Discovering and Releasing these Patterns can change your life - Sedona Soul Adventures

Discovering and Releasing these Patterns can change your life

I first did the process that I’m giving you today many, many years ago and it was one of the most impactful processes I’ve ever done. It’s all about patterns. 

Do you ever find yourself saying “why in the world did I do that?” Or have you looked back over your life and noticed that you seem to do the same things over and over again, making some bad choices over and over again?

It might be because of patterns in your life that you aren’t even consciously aware of. Watch my video and do the process that I talk about – it’s one of the processes from my book, The Journey To Happy – How Embracing The Concept That Nothing Is Wrong Can Transform Your Life. It was a life-changing process for me – it just might be for you too.

And if you find you have some unconscious patterns that are holding you back, connect with us and let us help you with that. Click below to speak with one of our Retreat Soul Guides:

Or if you’d prefer, call us at (928) 204-5988 or click here and one of our Soul Guides will call you.

They’ll connect with you (or both of you, if it’s a couples retreat) in deep conversation. Then they’ll custom design the perfect retreat for you, working with our Master Practitioners here in beautiful, mystical Sedona.

Sadia says her Soul Adventure released “negativity in my life” and “patterns I was not recognzing” –– “I truly came out of this Soul Adventure feeling more grounded and confident”

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One of our SSA grads has written a new memoir (coupon below)

I am proud to announce that one of our amazing “grads,” Linda Gunter, has written a new memoir. 

I asked Linda if she would write a little bit about herself and the book:

shattered illusionsPart memoir, Linda Gunter’s journey focused on personal growth. The book begins when she volunteered after Hurricane Katrina, in a disaster relief kitchen in St. Bernard Parish, LA. This experience causes her to question her traditional career path and awakened a desire to live a more meaningful life. 

The author based many life-changing decisions on her intuition; she leaves a government job and moves from DC to Seagrove, NC. She decides to convert her new home (a former Mill) into a B&B and open an herb store. She studies herbs, meditation, flower essence energy work, reiki, becomes a licensed wedding officiant.

Her two Sedona Soul Adventures and two weekend seminars (over the space of 5 years) led to many personal insights, an ability to reflect on her problems and try new tools to explore her psyche. Thinking about spirituality as an energy process opened her mind to other practices. 

She met Jorge Luis Delgado at the Sedona Soul Adventures workshop and decided to take the Machu Picchu trip after she worked in Tokyo on the Fukushima nuclear accident. The two weeks she spent with Jorge and a group of like minded souls was life changing, leading to a true commitment to the road less traveled no matter where it led. 

Linda researches cognitive theory, moral and behavioral psychology and finally concludes her mind is unreliable, much of her decision-making has been unconscious based upon past limited experience and thus faulty. She fails at being an entrepreneur and almost loses her home and possessions. 

linda ssa gradHer parents rescue her financially, but she has to overcome depression and loneliness. She slowly regains self-confidence by focusing on being of service to others and utilizing the spiritual skills she has learned over the years. She decides to study Neurosculpting and becomes certified to teach this visualization meditation.

Linda has published this book, Shattered Illusions: Reflections On My Disasterous Mid-life Crisis, with the hope of helping others avoid her mistakes.

Linda has graciously provided all of you with a coupon for 20% off the paperback edition. The Coupon Code is good through November 24: ZRAU3A

Buy the book and use the coupon code here:

The e-book is only $9.99 on Amazon or Barnes & Noble.

I love hearing stories about people who have had huge transformations in their lives.

Congratulations, Linda! I’m so glad Sedona Soul Adventures and Peru and Jorge were such a wonderful part of your journey!

Wishing you a week filled with new patterns!

Today, I’m going to talk to you about How To Discover Patterns That Are Hurting Your Life.Back in 2016, I wrote a book that became an International #1 Best Seller called The Journey To Happy. I’m going to be talking to you in a number of videos about the ideas and processes that I talk about in my book.
Have you ever looked at your life and thought, “Why did I do that?”

Or have you looked back over your life and noticed that you seem to do the same things over and over again, making some bad choices over and over again?
I was a divorce attorney for over 20 years and one of the things that happened during that time is that I had some clients that I did 3 divorces for! And the amazing thing was, what I noticed is that they were marrying the same person over and over again, they just had a different name. And what I also discovered is that if their father was an alcoholic, they would end up marrying alcoholics, or if their mother was withholding and couldn’t express love, they would marry someone who was – you guessed it – withholding and couldn’t express love. I now see this all the time with people who come here to Sedona Soul Adventures to do our retreats.
It doesn’t make any sense when we think about it rationally, but when you think about it from an emotional and spiritual standpoint, it makes perfect sense. With a childhood like that, you take on the belief that you’re not loveable and your soul is looking to heal that wound so it finds someone to bring that up for healing. You keep finding people that bring up that old wound of making you feel like you’re not loveable. It’s a vicious cycle if you don’t do something about it.
So the key for this, is to discover the patterns that you took on as a child that are still affecting you.
This process is quick and it is so enlightening. When I first did it, I couldn’t believe it. Here’s what you do:
Look at the top 6 areas of your life and look at how these same things were for your parents:

  1. Life
  2. Spirituality
  3. Work
  4. Money
  5. Relationships
  6. Body

Here were my answers when I first did this…
My Parents: Life is hard
Me: Life is hard
My Parents: Believed in God
Me: Believe in a Higher Power
My Parents: You have to work really hard and do things you don’t like to make money and support yourself.
Me: I was working really hard and doing things I didn’t like (practicing law) to make money and support myself.
My Parents: Made a lot of money. Spent a lot of There was never enough. My mother would sit at the dining room table and write out checks to pay bills and say, “There’s not enough!”
Me: Made a lot of money. Spent a lot of money. Never enough. Amazingly, I would also sit at the dining room table and write out checks to pay bills and say, “There’s not enough!”
My Parents: Marriage is hard. Parents are distant, Father is working nights and completely unavailable.
Me: I was already divorced by this time. I kept finding unavailable men. My first boyfriend was away at college. My first husband was in law school and studying all the time. My second husband was from Holland and we had a long distance relationship until we got married. After that marriage ended, I had a relationship with an American who lived in Tokyo.
My Parents: My mother was constantly dieting, and as my father aged, he became morbidly obese. He would go on diets and lose 30-40 pounds and then would go off the diet and gain it all back and more.
Me: I was put on my first diet when I was 12, even though I wasn’t fat. I would continually go on diets and lose 20 pounds, and then I would go off the diet and gain it all back and more.
Although I thought I was completely different from my parents, I was completely like them in terms of how everything in my life was manifesting. When I realized that I was even sitting at the dining room table writing out checks to pay bills and saying, “There’s not enough,” I was totally, completely stunned. These patterns are set in ways that we don’t even realize until we start to consciously look at them.

Take ten minutes to think about how your parents, teachers, or others (who really influenced you as a child) interacted with the world. For most people, it will be your parents. How did they “do” money? How did they “do” food? How did they “do” relationships?
Remember, this is not about blame; this is about raising your conscious awareness. As I’ve said, we are creating our reality in every moment. I know I created these parents and I created these patterns. This is not my parents’ fault. I chose (unconsciously) to take on their thoughts and perceptions. This was one of the most valuable processes I ever did in my life, so I invite you to do it now.
Of course, now that you have gained this awareness, there are steps that you can take immediately. For me, one of the first things I did was to stop writing checks at the dining room table! I also broke up with the guy in Tokyo.
For most of us though, just having the awareness of these patterns isn’t enough to change them. It’s certainly a start and I really want you to do this exercise so that you know this much, and there are simple things that you can start to do to change some of these things around. But usually, the patterns are much deeper and most of us need help in dealing with them and turning them around.
If you would like some help with that, please contact us at Sedona Soul Adventures. This is what we’re the best at – uncovering the patterns and then giving you the tools to turn it around.

Go to and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.
Or better still, call us at (928) 204-5988.
You can have the life AND the relationship you want – I know it.
Debra Stangl

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