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How To Create Peace In Your Life

The holiday season is supposed to be the Season of Peace, but really?? And from what most people say to me, “peace” is something they crave, but have a lot of difficulty finding.

So here’s an early Christmas present — the gift of Peace. Some really practical ways to bring more peace into your life right now — just in time for the holidays.

Sometimes meditating and slowing down aren’t enough to really bring you into the Peace you’re craving. Sometimes there’s lots more going on that just needs to be cleared once and for all to bring you back into the connection that fosters that Peace. If that’s the case, think about giving yourself the perfect Christmas gift — the gift of taking care of yourself with a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. Call us and speak with one of our Retreat Guides. They’ll dig deep to see where the blocks are in your life or your relationship, and custom design a retreat that will take you into the Peace you’re craving.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Would you like to speak to someone today? We’re even open on Sundays, because we’re here for you.

Diane says after her Soul Adventure: “I never imagined I would be feeling so much peace and joy and love”

“I still cannot really describe into words the experience I had, not only with Sedona Soul Adventures, but also with Sedona itself. All I can say is that I never imagined that after such a process, I would be feeling so much lighter… clearer… and overflowing with so much peace… joy… love and light! What an amazing experience, to say the least. I wish to extend to everyone at SSA and all the Practitioners who were all absolutely awesome that I worked with my deep love and warm-hearted gratitude!”
~ Diane S.

Over the years, one of the biggest challenges I’ve seen in the people who come to us is the lack of peace. In fact, when we ask people what they want, it’s usually one of the top things they are saying they don’t have, that they want.

If this is something you’ve been feeling here are some possible reasons why…

We hear it all the time, but only because it’s true. Stress kills, but it also creates this lack of peace that can make your life almost unbearable.

everything perfect

Do you believe that everything has to be perfect (or everything has to be a certain way) in order for you to be happy?  

That’s a big one. Can you see what a set-up that is for creating stress and a lack of peace? 

Do you believe that everything happens for a reason?

If you don’t, that can create a lot of problems in your life.

What’s driving you? Is something driving you? Are you driving yourself irrationally? Are you constantly pushing yourself to do more and more and more? The question is: What’s underneath that?

Are any of these true for you?

You see, when we look a little deeper, we uncover what’s really going on and then when you go deeper still, you see the compounding affects showing up in many areas of your life.

So how is a lack of peace affecting other areas of your life?

stress

When we’re stressed out all the time, it affects everything.

We had a woman come here to do a retreat last year and she was really at the end of her rope. She had a very demanding job, her marriage was having some problems, she has two kids —  a teenager and a 7-year-old, her elderly parents were requiring more help, she was overweight, she was a soccer mom, she was active in her church, and she was completely frazzled. She was driving herself crazy and she was driving everyone around her crazy. 

She kept putting off doing the retreat for over 6 months because she kept saying, “I can’t find 4 days where I can come.” Finally, her husband said to her, “I love you, but you have to do something about this. You’re killing yourself and you’re killing our family.” 

She came to Sedona and during her retreat, we uncovered that she was driving herself so hard because she was raised in a family where her parents were always demanding that she do more and more. She was made to feel like she wasn’t enough, she always had to keep proving over and over that she deserved to be loved. 

We did sessions with her that moved those old blocks and patterns out and she came into his huge realization of knowing and really believing that she deserves to be loved just because of who she is, not because of what she does. We gave her tools to deal with the stress, plus an action plan of simple but powerful ways to maintain everything she received here. 

She went home feeling so much lighter and happier. That was last year. I just heard from her a few weeks ago and she said the changes are absolutely incredible. 

She gets up 15 minutes before everyone else does and meditates. That keeps her centered for the day. When she goes to bed at night, the last thing she does is to say a prayer of gratitude. She spends one hour every other week doing the Breath Journey she learned here and she told me, “Debra, you can’t imagine the impact that’s had on my life.” She said even when she’s had things happen, it moves things out…no matter what’s happened, it brings her back into a peaceful state. 

change yourself and everything changes

She came home so happy and peaceful, and stayed that way, that her husband and people at work all said, “What happened to you?” Her husband came out for a retreat and two of her friends have also come for retreats. She changed herself and it changed everything in her life.

So what can YOU do to begin to start feeling peace in your life?

Meditate – 15 minutes a day changed everything for Leanne, it can do the same for you.

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Breathe – Just taking a few deep breaths when you’re in a stressful situation can help, especially if you do it before you say something you’ll be sorry for later.

Slow down – It’s amazing what can happen when you just slow down. I recommend this to my coaching clients all the time. Stop rushing around everywhere. All that rushing maybe only saves you a few seconds and it’s taking away your peace of mind.

stop comparing yourself

Stop comparing yourself to other people – This is always a losing game.

Try to figure out what’s underneath all this – Do you have an idea of what’s driving you? Is some of this coming from feeling that you are not enough or that you constantly have to prove something? Knowing what’s underneath this can start the healing process. 

self care

Start doing some kind of self care – Take hot baths, get a massage regularly, schedule a regular night out with your friends, schedule a date night. Taking care of yourself has huge benefits.

I hope this video makes you feel a little happier and if it did, please like, share the video with your friends and subscribe to our channel.

And if you want a more direct path to creating peace in your life- then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at 928-204-5988.

You can have the life or the relationship you want – I know it.

Your Photo Here?

When people finish their Soul Adventures retreat, they feel so fantastic. A little while ago, I got the idea to start putting their photos and Before and After Statements (with their permission, of course) on our Wall of Success. The Wall is now getting overloaded with all the photos and everyone talking about how their life and relationship is changed after their Soul Adventure. Watch my sweet video:

How about you? Would you like to be the next one on our Wall of Success? We’d love for you to have a transformation in every area of your life.

Call us and let us help.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Federico says his “life changing, transformational” Soul Adventure “taught me that I can keep myself in alignment in LIFE regardless of what life throws at me and the ‘external’ circumstances.”

“My retreat ROCKED!!! Hands down – life changing, transformational, powerful, cleansing, shifts, synchronicity, alignment, consciousness, awareness, love, peace, joy, happiness, freedom, ABUNDANCE…you name it…it did it for me!!!” Most of all, it taught me how to integrate these teachings into my daily life and that I can keep myself in alignment in LIFE, no matter the level of stress in the high-paced world of finance, or regardless of what life throws at me and the ‘external’ circumstances…personal, relationships, or professional…it taught me that I HAVE IT ALL…ALL INSIDE ME…and that is the most POWERFUL thing and highest vibration in the Universe – tapping into your HEART AND SOUL!!!! Thank You Sedona Soul Adventures – All of YOU, THANK YOU!!!”
~ Federico T.

I’m coming to you from our beautiful offices in Sedona. I love our office so much because we have beautiful views of Cathedral Rock and Thunder Mountain, and the energy here is so wonderful.

And I’m here because I want to show you what we call our Wall of Success. I love looking at our Wall of Success because I see it the minute I walk in the door and it just is always reminding me why we do what we do at Sedona Soul Adventures. 

We started this a few years ago because we had people sending us beautiful pictures of themselves in the red rocks, sending us messages of how their lives and relationships had been so completely transformed by doing a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. And one day, someone in the office said, “You know, we really ought to do something with these, they’re so beautiful, they’re so wonderful,” so we started putting them up. Now people see them when they start their Soul Adventure and pretty much everyone sends them to us…we are even having a hard time getting them all up, which is so great.

I love reading these and remembering these people, and it’s funny, because I always try to come into the office and meet everyone at the beginning of their retreat. And sometimes when I do, I can see that they are so shut down or their problems are so huge that I have a feeling of, “oh no, maybe it’s not going to happen for them,”  and then every single time, it does – they have this amazing, incredible transformation or their marriage is saved and it’s just so fantastic.

Sometimes people come back for another Soul Adventure and it’s also fun for them to see themselves on the wall.

I also love the incredible diversity that we have here. It’s really amazing. Male, female, all the different colors, gay, straight, people from very different backgrounds as far as their their age, professions, income, nationalities, mothers, daughters, fathers, sons, husbands, wives… Isn’t that cool? 

But the absolute best part is reading what people have said. 

This is one of my favorite parts of the day, coming into the office and seeing this Wall, seeing all these people whose lives and relationships have been transformed by what all of us here at Sedona Soul Adventures do. 

So if you’d like to be our next success, we’d love that for you.

Go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Fast, Easy Way to Meditate (plus a special deal!)

If you’ve been receiving my emails for a while, you know that I’m a big proponent of meditation (kind of a “nag,” some might say! :))

Listen to my video where I talk about the incredible benefits of meditation and give you the opportunity to get all of The Sedona Meditations for only $19.99.

  • Releasing Stress
  • Releasing Fear and Worry
  • What is My Soul’s Purpose?
  • Sedona Chakra Meditation
  • Moving Into a Higher, Faster Vibration
  • Change Your Story, Change Your Life
  • Connecting to the Highest Part of Yourself
  • Connect with Your Angels and Guides
  • Befriending Your Body (Eliminate Pain)
  • Loving Your Body (Release Weight)

The Sedona Meditations are guided meditations and they are each only 9 minutes, so you can definitely fit them into your busy life. They use music and breath, and they are incredibly powerful.

And here’s the best part:

The Sedona Meditations are usually $9.99 each. But I’m making a special offer for you — you can get them ALL for just $19.99! But this offer is available for One week only! So click the button below to get the whole set (which you can download and save to any device).

As powerful as I know meditation is, sometimes it’s not enough to really move you through the blocks and gunk that are holding you back from your best life. If that’s happening, call us about doing a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. Connect with one of our Retreat Guides now.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Karen says her Soul Adventure was “Inconceivably Amazing!” and “life changing”

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A lot of you who have been following me for awhile know that one of the biggest things I talk about is Meditation.

Somebody said to me a few weeks ago that I’m actually kind of a nag about it, and if it feels that way, I’m sorry, but it’s only because I know how wonderful it is for you and what a difference it can make in your life. 

Studies have proven that Meditation can help you with:

emotional benefits of meditation
  • Stress 
  • Anxiety 
  • Worry 
  • Depression 
  • Addiction 
  • Overcoming self-limiting beliefs, habits, fears, & phobias 
  • Feeling more happy, confident, inspired, and motivated 

These are just some of  the Emotional Benefits of Meditation.

physical benefits of meditation

Then there are all the Physical Benefits of Meditation…

  • Strengthen immune system 
  • Better Sleep 
  • Increased longevity 
  • Boost vitality 
  • Feel more energized and rejuvenated 

And then there are all the Psychological Benefits of Meditation: 

psychological benefits of meditation
  • Boost learning ability, memory, & concentration 
  • Enhance your intuition, creativity, and ability to succeed 
  • Access the subconscious 
  • Move brainwave patterns into most advanced states 
  • Achieve the mindset to attract and manifest the life you want 

So the bottom line is that if you want to be happier, healthier, have more abundance, possibly live longer, be more intelligent, run faster, jump higher — I mean really, meditation is the thing that does it all. 

more benefits of meditation

I have so many people who say to me, “Debra, I’ve tried meditating and it just doesn’t work for me. My mind is going a mile a minute, I can’t make it stop.” 

Well the thing is, if that’s what’s been happening for you, then that’s EXACTLY why you should be meditating. 

And what I’ve done to make it easier for you, is that I’ve created The Sedona Meditations

the sedona meditations

The Sedona Meditations are guided meditations, so they really help tame your monkey mind, because you’re just following along with the meditation. Also, each one is only 9 minutes. Everyone – even you – has 9 minutes they can use each day and even though they’re only 9 minutes, they’re really Powerful. 

They are designed to help you manifest the amazing life you dream of – and fully deserve. A life where you’re living your soul’s purpose and experiencing joy, peace, love and wellbeing in all aspects of your life. By bringing in Sedona’s unique energy,The Sedona Meditations allow you to accelerate and amplify your transformation – any time you choose, no matter where in the world you are. In the meditations we use music, guided imagery and breath, and each of the 9-minute Sedona Meditations offers a unique benefit. 

manifest dream life

So let me tell you briefly about each of the meditations…

Releasing Stress
Stress is the #1 killer in our modern society; The Releasing Stress meditation de-stresses the physical and emotional bodies, giving you an overall feeling of relaxation and peace – in just 9 minutes.  

Releasing Fear and Worry
The energy of fear and worry is exactly the negative energy that is preventing you from living your best life. But trying to avoid fear or push it down doesn’t work. TheReleasing Fear and Worry meditation dismantles fears and worries in a unique way. You’ll complete the meditation feeling lighter – and more empowered. 

What is My Soul’s Purpose?
Discovering and living that purpose is essential to true fulfillment. you’ll discover and anchor in your Soul Purpose and Life Mission … so that you can start living them right now. 

Chakra Meditation 
When your chakras are open and flowing, all areas of your life are functioning in perfect harmony. The Chakra Meditation removes blocks and brings the color and energy of each chakra into every area of  your life.  

Moving Into a Higher, Faster Vibration  
When we operate in the higher, faster vibrations, all aspects of our life — physical, mental, emotional and spiritual – work in harmony. In this meditation you’ll release blocks that are holding you back and experience an expanded version of yourself. 

Change Your Story, Change Your Life 
Thoughts are things, and we’re creating our present and future realities in every moment by the stories we tell ourselves today. By shifting your thoughts and changing your stories, you can shift and change any part of the present that is not completely satisfying.  

Connecting to the Highest Part of Yourself 
When you live in connection with your Higher Self, all things are possible. Life becomes easy, peaceful and joyful. This meditation takes you into a state of being where you connect with your Higher Self – and to the Universal energy of All That Is. Use this meditation to bring a sense of joy and peace to your life – and to receive the inner guidance to manifest your dreams. 

Connect with Your Angels and Guides  
You are surrounded by beings of light who want to be with you and help you. This  meditation calls in your angels, guides and the ascended masters where you can ask for and receive information about your life, as well as messages and gifts from your Angels and Guides. 

And then there are two meditations specifically for your body: 

Befriending Your Body (Eliminate Pain)  
Studies have shown that meditation can control and even eliminate much pain and discomfort. In this meditation, you’ll connect in gratitude with all the different parts of your body – and release pain and discomfort wherever it occurs. 

Loving Your Body (Release Weight)  
The secret key to weight loss is loving your body (I know from personal experience because I lost 40 pounds and went from a size 14 to a size 6 utilizing this energy!)  

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These are wonderful meditations and people have had some astounding results with them. The best part is, they’re short, only 9 minutes, but they’re very powerful, they’ll fit in with your busy lifestyle, and give you the results you want. 

meditation sale

And here’s the best part –  

The Sedona Meditations are usually $9.99 each. But I’m making a special offer for you — you can get them all for just $19.99! But this offer is available for One week only!  So click the button to get the whole set. 

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

To get more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Do you feel like you never get enough done? Here’s the ultimate cure

Do you always feel like you don’t get enough done? Are you continually telling yourself, “If I could just get more done…” or my personal favorite, “If there were just more hours in the day…”

Do you ever lie awake at night thinking about all the stuff you have to do? 

Watch my video where I give you the ultimate cure. The REAL reason underneath what’s making you feel this way and a very tangible thing you can do everyday that will really help.

How did you answer the questions? If you said yes, to even one or two, I hope you’ll connect with us to explore whether or not a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat would help you. Let us custom design a retreat that will clear out the gunk so you feel more connected and focused. It’s such a liberating feeling!

Call us and connect with one of our Retreat Guides. They’ll connect with you, digging deep and figuring out what gunk needs to be moved out. Then they’ll put together a retreat that’s custom designed for exactly what you need to bring you back into connection and focus.

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Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Julia says her Soul Adventure was “life changing” and left her feeling  “complete, content, whole and Full of love”

“Two words come to mind when I describe my experience: LIFE CHANGING. I left home and arrived in Sedona half a person, I came home complete, content, whole and Full of love. I look at life in a whole new light and enjoy each and every day. Thank you to all the wonderful people at Sedona Soul Adventures that helped to open me up to a whole new world of possibilities.”  
~ Julia Roden

In my previous video, I narrowed in on focus. There’s another piece that you might want to look at…you might want to look a little deeper, such as asking yourself why are you so easily distracted? Why do you have feelings that you should always be accomplishing more and more? Why do you have feelings that no matter what you do, it’s never enough?  

A few months ago, we had someone here for a retreat who came to us because she felt like her life was out of control. Sarah said her brain felt scattered, she couldn’t accomplish anything at work because she was constantly distracted, she felt somewhat anxious all the time, and she had trouble sleeping because her mind was always racing and it was making her miserable.

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Every area of her life was suffering, from her work to her finances to her relationships. Because that’s what happens — when we have problems that are affecting us deeply, they end up affecting every area of our lives. 

She kept telling us, “If I could just get more done, then I would feel better, and I wouldn’t feel so out of control.” In talking with her, we found out that she grew up in a household where she never felt like she was good enough. No matter what she did, it wasn’t enough.

Her father had left her mother very unexpectedly when she was five and in one of her sessions, we discovered that her little five-year-old self was still blaming herself for her father leaving (even though the real reason had been infidelity and emotional abuse, but when we’re five years old, we don’t understand things rationally and we tell ourselves things like, “If only I would have done this,” or “If only I would have done that, maybe daddy would have stayed.”).   

Her father leaving had created this huge empty hole in her heart and soul — she was always waiting for the other shoe to drop, she was always waiting for something to go wrong. And when we hold ourselves in the energy that things are going to go wrong, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and then things always go wrong! 

We did some sessions that cleared up this huge empty hole. In her breath work, she had a direct experience of the Divine Mother and felt the first real love she had ever felt in her life. She felt her angels around her and knew she wasn’t alone. She came back into connection on all levels (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual) and realized she didn’t have anything to be afraid of. And even better, she didn’t have anything she had to prove. 

process

In her final integration, she decided she wanted to do the following, which are, by the way, the two things I want to suggest you do: 

  1. Start each day with meditation. 
  2. Spend the first 90 minutes of the work day doing the top two things that if you do them, it will make you feel like you had really accomplished something for that day. 

So let me expand on that a little bit: 

We talked in the last video about doing the first 90 minutes of your day: 

  • HeartMath Heart Coherence Technique  
  • Meditation 
  • Exercise 
  • Write in Your Journal 
  • Do a Gratitude Journal 
  • Read Inspirational Books 
  • Plan Your Day 
  • Drink Water (with lemon) 

So you know what those are. 

focus

On really staying focused, I’m going to invite you to do two things: 

  1. Always have the top two things that you know are the most important things that you have to do next on the top of your To Do list 
  2. Spend the first 90 minutes of your work day doing those first two things (not email or texting) 

On having your top two things, make a To Do list, listing out absolutely everything you know you have to do. You might want to list work things and personal things separately, but list everything on the list and as soon as you think of another one, put that on your Master list. Studies have shown that listing everything out saves you energy from trying to remember things. 

When you complete your top two things, determine what your next top two things are, and keep that rotating. Sometimes something might come up during the day to become your number one thing that you have to do, but you always know that you are working on your top two things. 

At the end of the day, determine top two for the next day. So you always know what the next most important thing is that you need to be doing and you always finish the day feeling like you accomplished something. 

This is why I’m such a proponent of getting up early. When I get up early, I have control over my first two things that I want to get done and I can usually have them finished before phone calls and emails start interrupting me. 

And here’s one final idea for maintaining focus:

Only read and answer email twice each day.

Once in the morning, and once in the afternoon. You can train people who work with you to let them know, “I only answer my email once in the morning and once in the late afternoon.” If your job doesn’t allow you to do this, then only answer it once each hour. Anything to cut down on the distractions.

Remember, it takes 21 minutes to get yourself fully back into your work after a distraction, do anything you can to stop those breaks. If your boss tells you to do email more often, tell them about the 21 minute rule. 

So what happened for Sarah, the woman I told you about who felt so out of control?

I spoke with her again two months after her retreat and she couldn’t quite believe how much things had changed in such a short period of time. All of the transformations of filling up that hole inside had stuck with her. She was meditating every single morning and she was doing her top two things at the beginning of her work day. She told me, “I feel whole for the first time in my life.”  

She’s doing exactly what I’ve been talking about in these two videos: She’s beginning of her day with things that make her feel really good and she’s focusing to accomplish the most important things. 

But even more important – she was able to come back into connection and stay there.  

So let me ask you: 

Do you feel unfocused?  
Do you feel scattered?
Does your mind race while you lie in bed trying to get to sleep? 
Do you feel anxious? 
Do you constantly feel like you should be doing more and more? 

What I’ve found in these 17 years of working with people here, is that these feelings are usually on top of something deeper. When we find those, clear them and come back into connection, everything changes. 

Let us help you with that. Let us clear out the gunk so that you feel more connected and focused. Connect with us and we’ll custom design a retreat that’s perfect for you.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

To get more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Your self-critic is killing you! Here’s how to shut them up

How big a part of your life is your inner critic? Do you ever say things to yourself like, “You’re so stupid” or “What’s wrong with you?” or “Why did you do that?!” If so, you’ve simply got to STOP! Because you’re killing yourself!

Watch my video where I talk about a scientific study that proves that your inner critic is killing you and hear about things you can do right now to get that inner critic off your back and out of your head.

If you’d like to finally get that inner critic to shut up once and for all, please contact us and speak with one of our Retreat Guides. They’ll connect with you on a deep level, getting to the root of the problem. Then they’ll custom design a retreat that is specifically designed to root out the blocks and gunk that are feeding that inner critic, bringing you back into peace and the experience of being your best self.

i want my transformation

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Lauren says after her Soul Adventure, “I understand who I am and I love me!”

“I was in a very dark place and my heart knew I needed healing and clarity. My soul adventure provided a safe place to journey through my pain and grief, gave me the tools to continue the healing process, and helped me become balanced and whole. I am no longer hardened by the world – I am soft and gushy! I no longer react in anger or frustration; I can breathe life and peace inside when confronted with difficult situations. I understand who I am and I love me! Thank you Sedona Soul Adventures!”
~ Lauren S., Dallas, TX

I love when I read studies that are verifying the work that we do here at Sedona Soul Adventures. It used to be that all of this stuff we talk about was considered New Age gobbledygook, but now studies by medical doctors and scientists are verifying what we’ve been saying all along. Which is:

Self criticism is killing you.

stop being hard on yourself

This particular study was published in the Journal of Psychotherapy Integration and reported in the New York Times with the title, “Why You Should Stop Being So Hard On Yourself.”

Here’s all the things they discovered: 

  • Self-criticism can take a toll on your mind and body 
  • Self-criticism can impact your body by stimulating inflammatory mechanisms that lead to chronic illness and accelerate aging 
  • Self-criticism can have measurably destructive effects, including symptoms of depression, anxiety, substance abuse, negative self-image and decreased motivation and productivity (When they say measurable they mean empirical studies have proven this)
  • Self-criticism can interfere with your productivity
  • Self-criticism leads people to becoming preoccupied with failure 
brains wired

The article then goes on to talk about why we humans do this and the answer is, (in their words): “Blame evolution” 

Which means that our brains are wired to notice our mistakes and for most of us, we then go on to tell ourselves that what we’re doing is either Good or Bad. That’s great, because if we do something that needs to be corrected, then we can go ahead and correct it. The problem is that for a lot of us, we then go on and rather than just learning from the mistake, we allow it to take us into a shame spiral…

correct what needs to be corrected

Chronic illness 
Accelerates aging 
Interferes with your productivity 
Depression 
Anxiety 
Substance Abuse 
Feelings of Failure 

And when you do that long enough and often enough, it leads to all the bad stuff they were talking about earlier:

self criticism effects

Is that serious enough for you to get you stop? 

Do you say things to yourself like:

“You’re so stupid” 

“You’re an idiot” 

“I Hate You” 

“What’s Wrong with you?”

Or do you lie awake at night endlessly replaying a negative situation over and over again in your head, telling yourself you should have said this, or you should have done that?

In the article, the next thing they ask is, “What should I do?” And their one word answer is: Self-Compassion

Self-Compassion is the practice of being kind and understanding to ourselves when confronted with a personal flaw or failure.  

self-compassion

And they offer three steps to help with Self-Compassion:

  1. Meditation  
  2. Meet your criticism with kindness (change your self talk from “you’re a loser” to “everybody makes mistakes”)
  3. Start noticing how you feel better when you are more compassionate with yourself, and then keep doing it over and over again 

When they’re discussing the three steps in this article, they wrote: “This is, of course, easier said than done.” And that’s the whole problem, isn’t it? 

I’m sorry, but you and I both know that simply telling someone to stop calling themselves a loser and telling them to start meditating is not going to stop a lifetime of self-loathing and self-criticism. I had years of therapy and it didn’t stop it, because it didn’t get to the root of what was causing it. 

You see, so much of the pain and self-loathing comes from so many deep places and they affect us on all levels — physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. When we have issues of not loving ourselves completely and unconditionally (and I have to say every single person I’ve ever met has that to one degree or another), it shows up on all those levels. 

On the Physical level, we feel insecure about our bodies (haven’t you noticed how even people who are “beautiful” think they aren’t perfect?). 

On the Emotional level, we deeply feel the self-criticism and it goes to our core. 

On the Mental level, we’re thinking things like “I’m a loser,” “I’m so stupid,” etc. 

On the Spiritual level, we actually believe that there’s something wrong with us. 

Unless we’re dealing with this on all four levels, it just stays there, stuck and not moving. 

We had a man come to us last year who, on the outside, seemed to have it all. He was very successful in his work, he had what seemed to be a great marriage, he was in good health, and his kids were doing well. His wife contacted us because all of a sudden he was feeling really unhappy and withdrawn – not really depressed, he just wasn’t happy and he had no idea why. We told her that we couldn’t set up the retreat for him unless we spoke with him directly and made sure he actually wanted to come (that’s the only way this will work).  

When we connected with him, he was saying all this self-deprecating stuff about himself, which he told us he did because he didn’t want other people to think he had a big ego. But as we delved deeper, we really got to it. 

did you feel

We discovered that he had been given up for adoption at birth and he was never able to find any kind of information about either of his parents. Even though he had been adopted by a very loving family who took great care of him, we discovered that he had a very deep seated belief that “there must be something wrong with me,” for his own mother to have given him up.  

He had never told anyone, not even his wife, that he felt this way. He hid the fact that he was adopted, he was ashamed of it, and he felt that in some way, he was a phony. That if people “really knew” him, really knew the truth about him, they wouldn’t like him. In his emotional clearing session all of this finally came spilling out, all these years of holding all this in, this self-loathing that literally had been eating away at him like a cancer. 

And then he did a Radiant Heart Healing and the hole that was left from all the self-loathing was suddenly filled with all this love that he was feeling for himself…he said it was just gushing and gushing. 

But the most amazing thing was in his Breath Journey. He was already feeling great, and feeling all this self love when suddenly he had a vision of a woman who he just knew was his mother, even though he had no idea of what she actually looked like.

I told him later that I thought this was the Divine Mother, the mother of us all coming to him and he stopped me and said, “Debra, no I know it was my mother, the spirit of my mother.” Now you have to understand this is a very successful, very straight business man who started out being very skeptical about all of this stuff, saying all this to me and of course, I just loved it and was so happy for him that he was feeling all this healing love.  

He went back home and his wife told me later that he is totally a changed man. She then told me she had been afraid he actually had cancer because he seemed to her to be withering away, even though he had been tested and there was no indication of that. I told her that self-loathing can be a type of cancer – it eats away at us and now these studies are showing all the negative effects it can have on us. 

If this is an issue that you’re struggling with, please reach out and let us help. We’re masters at getting to the root of what’s causing the self-loathing, clearing it out and moving you back into connection on all levels – physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it and subscribe to our channel

And If you want an even more direct path to really loving yourself completely, – then go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com  and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today. 

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that will turn your life around, call us at 928/204-5988. 

You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it!

The “Fun” (Almost Magical) Way to Get Out of Debt

Last week I talked with you about what your debt says about you and gave you very important (but unfun) ways to get out of debt. It’s very good and we got a huge response from it (if you didn’t see it, click here). 

Today I want to talk to you about the “fun” (almost magical) way to get out of debt and I’ll tell you the story of the day that $50,000 dropped out of the sky (it’s almost unbelievable, but it’s true).

Being in debt is so awful – it just crushes you, it feels like this giant weight that is constantly there and you think and worry and fret about it all the time. At least that’s what I did.

Find out how I turned that around and how you can too!

As I said last week, I want to be very careful about what I say to you about doing a Soul Adventure if you’re in debt. I don’t want to encourage you to be irresponsible, but as I talk about in this video, I was $50,000 in debt the first time I came to Sedona and it changed everything around for me. 

Let’s explore this together:

i want my transformation

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fun ways to get out of debt

In my last video, I spoke with you about being in debt. And I spoke with you about what that reflects in your life and what I called the Unfun ways of coming out of debt – important things that you can start doing that will start to help you right now:  

  • Spending less 
  • Paying off debt 
  • Saving more 

Important, but sort of boring and not fun. But today I want to talk to you about Really Fun ways to get out of debt and change things around for your money situation.  

control how you think about money

Here’s where this gets very interesting and exciting. Because no matter what you’re telling yourself right now, you can control how you think and feel about money 

And you can turn the energy around. 

The Journey to Happy Book by Debra Stabgl

I spend a lot of time talking about this in my book, The Journey to Happy, and I want to encourage you to spend 99 cents to buy the Kindle version of my book – yes, now I’m talking to you about spending money, because it’s the best 99 cents you’ll ever spend, because it will help you understand these ideas more deeply.  

einstein

What I talk about in my book is that one of the truths that Einstein discovered (and that Quantum Physics continues to prove) is that Everything is Energy. Even this desk, which feels so stable and strong, is – at its core – just a bunch of particles racing around. 

Money is energy. Most people don’t believe that and don’t understand it, and that’s why they have so much trouble. 

money is energy

If everything is energy (and now we know it is), that means that everything is much more elastic, much more malleable, and much more possible to change than we think it is.  

Quantum physics has also proven that.

Putting our attention on something in any way changes it.  

So, if everything is energy and if putting our attention on something in any way changes it, that means we are all creating our reality in every moment

what we focus on expands

What we focus on expands.  

We get more of whatever it is that we think about and talk about.  

If you’re in debt, you are probably like I was when I was deep in debt: Thinking about it all the time, worrying about it all the time. 

credit card debt

Because I was thinking about it all the time and worrying about it all the time and talking about it all the time, I was getting more and more of it, no matter what I did. 

everything is energy

But here’s the good news – because everything is energy and because putting our attention on something in any way changes it…

You are creating your reality in every moment. 

That means: You can change the parts that you don’t like. 

That is really great news! If you are creating your reality, that means that you can change the parts that you don’t like – the parts that aren’t making you happy

The trick is, you need to learn how to flip the switch. 

The easiest way to do that is to Stop THINKING about what you don’t want and Stop TALKING about what you don’t want.

When I was afraid about money, it could never come to me or if it came, something else came along after to take it away. It’s simple physics – you have to be in the same high Vibration as the money. If you’re fearful, frustrated and upset about money, it literally cannot come to you. 

Which makes it pretty difficult, right, because when you’re in debt or your money situation isn’t the way you want it to be, if you’re like I was, you’re thinking about it all the time…obsessing about it all the time…worrying about it all the time. Which makes it impossible for it to come to you.  

But if you can learn to go with the flow, magical things happen. 

Let me tell you the story of what happened to me and the day that $50,000 dropped out of the sky…

When I first came to Sedona over 20 years ago, my entire life was a mess. I had just started my 20th year of law practice and I hated it, I was in an unhappy marriage, I weighed 40 pounds more than I do now, and I was $50,000 in debt due to some very bad business decisions.  

I worried constantly about money. It was always on my mind. I would wake up in the morning and start worrying about it and I would go to bed worried about it. I was always fearful, frustrated and upset, so of course money couldn’t come to me. 

During those five years, I spent a lot of time praying and meditating, saying, “God, I’m so unhappy! Please tell me what to do!” Almost every time I did that, I would hear a voice say, “You need to leave your law practice.” I would immediately respond, “I can’t do that! I’ve got a mortgage and two car payments! I’m the sole supporter and I’m $50,000 in debt! I CAN’T leave my law practice!”  

So the last thing in the world I should have been spending money on at this point in my life was a spiritual retreat. But I put it on my credit card and I came. 

I came to Sedona and did one session – and in that session my Higher self appeared to me and told me I had to leave my law practice or I was going to die. Well, this time I heard the message. 

I went home and after two weeks of trying to figure out how I was possibly going to leave my law practice when I was $50,000 in debt, there was a day where something just happened. I was meditating and praying, and I just felt all the worry and concern just lift off me. I just felt it. I remember saying, “Ok God, I’m going to do this. I don’t know how I’m going to do this, but I’m going to do it, but I need some help.” 

Within about 8 hours, a former client called to ask me some questions and at the end of the call told me he had just bought a new business refinancing mortgages. I asked him if he thought he could get my mortgage payment reduced. He took my address and called me back in 10 minutes and said, “I can get your mortgage payment cut in half and I can get you $50,000 in cash.” 

Now I had never told him I was $50,000 in debt. He certainly didn’t know about my going into that high vibrational state where I just released the worry and concern. But suddenly, within a few hours, the worry and concern that had haunted me for five years was gone.  

And ever since then, whenever I feel worried about money, I just stop. 

Because I know these principles: 

Whatever I’m afraid of, is coming faster. 

Whatever I’m excited about, is coming faster. 

If I’m afraid of not having enough money, I do everything I can to take myself out of that feeling, because I KNOW my fear is keeping the money away. In my other videos, I’ve given you lots of things you can do to bring yourself out of those energies, such as:    

  • Tapping  
  • Deep Breathing
  • Change Your Story, Change Your Life

I never talk to people about not having enough money, I only talk about abundance. 

You can use other little tricks like…  

Listening to Music 
Petting your pet 
Going outside in the sunshine 
Writing in your Gratitude Journal 

The trick is getting there and staying there. But the key is all in these three simple steps:  

1. Get happy  
2. Stay happy 

And in order to get happy and stay happy: 

3. Don’t think about what you don’t want and don’t talk about what you don’t want  

It all comes down to stop worrying about money.

Again, I know that’s much easier said than done, because I was someone who worried about it for years and years, but I’ll tell you, when you can stop worrying and instead start getting excited about what’s on the way, money will start to flow to you. 

visualization

So do this: When you start to worry – stop and instead, think about how great it will be to have your money woes behind you, think about how fantastic it will feel to have your credit cards all paid, visualize your bank statement having a balance that is really large. Feel the feeling of what it feels like to have money in savings. Feel what it feels like to have all that worry off your shoulders. Start appreciating what you have and really feel that. 

This is so deceptively simple. It’s simple, I know it’s not easy, because I’ve been there through those sleepless nights, but I will tell you, when you flip the switch — and you can tell when that’s happening — miracles can actually happen. 

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it and subscribe to our channel

And If you want an even more direct path to dealing you’re your money issues, I’m going to say to you – think about doing a Soul Adventure. Money blocks for most people are huge and go way back and run deep. I don’t want you to be irresponsible, but look at what happened to me – I came here and $50,000 dropped out of the sky three weeks later.

I can’t tell you the number of people who have come here and gone home, and gotten the job of their dreams and had their entire life change around. You need to listen to your own guidance, but you may want to just start exploring the possibilities. Excited expectation is the key to all of this. Go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that can turn your life around call us at (928) 204-5988.  

You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it!

My Favorite Spiritual Movies – “Groundhog Day”

Have you ever seen the movie “Groundhog Day” with Bill Murray? It’s one of my favorite spiritual movies of all time. It has such incredible messages – watch my video:

Do you ever feel like Phil (the Bill Murray character) feels? Feeling stuck in your life and there’s nothing you can do about it?

There is something you can do about it.

Call us, let us help.

It’s all about moving out the gunk and the blocks that are holding you in disconnection and then moving you back into connection on all the levels – physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. The specific ways are different for each person. That’s why our custom-designed retreats are so powerful and effective.

Would you like to speak to an Angel Guide today? Or later this week? Call us – connect with one of our Angel Guides and let them design a retreat that can bring you back into Heaven on Earth.

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

And remember, we even work on Sunday, we’re here for you.

If you knew what could happen you’d be contacting us right now.

Kelly says her Soul Adventure “surpassed all my expectations” and
was “worth every penny.”

“Sedona Soul Adventures surpassed all my expectations. The practitioners are deeply committed, knowledgeable, and caring. I felt like l had the best possible experts all working together to help me find and focus on my ‘true’ self. I have a tool box that I can use when faced with challenges and am better able to recognize triggers and instead of reacting, I’m able to reconnect with my inner voice and follow a path that is informed by love, instead of ego or fear. Worth every penny, and I plan to go back again for a refresher and/or to continue my development.”
~ Kelly R., Chicago, Illinois

In these series of videos I’m talking about concepts from my book, The Journey to Happy– How Embracing the Concept that Nothing is wrong can transform your life…with processes that can help you feel a lot happier right away. 

And most of the time when I’m doing these videos, I’m talking to you about very heavy issues – and today I want to do something a little bit different. 

I have a list of what I call, “My Favorite Spiritual Movies” and I’m going to be talking to you about them today and into the future for two reasons: 

  1. They have messages that are really amazing, wonderful and helpful.    
  2. Watching a movie can very often immediately make you feel better. 

One of the things that I talk about a lot in my book is that when you start to feel yourself beginning to slip and just starting to not feel great, do something – anything – to start making yourself feel better… like listening to music, petting your dog or your cat, or watching a movie that makes you laugh or simply feel good. 

So here’s one of these movies for me: “Groundhog Day” with Bill Murray. Have you seen this movie? Your first reaction might be, “This is a spiritual movie?” Because it is very, very funny, very irreverent; it’s Bill Murray at his best. But yes, I want to assure you it’s definitely at the top of my list of the top 10 spiritual movies of all time.  

And you may not know the backstory of this – that it was written and directed by Harold Ramis, a Buddhist (he passed a few years ago), and this movie is all about consciousness. It’s all about how we perceive things and how everything can shift in an instant.

So if you’ve never seen it, watch it. And if you’ve never watched it from this perspective, definitely watch it again and you’ll see what I mean. 

In the movie, Phil, played by Bill Murray, is reliving the same day (Groundhog Day) over and over again. He plays a weatherman who is covering whether or not the groundhog sees his shadow. He is stuck in his own personal hell with himself – he’s selfish, egotistical, shallow and doesn’t care about anyone other than himself. 

Worse, he can’t get out of it and he can’t get away from himself. He even tells us that he hates himself. 

He’s completely stuck.  

And when he figures out what’s happening, that he’s reliving the same day over and over again, he goes through anger, frustration, manipulation, depression and even suicide (which doesn’t work) until something changes. He falls in love and begins to live his life from a completely different perspective; in that instant, his life changes.  

It’s such an incredible parable: 

When we start allowing what is, our life transforms. 

When we love with no expectation or demands, we get exactly what we want. 

We can transform from living in hell, to living in Heaven on Earth. It’s our choice and it just takes an instant. 

Do you sometimes feel like you’re living in a kind of hell? 

Do you feel like there’s nothing you can do about  it? 

Well, I’m here to tell you there is something you can do about it. Your life can be transformed if you’re willing to take responsibility for your life and your creations. The way you perceive the world and the way you move in the world can be changed in an instant. I see it all the time and it is truly miraculous. 

It’s all about moving out the gunk and the blocks that are holding you in disconnection and then moving you back into connection on all the levels:

  • Physical
  • Mental
  • Mmotional
  • Spiritual. 

The specific ways are different for each person. That’s why our custom-designed retreats are so powerful and effective. 

So call us – connect with one of our Angel Guides and let them design a retreat that can bring you back into Heaven on Earth.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

To get more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Are You Focusing on the Right Thing?

In my last video, I spoke with you about the idea that the first 90 minutes of your day are the most important. Studies have shown that’s when you are most productive, you have the most focus, and you have the highest level of energy and the highest level of will power.

Today I want to talk to you about what to do in the first 90 minutes of your Work. And the point of all of this is about FOCUS. 

Watch my video to get some really surprising information about how important focus is. And if you have trouble staying focused, you’ll really want to watch this:

If you’re having trouble staying focused, let us help you with that. Let us clear out the gunk so that you feel more connected and focused. Connect with us and we’ll custom design a retreat that’s perfect for you.

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Carol (a therapist) came to us and says, “After my Soul Adventure, I have remained centered, focused, loving, open and giving with a clarity that I never had before. My husband said he sees a ‘new woman.’”

“After my Soul Adventure, I returned home feeling truly renewed. Though ‘life’ continues to twirl with a vengeance around me, I have remained centered, focused, loving, open and giving with a clarity that I never had before. My husband said he sees a ‘new woman.’  I clearly have ‘new tools’ for both my therapy practice and my life. My wish is that both my husband and I will return and experience Soul Adventures together. Until then…” 
~ Carol H. 

I spoke with you in my last video about the idea that the first 90 minutes of your day are the most important. Studies have shown that’s when you are most productive, you have the most focus, and you have the highest level of energy and the highest level of will power. And I spoke with you about things you can be doing in those first 90 minutes to set the tone for the rest of the day, which is really about setting the tone for the rest of your life. 

If you want to set the tone, here are the suggestions I gave you in the last video:

  • HeartMath Heart Coherence Technique (if you don’t know what that is, Google it; its effects are sort of astounding)
  • Meditation 
  • Exercise 
  • Write in Your Journal 
  • Do a Gratitude Journal 
  • Read Inspirational Books 
  • Plan Your Day 
  • Drink Water (with lemon) 

Today I want to talk to you about what to do in the first 90 minutes of your Work.

Depending on the kind of work you do, you may not have total flexibility with this, but if you do, this can be magical. 

The point of all of this, is FOCUS.  

Most thought leaders these days are in agreement that FOCUS is the most important thing we need in our lives – that it’s even more important than intelligence and creativity 

Did you really rear that?

Yes. Most people agree and studies have shown that focus can be even more important than intelligence and creativity. 

When we’re unfocused, we’re scattered, we’re adrift and the worst part is, we feel like we are never accomplishing anything. It’s a terrible feeling. 

So let me ask you – What do you do with the first 90 minutes of your work day?

Hopefully you’ve started the first 90 minutes of the day with meditation, gratitude and exercise, but what do you do next?  

Do you have a process for keeping yourself focused? 

Are you prone to distraction throughout the day?

Do you…

  • Check your email, texts and other social media constantly? (Do you have special dings for notifications? — That will definitely make you distracted). 
  • Do you spend a lot of time on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram? 
  • Do you spend a lot of time on YouTube watching videos of cute kittens and puppies? 

Don’t get me wrong, videos of cute kittens and puppies and laughing babies make me happy. And I’m not perfect in this area — it’s so easy for me to get distracted. All of a sudden I’ll get a notification of something on Facebook. I’ll go to check that and then on the sidebar I’ll see that some celebrity has done something outrageous and then I’ll give myself a guilty pleasure and click on that… and then on the sidebar there’s some YouTube video that sounds especially interesting and uplifting, so I’ll click on that, until I finally Stop!

And this is the big reason why you have to stop this:

Studies have shown that it takes 21 minutes(!) to really get back into what you were doing. So think about it, if you let yourself get distracted 6 times during the day, that’s over 2 hours that it takes to really get you back into what you were doing.

I’m not saying don’t go on Facebook anymore, but honestly, does it really help you that much? And I’m not saying don’t go on YouTube — there are lots and lots of inspiring videos on YouTube. What I am saying is that living your life with FOCUS will make you feel better. It will make every area of your life feel better.   

So let me ask you: 

Do you feel unfocused?  
Do you feel scattered?
Does your mind race while you lie in bed trying to get to sleep? 
Do you feel anxious? 
Do you constantly feel like you should be doing more and more? 

What I’ve found in these 17 years of working with people here, is that these feelings are usually on top of something deeper. When we find those, clear them and come back into connection, everything changes. 

Let us help you with that. Let us clear out the gunk so that you feel more connected and focused. Connect with us and we’ll custom design a retreat that’s perfect for you.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

To get more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Stop Wasting the Most Important Part of Your Life

If you’ve been reading my newsletter for awhile, you know I’m all about how to make your life better and happier.

Do you know the secret that the first 90 minutes of your day are the most important? It determines everything. It sets the tone for your day and it actually sets the tone for your entire life.

Watch my video and get some great ideas about how to have the first 90 minutes of your day make the rest of your day really great.

And if you really want to take your life to the next level, think about doing a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. We want you to be living in connection with the happiness, joy and peace that are your birthright, every day. Call us.

Robin says Sedona Soul Adventures “gave me my life back”

“Sedona Soul Adventures changed my life. I walk tall with clarity and knowing now where I once sat still with grief and fear. I am so grateful to all the practitioners, you will all be in my heart and part of my soul.

Thank you Soul Adventures for giving me my life back. I know I have the tools to continue to live, love and laugh.” ~ Robin S.

I’m always on the lookout for things that can make my life and your life more happy, and I came across three things this week about the same topic… and when I come across something three times, that means I need to talk to you about it. 

So this is the idea — The first 90 minutes of your day are the most important. That’s when you are most productive, you have the most focus, you have the highest levels of energy and willpower. 

If you want to set the tone for the rest of the day, which, of course, is really about setting the tone for the rest of your life, look at what you’re doing in the first 90 minutes.

The first thing to figure out here is, “What do I want during the rest of my day? What do I want to make me happy? What do I want that will make me feel really good?

Take a few minutes to actually sit and be quiet with yourself and think about this, because very often, people just assume it means they should be lifting weights, running a mile and meditating for an hour, but don’t just make automatic assumptions. 

When we do surveys each year asking people what they want in their lives, I used to be surprised that the #1 answer every single year was “Peace.”

Is that what you want? If so, ask yourself some questions about that: 

  • What exactly do you mean by that? 
  • What exactly would that look like? 
  • What would be required for you to have the Peace that you want? 
  • Does it involve settling something with another person or do you maybe just want some quiet time? 

When you start asking the questions, it’s interesting to discover the answers you get. 

Many people who want peace find that meditation regularly brings them enormous peace. I know that in my own life, that has turned out to be so true. I meditate first thing every morning and that has changed my life. 

If you Google it, you’ll find that many, many successful people, including people like Jerry Seinfeld and Ellen Degeneres, mediate every single day. 

Whenever I’m evaluating anything, I generally look at it on all levels – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual. When I look at what to do with my first 90 minutes of the day, I know that doing something that affects me on the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual levels will be of most benefit.

Meditation works on all of those levels – studies have shown that it brings down blood pressure, cortisol, reduces stress and it just makes me feel better mentally, emotionally and spiritually. 

Lots of people like to use the early morning hours for working with their physical body. Running, stretching, doing some type of exercise… I know for myself, if I don’t do it in the morning, it generally doesn’t get done. Studies are showing that even 20 minutes of exercise can have huge benefits on our physical bodies, and don’t you find that when you exercise, you actually feel better emotionally and your mind is sharper? 

But maybe the way for you to find peace is simply to be quiet. That can definitely be true for a busy caregiver or mom or dad, it might be having some time on your own with some quiet. 

The great part is, this is time that you have complete control over; it’s time that can belong to you. And if you’re now saying, “Wait a minute Debra, my kids are up at 6, I can’t have time to myself,” the correct answer is, Yes you can.  

One of the three things that showed up this week was I reminded of the before 5 am website, whose founder believes that your most important things need to happen before 5 am. And while I’m not saying that everyone has to get up at 4 am, what I am saying is that you can have absolute control over these precious hours if you make the commitment to do that.  

So you just have to do the math. If everyone in your house is up and going at 7 am, you would need to get up at 5:30 am to have your precious 90 minutes to yourself. And I can hear some of you out there saying, “5:30, I can’t get up at 5:30.” And my answer is: then I guess it’s not worth it to you.

So what is worth it? Maybe don’t do 90 minutes – start with 30 minutes and see what happens. Just meditating for 15 minutes and exercising for 15 minutes can work wonders. What matters the most to you? Look at your list and figure it out. 

And maybe you’re a person who absolutely cannot get up that early and it will not work for you. Okay, I get it, but is there some other time during the day you can carve out just for yourself?

For most people, they’re too tired in the evening and it’s impossible during the day. It’s those morning hours when things are quiet that the magic can happen, but if morning doesn’t work for you, find the time that does. 

If you want to change your life, do something that’s going to be really effective. Start out with 30 minutes, get up before everyone else, do the things that will impact the list you made.

Every morning I start with a few minutes of the HeartMath Heart Coherence Technique. If you don’t know what that is, Google it, its effects are astounding and it just takes a few minutes.

Here are some additional ideas and things that will continue to come to you as you do this practice:

  • Meditation 
  • Exercise 
  • Write in Your Journal 
  • Keep a Gratitude Journal 
  • Read Inspirational Books 
  • Plan Your Day 
  • Drink Water with Lemon (I squeeze the juice of one lemon into my first glass of water first thing in the morning.) 

And for me the most important one is: Snuggle with Your Beloved 

My husband and I snuggle every night before we go to sleep and every morning before we wake up. We are both in agreement that it’s one of the most important and wonderful parts of our relationship. And that’s what all of this is about.  

What works for you? What makes you happy? What will get you going? 

And one final note – but almost the most important – is what NOT to do. Stay away from: 

  • Email 
  • Voicemail 
  • Texts 
  • Social Media

Just focus on you and what you need. Do it for 30 days and see what happens, then let me know what you experienced. 

And watch for my next video, where I’m going to talk about the most important things to do at the beginning of your work day. It’s all about FOCUS.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

To get more information, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Sexual Abuse

Have you or anyone you know been a victim of sexual abuse or assault?

I’m asking because I’m so stunned by the sheer numbers of people that come to our retreats who have this as something that happened to them. And so saddened by the fact that this haunts them throughout their lives.

It’s happened to both men and women, sometimes when they were very young, and almost none of them told anyone about it.

So the terrible parts for this, for me, in addition to what happened, is then what happens after that.

I’m amazed at the number of stories I’ve been told of people telling their parent, usually their mother, and not being believed.

Or worse, being blamed that they somehow brought this on themselves.

And then the number of people who somehow blame themselves for what happened. Especially teenagers or people who were on a date and because they were being friendly or because they had something to drink, they’re blaming themselves.

And it’s people from every walk of life – every ethnicity, male, female, upper class, middle class, lower class – it’s so pervasive that I actually feel it is a type of epidemic.

I was reading recently that when Freud did his initial work, he was working primarily with women in the upper class of Vienna and he was discovering that huge numbers of them were saying that they had been sexually abused by a family member, usually a father or a brother. When he first started talking about it, there was such an uproar, that he changed his analysis. He started talking about it as though the women had made it up, that they were “hysterical.”

And the worst part is the cover up. The person tells someone, they’re not believed and so they shut up about it. And then they carry it with them, this huge weight that is dragging them down.

And then here’s another worst part, (I keep saying this is the worst part, because there’s so many terrible parts to this), it gets twisted into this terrible belief that they take on that this happened because there’s something wrong with them. Or now that it happened, there’s something wrong with them.

And then, like I said, they carry it around.

We’ve had people come to us where this happened over 40 years ago and they’re still suffering, or 30 years ago, or 20 years ago, and they still feel it like a scar, like a wound.

If this is something that has happened to you or someone you deeply care about, I want to reach out to you to lay this burden down. This pain doesn’t need to be carried around any longer.

This energy can be released and you can come back into connection on all levels – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Because it affects people on those levels.

  • Some people don’t physically enjoy sex any longer because of the abuse, or it’s painful for them, either physically or emotionally.
  • The emotional pain typically shows up in feelings of inadequacy.
  • The mental part is all the thoughts racing in your head of “there’s something wrong with me,” “this is my fault,” “I’ll never get over this,” “my life is ruined.”
  • The spiritual part shows up in different ways. The spiritual aspect is about beliefs, so you take on those untrue thoughts that there’s something wrong with you. But on an even deeper level, we’ve found many people who have lost their faith, in that “how could God let something like this happen to me?” It’s especially insidious when it’s been a father, because for a young child, the father can represent God.

We have helped so many people who have had this happen to them. If this is something that is still haunting you or someone you deeply care about, please call us and let us help.

Call and speak with one of our Angel Guides. For some people, this is the hardest part, speaking about it, sometimes for the very first time. Our Angel Guides, are incredible, they are so compassionate and caring, you’ll feel better just having spoken with them. And it’s so freeing to finally talk about it with someone who cares.

When they speak with you, they’ll tune it and determine exactly how the impact of this is showing up for you, because it’s different for everyone. Some people are depressed, some people are angry, some people are ashamed. For some, it has greatly impacted their relationships, for others, it has greatly impacted their feelings of empowerment or inadequacy, for some, it has even impacted how they show up in the world. And it can definitely impact how you are as a partner and as a parent.

However it’s showing up for you, they’ll get to the root of it and put together a retreat of private sessions designed to move out the old, hurtful energy and moving you into connection on all levels – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Julianne says that after her Soul Adventure she feels happier, enlightened and TALLER! “I was freed from this shame I have carried through my life.”

“I was totally meant to go to Sedona. It is a magical place with incredible people. During my retreat, I felt myself change, a warm yellow light grew from inside of me. By my last day, I felt taller, happier, enlightened, I felt I finally awoke that wonderful, beautiful spirit deep inside of me that was afraid to come out. I was freed from this shame I have carried through my life. I wish for every human person to go through an experience like mine, it was worth every penny. I will go back to Sedona without a doubt.”
~ Julianne V., Ottawa, Canada

I love it so much that Julianne’s retreat helped her so deeply and isn’t it sweet, she says her Soul Adventure made her feel TALLER! That’s a new one.

But that’s exactly what happens. Shame (or depression or feeling “less than,” etc.) does that to you. It makes you feel smaller. It makes you feel less than. When those blocks are gone and that “wonderful beautiful spirit deep inside of you” comes through, you’re suddenly lighter and happier, and that literally makes you stand up taller! It’s so amazing.

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