You Get What You ARE, Not What You Want; How to Start Getting What You Want in Every Area of Your Life - Sedona Soul Adventures

You Get What You ARE, Not What You Want; How to Start Getting What You Want in Every Area of Your Life

I used to make life so hard for myself.

For so many years I was so unhappy. I was frustrated, felt stuck, and just unhappy with everything. I look back on that now and I feel so sorry for that earlier version of me. I was so afraid that I would never get what I wanted, and that made me angry, resentful, and just not a lot of fun to be around.

Here is the truth that I finally learned:

You get what you ARE, not what you want

If you’re feeling love, you bring in more love (for yourself and everyone else).

If you’re feeling abundant, you bring in more abundance.

If you’re feeling healthy, you bring in more good health.
Sub-category: If you’re feeling fat, you can go on every diet in the world and exercise like a crazy person – you’ll lose some weight for a little while but it will come back (plus more) because you think and feel like you’re a fat person. (Can you tell I have some personal experience with this one? – see below).

If you think there are no good men (or women) out there, that all the good ones have been taken, that all men (or women) cheat, that you’ll never find true love, that’s what you’re going to get.

I hesitate to call this what it is, which is the Law of Attraction. So many people seem to have negative thoughts about the Law of Attraction, mainly “it doesn’t work.” They saw that movie The Secret many years ago and they seem to think the Law of Attraction means if I tell the Universe what I want enough times, the Universe will deliver.

Well, that’s not how it works. That’s why it’s not working for you, because you’re not obeying the Law.

The Universe gives you what you ARE, what you’re thinking about, what you’re talking about, but especially WHAT YOU’RE FEELING.

And that’s the great news here! It’s all so simple! It’s just about flipping the switch into feeling better. And it’s much easier than you think.

In fact, that’s the real secret. Coming into that feeling space of ease and flow.

Here’s what happened for me (which is why I KNOW this stuff works!):

  • I went from hating my work (as a divorce attorney) to doing the work of my dreams with Sedona Soul Adventures.
  • When I came to Sedona the first time, I had been in debt for $50,000 for over 5 years; within 2 weeks of coming here, $50,000 suddenly fell out of the sky when I went into the FEELING SPACE of surrender, acceptance, and gratitude.
  • After hating my body and struggling with my weight since the age of 12 (and doing every crazy diet and brutal exercising), when I finally went into the FEELING SPACE of loving my body, I released over 40 pounds in 5 weeks without diet or exercise. Here is my before and after photo:
debra stangl before after

And I now eat and drink whatever I want, whenever I want – and have done so for over 10 years.

  • When I started BELIEVING that I could have a fabulous relationship, I manifested the man of my dreams and we were married over 5 years ago surrounded by the red rocks of Sedona and by family and friends.

I tell all these stories in greater detail in my book, The Journey To Happy – How Embracing The Concept That Nothing Is Wrong Can Transform Your Life.

You can get it on Amazon and now the audio version is available on Audible.

The secret is in the subtitle. When you finally figure out that nothing is wrong, that everything is happening for a reason and you stop fighting and resisting everything and start going with the flow of life, that’s when everything starts to work.

It’s simple, but it’s not necessarily easy. Most people aren’t able to just flip the switch just by having that information. I wasn’t able to — I was 47 years old when I came to Sedona the first time. And then I spent the next three years coming here for a month at a time doing my own personal healing work.

This was before Sedona Soul Adventures, so of course I didn’t have any help or guidance, I just kept on doing sessions with the different Practitioners I was finding here. Some were phenomenal, some were not helpful at all and some were just so-so.

I had a lot of wounds, fears and energetic blocks to deal with. But doing this work eventually brought me into this knowing, this understanding that it is my own energy that is bringing me everything in my life, both the good and what some would call “the bad.” But when you understand how all this works, it’s not “bad,” it’s just showing me how I’m vibrating and the good news is, I can change that!

That’s the reason I started Sedona Soul Adventures. And that’s why our retreats are so effective. We take you from where you are to where you want to be, removing the blocks, healing the wounds, moving the energy. Over these past 21 years, I just continue to be amazed at what happens.

So if it’s true that you get what you are, rather than what you want, WHAT ARE YOU?

  • Are you blissfully happy?
  • Do you feel connected?
  • Do you feel healthy in your body?
  • Do you love your body?
  • Do you love yourself?
  • Do you love your work?
  • Do you feel abundant?
  • Is your relationship happy, harmonious and juicy?

If you didn’t answer a resounding yes to all of these, the next question is: Why not?

What needs to happen for you to feel all of these things and have everything you want in your life?

The answer is finding and releasing the blocks and the wounds, and bringing you into connection on all the levels – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. That brings you into the ease and flow of life. It flips the switch and makes everything easy, effortless and joyful.

Call us and let us help you with that. Speak with one of our Soul Guides to start the process. It really works! Just read all of our over 700 5 star reviews on Trustpilot!

i want my transformation

Ann Says “This Soul adventure takes each individual where they are…and then takes each person to the next level”

Call us today at (928) 204-5988 or request a call and one of our Soul Guides will call you. We’ll start the process of taking you from where you are and bringing you into the life or relationship of your dreams.


Did you know Sedona Soul Adventures was named “Best of Sedona”
for Retreats for 2020, 2021 & 2022,
“Best Marriage Retreats in the US” 2015-2023 and
one of the “11 Best Couples Retreats Around the World”
by Bride’s Magazine in 2022? We were recently named one of Global Radiance Review’s “20 Most Trustworthy Companies of 2023”

It’s because what we do gets results – call us now, let us help. As I always say, if you knew what could happen, you’d be calling right now.

What area of your life do you need help with most right now…

Your relationship?
Finding your life purpose?
Loss of a loved one?
Healing & pampering?
Or is it something else?

Because we’re here for you – and we’re even open on Sunday!

Remember, there’s no cost or obligation to speak with a Soul Guide and have them custom-design the perfect retreat just for you in Sedona or At Home.

Call us at (928) 204-5988 or request a call from one of our
Soul Guides and they will call you.


Would you like to:

  • Learn how to reliably connect with your Intuition?
  • Receive the answers to questions through your Intuition?
  • Have tools to continue to deepen your connection with your Intuition on an ongoing basis?
  • Utilize your Intuition to enhance your personal and professional life?

Then join us for this special class which is being taught by our fabulous Komala.

This is a 10-week class, meeting LIVE each Tuesday from 10am – 12pm Pacific. Each class will be recorded, so if you miss one, we will send you the recording. But of course, your live participation will ensure you get the most out of each class.

If you’ve always wanted to explore your intuitive abilities, this is the perfect opportunity!

Sign up now, space is limited. Get more information here.

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I know you’re going to love it!


2 more spots left for our fabulous Peru trip (June 17-30) but you must act now

We have two more spots available for our Peru trip, so if you’d like to go, you must act now! You don’t have to be part of a couple, if you are a single, that’s fine too! We’d love to have you join us on this amazing adventure!

“My trip to Peru was a life altering experience thanks to the efforts of Debra as well as an amazing group of sacred travelers. The universe is such a powerful place. I find it truly amazing how much coordination and dedication it takes to have so many pieces come together to create such a perfect moment in my life. I feel blessed to have been a part of that moment in time as it opened a whole new portal in my life. I cannot begin to express my gratitude. This is an excerpt of an email I sent to one of my best friend after the trip: I laughed. I cried. I was awed. I experienced new dimensions. I felt love and gave love. My gratitude is endless.

I feel fortunate to have experienced the Andes Mountains and people. My heart has expanded to new levels. I am so open and the feeling is other worldly. I have made amazing friends. The group, the leaders and the guide were all amazing teachers. I cannot wait to share everything with you.”
~ Laura McConnell

This is what happens when you go with us to Machu Picchu and Peru. It’s so much more than just seeing the sites — it’s about really connecting with these amazing places and connecting with that Highest Part of yourself in these places. It’s indescribably delicious, as the old commercial used to say.

And to be at Machu Picchu on the Solstice doing ceremony? Talk about a bucket list item!

Join our amazing shaman and guide, Jorge Luis Delgado, and our other sacred travelers on this trip of a lifetime – June 17-30. Click below for all the information:



Read more fantastic reviews about this fabulous trip here.

If you have questions, please send them to me directly at [email protected].

Or feel free to call me at (928) 204-5988 – I love talking about Peru!

If you already know you want to go, make your deposit here.

We have to make all the arrangements within the next few days, so if you’d like to join us, you must act now!

Wishing you a week filled with being the best you can be!

Debra Stangl

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