Stop Wasting the Most Important Part of Your Life

If you’ve been reading my newsletter for awhile, you know I’m all about how to make your life better and happier.

Do you know the secret that the first 90 minutes of your day are the most important? It determines everything. It sets the tone for your day and it actually sets the tone for your entire life.

Watch my video and get some great ideas about how to have the first 90 minutes of your day make the rest of your day really great.

And if you really want to take your life to the next level, think about doing a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. We want you to be living in connection with the happiness, joy and peace that are your birthright, every day. Call us.

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Thank you Soul Adventures for giving me my life back. I know I have the tools to continue to live, love and laugh.” ~ Robin S.

I’m always on the lookout for things that can make my life and your life more happy, and I came across three things this week about the same topic… and when I come across something three times, that means I need to talk to you about it. 

So this is the idea — The first 90 minutes of your day are the most important. That’s when you are most productive, you have the most focus, you have the highest levels of energy and willpower. 

If you want to set the tone for the rest of the day, which, of course, is really about setting the tone for the rest of your life, look at what you’re doing in the first 90 minutes.

The first thing to figure out here is, “What do I want during the rest of my day? What do I want to make me happy? What do I want that will make me feel really good?

Take a few minutes to actually sit and be quiet with yourself and think about this, because very often, people just assume it means they should be lifting weights, running a mile and meditating for an hour, but don’t just make automatic assumptions. 

When we do surveys each year asking people what they want in their lives, I used to be surprised that the #1 answer every single year was “Peace.”

Is that what you want? If so, ask yourself some questions about that: 

  • What exactly do you mean by that? 
  • What exactly would that look like? 
  • What would be required for you to have the Peace that you want? 
  • Does it involve settling something with another person or do you maybe just want some quiet time? 

When you start asking the questions, it’s interesting to discover the answers you get. 

Many people who want peace find that meditation regularly brings them enormous peace. I know that in my own life, that has turned out to be so true. I meditate first thing every morning and that has changed my life. 

If you Google it, you’ll find that many, many successful people, including people like Jerry Seinfeld and Ellen Degeneres, mediate every single day. 

Whenever I’m evaluating anything, I generally look at it on all levels – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual. When I look at what to do with my first 90 minutes of the day, I know that doing something that affects me on the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual levels will be of most benefit.

Meditation works on all of those levels – studies have shown that it brings down blood pressure, cortisol, reduces stress and it just makes me feel better mentally, emotionally and spiritually. 

Lots of people like to use the early morning hours for working with their physical body. Running, stretching, doing some type of exercise… I know for myself, if I don’t do it in the morning, it generally doesn’t get done. Studies are showing that even 20 minutes of exercise can have huge benefits on our physical bodies, and don’t you find that when you exercise, you actually feel better emotionally and your mind is sharper? 

But maybe the way for you to find peace is simply to be quiet. That can definitely be true for a busy caregiver or mom or dad, it might be having some time on your own with some quiet. 

The great part is, this is time that you have complete control over; it’s time that can belong to you. And if you’re now saying, “Wait a minute Debra, my kids are up at 6, I can’t have time to myself,” the correct answer is, Yes you can.  

One of the three things that showed up this week was I reminded of the before 5 am website, whose founder believes that your most important things need to happen before 5 am. And while I’m not saying that everyone has to get up at 4 am, what I am saying is that you can have absolute control over these precious hours if you make the commitment to do that.  

So you just have to do the math. If everyone in your house is up and going at 7 am, you would need to get up at 5:30 am to have your precious 90 minutes to yourself. And I can hear some of you out there saying, “5:30, I can’t get up at 5:30.” And my answer is: then I guess it’s not worth it to you.

So what is worth it? Maybe don’t do 90 minutes – start with 30 minutes and see what happens. Just meditating for 15 minutes and exercising for 15 minutes can work wonders. What matters the most to you? Look at your list and figure it out. 

And maybe you’re a person who absolutely cannot get up that early and it will not work for you. Okay, I get it, but is there some other time during the day you can carve out just for yourself?

For most people, they’re too tired in the evening and it’s impossible during the day. It’s those morning hours when things are quiet that the magic can happen, but if morning doesn’t work for you, find the time that does. 

If you want to change your life, do something that’s going to be really effective. Start out with 30 minutes, get up before everyone else, do the things that will impact the list you made.

Every morning I start with a few minutes of the HeartMath Heart Coherence Technique. If you don’t know what that is, Google it, its effects are astounding and it just takes a few minutes.

Here are some additional ideas and things that will continue to come to you as you do this practice:

  • Meditation 
  • Exercise 
  • Write in Your Journal 
  • Keep a Gratitude Journal 
  • Read Inspirational Books 
  • Plan Your Day 
  • Drink Water with Lemon (I squeeze the juice of one lemon into my first glass of water first thing in the morning.) 

And for me the most important one is: Snuggle with Your Beloved 

My husband and I snuggle every night before we go to sleep and every morning before we wake up. We are both in agreement that it’s one of the most important and wonderful parts of our relationship. And that’s what all of this is about.  

What works for you? What makes you happy? What will get you going? 

And one final note – but almost the most important – is what NOT to do. Stay away from: 

  • Email 
  • Voicemail 
  • Texts 
  • Social Media

Just focus on you and what you need. Do it for 30 days and see what happens, then let me know what you experienced. 

And watch for my next video, where I’m going to talk about the most important things to do at the beginning of your work day. It’s all about FOCUS.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

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You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

Debra Stangl

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