In my last video, I talked to you about burnout, but I was primarily talking about burnout in your work, because that’s the classic condition that seems to affect most people.
I hope you’ll watch this video on burnout in your relationship, because I’ll tell you from personal experience, it’s the worst.
- Do you feel unappreciated?
- Do you feel like whatever you do, it’s not enough? And that it’s probably never going to be enough?
- Do you feel hopeless?
Like I said, when a relationship goes into burnout it’s the worst and I hope this video helps, or please forward it to someone where it might be of help.
As I said, if you’re feeling burned out in your relationship, give us a call and let us help you. Do you want to save your relationship? If there’s even a glimmer of hope, it’s worth saving, both for you and for your children. Please connect with us now.
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In my last video, I talked to you about burnout, but I was primarily talking there about burnout in your work, because that’s the classic condition that seems to affect most people and that’s the condition that the World Health Organization has recently recognized.
But today I want to talk about, “Are you burned out in your relationship?”
Because if you are, that can be really terrible.
What are the signs? Well it’s very similar to work burnout:
Do you feel unappreciated?
Do you feel like whatever you do, it’s not enough? And that it’s probably never going to be enough?
Do you feel hopeless?
Do you feel like things that used to interest you or excite you no longer excite you?
Do you have any excitement for the relationship?
Are you fighting all the time and not having much sex?
Does the thought of the other person bring up negative feelings?
These are all signs that you’re burned out on the relationship.
What about your partner? Does it feel like they’re experiencing the same thing?
Do you see their eye wandering and watching other people? A lot more than they used to?
If you’re saying “yes” to a bunch of these things, you’ve got a problem on your hands.
If the relationship is that bad, is it possible to save it?
Well, the answer to that is, it depends.
Are you interested in saving it?
Is it worth it to you to save the relationship?
These are big questions and I invite you to sit with those a moment.
Has something happened, like infidelity or a betrayal of some kind?
Usually when things like that happen, if you’re feeling angry, upset and betrayed (all very normal emotions, by the way), that probably means we’re actually NOT talking about burnout, because burnout means you just kind of don’t care anymore.
If you’re angry and upset, there’s some juice there, some energy which you can build on, so it might actually be a good thing.
More likely, if you’re just feeling like you just don’t care anymore, then that’s the question – Do you care? Do you want to do something to save the relationship?
Very often in situations like this, couples have stopped communicating. They go through the motions, but they’re not really talking. They go along, to get along, but nothing real is happening.
This is the first place where you need to stop. You have to start engaging your partner, you have to connect with them.
Maybe some things have happened that have built up resentments and you’re holding your partner in a space of “I don’t like him, I don’t love him.”
Here’s a quick energy process you can do, that’s a variation on the HeartMath process:
- Close your eyes
- Place your hand over your heart
- Slow down your breathing
- Think of your partner. Think about the issues that you’re upset about, that you don’t like. Don’t give them a lot of energy, just acknowledge them.
- Now that you’ve identified these things, go back to a time where things were really good in your relationship, a time where you felt love for your partner and you felt love from them. It might just be one time, but think about that and feel it. Keep breathing.
Just do this for a few minutes every day and do it for a week. After a week, see if that has made any kind of difference, it can be amazing what happens when the energy starts to shift.
A woman came to us a few years ago, telling us that she was married for the second time, she’d been married for 6 years and she was feeling no love for her husband, she just felt nothing. The thing that alarmed her was that she had been married before and at the point she was married for 6 years, the same thing had happened. We knew that this probably wasn’t just a coincidence.
As we delved deeper, we discovered that her mother had left her father when she had been married 6 years. She was 5 when it happened and it was absolutely devastating and traumatizing for her. We made that connection and this huge light bulb came on. She remembered her mother telling her all the time, that she just felt nothing for her father. And here she was, playing out her mother’s life all over again.
When she did her breath journey, this image of her husband came in and he came up to her and just kissed her hand. She said it was the most amazing thing, that suddenly, she felt a spark. She saw that nothing was wrong with him, this was all about her own emptiness at losing her father. They came back the next year and did a couples retreat, and it was so wonderful to see them so happy together and so in love.
If you’re feeling burned out in your relationship, give us a call and let us help you. Do you want to save your relationship? If there’s even a glimmer of hope, it’s worth saving, both for you and for your children.
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