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Use Your Tax Refund on a Whole New Life or Relationship

tax refund

It’s that time of year again, and I hope you’re getting a nice big tax refund. It’s so great having that sudden jolt of available cash!

We have lots of people we’re working with right now who are waiting on their tax refund to use it for their Soul Adventure – isn’t that a great idea?

You worked hard all last year and here’s some extra money that is yours to keep and do with as you like. Wouldn’t it be perfect to spend that extra abundance on the one person who made it possible – YOU!?!

What a concept!

  • Taking care of yourself
  • Making yourself even better and happier this year
  • Indulging yourself by coming to the most beautiful place on earth 

We have so many people who come to us and say, “I’ve wanted to do this for so many years and now I’m finally doing it!”

Is this the year you give yourself the gift of a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat? We’ve just started our 18th year – isn’t that amazing? And even after all this time and all these thousands of people, I sometimes still can’t believe what happens for people when they come here.

Here’s one of our most recent reviews that Melanie posted on the third party review site, Trustpilot (third party means that Trustpilot verified she really is a client, she wrote the review and sent it to them, so you can be assured we aren’t just making this up!).

Now that just says it all!

If you could transform your life in three days, would that be worth spending your tax refund on it? If you could come back into connection with your beloved and have the relationship of your dreams after four days, would that be worth it to you? 

I know some of you are going to be thinking, “Yeah, right, my life will be transformed,” but it really is true. I know because I’ve witnessed it thousands of times. And don’t take my word for it, take Melanie’s and the hundreds of reviews we’ve received on Trustpilot in just the last few years (if you’d like to read the reviews, click below).

i want my transformation

Contact us and connect with one of our Retreat Guides. They’ll design the perfect retreat, here in the red rocks of mystical Sedona, to bring you into peace and harmony, and the life (or relationship) of your dreams.

Or, if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

As I always say – you can have the life or relationship you want – I know it!

Will you be getting this from your beloved on Valentine’s Day?

What do you think you’re getting from your beloved for Valentine’s Day? What are you giving your beloved?

Watch this to see what I think is the most important thing you can give them.

Josh and Jen say their Couples Retreat was “the most amazing experience we have had in our lives” and “We feel like we are on fire!”

“This was probably the most amazing experience we have had in our lives and definitely as a couple. We came out of the adventure much closer and with a renewed sense of direction. We feel like we are on fire! We are ready to go out into the world and live our lives with joy and purpose! We want to make the most of our human experience and use our close partnership to support each other’s life purposes. Our lives have changed forever because of our Soul Adventure and it was just the boost we needed to grow in marriage and in life. We have a whole new perspective on our lives and we can truly see the endless possibilities now. We both feel so blessed that we were able to experience this adventure together and we will most definitely return to discover even more about our true selves as we travel along this path. Thanks to everyone at Sedona Soul Adventures who made this experience possible. We wish for everyone to receive the love and joy that they have given us.”  
Josh & Jen B.

Would you like to have an amazing experience with your beloved that will make you feel like you’re on fire? Give us a call.

i want my transformation

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Happy Valentine’s Day! The day of love and lovers. 

happy valentines day

On this special day, I want to tell you about something I’ve come to believe, just in the past year, about relationships. It’s something that seems like I should have known this all along and when you hear it, you’re probably going to say something like, “Well, of course, Debra, everybody knows that.” 

But just stay with me for a moment because I think you might be surprised to find out that what I think the #1 thing that you either have or don’t have in your relationship, that either makes it or breaks it and that is…

Are you nurturing each other?
Does your beloved nurture you?
And are you nurturing your beloved? 

It seems like a simple question, but it’s not at all. Because it’s about a way of being. It’s a decision you’re making, in every moment.  

Do you truly want to nurture your beloved?  

Do you want to nurture them in the way they want to be nurtured? 

love-crazy

Or are you constantly picking at them, criticizing them and thinking nasty thoughts about them?

As most of you know, I was a divorce attorney for over 20 years and now I’ve done couples work in Sedona for almost 20 years. It appears to me that relationships are either mainly in the “I love you” zone or the “You drive me crazy” zone. And it seems like once you’ve rounded the corner into the “you drive me crazy” zone, there’s not much going back unless you really do something about it.

couple avoiding

There are basic problems that seem to show up a lot when the nurturing factor isn’t there. And in my experience, there are things that seem unique to women and unique to men. This is also borne out in John Grey’s Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus series of books (so please don’t write me that I’m stereotyping — I’ve watched this for almost 40 years!). 

mars and venus

If you’re a woman, do you: 

  • Complain a lot to your partner? 
  • Complain about your partner to other people?
  • Have you taken everything over because he won’t do the stuff you want him to do, in the way you want him to do it? 
tune out

If you’re a man: 

  • Are you engaging emotionally with your partner? 
  • Are you able to just sit and listen to your partner or do you always give advice, even when it’s not asked for?
  • Are there times when you simply tune your partner out? 

These are all danger signs. Big signals telling you, “STOP! You’ve got to do something here.”

If you’re a woman, stop complaining and stop doing everything because he’s not doing it right.

i want to nurture

If you’re a man, start listening and start really engaging emotionally with her.  

The biggest thing, is that you both have to make this basic decision: “I love this person and I want to nurture them.”  

So many books and articles say that communication is the most important thing in a relationship and of course, communication is extremely important, but think about it…

communication

Deciding to truly nurture your partner is at another layer below communication and everything else. If you are in nurturing mode, your communication will always be wonderful, the way you treat them will always be wonderful, and you’ll be having the perfect amount of sex and time together, because it will be based on each of you nurturing the other. 

nurture your partner

If you’re finding that you’re out of the nurturing zone, you can recognize that and you can do something about it. You literally can shift everything around by making this simple decision:

I want to nurture this person and I’m going to figure out how to do that.

drop resentments

It takes 

  • Willingness 
  • Dropping your resentments about what’s happened in the past 
  • Coming back into loving connection 

Now I know, doing these things is easier said than done. Letting go of past resentments is usually pretty difficult for both parties and that’s usually what’s holding one or both of you back from really getting into and staying in the nurturing zone.  

Or maybe you don’t have clarity about what you truly want. It’s hard to go out of your way to do something for the other person when you’re maybe not 100% sure that you want to be with them. 

happy couple sunset

Let us help you get back into the nurturing zone. Come to Sedona and do a Couples Retreat. Give it to yourselves as a Valentine’s Day present. Wouldn’t that be the most amazing present you’ve ever had? Coming back into the love and connection that brought you together in the first place? 

Call us and connect with one of our Angel Guides. They’ll connect with both of you separately and really dig deep to discover what’s keeping you out of the nurturing zone. Then they’ll put together a retreat that’s custom designed for exactly what you need and want, to bring you back into the love and connection and sizzle that you crave, giving you tools to stay in the nurturing zone forever.   

If you’d like more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

Or even better, if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us today at (928) 204-5988.  

If you got value from this video, please like, share the video with someone you think might get something out of it and subscribe to our channel

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

More Sex, Fight Fair and Let Go of the Past

All this month, I’ve been sending you videos about how to have a fabulous New Year and New Decade. As part of that, I want to tell you three very specific things you can do right now for having your relationship be fantastic in 2020. And each of these things are backed up by scientific studies, which I love!

Give a listen – this could save your relationship! Or send it to someone (your partner, maybe?) who might benefit from it.

Relationships are hard. I know – I was a divorce attorney for 20 years, I’ve been doing couples work with Sedona Soul Adventures for almost 20 years and I’ve been married more than once. 

I’m happy to say I’m in a blissful marriage now, but one of the reasons it’s blissful is because I practice what I preach. I do the three specific tips I just gave you and when something is going on, my husband and I do sessions with our practitioners here, because they are the best of the best and sometimes you just need to hear something from a third person. 

We all need help, once in a while – even me!

Do you need help? Does your relationship need help? If your relationship is on the wrong path right now, you’ve got to do something to turn it in the right direction.

Give us a call and let us custom design the perfect retreat for the two of you.

I love this post from Rachel on Facebook:

Wouldn’t you love to have all that happen for you and your relationship?

  • To thrive more as a couple
  • To thrive more as an individual
  • To thrive more as a parent
  • To really show up for each other and in your lives
  • To have your relationship feel NEW

To have a whole new relationship, that’s what happens when people do a Couples Soul Adventure. Call us and let’s get one started for you.

i want my transformation

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

couple red rocks

Most of you who have been watching my videos over the years know that I was a divorce attorney for over 20 years in Omaha, Nebraska and then after that, I’ve spent almost 20 years working with couples through Sedona Soul Adventures – so I have almost 40 years experience of working with couples.

Today I want to give you 3 specific tips for making your relationship stronger.

What I love about these is that they are actually based on scientific studies. I love it when studies prove things that we intuitively already know. 

have sex often

The first one is one – and when you first hear it, you’re probably going to say something like, “Duh, Debra, everybody knows that” – but I want you to really listen to it. Here it is: 

If you want your relationship to thrive, you should be having sex often and regularly. 

And here’s why:

woman staring out window

Because studies have shown there is a direct correlation between how often you have sex and the positive feelings you have about your partner. The more frequently partners had sex, the more positive their implicit, or gut-level, positive feelings about the relationship were. This is according to a study in Psychological Science. 

implicit attitude

So let me explain exactly what this means. Your implicit feeling about your partner is your automatic response to them. Let’s say they walk in the door at the end of the day and you’re tired and know you have to make dinner. The study researchers reported,  “When you’re tired and don’t have the energy to think about how you feel about your partner, the implicit attitude you have toward them is the one that will come out and influence the way you treat them.” 

Of course we all know that, but here’s the kicker: in the study, the more people had sex, the more their implicit response – their automatic response to their partner – was positive. So by having more sex, you’re increasing the likelihood that your automatic response to your partner, the response you don’t even think about, will be positive. 

have more sex

And how do you want to feel about your partner? You want to automatically feel good about them. Ergo, have more sex. 

One of the things that’s been so heartbreaking for me, both when I was a divorce attorney and now after all these years of working with couples at Sedona Soul Adventures, is to find out the number of couples who have not had sex in a really, really long time. I mean 2 ½ years, 5 years, even 10 years. It’s such an indicator of what’s going on in the relationship. And sometimes there ARE things going on – anger, mistrust, upset with the other person – but if you allow those to linger, if you don’t take steps to fix them, that’s when you’re going to have long term trouble, the kind of trouble that leads to divorce and separation. 

fight fair

Which leads us to Tip No. 2:

Figure out how to fight fair.

Anger and Stonewalling don’t work, they lead to health problems and long term unhappiness.

Again, “duh,” but really listen to this because I love what this study found. They followed 156 couples over a 20 year period, observing the same couples every 5 years, and found that people who get really angry in arguing with their spouse have a greatly increased risk of heart disease. 

increased heart disease

The people who stonewall (meaning, “I don’t want to talk about his right now”) and so then they never really deal with their problems, were much more likely to develop musculoskeletal problems, meaning back pain. The other thing I loved about this study is that the researchers said in their report that a lot of the couples in this study had the same conflict year in and year out, and they usually discussed it in eerily similar terms. Dr. Robert Levenson of UC Berkeley said, “Sometimes we’d be listening in and wondering, ‘Is this the same conversation they had five years ago?’” 

anger and stonewalling

Anger doesn’t work. Stonewalling doesn’t work. It can give you heart disease and back pain, and lead to years of unhappiness. You’ve got to figure out a better way of communicating with each other than getting angry or giving the other person the silent treatment. 

And this leads directly to the 3rd tip:

leave the past

Leave the past In the past.

If you work through a hardship together and come to a positive resolution, move past it and use the experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Don’t keep throwing it in your partner’s face during arguments, don’t use it to guilt-trip your partner, and try not to assume that just because something happened once, it will happen again. What’s passed is past, and rehashing old ugliness will just poison future happiness. Let it go. 

poison future happiness

I know from my own personal experience and also from working with couples how hard this is. We had a couple here this year who two years ago, the man had an emotional relationship with someone at work. Nothing sexual ever happened and he stopped it when he realized where it was going and told his wife about it. She was understandably very upset, but even after two years of therapy, she simply could not let this go and she continually accused him of doing it again – although he never did – and she was jealous and angry and becoming really nasty with him all the time. 

They were on the verge of divorce when they came to us and we discovered that she had some core wounds from her childhood around not being worthy of love. That’s what was preventing her from letting this go. When she really got it that it was her own feelings of not being loveable, not his behavior that was really causing the problem, she was able to let it go and they were more in love than ever, saving their marriage, which I was especially happy for because they have two young children.  

let go of the past

If your relationship and your family is important to you, you have to find a way to let go of the past and reclaim the love the two of you have. 

And of course, sometimes that’s a whole lot easier said than done. Sometimes we just can’t get beyond things that have happened, especially if they involve trust or betrayal. But the question is: Do you want to hold onto that or do you want to hold onto your marriage and your family? 

So here are the tips: 

sizzle
  1. Have more sex  
  2. Learn how to disagree without anger and stonewalling
  3. Let go of the past 

How are you doing with those? Is your relationship where you want it to be? Does it still Sizzle like it used to? Is your partner your best friend?

If not, I can tell you that you’re on a difficult road, a road that is probably going to lead you someplace you don’t want to go. So you have two choices:

two choices
  1. Do something about it, or 
  2. Get more and more miserable

The second choice is what a lot of people do for a long period of time before they simply can’t stand it anymore and they split up. I don’t want that for you. I don’t want that for your family.

Our couples retreats are so powerful because they are custom designed for exactly what the two of you need.

First, we’ll talk to each of you separately before you even come to Sedona, really digging deep to get to the causes of the problems and what got you here. The problems that got you here in the first place are different for everybody and need to be treated in the specific ways that you need. 

custom design

Then we’ll custom design your retreat and when you come to Sedona, you’ll be working one-on-one with the Master Practitioners here, some of whom have over 20 years of working with couples. Your sessions will be completely private. You won’t be in a group where you’ll have to air your dirty laundry in front of a lot of strangers. You’ll be working privately with people who are caring and compassionate, helping you to move through the blocks and gunk that have brought you here and bringing you back into connection. Connection with yourself, connection with your beloved and connection with that third thing which is your relationship. 

We’ve had so many people come to us on the verge of divorce, sometimes with the papers already signed, and we’ve turned things around and brought them back to the love that brought them together in the first place. And we’ve had so many people where the sizzle is gone and they want to take their relationship to the next level – really bringing in the love and connection that is so juicy and wonderful and satisfying.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please like, share the video with someone you think might get something out of it and subscribe to our channel

But if you’re ready to have the relationship of your dreams and move through the problems of the past, call us at (928) 204-5988 today to talk to us so that we can custom design the perfect retreat for your needs and desires. 

We all want to be loved in the way we want to be loved. Sometimes we need help finding that. If this is something you’re searching for, please call us – or if you’d like more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

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She Decided to Take Care of Herself and this is What Happened

A few weeks ago, we had an incredible person here to do a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. Aprille Franks is an amazing woman who was looking to heal and expand as a person. She’s a Master Business Coach who works with women looking to create their own raving communities and make a good living while doing it!

Aprille is passionate about empowering women through entrepreneurship – working with speakers, authors and other coaches looking to level up. But before she could go any further, she had some soul searching to do herself. She says every leader should take the time to explore who they really are, outside of their day to day.

And when Aprille decided she needed to do something to take care of herself, she came to us.

She came to Sedona to do a Soul Adventure and it was life-changing for her. And I was so surprised (and honored) when she did this Facebook Live, talking about how incredible, healing, enlightening and magical her retreat was. And I feel very blessed that she has agreed that I can share this with you.

It’s 34 minutes long, it’s raw and it is heart-felt.

Aprille told all of the people she works with, “you need to do a Soul Adventure.” How about you? 

  • Are you feeling stuck? 
  • Are you living your life purpose?
  • Do you want to find your life purpose?
  • How’s your relationship doing? 
  • Are you living your best life?

Give us a call and let us help. It’s what we do.

i want my transformation

Call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you. They’ll connect with you and custom design a retreat that’s perfect for exactly what you need and desire.

As I always say – you can have the life or relationship you want – I know it!

How to do a Negativity Detox

Did you know that scientific studies (including one at Yale) show that being positive is more important for living longer than:

  • Cholesterol levels
  • Weight 
  • Smoking
  • Blood pressure
  • Exercise

Watch my video and learn how to do a Negativity Detox.

I hope this helped, but I also know that sometimes we’re in such a negative spiral that we absolutely have to have some help. That was my situation when I came to Sedona 21 years ago – every part of my life was a mess. And thinking positive thoughts (which I was trying to do), just wasn’t cutting it; things were just continuing to get worse. I needed help and that’s why I came to Sedona all those years ago.

Maybe a trip to Sedona could help you. What a perfect way to really get this year going. Call us. We’re masters at getting to the root causes of what’s causing your negativity, moving it out and bringing you back into Connection, to live in Love and Joy and Harmony. And it just might help you live longer.

Call us right now (we’re even open on Sundays because we’re here for you). We’ll connect with you and then we’ll custom design a retreat that’s perfect for exactly what you need to start moving you back into positivity. Click below and we’ll call you.

i want my transformation

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Karen says her “magical and mystical” Soul Adventure “was definitely a 10” and gave her a “positive perspective”

“My experience with Sedona Soul Adventures was definitely a 10. My work with the different practitioners allowed me to achieve a positive perspective of my life, the challenges that I had faced in the past few years, and let go of the feeling of loss that I had been carrying. It was a very enlightening and comforting experience from start to finish. The whole interaction with Sedona Soul Adventures was great – from the description of what an individualized experience could be on the website, to the first phone interaction when I called. Everything was just what I had hoped for. I felt very nurtured and cared for. It was just as magical and mystical an experience as I had hoped to find in Sedona.” 
~ Karen H. 

Laura says, “My trip to Peru was a life-altering experience. My heart has expanded to new levels. I am so open and the feeling is other worldly.

“My trip to Peru was a life-altering experience thanks to the efforts of Debra, as well as an amazing group of sacred travelers. The universe is such a powerful place. I find it truly amazing how much coordination and dedication it takes to have so many pieces come together to create such a perfect moment in my life. I feel blessed to have been a part of that moment in time as it opened a whole new portal in my life. I cannot begin to express my gratitude. This is an excerpt of an email I sent to one of my best friends after the trip: I laughed. I cried. I was awed. I experienced new dimensions. I felt love and gave love. My gratitude is endless. I feel fortunate to have experienced the Andes Mountains and people. My heart has expanded to new levels. I am so open and the feeling is other worldly. I have made amazing friends. The group, the leaders and the guide were all amazing teachers. I cannot wait to share everything with you.
~ Laura McConnell

Today I want to challenge you to do a Negativity Detox. 

Everybody is always talking about doing a detox from sugar, a detox from carbs or a liver detox, and those are great if they make you feel better – but I’m talking about a detox that will not only make you feel better, but there are scientific studies that show it could help you live longer.

And that’s what a Negativity Detox does – taking 30 days to identify and eliminate all the negativity in your life. It can be a daunting but very exciting task, and I really want to invite you to give it a try. If you do it for 30 days, you could be on the road to a happier, healthier and longer life. 

And I’m saying that because there are so many studies out there on this, but one of my favorite ones is a study at Yale University. The study followed 660 people for up to 23 years that were aged 50 and older. The ones who had a more positive outlook about getting older lived 7 years longer than those who had a negative outlook about it. 

But here’s my favorite part: the Positive Attitude had a greater impact than… 

  • Cholesterol levels
  • Weight
  • Smoking
  • Blood pressure
  • Exercise

All the things that everyone tells us to be worried about. People need to be more worried about not being so worried and not being so negative all the time. 

So how do you go about doing this? 

First, you need to know about your thoughts. According to the National Science Foundation, an average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. Of those, 80% are negative and 95% are repetitive thoughts. So if you’re like most people, you’re thinking the same negative thoughts over and over again. 

That’s what’s causing all the problems and that’s where the Negativity Detox comes in. If you want to change it, you’ve got to do something about it – you need to do something to interrupt that pattern. 

So how do you do a Negativity Detox?

The idea is to eliminate as much negativity as you can from your life. And it starts with YOU. What type of person are you naturally? Are you a “the cup is half empty” or “the cup is half full” kind of person? 

If you’re a “the cup is half full” person, you’ve got a leg up. If you’re a “the cup is half empty” person, the key is turning that around, to flip the switch.

So, just for the next 30 days, decide to react positively no matter what the situation. It can help to decide on a phrase that you automatically tell yourself when something happens that you would normally react negatively to. Something like, “Wow, that’s interesting,” or if it’s something with a person, it could be something like, “Gosh, I wonder what’s going on with them?” Come up with a phrase that works for you that you can start using automatically. 

It’s about dropping the judgment and the automatic reaction. So if someone cuts in front of you in traffic, instead of getting all angry and flipping them off, you have your prepared statement, “Wow, that’s interesting, I wonder what’s going on with them?” Can you see how that would help if you did that every single time for the next 30 days?

If you’re having negative thoughts about yourself or your life, have another statement for that: If you find yourself thinking, “My life sucks,” immediately say or think to yourself your prepared statement, something like, “Wow, isn’t it interesting how these thoughts come in?” And then try to think about something that makes you feel better, like your dog or cat or grandbaby or a funny movie, ANYTHING that can bring you into thinking something more positive. 

How do you get out of bed in the morning? Do you lie there and think, “Oh my God, I can’t even drag myself out of bed,” or do you immediately start thinking about all the 10 million things you have to do today?  

How about coming up with a different way to start your day, just for the next 30 days? Would it help you to literally jump out of bed and say, “Wow, another great day!”? Would it help you to get up 15 minutes early and meditate, exercise or do something (anything) that would be guaranteed to make you feel good? Think of a way to change your pattern in the morning, get up differently, feel differently, do things differently, put your pants on with a different leg first… things that tell your brain you’re doing things differently. 

And then, are there people or situations that are just always negative for you? If so, can you simply avoid these people or places for the next 30 days? 

Of course there are some places you can’t avoid, like your workplace.  

How is the atmosphere there? If it’s really toxic, is it possible for you to speak with your co-workers or a supervisor and talk about ways that your workplace could be a happier place to be in?

If there are people or situations there that bug you, have your prepared statement, “Wow, that’s interesting” or “Gosh, I wonder what’s going on with them.” If you keep that up for even three days, I think you’ll be amazed at what happens when you don’t allow yourself to go into the automatic response you’re so used to. 

If you feel really industrious, I want to invite you to keep a journal about this. You might start each day bounding out of bed and decide to do a gratitude journal. Take three minutes to write down what you’re grateful for – you could even write down positive things about that coworker who bugs you, something like, “She is smart and knows what she’s doing.” And then at the end of the day, journal about how the day went. Give yourself permission to not be perfect; you’re already wired to think thousands of negative thoughts per day, you’re not going to stop them all at once, but just start noticing how you’re thinking more positively and feeling a little better. 

Do this for 30 days and see how you feel. See if you’re thinking and feeling differently about things. If so, keep on incorporating that into your life. 

And sometimes we find ourselves in a negative spiral that even positive thinking can’t help. For some people, it’s from trauma they’ve suffered in the past. For some people, they’ve grown up in an atmosphere where nothing they did was right, they were criticized constantly and it led to them feeling negatively about everything. Unless and until you clear this stuff out, it’s probably always going to be with you. That’s when you might want to think about doing a retreat with us. My life was in a downward, negative spiral until I came to Sedona and worked with the amazing practitioners who are here. We’re masters at getting to the root causes of what’s causing your negativity, moving it out and bringing you back into connection, to live in love and joy and harmony.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please like, share the video with someone you think might get something out of it and subscribe to our channel

And if you’d like more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

2020 – The Year of Clear Vision (What if Money Were No Object?…)

My last two videos have been all about the New Decade and the New Year, setting goals, making lists, etc., but today I want to take a little bit of a different tack and talk to you about daydreaming your way to everything you would like to bring into your life.

I also want you think about a big question:

If money were no object and there was no possibility of failure, what would you love to be or do or have in your life?

Give it a look.

Could this be the year that you actually get what you want? Wouldn’t it be incredible if something really big happened to make this the year your dreams start to come true?

It’s so amazing to me, this week marks 21 years that I first came to Sedona. Over two decades! Wow! I don’t recognize the person who came here 21 years ago. She was so unhappy.

I came to Sedona in January, 1999 and that trip marked the start of my dreams beginning to come true. Maybe that could happen for you too!

Call us right now (we’re even open on Sundays because we’re here for you). We’ll connect with you (or both of you (separately) for a Couples Retreat) and then we’ll custom design a retreat that’s perfect for exactly what you need to start making your dreams come true. Click below and we’ll call you.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

As I always say, if you knew what could happen, you’d be calling right now!

Lea says her Soul Adventure “healed the past,” gave her “clear vision” and the “tools to move forward,” and was “worth every penny”

“I was at a crossroads in my life and was searching for guidance as to my next step, although very aware of lingering past issues. Sedona Soul Adventures provided me with an opportunity to heal the past so my vision for my future is clear. It was the emotional “cleansing” that I needed and has given me the tools I need to move forward with clarity. Worth every penny.”
~ Lea K. 

2020 is here and I’m doing this series of videos to really help you to make this the most magical decade of your life. I hope you watched my two other videos about Not Dragging Your Old Stuff into the New Decade and also about How to have a Kick Ass New Year, because both of those are really great for that. 

perfect vision

But I also feel like there’s this huge piece for us to pay attention to this year. It’s the year 2020. The exact definition of perfect vision, of clear vision, and I think it’s a sign that we’re supposed to see that this is the year we’re supposed to get really clear on the vision for our lives. 

whats your vision

So what’s your vision for your life?  
What do you truly want?  
What excites you? 

In my other videos, I had you make a bunch of lists for different areas in your life and I think that’s really important, but today I want you to do something even more important. I want you to daydream. I want you to spend some quiet time thinking about your life and asking yourself this question: 

if money were no object

“If money were no object and there were no possibility of failure, what would I love to be or do or have in my life?” 

And while you’re doing that, I’m going to give you another piece of how-to advice that you might find a little shocking and that’s to…

Be Selfish.

what do i want

And I don’t mean selfish in the mean way or the way of the super ego. I mean, ask yourself, “What do I really want for myself before I take everyone else into account?”

Coming at this from the standpoint of “What do I really want?”, what would knock your socks off, what would make you dance with joy if it happened… just think of those kinds of things and then AFTER that, you can figure out how everyone else in your life fits into the picture. But first, Give Yourself Permission To Be Selfish Just This Once.

happy dance

With many people, I find that many of us, especially women, very often have a problem with this, because we’re so tied into taking care of everyone else first. But just for the purpose of this exercise, just this once, give yourself permission to think about yourself first. You’re just thinking about it, no one will ever know and your secret is safe with me that you actually spent a few minutes thinking just about yourself. 

So just take some time to think about the different areas of your life and ask yourself the question: 

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It might be something around your life purpose; it might be having a lot of money fall into your lap so that you could be free to live the kind of life you want to live.

raining money

And then be thinking about what is the kind of life you would love to live? 

Just daydream, let yourself go into that fun space where you’re kind of in between a meditation and being fully awake; let yourself get a little trancey, take some deep breaths and try to see yourself in the mist.  

You might see one or two things, you might see a whole bunch of things. 

You might have something already on your mind that you’ve been thinking about, so give yourself some time to dream about what that might look like, or how that might feel. You might want to think about the different areas of your life: 

live the live you want

Body 
Work  
Relationships 
Money 
Peace and Happiness 

When you ask yourself the question – “If money were no object and there were no possibility of failure, what would I love to be or do or have in my life?” – with regard to my work, wouldn’t that be delicious to give yourself free reign to just daydream about all the possibilities? 

And that’s what you’re going for here. A very important word: 

Delicious 

What would make you feel delicious? Or what would be delicious? 

As thoughts and ideas and images come in, jot them down. You don’t need to make a full blown list for now, you can do that later, just write down enough so that you’ll remember it later – or record it on your phone. 

When you come to the end of your daydream, start thinking about some ways to make these dreams more practical. Start thinking about which is the one that makes you feel most excited? 

And start putting some focus on that. Ask yourself:

What is one thing I could do right now to start making this happen? 

You might be surprised that even though your dream seems far away out there, just doing one thing can make it seem much more real.  

And then take another step.

And then another.

This is how our dreams become our reality. 

But it starts with your Clear Vision.

Give yourself the delicious time, because it really is delicious to do this – to daydream about what you want. Let it start with a dream and then bring it into your reality by… 

Imagining it 
Declaring it 
Defining it 

Dream it, say what it is, and then start defining it by exactly what you want. Define it to the point where you know exactly what it is and where you see it when you close your eyes.  

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please like, share the video with someone you think might get something out of it and subscribe to our channel

And if you want a more direct path to knowing and getting what you want – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Alert! Don’t Pull The Last Decade into this one!

Wow! 2020! Not only is it a New Year, it’s an entire New Decade!

Watch my video which is all about, what have you been dragging around for the last 10 years, that you certainly DON’T want to drag into this new decade? It gives you some really concrete ways that will help you do just that.

If you have some big stuff you’re still dragging around from the last 10 years, maybe you’re going to need to do more than what I’m suggesting in the video to deal with it. Because it’s so big and deep, it’s been with you for ten years.

This is what we’re Masters at – digging deep to find the root causes, moving that energy up and out, and moving you back into connection. When you’re operating in connection on all the levels – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual – you’re going to have a happy, joyous life and a fabulous New Decade. Call us.

Decide to become a new person for the new decade. We’re here and together, we can do it.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Julia says her Soul Adventure was “life changing” and left her feeling  “complete, content, whole and Full of love”

“Two words come to mind when I describe my experience: LIFE CHANGING. I left home and arrived in Sedona half a person, I came home complete, content, whole and Full of love. I look at life in a whole new light and enjoy each and every day. Thank you to all the wonderful people at Sedona Soul Adventures that helped to open me up to a whole new world of possibilities.”  
~ Julia Roden

Wow, it’s 2020! I know we all usually focus on New Year’s resolutions, but I want to invite you to take a larger look this year…

It’s a new decade! It’s 2020! I want you to take a long, hard look at the last 10 years and I want to ask you a big question: 

what are you dragging

What are you dragging around from 10 years ago? 

If you make New Year’s Resolutions, are you making the same ones every year? 

I want to lost 10 pounds.

I want to get a new job.

I want my relationship to be better.

I want...

I want to be happier.

Here’s what I want you to do. I want you to take 5 minutes to make a list of where you were 10 years ago and where you are now. What was happening in these major areas of your life? 

Body
Work
Relationships
Money
Peace and Happiness

  • How much did you weigh 10 years ago? Has that changed? Are you more active now or less active?
  • What’s going on with your work? Do you love your work? Are you living your life purpose? Are you living your dreams?
  • What’s happening in your relationships? First with your intimate relationship, is that better or worse? How about with your family and your friends?
  • How is your money situation? Do you have more money now? In 2010 people were still very much feeling the effects of the financial crisis that started at the end of 2008, have things changed a bunch for you on that score?
  • And most importantly, how about your peace and happiness? How were you feeling about things 10 years ago? Did you feel hopeful and optimistic? How’s your hope and optimism now?
peace and hapiness

So I want you to spend 5 minutes doing this. Stop reading and set your timer for 5 minutes. You will get so much benefit out of doing this and don’t tell me, “Debra, I don’t have time.” 

Sweetie, this is exactly why your life isn’t 10 times better than it was 10 years ago and it should be. You deserve to have it be that way. So stop reading and take 5 minutes to do this, and I think you’re going to find that there are some places where you have really made some advances and for that I salute you… I’m so happy for you, but I’ll bet that you’re also going to find that there are a bunch of things that you’ve still been dragging around for the past 10 years and I want you to really look at those. 

Ok, so now that you’ve done that…

debra stangl before after

Which ones are they? Let’s face it: for many of us, our bodies… but I’m happy to say that 2010 was the year my body went from this to that. How about you – what’s happened with your body over the last 10 years? 

What are you dragging around from your work? Do you feel like you’re living your life purpose, are you living your dream? So many people tell me they’re not. This is such a huge part of your life – are you going to take another 10 years to really start living this part of your life? 

How about your relationship? How were things 10 years ago? How are things now? Are you still fighting about the same stuff? Really? After 10 years? Well, I was a divorce attorney for 20 years, so I know that’s exactly what happens: people keep fighting about the same stuff or are unhappy about the same stuff and then they’re hoping that somehow, magically, it will change without them doing anything about it. 

How about your money situation? As I said before, in 2010 we were still in the fallout of the 2008 crisis. Are things better for you now? Even though you might technically be making more money now, do you feel like you actually HAVE more money? Because it’s that feeling of abundance that makes all the difference. 

feeling of abundance

But most important, how are your levels of peace and happiness? 

Are you happier now than you were 10 years ago? Do you feel more at Peace? And if not, are the things that are disturbing you NOW some of the same things that were disturbing you or causing problems for you 10 years ago?

I have to say that when I did my list, and yes, I did my list, that I realized that I’m still dragging some frustration around with me. I’m much better than I was 10 years ago, but you know what, I’m not going to drag that into this new decade. I’m going to do everything I can to move that out. 

Life is just too short for us to be doing anything other than being happy, joyful and connected.

So now that you’ve identified what you’ve been dragging around, let’s look at something more positive…

What would you like to have happen in this next decade? 

Go back to your list and think about what would you like to have happen over the next 10 years? Dream big, the sky’s the limit, if you believe it can be. 

What do you want your money situation to be like in 10 years and what’s it going to take to accomplish that? Do you want to be fully living your life purpose over the next 10 years? What’s it going to take to make that happen? What are some steps you can start taking right now to make that happen?   

You can live a life of joy, connection and happiness. I know that’s possible, I’ve seen it in my own life and I especially see in the lives of people who come to us for a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. When we stop dragging around the old stuff, the old gunk that’s been part of us for so long, miraculous things start to happen. 

So I want to invite you – no I want to beg you – to start doing what it takes, start doing something to bring in the life and relationship of your dreams.  

And I want to invite you to think about doing a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. If you have things that you’ve been dragging around for 10 years, then you need to do something really big to blast that out. 

It’s so interesting to me, I came to Sedona for the first time in 1999, right at the end of that decade. Every single part of my life was a mess and when I look back now, to see the changes over those two decades, it’s just stunning. And it all started with one trip to Sedona. 

Maybe it could all start for you with one trip to Sedona. Call us, we’ll connect with you in deep conversation, we’ll dig through this stuff you’ve been dragging around for so long and we’ll custom design a retreat that will literally root all that out. That’s what happens. We’ll bring you back into connection on all the levels: Physical, Mental, Emotional, Spiritual. And when you’re living in connection, every part of your life is incredible. 

Don’t wait another 10 years, don’t wait another minute. Give us a call. 

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

If you’d like more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or even better, call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Your Photo Here?

When people finish their Soul Adventures retreat, they feel so fantastic. A little while ago, I got the idea to start putting their photos and Before and After Statements (with their permission, of course) on our Wall of Success. The Wall is now getting overloaded with all the photos and everyone talking about how their life and relationship is changed after their Soul Adventure. Watch my sweet video:

How about you? Would you like to be the next one on our Wall of Success? We’d love for you to have a transformation in every area of your life.

Call us and let us help.

i want my transformation

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Federico says his “life changing, transformational” Soul Adventure “taught me that I can keep myself in alignment in LIFE regardless of what life throws at me and the ‘external’ circumstances.”

“My retreat ROCKED!!! Hands down – life changing, transformational, powerful, cleansing, shifts, synchronicity, alignment, consciousness, awareness, love, peace, joy, happiness, freedom, ABUNDANCE…you name it…it did it for me!!!” Most of all, it taught me how to integrate these teachings into my daily life and that I can keep myself in alignment in LIFE, no matter the level of stress in the high-paced world of finance, or regardless of what life throws at me and the ‘external’ circumstances…personal, relationships, or professional…it taught me that I HAVE IT ALL…ALL INSIDE ME…and that is the most POWERFUL thing and highest vibration in the Universe – tapping into your HEART AND SOUL!!!! Thank You Sedona Soul Adventures – All of YOU, THANK YOU!!!”
~ Federico T.

I’m coming to you from our beautiful offices in Sedona. I love our office so much because we have beautiful views of Cathedral Rock and Thunder Mountain, and the energy here is so wonderful.

And I’m here because I want to show you what we call our Wall of Success. I love looking at our Wall of Success because I see it the minute I walk in the door and it just is always reminding me why we do what we do at Sedona Soul Adventures. 

We started this a few years ago because we had people sending us beautiful pictures of themselves in the red rocks, sending us messages of how their lives and relationships had been so completely transformed by doing a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. And one day, someone in the office said, “You know, we really ought to do something with these, they’re so beautiful, they’re so wonderful,” so we started putting them up. Now people see them when they start their Soul Adventure and pretty much everyone sends them to us…we are even having a hard time getting them all up, which is so great.

I love reading these and remembering these people, and it’s funny, because I always try to come into the office and meet everyone at the beginning of their retreat. And sometimes when I do, I can see that they are so shut down or their problems are so huge that I have a feeling of, “oh no, maybe it’s not going to happen for them,”  and then every single time, it does – they have this amazing, incredible transformation or their marriage is saved and it’s just so fantastic.

Sometimes people come back for another Soul Adventure and it’s also fun for them to see themselves on the wall.

I also love the incredible diversity that we have here. It’s really amazing. Male, female, all the different colors, gay, straight, people from very different backgrounds as far as their their age, professions, income, nationalities, mothers, daughters, fathers, sons, husbands, wives… Isn’t that cool? 

But the absolute best part is reading what people have said. 

This is one of my favorite parts of the day, coming into the office and seeing this Wall, seeing all these people whose lives and relationships have been transformed by what all of us here at Sedona Soul Adventures do. 

So if you’d like to be our next success, we’d love that for you.

Go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Fast, Easy Way to Meditate (plus a special deal!)

If you’ve been receiving my emails for a while, you know that I’m a big proponent of meditation (kind of a “nag,” some might say! :))

Listen to my video where I talk about the incredible benefits of meditation and give you the opportunity to get all of The Sedona Meditations for only $19.99.

  • Releasing Stress
  • Releasing Fear and Worry
  • What is My Soul’s Purpose?
  • Sedona Chakra Meditation
  • Moving Into a Higher, Faster Vibration
  • Change Your Story, Change Your Life
  • Connecting to the Highest Part of Yourself
  • Connect with Your Angels and Guides
  • Befriending Your Body (Eliminate Pain)
  • Loving Your Body (Release Weight)

The Sedona Meditations are guided meditations and they are each only 9 minutes, so you can definitely fit them into your busy life. They use music and breath, and they are incredibly powerful.

And here’s the best part:

The Sedona Meditations are usually $9.99 each. But I’m making a special offer for you — you can get them ALL for just $19.99! But this offer is available for One week only! So click the button below to get the whole set (which you can download and save to any device).

As powerful as I know meditation is, sometimes it’s not enough to really move you through the blocks and gunk that are holding you back from your best life. If that’s happening, call us about doing a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. Connect with one of our Retreat Guides now.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Karen says her Soul Adventure was “Inconceivably Amazing!” and “life changing”

meditation blog

A lot of you who have been following me for awhile know that one of the biggest things I talk about is Meditation.

Somebody said to me a few weeks ago that I’m actually kind of a nag about it, and if it feels that way, I’m sorry, but it’s only because I know how wonderful it is for you and what a difference it can make in your life. 

Studies have proven that Meditation can help you with:

emotional benefits of meditation
  • Stress 
  • Anxiety 
  • Worry 
  • Depression 
  • Addiction 
  • Overcoming self-limiting beliefs, habits, fears, & phobias 
  • Feeling more happy, confident, inspired, and motivated 

These are just some of  the Emotional Benefits of Meditation.

physical benefits of meditation

Then there are all the Physical Benefits of Meditation…

  • Strengthen immune system 
  • Better Sleep 
  • Increased longevity 
  • Boost vitality 
  • Feel more energized and rejuvenated 

And then there are all the Psychological Benefits of Meditation: 

psychological benefits of meditation
  • Boost learning ability, memory, & concentration 
  • Enhance your intuition, creativity, and ability to succeed 
  • Access the subconscious 
  • Move brainwave patterns into most advanced states 
  • Achieve the mindset to attract and manifest the life you want 

So the bottom line is that if you want to be happier, healthier, have more abundance, possibly live longer, be more intelligent, run faster, jump higher — I mean really, meditation is the thing that does it all. 

more benefits of meditation

I have so many people who say to me, “Debra, I’ve tried meditating and it just doesn’t work for me. My mind is going a mile a minute, I can’t make it stop.” 

Well the thing is, if that’s what’s been happening for you, then that’s EXACTLY why you should be meditating. 

And what I’ve done to make it easier for you, is that I’ve created The Sedona Meditations

the sedona meditations

The Sedona Meditations are guided meditations, so they really help tame your monkey mind, because you’re just following along with the meditation. Also, each one is only 9 minutes. Everyone – even you – has 9 minutes they can use each day and even though they’re only 9 minutes, they’re really Powerful. 

They are designed to help you manifest the amazing life you dream of – and fully deserve. A life where you’re living your soul’s purpose and experiencing joy, peace, love and wellbeing in all aspects of your life. By bringing in Sedona’s unique energy,The Sedona Meditations allow you to accelerate and amplify your transformation – any time you choose, no matter where in the world you are. In the meditations we use music, guided imagery and breath, and each of the 9-minute Sedona Meditations offers a unique benefit. 

manifest dream life

So let me tell you briefly about each of the meditations…

Releasing Stress
Stress is the #1 killer in our modern society; The Releasing Stress meditation de-stresses the physical and emotional bodies, giving you an overall feeling of relaxation and peace – in just 9 minutes.  

Releasing Fear and Worry
The energy of fear and worry is exactly the negative energy that is preventing you from living your best life. But trying to avoid fear or push it down doesn’t work. TheReleasing Fear and Worry meditation dismantles fears and worries in a unique way. You’ll complete the meditation feeling lighter – and more empowered. 

What is My Soul’s Purpose?
Discovering and living that purpose is essential to true fulfillment. you’ll discover and anchor in your Soul Purpose and Life Mission … so that you can start living them right now. 

Chakra Meditation 
When your chakras are open and flowing, all areas of your life are functioning in perfect harmony. The Chakra Meditation removes blocks and brings the color and energy of each chakra into every area of  your life.  

Moving Into a Higher, Faster Vibration  
When we operate in the higher, faster vibrations, all aspects of our life — physical, mental, emotional and spiritual – work in harmony. In this meditation you’ll release blocks that are holding you back and experience an expanded version of yourself. 

Change Your Story, Change Your Life 
Thoughts are things, and we’re creating our present and future realities in every moment by the stories we tell ourselves today. By shifting your thoughts and changing your stories, you can shift and change any part of the present that is not completely satisfying.  

Connecting to the Highest Part of Yourself 
When you live in connection with your Higher Self, all things are possible. Life becomes easy, peaceful and joyful. This meditation takes you into a state of being where you connect with your Higher Self – and to the Universal energy of All That Is. Use this meditation to bring a sense of joy and peace to your life – and to receive the inner guidance to manifest your dreams. 

Connect with Your Angels and Guides  
You are surrounded by beings of light who want to be with you and help you. This  meditation calls in your angels, guides and the ascended masters where you can ask for and receive information about your life, as well as messages and gifts from your Angels and Guides. 

And then there are two meditations specifically for your body: 

Befriending Your Body (Eliminate Pain)  
Studies have shown that meditation can control and even eliminate much pain and discomfort. In this meditation, you’ll connect in gratitude with all the different parts of your body – and release pain and discomfort wherever it occurs. 

Loving Your Body (Release Weight)  
The secret key to weight loss is loving your body (I know from personal experience because I lost 40 pounds and went from a size 14 to a size 6 utilizing this energy!)  

meditate for 9 min

These are wonderful meditations and people have had some astounding results with them. The best part is, they’re short, only 9 minutes, but they’re very powerful, they’ll fit in with your busy lifestyle, and give you the results you want. 

meditation sale

And here’s the best part –  

The Sedona Meditations are usually $9.99 each. But I’m making a special offer for you — you can get them all for just $19.99! But this offer is available for One week only!  So click the button to get the whole set. 

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

To get more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Do you feel like you never get enough done? Here’s the ultimate cure

Do you always feel like you don’t get enough done? Are you continually telling yourself, “If I could just get more done…” or my personal favorite, “If there were just more hours in the day…”

Do you ever lie awake at night thinking about all the stuff you have to do? 

Watch my video where I give you the ultimate cure. The REAL reason underneath what’s making you feel this way and a very tangible thing you can do everyday that will really help.

How did you answer the questions? If you said yes, to even one or two, I hope you’ll connect with us to explore whether or not a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat would help you. Let us custom design a retreat that will clear out the gunk so you feel more connected and focused. It’s such a liberating feeling!

Call us and connect with one of our Retreat Guides. They’ll connect with you, digging deep and figuring out what gunk needs to be moved out. Then they’ll put together a retreat that’s custom designed for exactly what you need to bring you back into connection and focus.

i want my transformation

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Julia says her Soul Adventure was “life changing” and left her feeling  “complete, content, whole and Full of love”

“Two words come to mind when I describe my experience: LIFE CHANGING. I left home and arrived in Sedona half a person, I came home complete, content, whole and Full of love. I look at life in a whole new light and enjoy each and every day. Thank you to all the wonderful people at Sedona Soul Adventures that helped to open me up to a whole new world of possibilities.”  
~ Julia Roden

In my previous video, I narrowed in on focus. There’s another piece that you might want to look at…you might want to look a little deeper, such as asking yourself why are you so easily distracted? Why do you have feelings that you should always be accomplishing more and more? Why do you have feelings that no matter what you do, it’s never enough?  

A few months ago, we had someone here for a retreat who came to us because she felt like her life was out of control. Sarah said her brain felt scattered, she couldn’t accomplish anything at work because she was constantly distracted, she felt somewhat anxious all the time, and she had trouble sleeping because her mind was always racing and it was making her miserable.

sleepy

Every area of her life was suffering, from her work to her finances to her relationships. Because that’s what happens — when we have problems that are affecting us deeply, they end up affecting every area of our lives. 

She kept telling us, “If I could just get more done, then I would feel better, and I wouldn’t feel so out of control.” In talking with her, we found out that she grew up in a household where she never felt like she was good enough. No matter what she did, it wasn’t enough.

Her father had left her mother very unexpectedly when she was five and in one of her sessions, we discovered that her little five-year-old self was still blaming herself for her father leaving (even though the real reason had been infidelity and emotional abuse, but when we’re five years old, we don’t understand things rationally and we tell ourselves things like, “If only I would have done this,” or “If only I would have done that, maybe daddy would have stayed.”).   

Her father leaving had created this huge empty hole in her heart and soul — she was always waiting for the other shoe to drop, she was always waiting for something to go wrong. And when we hold ourselves in the energy that things are going to go wrong, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and then things always go wrong! 

We did some sessions that cleared up this huge empty hole. In her breath work, she had a direct experience of the Divine Mother and felt the first real love she had ever felt in her life. She felt her angels around her and knew she wasn’t alone. She came back into connection on all levels (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual) and realized she didn’t have anything to be afraid of. And even better, she didn’t have anything she had to prove. 

process

In her final integration, she decided she wanted to do the following, which are, by the way, the two things I want to suggest you do: 

  1. Start each day with meditation. 
  2. Spend the first 90 minutes of the work day doing the top two things that if you do them, it will make you feel like you had really accomplished something for that day. 

So let me expand on that a little bit: 

We talked in the last video about doing the first 90 minutes of your day: 

  • HeartMath Heart Coherence Technique  
  • Meditation 
  • Exercise 
  • Write in Your Journal 
  • Do a Gratitude Journal 
  • Read Inspirational Books 
  • Plan Your Day 
  • Drink Water (with lemon) 

So you know what those are. 

focus

On really staying focused, I’m going to invite you to do two things: 

  1. Always have the top two things that you know are the most important things that you have to do next on the top of your To Do list 
  2. Spend the first 90 minutes of your work day doing those first two things (not email or texting) 

On having your top two things, make a To Do list, listing out absolutely everything you know you have to do. You might want to list work things and personal things separately, but list everything on the list and as soon as you think of another one, put that on your Master list. Studies have shown that listing everything out saves you energy from trying to remember things. 

When you complete your top two things, determine what your next top two things are, and keep that rotating. Sometimes something might come up during the day to become your number one thing that you have to do, but you always know that you are working on your top two things. 

At the end of the day, determine top two for the next day. So you always know what the next most important thing is that you need to be doing and you always finish the day feeling like you accomplished something. 

This is why I’m such a proponent of getting up early. When I get up early, I have control over my first two things that I want to get done and I can usually have them finished before phone calls and emails start interrupting me. 

And here’s one final idea for maintaining focus:

Only read and answer email twice each day.

Once in the morning, and once in the afternoon. You can train people who work with you to let them know, “I only answer my email once in the morning and once in the late afternoon.” If your job doesn’t allow you to do this, then only answer it once each hour. Anything to cut down on the distractions.

Remember, it takes 21 minutes to get yourself fully back into your work after a distraction, do anything you can to stop those breaks. If your boss tells you to do email more often, tell them about the 21 minute rule. 

So what happened for Sarah, the woman I told you about who felt so out of control?

I spoke with her again two months after her retreat and she couldn’t quite believe how much things had changed in such a short period of time. All of the transformations of filling up that hole inside had stuck with her. She was meditating every single morning and she was doing her top two things at the beginning of her work day. She told me, “I feel whole for the first time in my life.”  

She’s doing exactly what I’ve been talking about in these two videos: She’s beginning of her day with things that make her feel really good and she’s focusing to accomplish the most important things. 

But even more important – she was able to come back into connection and stay there.  

So let me ask you: 

Do you feel unfocused?  
Do you feel scattered?
Does your mind race while you lie in bed trying to get to sleep? 
Do you feel anxious? 
Do you constantly feel like you should be doing more and more? 

What I’ve found in these 17 years of working with people here, is that these feelings are usually on top of something deeper. When we find those, clear them and come back into connection, everything changes. 

Let us help you with that. Let us clear out the gunk so that you feel more connected and focused. Connect with us and we’ll custom design a retreat that’s perfect for you.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

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You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

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