Anger is one of the most common natural emotions. We all get angry once in a while and we feel this for various reasons. It is a manifestation of either frustration or pain. Anger is an emotion that not only affects you but also those around you. It may seem a very negative emotion and most of the time, social protocols have conditioned people to repress it. Although anger is perceived negatively, it has a purpose. Anger can help us improve as an individual and also improve our relationships.
When anger arises, it usually involves other people. Either they are a part of the reason or they are part of pacifying it. This means that either way, this emotion involves someone other than yourself. How you react to a situation is what determines the degree of anger. If you can observe the situation without reacting to it, in time, the anger will subside.
Anger can also bring people to wrong themselves. When you get angry, you lose control of your emotions and this can lead you to dislike yourself. Usually, people deal differently in the guilt of anger. Some may resort to eating, consuming alcohol or drugs, promiscuous sex or other unhealthy practices when angry, hurt or frustrated.
You should remember that it’s normal to be angry but it doesn’t have to take over your life. Suppressing anger may lead you to more troubles since trying to run away from it does not solve anything. It can be damaging in the long run since you are ignoring your emotion. Anger should be faced since it is an affirmation that you are human. You have frustrations and pains that you need to acknowledge and sometimes, anger is the way to face them.
Anger is an emotion that forces you to pay attention. It is a nudging emotion that makes you analyze and realize the things that are not satisfying you. If you keep ignoring anger, you are ignoring the things that are continuously bringing you unhappiness. Whether it’s an abusive relationship or an unhealthy environment, acknowledging your anger helps you confront the things that keep you from growing as a person. Anger also evokes change since it forces you to disengage yourself to factors that cause you this negative emotions, thus, freeing you from the things that are holding you back.
So remember that the next time you get angry, find out why and what you can do about it. Do not try to suppress or avoid anger since it will not go away but instead it will be kept inside you like a time bomb waiting to explode on the next opportunity. Anger can also be a starting point of healing. When we acknowledge anger, we are acknowledging pains and frustrations. The acknowledgement allows us to start working on things that will eventually lead us to a more fulfilling life.
Spiritual retreats are great opportunities for us to face our emotions. It gives us a chance to face our demons so we can transform our lives into something more positive. Sedona Soul Adventures have been providing spiritual retreats for people to face and acknowledge the need to emotionally heal and have spiritual rejuvenation. If you are in need of a self-centering retreats, visit their website now.
Letting go has always been one of the hardest things to do. Change is viewed by most people as a loss instead of an opportunity to start something new. Resisting the path to change is to hold on to things that leads to the buildup of clutters in life. Clutters can be tangible and intangible elements in our lives that hold us back from experiencing changes.
A lot of people cling to things (relationships, aspirations, material possessions) that they believe will be useful for them in the future. Clutter is highly associated with the fear of not having enough in case the time of need arrives. It’s the anticipation of not being able to have something when you need it. This mentality teaches people to live less in the present and more in the future that has not arrived yet — and worse, a future that is deemed already to be not “enough”.
Clutter also signifies our inability to let go, most of the time, out of sentiments. The problem with clutter is that we let it consume space in our houses, in our minds, in our hearts, and in our lives just because we think it is of value to us. However, if we keep on holding on to these things, we are building a mountain of objects or emotional baggage that can hinder us from bringing in new experiences in our lives. Whatever these things represent to us from the past, it is essential that we let go of it especially if it is stopping us to live the present.
Understanding that a clutter free life enables us to a lighter and more open view of the “right here right now”. Piling up all the things that we have acquired from the past does not validate our worth as a person. Clutters hinder us to freely enjoy our lives since it occupies physical, mental and emotional spaces.
To let go of clutters, it is essential to understand that nothing is more important than the present. The present is all you have and it definitely deserves more attention and value than the unchangeable past and the unrealized future. Letting go of clutters means letting go of sentiments and fears. This part will take more courage and strength. These representations of clutters are much more important rather than the actual clutters themselves.
Having the strength to let go means being centered as a person and understanding your real purpose in the present. Spiritual retreats have been proven to help people find their center and understand the importance of letting go in order to live a more positive life.
Sedona Soul Adventures has been providing customized spiritual retreats that have helped many people reconnect with themselves and find courage to let go of emotional and mental clutters. Their spiritual retreats have been providing the setting for people to re-energize and re-center in order to transform their lives into a more positive, purposeful and clutter-free lives. Visit Sedona Soul Adventure’s website today.
Finding yourself seems to be an enigmatic quest nowadays. A lot of individuals walk around the planet, too busy with all the things they need to get done that they forget to focus on the positive aspects of life. This state of just “going with the flow” can sooner or later take a toll and undeniably, can affect your health.
Finding the purpose of life is not an easy journey. There are times we think we know what we want, and then something unexpected happens and turns our whole life into an entirely different angle. These life challenges can definitely test your strength and it can either break you or make you stronger. With so many superficial expectations that we have to live up to, it is not uncommon to get lost and not really see a clear-cut direction of what we should do in order to find more meaning in our life.
Our spiritual self has a lot to do when it comes to finding purpose. Most people fail to realize that purpose is not found outside ourselves, it can be found within. And if we have an exhausted and unhealthy spirituality, it can take time for us to find satisfaction in our daily lives. Connecting with our soul and understanding this important aspect of holistic health is a big factor in achieving a real sense of meaning.
Do you ever wonder why some people, considered to be less fortunate than you are, can find real satisfaction and happiness with their lives? The answer lies in their personal standards of happiness. Having these standards can never be clear unless you are connected in your spiritual self. A person with unhealthy spirituality is like a blind man swimming through the tides of life, without any idea what direction to go. Can you imagine a life wherein you keep swimming with no clear direction or purpose? It can be frustrating and the lack of sense of direction can undeniably damage your spiritual and mental health in addition to your physical health.
Being connected to your spiritual self takes initiative. Just like the other aspects of our health, we have to take charge in order to understand the purpose of our life. Spiritual retreats can help you re-center and re-energize. Retreats are like wellness spas for our soul, they can help us heal and repair our exhausted spirituality so we can achieve clarity and balance within. Being spiritually centered means that it is easier for you to connect with other people and things. You’ll have a deeper understanding of how you, as an individual, are a valuable part of the wholeness of this world.
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A few years ago I realized I didn’t love myself. Here I had been doing all this “spiritual” work for so many years and suddenly I realized that the very core of it, the very essence of it, is to truly love yourself and I wasn’t doing that.
Then suddenly one day I was doing a meditation and a voice came into my head and started saying “there’s nothing wrong with you”, “there’s nothing wrong with you”. My body was vibrating and I knew that something was happening.
It wasn’t an overnight turn-around, but ever since then I have figured out how to love myself pretty much most of the time.
Here are some of the Secrets to Loving Yourself:
1) Make the decision to start loving yourself. I know that sounds simple and basic, but it’s not. Make the decision and the intention right now that no matter what, you love yourself.
2) Do a 40 day Gratitude Journal on loving yourself. If you read our newsletters, you know I’m a fan of Gratitude Journals. Make the decision that for the next 40 days you are going to get up each morning and spend just a few minutes writing down 3 things that you really, honestly like or love about yourself. And if you can add some feeling to it, all the better. Just remember to do it every day for 40 days, as this will break the old cycle.
3) Stop saying nasty things to yourself. I used to say to myself “you are so stupid”, “you are so fat”, I could go on and on. Do you do that to yourself? It’s so incredibly damaging. Stop it. Just stop it right now. When you think about it (and no matter what spiritual practice you follow, this applies), Jesus wouldn’t talk to you like that, the Buddha wouldn’t talk to you like that, your Angels and Guides wouldn’t talk to you like that, so who do you think you are to talk trash like that to yourself? You have the power to think the thoughts you want to think, just move out the negative ones and have some better ones standing by to replace them — “You’re great”, “You’re really trying hard, I like that about you”.
4) When you wake up in the morning before you get up, take few deep breaths and say “I love me” a few times. Again, even though it sounds simple, this is extraordinarily powerful.
Coming into a place of loving myself and not judging myself has had profound effects on my life. I went from size 14 to size 6 (see below). Everyone says I look younger, I feel better and I’m much kinder to the people around me. Positive energy can make an incredible difference in your life.
How do you change things around when you’re having a bad day? Scientists, psychologists, as well as alternative thinkers are demonstrating over and over again the perils of staying in a bad mood (elevated cortisol, elevated blood pressure, extra work required by the heart and nervous system) and the importance of what the Institute of HeartMath calls “staying in coherence”.
Two days ago all kinds of things were going on and I felt funky and gunky. I decided to just leave the office (thankfully I didn’t have any appointments or sessions) and I went home and told myself, “Debra, you know how to pull yourself out of this”. It worked great, and I ended up having an amazing day, so I wanted to share some of these ideas with you.
1) Breathe. Go somewhere (your car or bathroom) and take some really deep breaths. Focus on your heart and feel as though the breath is coming from your heart. After 10 deep breaths, you’ll be amazed how much better you feel.
2) Wring your Hands. This sounds a little crazy, but it works. If you’re upset, especially if you’re angry, really wring your hands! This is based on Chinese medicine – the energy meridians all meet in the hands so wringing them really moves the energy. This is the one that really worked for me the other day.
3) Have a good cry! A good cry will release bottled up emotions. (Just don’t do it in the middle of an important meeting!).
4) Blast those tunes. Find your best pump up music and blast it in the car. Dance or sing at the top of your lungs. Moving your body moves your energy.
5) Think of something that makes you happy, like your children, your dog, your kitty or the last incredible vacation you took. Close your eyes and get that vision and think about it.
6) Be thankful that it’s not worse. Most of what throws me off during the day is really not that big a deal in the grand scheme of things. Isn’t it true that many people in the world have it much worse off than you? As quickly as possible, go into gratitude for everything wonderful in your life.
Here’s some good things to do to prevent bad days from happening in the first place:
1) Get enough sleep. So many studies out there are showing what a huge difference sleep makes for us, not only physically, but mentally, emotionally and spiritually. How many hours do you need? 8? 7? 6? You know what your number is, so make the decision to make that happen.
2) Take a little time to take care of you. Relax a little. Make yourself a hot bubble bath and add a little aromatherapy with the calming scent of lavender. Or come up with some other simple thing that feels delicious to you.
3) As Scarlett O’Hara would say, “Tomorrow is another day”. As you go to sleep, remind yourself of that, and set your intentions for a wonderful day tomorrow.
4) Wake up on the right side of the bed. Before you get up and hit the shower, close your eyes and repeat “this is going to be a good day” three times. The key is believing it when you say it!
Print this list and keep it with you in a place where it will be available to you when you are starting to feel yourself slide.
Do you have things you do to help you make a shift when you’re having a bad day? I’d love to hear from you.
We have finally entered the year that has been the source of anticipation for many: the year 2012. There are many reasons why this year is striking such a cord with people. Over the millennia, it has been predicted that 2012 could be the year of our destruction. And while many people have dire concerns, my belief about what is happening is much more hopeful.
So here are the dire concerns – Many people are worried about this year and about December 2012 in particular. People are primarily panicking because the Mayan calendar ends on December 21, 2012. Many have interpreted the abrupt ending of this 5,125-year-old calendar as a prophecy from the ancient Mayans, warning us that this date signifies the end of the world.
Another reason for concern involves the prophecies of the well-knownseer, Nostradamus. The prophet is most famous for his predictions about the massive destruction and possible end of the world caused by a comet that is expected to hit Earth during December of 2012. What makes Nostradamus’ predictions of even deeper concern are the accuracy with which he hasforetold numerous events, such as World War II and the rise of Adolph HItler.
The year 2012 is interesting on an astronomical level, as well. During the December solstice of every year, the Sun and Milky Way align together. However, for the first time in 25,800 years, a length of time known as a “Great Year,” the Earth will also enter into this astral arrangement. Taking place in December of 2012, this special confluence will result in the alignment of the Earth with the Sun and Galactic Equator. Since the Galactic Equator marks the mid-point of our galaxy, this will place Earth in the very center of the Milky Way galaxy. This astral occurrence also ties into Egyptian folklore. The Egyptians believed that we came from the Milky Way and that the Nile River is actually the Milky Way’s reflection on Earth. There are also ancient Egyptian predictions claiming that a catastrophic event is set to take place in 2012.
By examining the different predictions and influences involving 2012, it is obvious that something is set to happen. But instead of interpreting these prophecies with fear, many choose to view them in a positive light. According to astrologers, 2012 marks the beginning of the Age of Aquarius, a time of expansion, awareness and consciousness. This signifies the year that everyone will “wake up.” People may awaken in different ways and at different times, but the point is that everyone is going to wake up. The only annihilation to occur will be the death of our old selves upon our awakening to a new awareness. This new consciousness means accepting ourselves foremost as spiritual beings with the realization that our spiritual connection is the most important aspect of our existence.
So this is what I believe is the transformation of 2012. Death to the old way of being and a rebirth of spiritual consciousness, with each of us truly living lives of spiritual connection.