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This One Thing Makes All The Difference In Every Area Of Your Life

This past week, I read an article, heard something on the radio, and saw something online that all said the same thing. When I get things in threes like that, it always means I’m supposed to share that with you. What they said was not new, we all know this on one level or another, but the way they said it and the how was what was really interesting to me.

  • The article was about the #1 thing that attracts the opposite sex.
  • The radio segment was about a study that demonstrates what makes for the best guide dogs.
  • The online posting was about how to have the most success in a job interview.

I don’t think this will surprise you, but the ways I’m going to talk about it might be interesting to you. The key in all of these (including the guide dogs) was (drum roll, please) Confidence.

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The article that I read was talking about how the #1 thing that really “gets” the opposite sex is confidence. Men can feel it in women and women can feel it in men. The higher the confidence level (and we’re not talking about egomania, we’re talking about confidence), the higher the level of attraction.

The second one was the most interesting to me. They did a study of guide dogs, following 100 puppies from the time of their birth through their graduation of guide dog training, and then their time as a guide dog. What they were looking at initially was, “Who made the best guide dogs? Puppies who were from mother dogs who were very attentive and involved with them or puppies who came from mother dogs who were much less attentive?”

When I first heard them talking about it, I assumed that, of course, the puppies who had been more attended to as they were growing up were the ones who ultimately became the best guide dogs.

To my amazement, the opposite was true. The puppies who had to fend more for themselves made better guide dogs later on. The puppies who had “helicopter mothers” (the type who hover over everything) didn’t even make it through the guide dog training — they weren’t as focused and they were more hyper, they weren’t calm enough to become guide dogs.

On further study, they discovered that the puppies who had to fend more for themselves had more confidence. They were calmer and being calm is the most important attribute of a guide dog. 

The third one — that confidence was the #1 thing that mattered in a job interview — was less surprising. But the thing that did surprise me was that confidence mattered even more than education.

Experience mattered as much as confidence if the experience was exactly the same, but if someone had experience that was not exactly the same, confidence became more important. The potential employer wanted to feel like the person would be able to do the job, and the confidence the person exuded meant more than education and experience.

[And, amazingly, as I was in the middle of writing this, I opened a newsletter written by a friend of mine who was describing what it takes to be a “Most Valuable Player” and one of the attributes was Confidence — another validation!]

What exactly is confidence? When I looked up the definition of confidence, here’s what I got:

Confidence: a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.

Example: ”she’s brimming with confidence”

What I find most interesting in that definition is that they’re saying it’s “a feeling”, because that’s all confidence is — it’s a feeling. You can’t measure it, you can’t get a degree in it, you can’t get a certification in it. It’s either there or it isn’t. Some people have it and some people don’t.

Men feel it in women, women feel it in men, dogs feel it, potential employers feel it — everyone we come into contact with feels it from you or they don’t.

It’s so interesting to me that sometimes I will find people who have a lot of confidence and I’m wondering where that came from. They don’t have the outward things that would make you assume they would have confidence — good education, good looks, good background, money, etc., etc.

And the truly mystifying thing to me in the work that I do is seeing someone who from all outward appearances SHOULD have a lot of confidence (e.g., a woman who is gorgeous, smart, loving, giving, accomplished, etc.) and then to discover that inside they are a mass of insecurities.

If confidence is so important — we can see from above that it matters in love, in doing a good job, and even getting a good job — why don’t we all just “act as if” we’re confident? The simple answer is, we can’t.

Most of us have fears, wounds, negative thoughts, or insecurities that keep us from feeling truly confident. It’s like I said before, it’s either there or it isn’t.

And what I’ve found in 30-plus years of working with people, there’s some kind of emotional gunk that’s holding most people back from feeling truly confident.

Wouldn’t you love to feel confident?
Wouldn’t you love to be a person who’s brimming with confidence?

I truly believe (and I see it all the time) that it’s possible to become a confident person — once you’ve cleared out the fears, wounds, and emotional gunk that is keeping you from feeling confident. Because think about it — it’s just these things we tell ourselves that are keeping us from feeling confident, or making us feel insecure.

When we get rid of all that gunk, the confidence comes pouring through and sooner or later we’re brimming over with it.

If you’re ready to get rid of the gunk and be the confident, joyful person you were meant to be, please contact us. Talk to us and we’ll custom design the perfect retreat that will bring you the life or the relationship you’re craving.

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Call us today at (928) 204-5988 or request a call and one of our Soul Guides and we’ll call you and start the process of bringing you into the life or relationship of your dreams.


Did you know Sedona Soul Adventures was named “Best of Sedona”
for Retreats for 2020, 2021 & 2022,
“Best Marriage Retreats in the US” 2015-2023 and
one of the “11 Best Couples Retreats Around the World”
by Bride’s Magazine in 2022? We were recently named one of Global Radiance Review’s “20 Most Trustworthy Companies of 2023”

It’s because what we do gets results – call us now, let us help. As I always say, if you knew what could happen, you’d be calling right now.

What area of your life do you need help with most right now…

Your relationship?
Finding your life purpose?
Loss of a loved one?
Healing & pampering?
Or is it something else?

Because we’re here for you – and we’re even open on Sunday!

Remember, there’s no cost or obligation to speak with a Soul Guide and have them custom-design the perfect retreat just for you in Sedona or At Home.

Call us at (928) 204-5988 or request a call from one of our
Soul Guides and they will call you.


Would you like to:

  • Learn how to reliably connect with your Intuition?
  • Receive the answers to questions through your Intuition?
  • Have tools to continue to deepen your connection with your Intuition on an ongoing basis?
  • Utilize your Intuition to enhance your personal and professional life?

Then join us for this special class which is being taught by our fabulous Komala.

This is a 10-week class, meeting LIVE each Tuesday from 10am – 12pm Pacific. Each class will be recorded, so if you miss one, we will send you the recording. But of course, your live participation will ensure you get the most out of each class.

If you’ve always wanted to explore your intuitive abilities, this is the perfect opportunity!

Sign up now, space is limited. Get more information here.

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Stephanie says her Soul Adventure gave her “happiness and confidence”

“I was referred to Sedona Soul Adventures from a friend that had had an amazing experience at a time in his life where he needed clarity and spiritual guidance. I had just barely survived a very traumatic divorce which lasted over a year and was emotionally exhausted and very sad. I went to Sedona seeking guidance from any source that was willing to give it to me. AND I GOT IT!!! I arrived filled with much pain and anger and unsure where I was headed in life. I had lost my confidence and was not happy with the person I had become. In a few short days, I was able to release all of my pain and anger and look at my life as a wonderful adventure waiting to unfold. I left feeling as if there was nothing I couldn’t achieve. In the few days since I’ve been home, I have so many wonderful things that have happened to me and now look forward to each day! I have my happiness and my confidence back. This was an amazing adventure that I wish all could experience!!!”
~ Stephanie S., Las Vegas, Nevada


Last call for our incredible Machu Picchu and Peru trip June 17-30

We’re at Last Call time for our fabulous Peru trip! And I don’t want you to miss out. This is the last week for reservations.

The trip is so amazing – being with our shaman and guide, Jorge Luis Delgado, is so incredible.

Doing ceremony at Machu Picchu on the Solstice is life-changing.

Being with other seekers is so fantastic. And if you don’t have someone to travel with, that’s not a problem. What always seems to happen on these trips is that we have a few couples, but the majority are people traveling as a single (even if they’re married or in a relationship, because their partner isn’t interested in Peru). Plus, our groups are all in love with each other within 48 hours, it’s so wonderful!

The fact that this trip includes Machu Picchu for three days has become even more important because of changes they’ve initiated the past few years.

Previously, your ticket allowed you to be at Machu Picchu all day. Now, the Peruvian government has changed it so that you are there in the morning or the afternoon, you are not allowed to be there all day.

On this tour, the first day you will be in Machu Picchu for the afternoon. The next day, everyone will get up at dawn to be there at 6 am in order to do a sunrise ceremony on the Solstice. The next day everyone will get up as early as possible to spend the entire morning there. We want everyone to be able to luxuriate in their experience of Machu Picchu.

“Our sacred journey to Peru was more than we had hoped for, and was made all the more special by the people – Debra, Jorge Luis, and most importantly, the group of strangers that we met on the first day who became lifelong friends by the end of the two weeks. The trip was incredibly well-run, deeply spiritual and life-changing.”
~ Clayton Smith, Canada

Join us on this incredible journey! For all the information click below:


“My trip to Peru was a life-altering experience. I laughed, I cried, I experienced new dimensions.”
 Laura McConnell

If you have questions, please send them to me directly at [email protected].

Or feel free to call me at (928) 204-5988 – I love talking about Peru!

If you are ready to jump in for this trip of a lifetime, make your deposit here.

Wishing you a week filled with confidence!

Debra Stangl

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