you see it when you close your eyes.  

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please like, share the video with someone you think might get something out of it and subscribe to our channel

And if you want a more direct path to knowing and getting what you want – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Alert! Don’t Pull The Last Decade into this one!

Wow! 2020! Not only is it a New Year, it’s an entire New Decade!

Watch my video which is all about, what have you been dragging around for the last 10 years, that you certainly DON’T want to drag into this new decade? It gives you some really concrete ways that will help you do just that.

If you have some big stuff you’re still dragging around from the last 10 years, maybe you’re going to need to do more than what I’m suggesting in the video to deal with it. Because it’s so big and deep, it’s been with you for ten years.

This is what we’re Masters at – digging deep to find the root causes, moving that energy up and out, and moving you back into connection. When you’re operating in connection on all the levels – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual – you’re going to have a happy, joyous life and a fabulous New Decade. Call us.

Decide to become a new person for the new decade. We’re here and together, we can do it.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Julia says her Soul Adventure was “life changing” and left her feeling  “complete, content, whole and Full of love”

“Two words come to mind when I describe my experience: LIFE CHANGING. I left home and arrived in Sedona half a person, I came home complete, content, whole and Full of love. I look at life in a whole new light and enjoy each and every day. Thank you to all the wonderful people at Sedona Soul Adventures that helped to open me up to a whole new world of possibilities.”  
~ Julia Roden

Wow, it’s 2020! I know we all usually focus on New Year’s resolutions, but I want to invite you to take a larger look this year…

It’s a new decade! It’s 2020! I want you to take a long, hard look at the last 10 years and I want to ask you a big question: 

what are you dragging

What are you dragging around from 10 years ago? 

If you make New Year’s Resolutions, are you making the same ones every year? 

I want to lost 10 pounds.

I want to get a new job.

I want my relationship to be better.

I want...

I want to be happier.

Here’s what I want you to do. I want you to take 5 minutes to make a list of where you were 10 years ago and where you are now. What was happening in these major areas of your life? 

Body
Work
Relationships
Money
Peace and Happiness

  • How much did you weigh 10 years ago? Has that changed? Are you more active now or less active?
  • What’s going on with your work? Do you love your work? Are you living your life purpose? Are you living your dreams?
  • What’s happening in your relationships? First with your intimate relationship, is that better or worse? How about with your family and your friends?
  • How is your money situation? Do you have more money now? In 2010 people were still very much feeling the effects of the financial crisis that started at the end of 2008, have things changed a bunch for you on that score?
  • And most importantly, how about your peace and happiness? How were you feeling about things 10 years ago? Did you feel hopeful and optimistic? How’s your hope and optimism now?
peace and hapiness

So I want you to spend 5 minutes doing this. Stop reading and set your timer for 5 minutes. You will get so much benefit out of doing this and don’t tell me, “Debra, I don’t have time.” 

Sweetie, this is exactly why your life isn’t 10 times better than it was 10 years ago and it should be. You deserve to have it be that way. So stop reading and take 5 minutes to do this, and I think you’re going to find that there are some places where you have really made some advances and for that I salute you… I’m so happy for you, but I’ll bet that you’re also going to find that there are a bunch of things that you’ve still been dragging around for the past 10 years and I want you to really look at those. 

Ok, so now that you’ve done that…

debra stangl before after

Which ones are they? Let’s face it: for many of us, our bodies… but I’m happy to say that 2010 was the year my body went from this to that. How about you – what’s happened with your body over the last 10 years? 

What are you dragging around from your work? Do you feel like you’re living your life purpose, are you living your dream? So many people tell me they’re not. This is such a huge part of your life – are you going to take another 10 years to really start living this part of your life? 

How about your relationship? How were things 10 years ago? How are things now? Are you still fighting about the same stuff? Really? After 10 years? Well, I was a divorce attorney for 20 years, so I know that’s exactly what happens: people keep fighting about the same stuff or are unhappy about the same stuff and then they’re hoping that somehow, magically, it will change without them doing anything about it. 

How about your money situation? As I said before, in 2010 we were still in the fallout of the 2008 crisis. Are things better for you now? Even though you might technically be making more money now, do you feel like you actually HAVE more money? Because it’s that feeling of abundance that makes all the difference. 

feeling of abundance

But most important, how are your levels of peace and happiness? 

Are you happier now than you were 10 years ago? Do you feel more at Peace? And if not, are the things that are disturbing you NOW some of the same things that were disturbing you or causing problems for you 10 years ago?

I have to say that when I did my list, and yes, I did my list, that I realized that I’m still dragging some frustration around with me. I’m much better than I was 10 years ago, but you know what, I’m not going to drag that into this new decade. I’m going to do everything I can to move that out. 

Life is just too short for us to be doing anything other than being happy, joyful and connected.

So now that you’ve identified what you’ve been dragging around, let’s look at something more positive…

What would you like to have happen in this next decade? 

Go back to your list and think about what would you like to have happen over the next 10 years? Dream big, the sky’s the limit, if you believe it can be. 

What do you want your money situation to be like in 10 years and what’s it going to take to accomplish that? Do you want to be fully living your life purpose over the next 10 years? What’s it going to take to make that happen? What are some steps you can start taking right now to make that happen?   

You can live a life of joy, connection and happiness. I know that’s possible, I’ve seen it in my own life and I especially see in the lives of people who come to us for a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. When we stop dragging around the old stuff, the old gunk that’s been part of us for so long, miraculous things start to happen. 

So I want to invite you – no I want to beg you – to start doing what it takes, start doing something to bring in the life and relationship of your dreams.  

And I want to invite you to think about doing a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. If you have things that you’ve been dragging around for 10 years, then you need to do something really big to blast that out. 

It’s so interesting to me, I came to Sedona for the first time in 1999, right at the end of that decade. Every single part of my life was a mess and when I look back now, to see the changes over those two decades, it’s just stunning. And it all started with one trip to Sedona. 

Maybe it could all start for you with one trip to Sedona. Call us, we’ll connect with you in deep conversation, we’ll dig through this stuff you’ve been dragging around for so long and we’ll custom design a retreat that will literally root all that out. That’s what happens. We’ll bring you back into connection on all the levels: Physical, Mental, Emotional, Spiritual. And when you’re living in connection, every part of your life is incredible. 

Don’t wait another 10 years, don’t wait another minute. Give us a call. 

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

If you’d like more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or even better, call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

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