Our 2 Year Wedding Anniversary!
Our 2 year wedding anniversary is tomorrow, October 7. I’m so happy we were able to get married surrounded by the beautiful red rocks of Sedona and family and friends (we were limited to 40 guests for the wedding, so later that evening we had a huge bash that included all of our friends).
I can hardly believe it’s been 2 years! So much has happened in the past 2 years – most of it absolutely wonderful and some of it painfully sad.
It’s incredible to me that in the past 2 years we’ve lost three of our beautiful fur babies – first Richard’s dog, Prancer, 2 years ago, then my sweet Katie Kat last year and my beautiful, amazing Daisy this year.
Richard and I still talk about how we can’t believe they’re gone.
We still have our sweet Missy and she is so adorable (and we definitely feel their presence at certain times). This photo was taken shortly after Richard moved to Sedona; that’s Daisy the Golden Retriever on the left, Missy the Labradoodle in the middle and Prancer on the right.
But the most joyous thing has been that Richard is such a true partner. In our wedding ceremony, there was a portion added that I knew nothing about beforehand. My two dear friends, Ranjita and Yana, officiated the wedding. Eighteen years prior to that, I attended a Couples Workshop by Ranjita and during that workshop, one of the men said to his partner, “I’ve got your back.”
That day and throughout the years, Ranjita and I were constantly referencing that and talking about wanting to find a man who would “have our back.” Shortly after Richard and I connected, we were talking about something and he suddenly said “I’ve got your back, baby.” I couldn’t wait to get off the phone to tell Ranjita!
So she incorporated that into the ceremony, with us making the pledge to each other to always have each other’s back (the funniest part was that we were unprepared for this, she had us leaning against each other, we were on slick grass, I was wearing high heels and we both felt throughout this part of the ceremony that we were about to fall over, which would not have been the most auspicious start!).
And throughout these past two years, Richard has constantly been showing me how he has my back (and I hope he feels that way about me as well).
It is also such a dream come true that he has become such a support for me with Sedona Soul Adventures. With his extensive business background in Silicon Valley and his love of what we do, he’s just the perfect partner. He’s been to Peru with me three times and Egypt twice.
When I was preparing to write this, I went back and found the email I sent 2 years ago saying, “I got married yesterday.” What a blast from the past! I enjoyed reading it so much, I’ve included it below if you’d like to read it. I talk about how incredible it was that we even met in the first place and I included the poem that Richard had written, “735” (which is the number of miles between Sedona and San Jose, where he was living when we met).
Richard read the poem at our wedding and one of our clients who had been on the Peru trip with us that year and had done a Soul Adventure, got inspired after she read the poem in the newsletter and did a multimedia piece for us as a wedding gift entitled “735.”It includes the poem, a map between San Jose and Sedona, and beautiful colors. This photo doesn’t do it justice. It’s so beautiful and we have it hanging in the feng shui relationship corner in our home. Thanks again, Stephanie!
To finally be in a happy, joyous, amazing relationship at this stage of my life is almost unbelievable. And don’t get me wrong, we still have our stuff. We see some of our Sedona Soul Adventures Practitioners regularly because we always want to stay on top of everything. We want to make sure we’re doing everything we can to make this love and joy last and to be operating at the highest vibration.
Do we do it all the time? No, but we’re trying really hard in a wonderful way.
A few years ago, I was starting to believe that maybe this wasn’t possible, but I’m so happy to have found out that it is.
I wish all of you that kind of joy and love in your lives,
Debra
And here’s the newsletter from 2 years ago:
I got married yesterday in the beautiful Red Rocks of Sedona. My whole family was there and it was so incredibly beautiful. At least, I’m assuming it was. I wrote this on Monday, because I won’t have any time to write this once everyone starts arriving on Thursday. This photo was taken at our photo shoot on Thursday out in the beautiful Red Rocks of Sedona (Cathedral Rock, to be precise).
But the part I can say without any question is how amazed, surprised and happy I am about everything, and how incredible this whole thing has been. And I have to say it’s all because of Sedona Soul Adventures that this thing has happened at all.
After my divorce 7 years ago, I was hurting and really at a low point in my life. I was amazed that even after all the spiritual work I’ve done over the years, I was still having feelings of “not enough.” I was having thoughts of, “Is there something wrong with me?”, “Why wasn’t I able to make the marriage work?” and all that stinkin’ thinkin’ that goes with all that. I was stunned, because I thought I had dealt with all that sort of stuff a long time ago.
But you know, these core wounds run deep. They go back to our childhoods and some threads are even deeper than that, going back to past lives and beyond. Luckily for me, I had my amazing practitioners to help me. I practice what I preach. I know from 15 years with Sedona Soul Adventures that everything can be turned around. It’s not necessary to stay stuck or to stay unhappy. So I dove in, just like I tell people who come to do a Soul Adventure to do.
I discovered I still had some deep wounds from my childhood and from my past marriage. Isn’t it so interesting how that stuff just comes out in layers? Think onions… and at each layer one cries from the release of that stuck energy of the past. I did a number of very intense sessions with many of my practitioners, some of the deepest work I’ve ever done in my life. It was so liberating to come out of the other end of that.
But the best part was that I emerged from all that happy and whole (not perfect – we never reach that – but grounded and secure in the knowledge that I WAS enough). And I see now that’s what set everything in motion for love to come back into my life. If Richard and I had connected 7 years ago, I’m sure this wouldn’t have worked out. I just wasn’t in the space that you need to be in for a healthy relationship to come in and stay.
But when we connected, we were both in that happy and whole space. And it’s so interesting to me, that Richard and I should never have connected in the first place. We both had been on Match.com for a long time and I had made the decision over 2 years ago that if someone contacted me who was more than a two hour drive away that I wasn’t interested. I had done a long distance relationship 3 years ago and it was just too difficult. So if someone contacted me who was far away, I simply wouldn’t respond to them. At first that felt a little rude, but if I did respond to people that I wasn’t interested in a long distance relationship, that would always start this back and forth of them saying, “Oh come on,” “We can make it work,” etc. So I just didn’t respond at all, because I avoided all that.
Then last year I was sitting in the Hotel Casa Del Mar in Santa Monica with my sister watching another gorgeous Southern California sunset and drinking champagne. We were celebrating my book having reached Amazon #1 Bestseller, plus my sister loves sunsets. Suddenly I got a ping on my phone from Match. Richard had seen me on Match and he “liked” me. I saw his picture and his beautiful blue eyes, and then I read his profile. I loved what I saw, especially the way he spoke about his work and when he was speaking about his spiritual life and how important that was to him, I had a real reaction. But then I saw that he was from San Jose, California and my heart sank. I showed his picture to my sister and she said, “Cute!” I thought to myself, “This one I’m not going to be rude to” and I wrote him a message that said, “You look great, but you’re in San Jose.” I thought that would be the end of it.
Instead, he wrote back, “I know, I saw the potentially insurmountable distance. But I saw your picture and I see what you’re doing in the world and I just want you to know there’s someone out here who appreciates who you are.”
Wow.
I showed his response to my sister and she said “Good answer!”
We texted back and forth a little and then I told him I was visiting my family and we should talk next week. He called me the following week and that started the talking, texting and Skyping that went on for six weeks before he came to Sedona to visit me. Shortly after we were together for the first time, he wrote a poem called “735,” because it’s 735 miles between San Jose and Sedona. We read the poem at our wedding. He’s given me permission to share it with you.
735
Seven-hundred-thirty-five miles is a long way
They said
To travel so far to meet her
I was reminded that after hundreds of lifetimes
With and without her
With a hundred decades between our last love meeting
We have both come so far on our separate paths
Weaving, bobbing in-and-out of our crusted, heavy worlds
Falling, rising, drowning in our own lives only to surface again
To find each other
Finally
Deeply
Forever, again
735 miles was nothing
~ 2-9-17 RMK
I feel so blessed. I feel so happy. I’m so full of love that I want everyone to have that and share it. One of our gifts from my bridal shower was a couples massage and we did that last Tuesday. As I was leaving, one of the women there who had been helping us all evening said to me, “I wish you every happiness and you give me hope that I could find a relationship again.” It’s been so amazing how many people have said that to both of us and we love that so much. We want to give people that hope. We feel blessed to be able to inspire others to reach for their hearts-desires.
Whether you’re looking for love or for happiness and wholeness, please do something to make that happen. Do what I did – come here and work with our practitioners. They are masters and they can help you.
Connect with us and speak with one of our Retreat Guides. They’ll know if in a very short period of time how we can help you.
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Wishing you a week filled with love, connection and laughter,
Debra
